{"id":93235,"date":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T22:06:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=93235"},"modified":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","modified_gmt":"2022-06-06T15:21:51","slug":"lex-e-caldo-e-freddo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/lex-e-caldo-e-freddo\/","title":{"rendered":"Ecco perch\u00e9 il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo (e cosa fare)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>La vostra relazione \u00e8 finita da un po'. Tuttavia, anche dopo tutto questo tempo, il vostro ex \u00e8 ancora caldo e freddo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono momenti in cui si comportano come se vi amassero e volessero tornare insieme a voi.<\/p>\n<p>Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell you how much they miss you.<\/p>\n<p>Poi, il giorno dopo, il loro comportamento cambia. All'improvviso, smettono di rispondere alle vostre telefonate e di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/messaggi-di-testo-per-lui\/\">messaggi di testo<\/a> e iniziano a ignorarvi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is something you can relate to, your ex is definitely playing a hot and cold game. They&#8217;re playing mind games and consequently, you have no clue about where you stand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Continuate a chiedervi cosa provano per voi. Quali sono le loro intenzioni? Il vostro ex prova lo stesso tipo di dubbio che avete voi?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you\u2019ve come to the right place because you&#8217;re about to get all the answers you need. Here is everything you need to know about what to do when an ex is hot and cold and why they behave like this.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>9 Reasons For Your Ex&#8217;s <\/b><b>Comportamento caldo e freddo<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Rottura non elaborata<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93240 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg\" alt=\"uomo in camicia verde in piedi vicino al mare\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-sea-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The first reason for this type of hot and cold behavior is the fact that your ex still hasn\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/fasi-della-rottura\/\">elaborato la rottura<\/a> in modo sano. Questo pu\u00f2 avvenire anche se vi hanno scaricato.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You see, many people think that the person walking away always knows what they\u2019re doing \u2013 that they\u2019re 100% certain about their decision and that they have no doubts about ending the relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Theoretically, this makes sense. After all, they\u2019re the ones who chose to call it a quits so it doesn\u2019t seem logical for them to have second thoughts.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, in practice, things don\u2019t always go as smoothly as you might expect. Maybe they broke up with you impulsively or maybe they\u2019re regretting their decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Either way, the point is that your ex is still not fully aware of the fact that you\u2019re no longer together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono giorni in cui vi considerano ancora il loro partner e in cui si comportano come se lo foste. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/lo-amo-ancora-5-chiari-segni-che-e-ora-di-lasciarlo-andare\/\">ancora innamorati<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are days when their boundaries are clear. Days when they\u2019re sure about your break up and when they treat you like their ex, which you actually are.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93241 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg\" alt=\"uomo con giacca nera in piedi vicino a un albero\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-near-tree-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, there is no doubt about one thing: this person hasn\u2019t accepted that it\u2019s over. They\u2019re doing their best to process some post-breakup emotions, which can change by the hour.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ci sono momenti in cui <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/il-mio-ex-mi-ha-dimenticato-o-e-solo-arrabbiato\/\">they\u2019re angry with you<\/a> per alcuni errori commessi mentre stavate insieme, o addirittura arrabbiati con se stessi per non aver saputo fare di meglio e per aver permesso che la vostra relazione andasse a rotoli.<\/p>\n<p>Moments when they\u2019re disappointed and can\u2019t accept the fact that your romance didn\u2019t succeed. Moments when <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/6-segni-di-distruzione-del-ruolo-di-vittima\/\">si sentono vittime<\/a> e momenti in cui si sentono in colpa per avervi abbandonato.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, ci sono anche momenti in cui il vostro ex prova tutto l'amore che provava per voi in passato. Momenti in cui ogni problema che avete avuto sembra risolvibile e sciocco.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Each one of these dilemmas going on in their head reflects their behavior toward you. They\u2019re going through a rollercoaster of emotions right now and they\u2019re behaving accordingly.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">La lotta con se stessi \u00e8 reale<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93242 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg\" alt=\"uomo con i capelli ricci che guarda attraverso la finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-through-window-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve been in a situation before where your heart was telling you one thing while your mind advised you otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>In una situazione in cui, nel profondo, sapevate qual era la cosa giusta da fare, ma le vostre emozioni volevano fare di testa loro.