{"id":95445,"date":"2020-09-15T09:28:26","date_gmt":"2020-09-15T09:28:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=95445"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:54:14","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:54:14","slug":"trattare-con-lex-moglie","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/trattare-con-lex-moglie\/","title":{"rendered":"15 consigli per trattare con l'ex moglie del vostro fidanzato"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you’re dating a divorced man, I really feel for you. Dealing with the ex-wife of your boyfriend is never an easy job.<\/p>\n

Tuttavia, \u00e8 necessario tenere sempre presente che la cosa importante \u00e8 che \u00e8 una ex e una ex \u00e8 una ex per un motivo. <\/em><\/p>\n

Lei appartiene al suo passato e voi siete il suo presente e, si spera, il suo futuro.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Naturalmente, sarebbe meglio per tutti voi se aveste rapporti amichevoli, Soprattutto se sono coinvolti dei bambini.<\/em><\/p>\n

Co-parenting isn’t always easy, trust me, and you should help both your partner and his ex-spouse with this, if they have kids together.<\/p>\n

Tenete sempre presente e fate le cose nell'interesse dei bambini.<\/p>\n

Your husband’s ex<\/a> was a part of your new partner’s past and you have to accettare il fatto che lei far\u00e0 sempre (purtroppo) parte della sua vita se \u00e8 la madre dei suoi figli.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Sarebbe meglio per entrambi, ma soprattutto per i bambini, se riusciste a trovare un terreno comune e a costruire dei rapporti sani tra voi due.<\/p>\n

How to deal with your boyfriend’s ex-wife?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Penso che questa sia la domanda pi\u00f9 frequente delle donne che sono uscire con un uomo divorziato con figli<\/a> and your husband’s ex can really be unbearable sometimes.<\/p>\n

Here’s how to handle her effectively.<\/p>\n

Get to know your partner’s ex<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Prima di tutto, dovreste incontrarla.<\/p>\n

I don’t mean that you should only shake hands with her and tell her your name, I mean that you should really spend some time with her and conoscerla<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Questo sar\u00e0 pi\u00f9 facile se lei e il vostro altro hanno divorziato amichevolmente e sono rimasti amici dopo la separazione, perch\u00e9 anche il rapporto tra loro sar\u00e0 pi\u00f9 rilassato.<\/p>\n

Dovresti darle una possibilit\u00e0. Potresti rimanere sorpreso e potresti persino diventare suo amico, il che sarebbe molto bello.<\/p>\n

Don’t have any prejudices about her if you haven\u2019t yet even met her.<\/p>\n

If she and your new partner didn’t get along well, that doesn’t mean that you won’t.<\/p>\n

Forse \u00e8 una persona completamente diversa da come la immaginate e da quello che gli altri hanno detto di lei.<\/p>\n

Forse questa nuova amicizia tra voi due vi aiuter\u00e0 a imparare e a capire alcune cose nuove sul vostro ragazzo e sulla sua precedente relazione.<\/p>\n

Invitarla a casa sua o uscire con lei a prendere un caff\u00e8<\/h2>\n

\"donne<\/p>\n

Why not? This may seem a little bit awkward but it really doesn’t have to be. You can hang out with her and get to know her.<\/p>\n

Trust me, that’s how the kids will accept and like you faster.<\/p>\n

Ask her to hang out more often. Tell her that you want to be a friend to her even if it’s a little bit strange in your circumstances.<\/p>\n

Chiedetele della sua vita privata e siate onesti quando rispondete alle domande sulla vostra vita privata.<\/p>\n

Chiedetele della sua vita sentimentale e se ha un nuovo fidanzato o meno.<\/p>\n

Maybe right now it seems really awkward to speak to your husband’s ex about these things but you’ll soon see that there is nothing to worry about.<\/p>\n

You can also ask her some things you would like to know about your significant other or their children too and don\u2019t be ashamed to talk about your new relationship with her ex-husband, especially if she asks you about it.<\/p>\n

