{"id":92141,"date":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","date_gmt":"2020-09-10T13:36:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=92141"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:17:12","slug":"il-vostro-uomo-stressato-si-ritira","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-vostro-uomo-stressato-si-ritira\/","title":{"rendered":"Cosa fare quando il vostro uomo stressato si ritira?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Di fronte ai momenti difficili, il pi\u00f9 delle volte i ragazzi ricorrono alla chiusura.<\/p>\n

So when your stressed man withdraws with no explanation, don’t take it personally.<\/p>\n

If you sense that he needs space (even though you’re in a long-term relationship and you want to talk things through), give it to him.<\/p>\n

Here’s the deal with men in stressful situations: Instead of coping, men pull away due to their fight or flight response.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When they’re under a lot of stress, they suppress their emotions, which manifests as them being distant toward their loved ones.<\/p>\n

Ma tutte le grandi relazioni attraversano alti e bassi e affrontare situazioni di stress fa parte del gioco!<\/p>\n

Don’t worry if he runs away to his man cave every now and again. It’s his way of dealing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as someone who’s had her fair share of aloof and distant men, here’s something to help you handle this challenging period.<\/em><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Una relazione disfunzionale: Cos'\u00e8 e come riconoscerne i segni<\/a><\/p>\n

Quali sono i motivi pi\u00f9 comuni per cui gli uomini si allontanano?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I suoi livelli di stress sono estremamente elevati<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Siamo tutti d'accordo sul fatto che lo stress \u00e8 uno dei fattori pi\u00f9 importanti nel modo in cui gestiamo le situazioni quotidiane, e il mondo in questo momento \u00e8 tutto incasinato, quindi un uomo che si ritira non \u00e8 davvero cos\u00ec sorprendente.<\/p>\n

Have you stopped to think that maybe he’s been going through a lot at work?<\/p>\n

Ci sono altri aspetti della sua vita che gli procurano ansia o richiedono un grande sforzo?<\/p>\n

I’m sure that, just like you, he also has a lot on his plate, and sometimes it’s hard for him to process his emotions.<\/p>\n

Give him the benefit of the doubt. Don’t automatically assume that it’s you and give him space. Right now, that’s probably all he craves.<\/p>\n

He’s feeling a little suffocated in your relationship<\/h2>\n

\"ragazzo<\/p>\n

Quando due persone hanno una relazione felice e sana, il loro corpo rilascia l'ormone ossitocico.<\/p>\n

Nelle donne, questo ormone \u00e8 noto per ridurre lo stress, ma negli uomini diminuisce il livello di testosterone, inducendo di fatto lo stress.<\/p>\n

Quindi, quando vedete il vostro uomo ritirarsi, \u00e8 il suo modo di recuperare i livelli di testosterone!<\/p>\n

No matter how happy your love relationship is, he’s going to withdraw until he starts feeling like a man again.<\/p>\n

It might seem silly, but it’s how men’s brains operate.<\/p>\n

And while there’s not much you can do about it, it’s reassuring to know it’s not (necessarily) you.<\/p>\n

He’s emotionally immature<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Let’s hope this isn’t the case. Basically, when men are in love, they respond in one of two ways.<\/p>\n

O sono abbastanza maturi da accogliere l'amore e lasciarlo andare, o si ritirano.<\/p>\n

Quindi, quando il vostro uomo stressato si ritira, sappiate che potrebbe non trattarsi di stress.<\/p>\n

Potrebbe essere la sua immaturit\u00e0 emotiva a impedirgli di amarti come meriti.<\/p>\n

Affrontare un amore totalizzante gli fa venire voglia di ritirarsi nella sua caverna maschile e fare qualche passo indietro.<\/p>\n

And unfortunately, there’s nothing you can do. He just needs to put on his big boy pants and start acting his age.<\/p>\n

He fears that he’s starting to lose his freedom<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

La libert\u00e0 \u00e8 qualcosa che gli uomini considerano inestimabile.<\/p>\n

And I haven’t met a man on this earth who didn’t fear commitment precisely due to the false idea of losing their freedom.<\/p>\n