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, there is a real possibility that this is exactly what\u2019s going on with your ex right now.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They are not only struggling with you \u2013 they\u2019re also struggling with themselves, which is much more difficult.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Il vostro ex si trova in un costante stato di dilemma. Sa di provare ancora dei forti sentimenti per voi, ma d'altra parte \u00e8 fermamente convinto che tornare con voi sarebbe una pessima idea.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re aware that you are <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/coupled-up\/8-segni-piu-comuni-di-incompatibilita-nelle-relazioni\/\">non compatibile<\/a> with each other, that you probably wouldn\u2019t last much longer if you were to reconcile, and that you can never find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, ogni volta che vi vedono o vi sentono, la forza delle loro emozioni li travolge.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93243 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg\" alt=\"uomo in camicia nera appoggiato a un tavolo di legno\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-leaning-on-table-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quindi si chiedono cosa sarebbe meglio fare. Sarebbe meglio <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/fake-love\/brokenhearted\/ci-vuole-molto-coraggio-per-allontanarsi-da-una-persona-che-si-ama\/\">allontanarsi da te<\/a> and find someone they\u2019ll get along with better and to let go of this enormous love you both feel?<\/p>\n<p>Se lo fanno, riusciranno mai a dimenticarti completamente? Si innamoreranno mai di nuovo cos\u00ec profondamente di qualcuno?<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, are their feelings worthy of doing the wrong thing? Are they ready to spend the rest of their life next to someone they\u2019ll never get along with?<\/p>\n<p>These questions are the reason why your ex is hot and cold. There are times when their mind wins over \u2013&nbsp; they ignore you and act like they couldn\u2019t care less about you.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when they act heartless and when they manage to pretend that they\u2019re completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, there are times when their heart gets its way. Times when they can\u2019t control themselves and when their emotions take over.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s when the \u201chot\u201d phase begins. This is when they act like they love you, when they&#8217;re texting you, trying to reach out to you and want to talk things through.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">You are taking a test and you don\u2019t even know it<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93244 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg\" alt=\"donna che usa il telefono mentre \u00e8 seduta sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-using-phone-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that your ex walked away from your relationship because they felt like you weren\u2019t giving them enough attention? Because they felt like your second choice and last resort?<\/p>\n<p>Well, if that is the case, it\u2019s very likely that they\u2019re acting hot and cold because they want to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/9-segni-che-lei-ti-sta-mettendo-alla-prova-per-decidere-se-sei-un-fidanzato\/\">testarti<\/a>. Vedono questa rottura come un'occasione per imparare la lezione.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to actually continue living without you. Instead, they want to use this situation to make you grow fonder to them.<\/p>\n<p>Il punto \u00e8 che il vostro ex sta usando la psicologia inversa. Presume che l'unico modo per iniziare ad apprezzare la sua presenza sia percepire la sua assenza.<\/p>\n<p>They think that once you realize they\u2019ve abandoned you, you\u2019ll understand what you\u2019re losing. Only then will you be aware that you want them by your side, and only then will you figure out their worth.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Il loro comportamento freddo e caldo non \u00e8 altro che un test da superare per tornare con loro.<\/p>\n<p>Siete finalmente pronti a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/true-love\/finding-the-one\/ecco-perche-bisogna-lottare-per-chi-si-ama\/\">combattere per loro<\/a>? Sarete voi a fare il passo verso la vostra riconciliazione?<\/p>\n<p>O li lascerete andare, senza muovere un dito? Ve ne starete seduti in pace a guardarli mentre vi lasciano per sempre?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93247 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna che si aggrappa alle tende della finestra durante il giorno\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-on-window-blinds-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The choice is all yours. Trust me \u2013 they won\u2019t change their behavior until you show some initiative and action.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, what your ex wants is for you to try a little bit harder. They want to see that you\u2019re ready to put some effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Your ex wants you to fight for them. They want to see that you want them back and that you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes to be a part of their life once more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In altre parole, alla fine vogliono tornare con voi. Tuttavia, si rifiutano di farlo senza opporre alcuna resistenza.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want you to think that you can have them whenever and however you like. Instead, they want to be appreciated and fought for.