{"id":9412,"date":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T14:20:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9412"},"modified":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","modified_gmt":"2022-10-21T08:52:21","slug":"2020-mi-ha-insegnato-cosa-non-e-il-vero-amore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/2020-mi-ha-insegnato-cosa-non-e-il-vero-amore\/","title":{"rendered":"Il 2022 mi ha insegnato cosa non \u00e8 il vero amore"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quest'anno \u00e8 iniziato pensando che dovevo essere la donna pi\u00f9 felice del mondo perch\u00e9 avevo lui. Era uno di quei rari tipi di uomini che si avvicinavano al fidanzato perfetto. Era premuroso, attento, con cui era facile parlare, virile, motivato e appassionato. Da come lo vedevo, aveva tutto. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mi sembrava che la sua missione nella vita fosse quella di rendermi felice. Mi riempiva di attenzioni. Pensava ai modi pi\u00f9 divertenti per sorprendermi. Trovava sempre del tempo per me, indipendentemente da quanto fosse impegnato.<\/span> Ero al settimo cielo per lui e pensavo di essere in una specie di sogno, sperando di non svegliarmi mai. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Tutto sembrava perfetto. Ma, dopo un po', ho iniziato a vederlo per quello che era veramente. Era come se fosse cambiato all'improvviso. Era diventato una persona che non riconoscevo pi\u00f9. Tutte le attenzioni che mi dava mi sembravano un peso. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was constantly on my case for this and that. He didn\u2019t like my behavior. He resented anything I had to say or he wouldn\u2019t approve of the way I was saying it. One day I was the most perfect girl alive and the next he couldn\u2019t stand to see me. He treated me like I was flawed from top to bottom.<\/span><\/p>\n

La cosa peggiore \u00e8 che gli ho creduto. Pensavo di essere io. Che non ero abbastanza brava per lui e che dovevo cambiare. Mi ha fatto dubitare di me stessa in ogni aspetto. <\/b><\/p>\n

It affected my life, it affected my work and my relationships with other people, not to mention the relationship I had with myself. I was unable to make a decision because I didn\u2019t know if I was competent enough to make one. I used to run to him for advice for everything because he had me believe that he had all the answers.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Mi ha reso completamente infelice. I couldn\u2019t be happy anymore.<\/a> Certo, di tanto in tanto ridevo, ma non c'era felicit\u00e0 in quel sorriso.<\/span> Sembrava che dovessi pagare per tutti quei momenti di felicit\u00e0 che avevamo condiviso.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ha detto di amarmi cos\u00ec tante volte. Giurava che ero l'amore della sua vita. Affermava che non c'era amore al mondo pi\u00f9 grande del nostro. Ora so che era tutto tranne che amore, perch\u00e9 l'amore non dovrebbe mai fare cos\u00ec male. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he never would have given me all those happy moments just so he could ruin them with all those crappy ones.<\/b> He wouldn\u2019t have said I was pretty one minute and then call me all sorts of ugly names the next. He wouldn\u2019t even just say nice things when he saw that I was completely down. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have brought me down. He would have looked at me like I was his equal.<\/b> Non si sarebbe divertito a farmi sentire male con me stesso. Non mi avrebbe mai fatto dubitare della mia intelligenza o della mia competenza. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have made me feel like I was not enough.<\/b> And that\u2019s all that he did\u2014made me doubt myself, made me think I was not pretty enough, smart enough, good enough or anything enough to be with him. <\/span><\/p>\n

If what we\u2019d had was love, he would never have stood to see me cry. <\/b>Non avrebbe mai permesso che tutte quelle lacrime scendessero sul mio viso a causa sua. Non mi avrebbe mai fatto del male di proposito. Non sarebbe mai stato lui a provocare quelle lacrime. <\/span><\/p>\n

Alla fine, tutto ci\u00f2 che posso fare \u00e8 dire Grazie per avermi mostrato cosa non \u00e8 l'amore.<\/a> Thanks to you, I am entering 2023 as a completely different person. The one who doesn\u2019t allow herself to be put down. The one who knows she is good enough and would never allow anybody else to tell her otherwise. The one who is stronger from all the tears. The one who is learning to love herself again. <\/span><\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

This year began with me thinking I must have been the happiest woman alive because I had him. He was one of those rare types of men who came close to being a perfect boyfriend. He was thoughtful, caring, easy to talk to, masculine, driven and passionate. From the way I saw him, he had…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":9414,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9412","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/roberto-nickson-366181.jpg",800,574,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=9412"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9412\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/9414"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=9412"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=9412"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=9412"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}