If you merely mention marriage to a man, you’ll see him clam up. It’s like a death certificate.<\/p>\n

Grazie a Dio c'\u00e8 un piccolo numero di ragazzi che sono davvero tranquilli su questo argomento.<\/p>\n

But if your man has fallen for you and things are heating up, know that he may be worried about losing any freedom he’s had thus far.<\/p>\n

And when a man pulls away, it’s usually just as things are getting serious.<\/p>\n

Ancora una volta, \u00e8 tutta colpa sua. Il suo amore per voi deve prevalere sulle sue paure immature. Potrebbe volerci poco, quindi abbiate pazienza.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Relazione incrinata: Definizione, segni e consigli per superarla<\/a><\/p>\n

Come potete aiutare la situazione?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t interrogate him, let him come to you<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

There are few things men hate more than the question ”What’s wrong?” If he wanted to tell you what was wrong, he would have.<\/p>\n

People can’t be forced into having certain conversations unless they’re ready.<\/p>\n

You can’t expect your man to open up when you feel like it. It doesn’t work that way. Sense the vibe of the situation and respect it.<\/p>\n

His stress hormones could be going berserk right now and it’s crazy to expect him to open up just like that.<\/p>\n

If he’s going through something, you need to let him come to you of his own volition. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Anything other than that will be forced and won’t help matters at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You want him to feel safe, comfortable, and relaxed, right? Then playing detective won’t help you.<\/p>\n

Let him go through his thing, respect his space, and don’t crowd him.<\/p>\n

When he’s ready to talk, he’ll give you a hint. But when a stressed man withdraws, the last thing you should do is resort to ‘attack mode’.<\/p>\n

Patience is your best friend here. Stress management ain’t easy, so let him take control of his emotions before diving deep into this.<\/p>\n

Create a comfort zone where he’ll be likely to respond to your subtle attempts<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It’s all about feeling safe and not like you\u2019re being attacked. He needs to know that you’re not interested in starting a fight.<\/p>\n

State semplicemente cercando di aiutarlo a trovare una via d'uscita dal suo buco.<\/p>\n

Take him out to lunch to his favorite restaurant or go for a picnic. Create a comfortable environment where he’ll be more likely to open up.<\/p>\n

Here’s how I do it. If I suspect a certain issue, I’ll just downright say ”I have a feeling things aren’t going so well with your new boss”<\/em> and he’ll take the bait.<\/p>\n

He’ll open up because I made it easier on him by openly broaching the subject.<\/p>\n

If you have any suspicions as to what has made your stressed man withdraw, don’t be shy to say it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Combine that with a soothing, relaxing atmosphere, your warm tone, and he’ll immediately feel relieved to tell you all about it.<\/p>\n

Just don’t rush it. Observe the signs he’s giving out. If you sense that he’s still hesitant to discuss it, leave it be.<\/p>\n

Now he knows that you’re there, and he’ll talk when his stress levels decrease.<\/p>\n

Offer him a conversational inroad, and he’ll reveal his inner issues sooner rather than later. It’s all about knowing your audience.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Identificare, gestire e sopravvivere a una suocera narcisista<\/a><\/p>\n

Know that it most probably isn’t you<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

La cosa peggiore che possiate fare \u00e8 pensare che abbia a che fare con voi e farlo sentire ancora pi\u00f9 a disagio.<\/p>\n

Don’t start panicking until you have solid proof that his behavior stems from something you did or said.<\/p>\n

If you do, you’re only going to worsen things for him and give him yet another cause for concern.<\/p>\n

Avevo un'amica il cui ragazzo ha attraversato una fase complessa.<\/p>\n

Lui si ritir\u00f2, smise di mandarle messaggi come faceva di solito e si comport\u00f2 in modo distaccato. Lei era fuori di s\u00e9 e pensava che fosse lei.<\/p>\n

E sapete cosa ha fatto? Invece di avere una conversazione matura, lo ha attaccato (verbalmente), gli ha puntato il dito e ha fatto di tutto per lei<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Even though she’s a friend of mine, I was disgusted by her actions. Why?<\/p>\n