Datele la possibilit\u00e0 di conoscervi<\/h2>\n

\"due Dovreste anche darle la possibilit\u00e0 di conoscere il vero voi.<\/p>\n

She’ll most definitely want to know who the girl is who came after her and who is a possible stepmom to her kids.<\/p>\n

Be honest and direct about everything you talk to her about. Don’t pretend or lie just because you want to get her \u2018approval\u2019 in some way.<\/p>\n

Also, you shouldn’t be a suck-up to her to get her to like you. You don’t need that.<\/p>\n

Once she sees how much you make her ex-husband happy and how great you are with kids, she’ll start seeing you in a different way.<\/p>\n

Se \u00e8 arrabbiata o amareggiata per il vostro fidanzato o per voi, conoscervi meglio potrebbe aiutarvi.<\/p>\n

Once she sees that you are a good person and that she doesn’t have anything to worry about, she’ll accept you and try to be friends with you.<\/p>\n

Cercate di capire come si sente<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

This is very important. You are a woman, too. Maybe she didn’t want the divorce, maybe she still loves him…<\/p>\n

Dovresti considerare tutto questo e cercare di capirla.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s definitely not so easy for her to watch her ex marito con il suo nuovo<\/a> La fidanzata ogni giorno e lei avr\u00e0 paura che i bambini possano apprezzarla troppo e iniziare a chiamarla mamma.<\/p>\n

If you’re alone at one point and you start talking, you should ask her about her previous marriage, mental health and well-being in general.<\/p>\n

Maybe she doesn’t want to start dating yet because she is afraid of how her kids would react to that.<\/p>\n

Comunque si senta, il vostro compito \u00e8 cercare di capirla e di rendere le cose pi\u00f9 facili per lei e per i bambini, per quanto possibile.<\/p>\n

Ricordate sempre che anche lei ha la sua versione della storia sul loro divorzio.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

There are two sides to every story and it’s like that in this one.<\/p>\n

You’ve heard your partner’s side and it’s only fair for you to listen to his ex’s side of the story.<\/p>\n

It’s up to you who you are going to believe.<\/p>\n

Even though you’ll probably choose to believe in your partner’s side of the story, it still doesn’t have to be a reason not to have a good relationship with his ex-spouse.<\/p>\n

If it’s possible, become friends with her<\/h2>\n

\"donne<\/p>\n

As I’ve already said, it’s very important to establish a healthy relationship with your partner’s ex.<\/p>\n

Chiedetele di uscire e frequentatela di tanto in tanto.<\/p>\n

Show her that you don’t see her as the enemy and that neither should she see you that way.<\/p>\n

Condividete alcune storie private del vostro passato e ascoltate attentamente quando parla della sua vita.<\/p>\n

It’s important for both of you to build trust between you two.<\/p>\n

Ask her about their children’s lives and ask her what they like doing.<\/p>\n

If you have noticed that something is bothering them, it’s totally okay to talk to her about it.<\/p>\n

Talk about your jobs, interests and any bad things you’ve encountered in your lives and follow her on social media.<\/p>\n

Potete anche chiederle cose sul vostro partner (perch\u00e9 probabilmente lo conosce meglio).<\/p>\n

If you’re planning a surprise for him, maybe a birthday party or something, she can be very helpful for that.<\/p>\n

Chiedetele quali sono i motivi che l'hanno spinta a divorziare e quanto ha influito sulla sua vita.<\/p>\n

Dimostratele che la vostra unica intenzione \u00e8 quella di instaurare con lei un rapporto buono e sano.<\/em><\/p>\n

But also understand that you’ll never become besties and that’s okay<\/h2>\n

\"giovane<\/p>\n

Sometimes, no matter how much you try to establish a friendly relationship with your partner’s ex-spouse, it just isn’t possible.<\/p>\n

She may still have some unresolved issues with him or simply doesn’t want to become friends with you, even if you do nothing wrong to her.<\/p>\n