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not that your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend wants to see you begging them. They just want you to put in at least the minimum amount of effort into winning them back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Questo vale soprattutto se sono stati loro a lasciarvi. Significherebbe ammettere il proprio errore se tornassero con voi cos\u00ec, senza che voi alziate un dito.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Li minacciate<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93254 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg\" alt=\"uomo con felpa blu che guarda il lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-looking-at-lake-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Il prossimo motivo per cui il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo potrebbe essere il fatto che si sente minacciato dalla vostra presenza.<\/p>\n<p>Vedete, il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/love\/se-vuoi-riconquistare-il-tuo-ex-ragazzo-leggi-questo-articolo\/\">ex fidanzato<\/a> or girlfriend is afraid that you\u2019ll find a way to fool them back in your life and give your relationship another go.<\/p>\n<p>Per questo motivo, si mettono uno scudo intorno al loro cuore. Costruiscono intorno a s\u00e9 muri spessi che servono a tenervi fuori.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, every time you come near them, they feel threatened. They\u2019re terrified that you\u2019ll manage to break their shield and that you\u2019ll find a way back into their heart in no time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019re not running away from you here \u2013 they\u2019re running away from themselves and from the emotions they still have for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Rimanere amici \u00e8 un'opzione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93256 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna seduti sul molo che guardano l&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-dock-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re misinterpreting your ex\u2019s behavior? That you\u2019re seeing something that isn\u2019t there?<\/p>\n<p>Is it possible that you\u2019re making a big deal of your ex just calling you or liking your social media posts?&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Non vorrei essere io a farle scoppiare la bolla di sapone, ma potrebbe essere che il suo ex stia solo cercando di essere amichevole.<\/p>\n<p>Forse si comportano in modo educato e gentile con voi, non perch\u00e9 vogliano tornare insieme ma perch\u00e9 vogliono <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/rimanere-amici-del-proprio-ex\/\">rimanere migliori amici<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A prima vista, potrebbe sembrare del tutto impossibile. Dopo tutto, avete avuto una relazione seria e non c'\u00e8 alcuna possibilit\u00e0 che voi due possiate essere migliori amici dopo tutto quello che avete passato.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, this is just your point of view. You still have deep emotions for this person so it is expected that you\u2019ll feel like this.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, per loro ha perfettamente senso. Provano ancora qualcosa per te, ma non lo stesso tipo di sentimenti che provi tu.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93260 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg\" alt=\"uomo donna seduto su una superficie di cemento a parlare\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-concrete-surface-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>They don\u2019t love you romantically any more but that doesn\u2019t make them completely indifferent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, you\u2019re the human being they spent so much time with, so it is natural that they can\u2019t forget about you overnight. They remember all the good memories and everything you shared together.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They especially don\u2019t want to see you as their arch enemy. They don\u2019t hate you \u2013they want the best for you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In fact, your cold ex still wants to be a part of your life. They want to at least know how you\u2019re doing and if there is anything they can do to help you.<\/p>\n<p>However, you misinterpret their acts of kindness and see them as mixed signals or as signs that they\u2019re still in love with you. Every time they reach out to you, you see it as a chance for getting back together.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, this is not their intention. For you, it\u2019s enough to see their name on your screen phone to think that they\u2019re trying to win you back, while they\u2019re just trying to be nice and kind.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Problemi di fiducia profondamente radicati<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93261 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg\" alt=\"uomo in piedi sul campo durante il tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-standing-on-field-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend has the desire to be back in your life but they simply don\u2019t trust you enough yet to make that happen.<\/p>\n<p>Per favore, siate realistici e pensate alle cose che avete sbagliato nella vostra relazione. Pensate ai vostri errori e alle vostre azioni sbagliate.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Vedete, il vostro <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-segni-innegabili-dellamore-di-un-ex\/\">L'ex prova ancora dei sentimenti profondi per te<\/a>. Tuttavia, avete fatto qualcosa che ha violato la loro fiducia.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you\u2019re aware of doing so or not, the fact is that you caused some trauma for them.<\/p>\n<p>You made them expect the worst from you so now they\u2019re scared of letting you back in their life and giving you another chance.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, now it seems that your ex is hot and cold. However, this is nothing but them attempting to see whether you\u2019re trustworthy or not.