Perch\u00e9 le persone hanno tutto il diritto di attraversare momenti difficili senza dover giustificare la loro improvvisa freddezza.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Non possiamo far sentire le persone ancora peggio di come gi\u00e0 stanno perch\u00e9 non riusciamo a sopportare che si comportino in un certo modo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And as for my friend’s situation, it turned out her man was dealing with the death of a friend.<\/p>\n

Sono stati molto vicini per tutta l'universit\u00e0, ma di recente si sono allontanati. E prima che avessero la possibilit\u00e0 di risolvere la questione, lui \u00e8 morto.<\/p>\n

Quindi \u00e8 ovvio che aveva bisogno di tempo, spazio e pazienza per affrontare le proprie emozioni prima di essere pronto a parlarne.<\/p>\n

Grazie a Dio si sono lasciati perch\u00e9 il modo in cui lei lo faceva sentire mentre era in lutto era semplicemente orribile.<\/p>\n

Let your man breathe for a second. You cannot imagine what he’s going through, so you should never assume that it’s you.<\/p>\n

Ci sono altre persone nella sua vita.<\/p>\n

Find someone else to confide in until he’s mentally ready again<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

You have to be mindful of his current emotional state. I’m guessing he’s not in the mood for talking and sharing right now, and that’s okay.<\/p>\n

Le persone hanno bisogno di tempo e noi dobbiamo rispettarlo.<\/p>\n

Parlate con i vostri cari di qualsiasi problema che vi preoccupa e lasciate che loro<\/em> aiutarvi finch\u00e9 il vostro uomo non star\u00e0 meglio.<\/p>\n

L'ultima cosa che volete fare \u00e8 gravare ulteriormente sulle sue spalle.<\/p>\n

\u00c8 il momento di rivolgersi alle persone pi\u00f9 care, dandogli il tempo di affrontare le sue difficolt\u00e0.<\/p>\n

Le relazioni sono un rifugio sicuro da tutto ci\u00f2 che accade intorno a noi, ma a volte dobbiamo leggere tra le righe e sapere quando fare un passo indietro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Sometimes – it means a literal step back. Give him space, both emotionally and physically, let him know that you’re here for him and go spend time with your friends.<\/p>\n

It’ll be a perfect escape for both of you. He’ll have some peace of mind and you’ll be in a well-known, safe environment where you’re free to share your concerns.<\/p>\n

Conoscete il vostro partner abbastanza bene da lasciarlo stare quando ne ha bisogno, ma restate comunque al suo fianco e al suo servizio.<\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Regola del non contatto: Il potere del silenzio dopo una rottura<\/a><\/p>\n

Don’t share his problems with anyone<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Let’s put it this way.<\/p>\n

If he’s not willing to share his problems with you, his long-term partner, he most definitely doesn’t want them to be known to anyone else.<\/p>\n

You must respect his privacy and not be tempted to tell anyone anything \u2013 even your best friend.<\/p>\n

His issues shouldn’t become public knowledge, especially since you don’t even know the extent of them.<\/p>\n

Come vi sentireste se il vostro uomo decidesse di raccontare ai suoi amici tutti i vostri problemi pi\u00f9 intimi?<\/p>\n

You’d probably feel exposed, vulnerable, and like your privacy had been breached.<\/p>\n

That’s exactly how it would feel for him too. So yeah, it’s understandable that you need someone to talk to about this, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

Until your man opens up, tells you what’s on his mind, and gives you permission to speak about it, your lips must remain sealed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If you keep quiet, he’ll know that his secrets are safe with you (if he didn’t already know it).<\/p>\n

He’ll know that he made the right choice when he committed to you.<\/p>\n

And in his eyes, you’ll be the best girlfriend ever. It’s important that we’re able to contain ourselves when we feel like we can’t.<\/p>\n

If you don’t, it doesn’t really breed confidence and it will be a bad sign for your relationship.<\/p>\n

Mantenete i vostri problemi privati e la vostra relazione ne trarr\u00e0 beneficio.<\/p>\n