For some reason, most ex-wives think that the new girl is the reason why they lost their ex-husband forever and they are afraid that she might \u2018take\u2019 their kids, too.<\/p>\n

Even if you establish a good relationship with your partner’s ex, you shouldn’t think that she is your true friend and that you can tell her everything.<\/p>\n

Nessuno dice che dovete diventare amici di lei.<\/strong><\/em> Sarebbe troppo imbarazzante e un po' strano.<\/p>\n

Non bisogna mai fidarsi di lei 100%<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Non importa quanto sia buono o amichevole il vostro rapporto, non dovreste mai fidarvi completamente di lei perch\u00e9 non sapete mai se le sue intenzioni sono davvero oneste come dice.<\/p>\n

You have to be careful with it because sometimes ex-wives pretend that they are friends with their ex-partner’s girl just because they want to get to know bad things about her and separate the two of them.<\/p>\n

Don’t complain to her about your partner because I’m sure she’ll be eager to tell him that.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t think you can gossip with her about him or his family because she’ll tell him about it.<\/p>\n

Don’t allow her to speak badly about your boyfriend<\/h2>\n

\"Donna<\/p>\n

Anche se le chiedete di raccontare la sua versione della storia sul loro divorzio, non dovete mai permetterle di insultare o parlare male del vostro ragazzo.<\/p>\n

Dovreste difenderlo a prescindere da tutto.<\/p>\n

Even if you think that he has done a bad thing to her and that she has the right to insult him, you shouldn’t say that in front of her.<\/p>\n

Se notate che parla male di lui davanti ai bambini, dovete immediatamente fermarla e parlarne al vostro partner.<\/p>\n

She’ll probably want to make the kids choose a side and that’s how she thinks she’ll make them choose hers.<\/p>\n

Se sentite che parla male del vostro partner o lo notate voi stessi, dovete fermarla subito.<\/p>\n

Also, don’t speak badly about her in front of your significant other<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Even if she treats you badly or doesn’t want to have any communication with you, you shouldn’t gossip about her in front of your boyfriend.<\/p>\n

The most important thing is that the kids are pleased and content and that they have both parents, even if they’re divorced.<\/p>\n

Tutto il resto andr\u00e0 al suo posto un giorno.<\/p>\n

And if it doesn’t, that’s not important. You’ll learn to live with the annoying ex-wife of your man.<\/p>\n

La cosa pi\u00f9 importante \u00e8 che voi due stiate insieme, vi amiate e vi rispettiate.<\/p>\n

There is no reason for you to be jealous of her, so remember that she belongs in the past…<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

\u2026 and you are now. You are a part of his life now and you’ll be a part of his future; that\u2019s all that matters.<\/p>\n

You don’t have any reasons to be jealous of her. If he thought that she was better than you in any way, he would still be with her, not you.<\/p>\n

Let go of all of those negative feelings and focus on what’s really important.<\/p>\n

Che l'invidia e jealousy won’t do you<\/a> non serve a nulla; pu\u00f2 solo rovinare la bella relazione romantica tra voi e il vostro partner.<\/p>\n

Non coinvolgete mai i loro figli nei vostri problemi o nei vostri litigi.<\/h2>\n

\"donna<\/p>\n

Tutte le cose che riguardano i bambini sono state probabilmente gi\u00e0 concordate durante il processo di divorzio.<\/p>\n

Il vostro partner e la sua ex hanno probabilmente un accordo per l'affidamento e il vostro partner sta probabilmente pagando alla sua ex il mantenimento dei figli.<\/p>\n

Dovreste sedervi tutti insieme con i loro figli e spiegare loro la vostra situazione attuale.<\/p>\n

Il vostro partner dovrebbe presentarvi come la sua nuova fidanzata, la loro matrigna, e chiedere a voi e a loro di cercare di andare d'accordo e di accettarvi a vicenda.<\/p>\n

