{"id":9232,"date":"2018-11-29T08:32:49","date_gmt":"2018-11-29T08:32:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9232"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:25:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:25:31","slug":"la-ragazza-incolpa-ancora","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/la-ragazza-incolpa-ancora\/","title":{"rendered":"Alla ragazza che ancora si autoaccusa"},"content":{"rendered":"

What can I say to make you see that you weren\u2019t the motivo per cui se n'\u00e8 andato?<\/a><\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t because you nagged him or because you were bad in bed. It wasn\u2019t because you were mean, or rude, or filled with jealousy at the wrong moments.<\/p>\n

It wasn\u2019t because you weren\u2019t attractive, or because you weren\u2019t as sexy or as playful or as innocent as other girls.<\/p>\n

He left because he wanted to, because he didn\u2019t deserve the person you are, because he couldn\u2019t handle what it was like to not date, or kiss, or love, someone who wasn\u2019t an asshole.<\/p>\n

He left because you\u2019re the kind of woman who made him work, who challenged him, who asked questions, who spoke up, who had a voice that he wasn\u2019t ready to hear.<\/p>\n

Il suo ragionamento sul perch\u00e9 se n'\u00e8 andato vi lascer\u00e0 dubbiosi sul dove VOI<\/strong> weren\u2019t wrong but it\u2019s his fault, non tuo<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Non siete voi a controllare le sue insicurezze. Non siete al comando di sistemare il suo passato tossico<\/a> e non siete meritevoli di affrontare le ripercussioni della sua agitazione.<\/p>\n

You aren\u2019t to blame for how he deals with the toxicity of his childhood or past relationships where someone did him wrong. You aren\u2019t in charge of fixing his insecurities when he uses them as an excuse to mistreat you, to belittle you, to disgrace you.<\/p>\n

He will try and try and try to convince you that you need him, that you belong to him but you are nobody\u2019s property.<\/p>\n

Rider\u00e0 quando avrete voglia di piangere e distorcer\u00e0 le vostre parole fino al punto in cui inizierete tristemente a crederci. Vi taglier\u00e0 con le parole e con l'inganno.<\/p>\n

Prender\u00e0 in giro l'amore che avete nel cuore, lo stesso amore che vi ha sussurrato di dargli una possibilit\u00e0, lo stesso amore che ha chiuso un occhio, lo stesso amore che vi ha fatto sentire che c'era ancora qualcosa di buono che bruciava dentro di lui.<\/p>\n

\"Alla<\/p>\n

Non sei tu il motivo per cui ha deciso di andarsene.<\/p>\n

Non sei tu il motivo per cui era infelice<\/a> perch\u00e9 sar\u00e0 infelice con la donna successiva, e quella successiva, e quella successiva ancora, perch\u00e9 non trover\u00e0 mai la pace per essere abbastanza felice con se stesso.
Non sei tu il motivo per cui lui \u00e8 distrutto.<\/p>\n

Siate la vostra risorsa di felicit\u00e0. Siate il motivo per cui vi svegliate la mattina, per affrontare la giornata e per spaccare il culo mentre lo fate. Vi assicuro che alla fine quelle cicatrici e quelle ferite da battaglia svaniranno. Le mie alla fine lo hanno fatto.<\/p>\n

Eventually, he will fade into the background. He will become the warning story you save for rainy nights or during your daughter\u2019s first break-up when she fails to realize that the guy who just broke up with her reminds you of this person you used to love all those years ago.<\/p>\n

And down the line, you\u2019ll come to realize that non \u00e8 cambiato nulla<\/a>. He will still be unhappy and unsure of how to handle the kind of love you tried to offer him. He doesn\u2019t think he\u2019s deserving of it because his entire life he fought the very definition of it.<\/p>\n

The memories of who he was and what he did and how he made you feel won\u2019t define you forever. I assure you of that.<\/p>\n

di Courtney Dercqu<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n

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