<\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-motivi-per-cui-una-ragazza-continua-a-dare-una-seconda-possibilita\/\">seconda possibilit\u00e0<\/a> senza essere certi di voi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93265 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg\" alt=\"uomo in giacca nera seduto vicino alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/man-sitting-near-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They can\u2019t give you a second chance until they\u2019re one hundred percent sure that you won\u2019t repeat your mistakes and that you won\u2019t hurt them again.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, they see this period as a kind of test. They don\u2019t want you out of their life but they don\u2019t want you in it just yet, either.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, what they need is to see that you\u2019ve changed. It\u2019s up to you to show them that you\u2019re a different person who won\u2019t break their heart all over again.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s your job to convince them that they can rely on you this time. That by giving you another chance they\u2019re not giving you a green light to keep on hurting them and doing them harm.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s up to you to regain their trust. They don\u2019t want you to back out as soon as they return \u2013 they want you to keep on fighting even harder and to show them that your relationship is worth the risk.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If this is the case, please don\u2019t play them once you regain their trust. Don\u2019t prove to them that breaking up with you was a good decision and that taking you back was the mistake of their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Una nuova relazione<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93267 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna con tazze di caff\u00e8 in mano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-holding-cups-of-coffee-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Non vorrei essere io a dirvelo, ma l'amara verit\u00e0 \u00e8 che la vostra ex ragazza o il vostro ex ragazzo potrebbero avere una nuova relazione di cui non sapete nulla.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>In ogni caso, il punto \u00e8 che il nuovo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/la-situazione-si-fa-seria\/\">relazione seria<\/a> they\u2019re in is dictating the tempo of your communication.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So, while it seems like your ex is hot and cold because of the mixed emotions they have for you, the fact is that their behavior depends on what it\u2019s going on in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Whenever their new romance is going great, there is no sign of them. They stop returning your calls, there\u2019s no texting at all, and they don\u2019t even keep track of your social media activity like they used to.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, you\u2019re left wondering what went wrong. Did you do something that caused them to cut ties all of a sudden \u2013 without any explanation or closure?<\/p>\n<p>Then, out of the blue, they reappear in your life. It\u2019s possible that their new relationship has entered a crisis.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93271 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg\" alt=\"uomo con giacca nera e donna seduti vicino al ponte\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-near-bridge-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Forse hanno capito che il loro attuale fidanzato o fidanzata non li amer\u00e0 mai come voi. O forse hanno appena litigato.<\/p>\n<p>Beware of the possibility that your ex is doing all of this on purpose. Maybe they\u2019re trying to make their current partner jealous of you, without you being aware of what they\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n<p>Either way, this is the period in which your ex is constantly present in your life. They\u2019re not directly pressuring you to reconcile but they\u2019re all over you.<\/p>\n<p>They give you the impression that you\u2019re one step away from getting back together. However, what you don\u2019t know is that you\u2019re only serving as a way for them to overcome the crisis in their relationship.<\/p>\n<p>Naturally, they won\u2019t be honest about their relationship status with you. Instead, they\u2019ll try their best to hide everything from you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>After all, they want to keep you around, just in case. They can\u2019t afford to lose you if their current relationship falls apart, so they\u2019re keeping you as their safety net.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Abuso di potere<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93274 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg\" alt=\"donna appoggiata al tavolo mentre guarda il telefono\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Che vi piaccia o meno ammetterlo, quando il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo, acquisisce una sorta di potere su di voi.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re the one waiting for them to reach out the whole time, hoping they\u2019ll come back to you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You put your life on hold, while they\u2019re out there making their mind up about you and not worrying about your well being.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you have no say in this entire situation. They\u2019re the one who needs to make the decision and you have no way of influencing it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, the truth is that in some cases, your ex is pretty much aware of all of this. They know that currently, they\u2019re the dominant one and they take advantage of that.