Okay, so they aren’t your own kids but they are now your stepchildren and if you truly love your partner, that would be the same for you; you\u2019ll see them as your own.<\/p>\n

If you don’t have a good relationship with your partner’s ex-wife and if you fight a lot, you have to leave the kids out of it because it leaves huge consequences on their mental health.<\/p>\n

Inoltre, non sfruttate mai, ma proprio MAI, l'occasione per parlare male di lei quando siete soli con i bambini.<\/p>\n

Indipendentemente da ci\u00f2 che vi ha fatto o vi fa ancora, non dovreste mai cercare di vendicarvi. Siate sempre la persona pi\u00f9 grande!<\/em><\/p>\n

Litigare con il proprio ragazzo a causa di lei \u00e8 fuori discussione<\/h2>\n

\"bella<\/p>\n

Constant phone calls then hang-ups every time you answer your partner’s phone, texting, inviting him over to let him have the kids\u2026 these are all some signs of how she wants to make you jealous and get a bad reaction from you.<\/p>\n

She’ll probably try to separate you but you should show her how strong your love is.<\/p>\n

You also have to understand your partner so know that he can’t be a referee between you two.<\/p>\n

If she told you her side of the story and made him look bad, you shouldn’t immediately believe her and confront your boyfriend with your new findings.<\/p>\n

Dategli la possibilit\u00e0 di difendersi.<\/p>\n

Things could get even worse between you and your boyfriend’s ex-wife if he asks you to marry him.<\/p>\n

Becoming his fianc\u00e9e may make her even angrier or more obsessed with you.<\/p>\n

Don’t let the relationship between you two affect the relationship with your boyfriend<\/h2>\n

\"coppia<\/p>\n

Potrebbe cercare di controllare l'ex marito e per farlo ha un'arma potente: i bambini, ovviamente.<\/p>\n

If she gets them to choose her side (even though it’s so wrong to ask children to pick sides), your partner will suffer for sure and she’ll be in a position to make ultimatums with him.<\/p>\n

It would be better for all of you if you could get along well but you don’t have to try to be friends with her at all costs.<\/p>\n

Qualunque sia la vostra relazione, non dovreste mai permettere che essa influisca sul rapporto tra voi e il vostro ragazzo.<\/p>\n

Cercate di essere corretti con lei. Cercate di essere comprensivi con lei e anche con il vostro partner.<\/p>\n

But don’t allow anyone to insult you or speak badly about you.<\/p>\n

Stabilire dei limiti salutari<\/h2>\n

\"due<\/p>\n

Stabilire dei limiti \u00e8 fondamentale per ogni relazione sana.<\/p>\n

Dovreste stabilire dei limiti salutari<\/a> nella relazione con il vostro partner e anche con il suo ex coniuge.<\/p>\n

Don’t let her cross the line or your limits. If you aren’t okay with something she says or does, you have to tell her that.<\/p>\n

Se vedete che vuole stare troppo vicino al vostro uomo, ditele di farsi da parte.<\/p>\n

Tell her that even though you asked her to be friends with you that this is something you won’t tolerate.<\/p>\n

So che avere a che fare con l'ex moglie del tuo ragazzo \u00e8 cos\u00ec difficile e ti mette a disagio, ma tutto ci\u00f2 che devi fare \u00e8 trovare un modo per far funzionare questa relazione.<\/p>\n

Non importa quanto sia difficile, non dovete nemmeno pensare di rompere con il vostro partner a causa della sua ex. <\/em><\/p>\n

\u00c8 possibile rendere la vita familiare pi\u00f9 felice anche in queste circostanze, ma solo se tutte le parti vogliono cooperare per farlo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Think about the kids and their best interests and everything will be, well, not perfect, but it will be the way that\u2019s best for all of you.<\/p>\n

Hang in there, she’ll understand soon that the best thing for everyone would be to get along. Peace and love, that’s all I want for you.<\/p>\n

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