Don’t be foolish and think that this issue can be resolved in the bedroom<\/h2>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

It’s really foolish to think that men only want one thing. They are big fans of bedroom romps, sure, but it’s not a cure for his issues.<\/p>\n

Don’t use your flirty methods as a means to cheer him up or make him forget about things.<\/p>\n

It’s not going to work, because he’s issues are deeper than that.<\/p>\n

Per non parlare del fatto che i suoi livelli di stress potrebbero influire negativamente sulle sue prestazioni, e nessuno di voi lo vuole.<\/p>\n

And if he thinks that this is your way of being there for him, it’s going to be discouraging.<\/p>\n

Ha bisogno della vostra presenza emotiva, non fisica. Ha bisogno di spazio, comprensione e tempo per riordinare le idee.<\/p>\n

A bedroom romp won’t achieve anything but make him feel less like a man and more likely to be negatively affected by this attempt.<\/strong><\/p>\n

So whatever you do, don’t use your seduction methods as a weapon. You know better than that.<\/p>\n

He’s not a 15-year old boy. He’s a grown man, with actual needs that go beyond the physical.<\/p>\n

He’ll be back to himself soon enough, and you’ll have your chance to be there in all the ways you want. But for now, respect his needs.<\/p>\n

If it’s space and time, so be it.<\/p>\n

Let him have it because the sooner he gets his head together, the sooner you’ll have your hunk of a man back in your arms.<\/p>\n

If nothing seems to work, it’s time for a more serious approach<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

This might appear to be a severe issue given the time he needs to get over it…but not necessarily.<\/p>\n

You see, when a stressed man withdraws, no matter what the issue is, he’s going to wallow in misery until you deliver a shock to his system.<\/p>\n

Alcuni uomini non sono in grado di elaborare le proprie emozioni per salvare la propria vita.<\/p>\n

So if nothing is working, he’s still distant, cold, perhaps even angry, it’s time for a more severe measure.<\/p>\n

Ovviamente questo non pu\u00f2 andare avanti all'infinito, perch\u00e9 anche voi avete delle esigenze.<\/p>\n

If he’s not changing his pattern of questionable behavior regardless of your understanding, he needs an ultimatum.<\/p>\n

Di solito non tollero gli ultimatum di alcun tipo, ma quando la situazione lo richiede, bisogna fare ci\u00f2 che si deve fare.<\/p>\n

Face him with it head-on. Tell him that you’ve been patient, understanding, and have given him the space he needed. <\/strong><\/p>\n

And so far, things haven’t changed at all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se vuole tenervi con s\u00e9, deve dare un segno di buona fede e fare un passo avanti.<\/p>\n

\"uomo<\/p>\n

Non si pu\u00f2 essere costantemente ignorati e non ci si pu\u00f2 accontentare.<\/p>\n

There comes a time when we need to face our demons whether we like it or not. If we don’t, our loved ones will suffer for it.<\/p>\n

So either you work this thing out, or you’re done.<\/p>\n

Non \u00e8 pi\u00f9 necessario camminare in punta di piedi, con le mani in mano o in secondo piano. A volte \u00e8 questo l'approccio di cui gli uomini hanno bisogno.<\/p>\n

Until you put him in this position and open his eyes, he won’t see how damaging his behavior is.<\/p>\n

Quindi, incrociamo le dita affinch\u00e9 rinsavisca, si renda conto di quanto tempo \u00e8 passato e che le cose devono cambiare.<\/p>\n

If he doesn’t, at least you’ll know you did your very best.<\/p>\n

Non potete continuare a mettervi al secondo posto. Finch\u00e9 non si render\u00e0 conto della gravit\u00e0 delle sue azioni e non far\u00e0 qualcosa, il vostro lavoro qui \u00e8 finito.<\/p>\n

While it’s admirable that you’re so determined to stick by his side through his passive-aggressiveness, it should mai<\/em> essere a tutti i costi.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Vedi anche: Sfida di 30 giorni per l'amore di s\u00e9: diventare la versione migliore di se stessi<\/a><\/p>\n

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