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Giocano consapevolmente con la vostra mente e il vostro cuore. Si rivolgono a voi quando si sentono soli e abbandonati e quando non c'\u00e8 nessun altro a cui rivolgersi.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, as soon as their life gets back on track and as soon as everything starts to go smoothly, they\u2019re nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n<p>Suddenly, they\u2019ve forgotten all about you and start acting like you never existed.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t fool yourself and think that this is their <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/segnali-di-una-donna-emotivamente-non-disponibile\/\">indisponibilit\u00e0 emotiva<\/a> talking. You can be certain that they\u2019re doing all of this on purpose.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93277 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"donna con top a righe seduta all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t want to give you a chance to fall out of love with them. As soon as they notice that your emotions are fading away and as soon as they see that you might forget them, they go into attack mode.<\/p>\n<p>So, the next day they give you hope that reconciliation is possible. They say that they miss you and that they can\u2019t imagine living their life without you.<\/p>\n<p>However, all of these are just empty words that are never backed up with action. The fact is that they\u2019re not doing anything about actually reviving your relationship.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, as soon as they see that you\u2019ve caught the hook, they\u2019re nowhere to be found. They disappear, leaving you in agony and abandoning you when you need them the most.<\/p>\n<p>At first, you suffer because of their absence and the fact that they&#8217;re acting hot and cold. You miss them and constantly overthink your entire relationship and everything that went on later.<\/p>\n<p>However, after a while, you accept that they\u2019re gone. You no longer try to contact them and you give up on the idea that you\u2019ll ever be together again.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, when you\u2019re just one step closer to finding peace, there they\u2019re again. There they\u2019re with their sweet words and empty promises.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped once more in this endless cycle from which you see no way out. So what is this if it\u2019s not them using their power over you?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Si sono disinnamorati ma sono nostalgici<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93279 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna seduti su una panchina vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-on-bench-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Here is another thing you might have trouble accepting \u2013 there is a great possibility that your ex has sadly <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/34-segni-non-ama-piu\/\">ha smesso di amarti<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The first question then is, why have they contacted you at all if they\u2019ve fallen out of love?<\/p>\n<p>A volte, nonostante non si provi pi\u00f9 nulla per una persona che si amava, si ha ancora nostalgia dei bei ricordi e dei momenti trascorsi insieme.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Maybe your ex is scared of moving on. You\u2019re their comfort zone and they feel some kind of security as long as they have you around.<\/p>\n<p>Even though they\u2019ve stopped loving you, they have a hard time admitting their indifference. They simply can\u2019t let you go and they don\u2019t feel ready to continue their life without your presence.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Cos\u00ec, ogni volta che attraversano un momento difficile, cercano conforto nella vostra compagnia. Chiedono ancora il vostro consiglio e la vostra opinione.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, si tratta di una situazione che fa caldo e freddo.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><em><b>7 cose da fare quando <\/b><b>Il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo<\/b><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Figure out if you\u2019re being used or they\u2019re confused<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93282 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta alla finestra che guarda fuori\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-by-window-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Prima di intervenire sul vostro problema, tutti i consigli sulle relazioni vi diranno che prima di tutto bisogna andare a fondo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019ve read all of the possible reasons why your ex is hot and cold, rethink your situation for a couple of days and try to figure out what reason you relate to the most.<\/p>\n<p>La cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 capire se <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/7-segnali-allarmanti-che-lui-ti-sta-usando-emotivamente\/\">you\u2019re being used<\/a> or they\u2019re confused. Are they doing all of this involuntarily, without being aware of the impact their behavior is having on you?<\/p>\n<p>Oppure si comportano cos\u00ec di proposito, con l'intenzione di ferirti ancora di pi\u00f9? Stanno facendo tutto questo senza preoccuparsi del vostro benessere?<\/p>\n<p>So che rispondere a questa domanda potrebbe essere doloroso, ma credetemi, \u00e8 fondamentale per voi sapere la verit\u00e0. Siate il pi\u00f9 realistici possibile e non badate ai vostri desideri e alle vostre speranze.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93285 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg\" alt=\"Donna in piedi vicino al lago durante il tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-lake-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Naturally, you shouldn\u2019t react the same way if your ex is struggling with their emotions rather than consciously playing mind games with you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nel primo caso, dovreste sicuramente essere comprensivi. Dopo tutto, questa persona vi ama, ma ha difficolt\u00e0 a conciliare il cervello e il cuore.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you know you\u2019re dealing with a jerk who is playing you, they don\u2019t deserve any sympathy.<\/p>\n<p>In realt\u00e0, ci\u00f2 che dovrebbero ottenere \u00e8 un assaggio della loro stessa medicina, oppure dovreste cacciarli immediatamente dalla vostra vita.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Whatever you decide to do and whatever approach you choose, please always put your emotions first. Don\u2019t engage in anything that might end up hurting you even more.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Non siate appiccicosi<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93287 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg\" alt=\"donna con cappotto rosso in piedi sul ponte\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-on-bridge-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Another thing you shouldn\u2019t do is be overly clingy. You see, once you realize that you\u2019re losing someone you love, you may have the impulse to keep them by your side, no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>As soon as someone ignores you, you have an even bigger desire to get their attention. The same is true of you and your ex \u2013 this is just a part of human nature.<\/p>\n<p>Meno rispondono ai vostri messaggi di testo, pi\u00f9 voi li mandate doppi e tripli. Meno rispondono alle vostre chiamate, pi\u00f9 trovate scuse per contattarli.<\/p>\n<p>Pi\u00f9 ignorano la vostra attivit\u00e0 sui social media, pi\u00f9 foto e aggiornamenti di stato postate.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This actually makes sense at a first glance. You\u2019re subconsciously trying to keep them from leaving you and more importantly \u2013 from forgetting you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Questo \u00e8 il vostro tentativo di ricordare a questa persona di voi. Un tentativo di tenerla nella vostra vita, a tutti i costi.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93291 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta a terra che guarda la montagna\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-ground-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you one thing: you\u2019ll actually only achieve the opposite with your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-cose-per-cui-sei-estremamente-appiccicoso\/\">estrema appiccicosit\u00e0<\/a>. By doing this, you\u2019re producing a counterproductive effect.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of pulling this person closer, you\u2019ll only chase them away. You\u2019ll make them feel suffocated and trapped and they\u2019ll want to run for their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Besides, this approach will make your ex lose all their appreciation for you. You\u2019re sending them a message that they can treat you however they want.<\/p>\n<p>No matter what they do, you\u2019ll always be around. In fact, the worse they treat you, the more you\u2019ll love them.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, perch\u00e9 mai dovrebbero cambiare il loro comportamento? Non c'\u00e8 nulla che possano fare per farvi smettere di amarli, quindi possono continuare a comportarsi cos\u00ec per tutto il tempo che vogliono.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Dimostrate loro che potete farcela anche senza di loro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93349 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg\" alt=\"quattro donne sedute su una panchina con in mano bicchieri di birra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/women-sitting-on-bench-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>La cosa pi\u00f9 importante in questa situazione \u00e8 dimostrare al vostro ex che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/self-love\/girl-power\/date-a-girl-who-wants-you-but-doesnt-need-you\/\">you don\u2019t need them<\/a>. I\u2019m not saying that you need to act like you don\u2019t care about them, though.<\/p>\n<p>However, there is a difference between loving someone and being dependent on them. That is exactly what you need to prove to them: that you want them in your life but you won\u2019t be doomed if you lose them.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you need to show your ex that you can make it without them. So, instead of making phone calls, asking for favors, or asking for their advice, show them that you\u2019re independent.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Utilizzate questo tempo per lavorare sulla fiducia in voi stessi e per diventare la migliore versione possibile di voi stessi. Investite questo tempo e tutte le vostre energie per coccolarvi e migliorarvi.<\/p>\n<p>Invece di essere ossessionati dal vostro ex e dalla vostra relazione fallita,<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/quando-un-vecchio-amico-ti-contatta-allimprovviso\/\"> riallacciare i rapporti con i vecchi amici<\/a>. Uscire con le persone e vederle come un'occasione per conoscere qualcuno di nuovo.<\/p>\n<p>Lavorare sulla propria istruzione e carriera. Leggete libri, guardate film e trovate un nuovo hobby.<\/p>\n<p>Oltre a nutrire la mente e il cuore, lavorate anche sul vostro aspetto fisico. Andate in palestra o fate qualche attivit\u00e0 fisica.<\/p>\n<p>Questo sar\u00e0 utile per la vostra salute mentale e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/romantic-love\/love-advice\/costruire-la-fiducia-di-base-nella-vita-di-successo-incontri\/\">fiducia in se stessi<\/a> anche. Vi liberer\u00e0 dallo stress e dall'energia negativa e vi rimetter\u00e0 in forma.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, you shouldn\u2019t do all of this to spite your ex. Your final goal is not to show them what they lost.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, you\u2019re working on yourself for your own sake. You\u2019re doing it to show yourself that you don\u2019t need anyone and that you\u2019re the creator of your own happiness.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mirror your cold ex&#8217;s behavior<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93350 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg\" alt=\"donna che guarda il mare seduta all&#039;aperto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-looking-at-sea-6-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>According to a lot of relationship advice, the thing you should do is mirror your ex\u2019s behavior when it comes to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/la-psicologia-che-si-nasconde-dietro-il-gioco-degli-appuntamenti\/\">giochi caldi e freddi<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>This person\u2019s intention is to confuse you and to bring you into a situation in which you don\u2019t know what to think or where to stand.<\/p>\n<p>Well, why don\u2019t you outsmart them for the first time ever? Turn the tables and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/10-passi-per-battere-il-gioco-del-giocatore\/\">batterli al loro stesso gioco<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quello che dovreste fare \u00e8 rispecchiare il loro comportamento. Quando vi ignorano, riservate loro un trattamento ancora pi\u00f9 freddo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t let them in as soon as they try to reenter the hot stage. Instead, make them work for it.<\/p>\n<p>Ignore them for a little while after they start reaching out to you. Then, start acting like everything is in perfect order and make them believe that you\u2019re crazy over them.<\/p>\n<p>Dopo un po' di tempo, all'improvviso, sarete voi a dare loro il trattamento del silenzio. In questo modo, riducete la comunicazione al minimo indispensabile e iniziate a mostrare disinteresse.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93351 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg\" alt=\"donna con tazza in mano seduta sul divano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-7-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Oppure potete semplicemente sparire, senza dare loro una spiegazione adeguata. Fatelo prima che inizino a ignorarvi e anticipate le loro intenzioni.<\/p>\n<p>Believe me \u2013 this is how you\u2019ll turn the situation in your favor. Now, they\u2019ll be the ones wondering what is going on.<\/p>\n<p>Quelli che cercano di decodificare il tuo <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/blog\/6-modi-a-prova-di-bomba-per-rispondere-ai-suoi-segnali-contrastanti\/\">segnali contrastanti<\/a> e quelli che passeranno tutto il tempo a pensare alle vostre mosse.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, I have to warn you about one thing: by doing this, you\u2019ll play with their head.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll probably even hurt their feelings. Nevertheless, there is also a great chance of hurting yourself as well here.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>The point is that you\u2019re ignoring them on purpose, so you end up missing them as well. To put things simply: you\u2019re breaking your own heart just so you can break theirs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ridurre l'attivit\u00e0 sui social media<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93352 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg\" alt=\"donna con occhiali da vista seduta al chiuso\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-indoor-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Social media is a big part of modern dating. So, even though you\u2019re not actually dating this person anymore, your social profiles can still help you a lot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>When you first break up with someone you still love, you have the same impulse as the rest of us. You stalk your ex\u2019s profiles, you want to find out where and with whom they\u2019re spending their time.<\/p>\n<p>Inoltre, utilizzate i vostri profili per inviare loro un messaggio. Si pubblicano aggiornamenti di stato tristi e citazioni sulla mancanza di qualcuno, canzoni che potrebbero ricordare la vostra relazione e cos\u00ec via.<\/p>\n<p>D'altra parte, potreste usare i vostri profili per farli ingelosire. Mettete foto di voi che vi divertite molto o aggiornamenti di stato su come l'essere single sia una figata.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Well, let me tell you that neither approach works. Even if you post your happy photos, they\u2019ll be aware that you\u2019re doing all of that in spite of them.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93353 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg\" alt=\"donna con zaino in piedi vicino all&#039;acqua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-standing-near-water-9-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Besides, both approaches are beneficial for your ex. Either way, they know where you\u2019re spending your time and what you\u2019ve been up to.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, la cosa migliore da fare \u00e8 ridurre la vostra attivit\u00e0 sui social media al minimo indispensabile. Non fatevi notare e fate in modo che si chiedano.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Do the same with your mutual friends. Don\u2019t reveal your plans or emotions and especially don\u2019t ask about them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Se possibile, sarebbe meglio tagliare i ponti con chiunque sia legato al vostro ex. Se vogliono sentirti, costringili a contattarti.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t let them get the information they need without moving an inch \u2013 through your friends or social media. Force them to make an effort or give you access to their life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don\u2019t react when they go cold<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93354 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg\" alt=\"donna con giacca di jeans seduta su una sedia blu\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-chair-8-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The most important thing is to stay calm once your ex enters \u201cthe cold\u201d phase. Naturally, your first impulse here is to get angry but this is not how you&#8217;ll get your ex back.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Volete richiamarli alle loro azioni. Volete sgridarli e discutere con loro del loro comportamento scorretto.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, questa \u00e8 l'ultima cosa da fare. Fidatevi: la vostra reazione \u00e8 ci\u00f2 che vuole il vostro ex fidanzato o la vostra ex fidanzata.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>They want to see that they\u2019ve accomplished their goal. They\u2019ve managed to hurt your feelings and to affect you in the worst way possible.<\/p>\n<p>Tuttavia, ci\u00f2 che li ferisce di pi\u00f9 \u00e8 se li trattate in silenzio. Si aspettano che li inseguiate, cos\u00ec come scappano da voi.<\/p>\n<p>Vogliono che <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/non-supplicate-mai-un-uomo-per-queste-10-cose-che-vi-meritate\/\">implorarli<\/a> to come back every time they leave. They want you to get angry, even, because that is a sign that you\u2019re not indifferent.<\/p>\n<p>However, if you ignore their cold behavior, you\u2019ll make them lose their mind. They\u2019ll wonder why there is no reaction from you and whether it\u2019s a sign that you don\u2019t care for them at all.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me, before you know it, your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend will come knocking on your door. They\u2019ll come crawling back to you, just to check what\u2019s wrong and whether they still have a place in your life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Parlare con loro faccia a faccia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93355 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg\" alt=\"uomo e donna seduti a tavola a parlare\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/couple-sitting-at-table-4-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Finally, if you\u2019ve had enough of this situation, it\u2019s time to bring the subject up and talk to them face to face. After all, the two of you are mature human beings and I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ll be able to find the middle ground.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be emotional and don\u2019t show them your weakness and vulnerable side.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>However, don\u2019t be arrogant either if you want to get your ex back. Just be as realistic as possible and talk to them about your situation.<\/p>\n<p>Be honest and tell them that you\u2019re not stupid and that they can\u2019t play you for a fool anymore. You won\u2019t put up with this behavior a second longer and you want to know where you stand.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be scared of telling them that you&#8217;ve wanted to get back together this whole time.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t cry or beg them: just tell them that you still have feelings for them and that you would like to give your relationship another shot.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make them give you the answer right away or the next day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Instead, give them a certain period of time \u2013 a couple of days or more to make up their mind.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93356 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg\" alt=\"donna seduta sul pavimento vicino alla finestra\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-sitting-on-floor-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>Applicate la regola dell'assenza di contatto fino a quando non prender\u00e0 una decisione. Se il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo dopo il no contact, tutto \u00e8 chiaro.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, don\u2019t give them a lot of time. Set a date and be firm about it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If they don\u2019t give you an answer in that period of time, leave them for good. Don\u2019t allow them to keep playing with you or to keep you on hold.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Quando il vostro ex fa il bello e il cattivo tempo e voi decidete di adottare questo approccio, siate sicuri della vostra decisione e della vostra capacit\u00e0 di farlo.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t do all of this if you\u2019re going to fall for them the first time they contact you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>There is no point in bringing the subject up if you\u2019ll be too weak to stick to your decision.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t allow them to keep on playing games with you because that way, you\u2019ll just show them that you\u2019re nothing but a fool and that your words mean nothing.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-93724 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Ecco perch\u00e9 il vostro ex \u00e8 caldo e freddo (e cosa fare)\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Your relationship ended a while ago. However, even after all this time, still your ex is hot and cold.&nbsp; There are times when they act like they love you and want to get back together with you. Periods when they keep on texting you, when they&#8217;re jealous of your new life, and when they tell&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":93238,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-93235","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/This-Is-Why-Your-Ex-Is-Hot-And-Cold-And-What-To-Do-About-It.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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