{"id":9788,"date":"2020-04-07T14:06:33","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T14:06:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=9788"},"modified":"2022-05-04T11:06:36","modified_gmt":"2022-05-04T11:06:36","slug":"dopo-aver-frequentato-un-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/dopo-aver-frequentato-un-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"Le conseguenze della frequentazione con un narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>What nobody tells you about narcissists is that they are really good at the art of disguise and a girl who dates a narcissist will never be aware that she\u2019s dating one until it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n<p>Until she\u2019s left alone, broken and drained to pick up her own pieces. And it will take her a hell of a time to heal because the aftermath of dating a narcissist is immense.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Una ragazza che \u00e8 uscita con un narcisista avr\u00e0 la sua autostima distrutta.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>As the aftermath of dating a narcissist, this girl will be completely lost. She\u2019ll have very low self-esteem\u2014if there appears to be any left after the narcissist is done with her.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll lose her dignity, all the value and all the faith she had in herself before a narcissist walked into her life.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Una ragazza che ha frequentato un narcisista sar\u00e0 sempre vulnerabile e spaventata.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>The consequences of dating such a toxic guy will be so visible because she\u2019ll try her best to hide that she\u2019s afraid or that everything in this world touches her, but she won\u2019t make it.<\/p>\n<p>Everything about her\u2014her eyes, the way she behaves when someone new approaches her\u2014everything will scream that she is at her most vulnerable because of her past.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Una ragazza che \u00e8 uscita con un narcisista sorrider\u00e0 solo perch\u00e9 deve farlo.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>She won\u2019t feel like smiling but in order not to make those who care for her worried, she\u2019ll put a smile on her face. She forgot how happiness feels and she hasn\u2019t smiled from the top of her lungs for a long time.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79601\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/mindful-woman-looking-at-floor.jpg\" alt=\"donna pensierosa che guarda il pavimento\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/mindful-woman-looking-at-floor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/mindful-woman-looking-at-floor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/mindful-woman-looking-at-floor-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s the price she had to pay for welcoming the narcissist in her life.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Una ragazza che \u00e8 uscita con un narcisista eviter\u00e0 di parlare di ci\u00f2 che \u00e8 successo.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll develop some kind of defense mechanism of her own.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll become guarded, she\u2019ll avoid people and she\u2019ll try to keep herself busy in order to forget the hell she\u2019s been through and the hell she\u2019s living as the aftermath of dating a narcissist.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Una ragazza che ha frequentato un narcisista avr\u00e0 come migliori amici l'ansia e la depressione.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>She might\u2019ve not been like this at the beginning, she might&#8217;ve not been anxious or depressed, but dating a narcissist doesn\u2019t come without a cost.<\/p>\n<p>Di solito, l'ansia e la depressione sono effetti collaterali di <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/relationship\/5-modi-per-smuovere-una-relazione-tossica\/\">una relazione tossica<\/a> and it\u2019ll take her quite some time before she starts feeling normal.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Recovering from a narcissist and surviving the aftermath of dating a narcissist won\u2019t be easy.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Healing will be a hard and long process, and plenty of people won\u2019t understand why it takes so long and why she doesn\u2019t \u201cjust get over it already\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Solo coloro che ci tengono abbastanza si preoccupano di rimanere per tutto il tempo di cui ha bisogno.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79603\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/two-sad-women-hugging.jpg\" alt=\"due donne tristi che si abbracciano\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/two-sad-women-hugging.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/two-sad-women-hugging-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/two-sad-women-hugging-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Only those who truly love her will be with her through her whole period and will be her biggest support because she\u2019ll never be able to get over it alone.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Questa ragazza che \u00e8 uscita con un narcisista ha dimenticato il buono che c'\u00e8 negli esseri umani.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t wrap your mind around it because you have probably never experienced anything like it and you should be lucky that you dodged the bullet.<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, she didn\u2019t. She fell for the wrong guy and she lost so many things.<\/p>\n<p>But the worst part is the fact that she doesn&#8217;t believe there are any more good people out there. She just can\u2019t see it because her past forces her to see her tormentor in each person she meets.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She isn\u2019t recovering from love lost or even the failure of a relationship but from warfare.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>She won\u2019t be able to get over what happened to her so easily. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll need more time than you think. And your impatience will just harm her. If you won\u2019t help her, don\u2019t make things worse by judging her.<\/p>\n<p>You think she wouldn\u2019t want to be normal or happy or the way she was before she got herself into the narcissist\u2019s nest? She would, but she just doesn\u2019t know how.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She\u2019ll need constant reassurance.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79605\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/lonely-woman-watching-the-sunset.jpg\" alt=\"donna sola che guarda il tramonto\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/lonely-woman-watching-the-sunset.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/lonely-woman-watching-the-sunset-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/lonely-woman-watching-the-sunset-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She forgot a long time ago how it feels to be fearless\u2014how it feels not to be scared or not to have to be careful. She forgot how it feels not to anticipate anything bad.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, she\u2019ll need to hear from you a lot how the nightmare is over and how everything will be okay.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll need to hear from you how she doesn\u2019t need to be scared and that she doesn\u2019t need to worry because you\u2019ll always be there to be her rock.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She\u2019ll have a hard time trusting people.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Il suo passato le ha insegnato a non fidarsi di nessuno, perch\u00e9 chi pensava fosse pi\u00f9 vicino a lei, l'ha spinta pi\u00f9 vicino all'inferno.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why she\u2019ll be doubtful whenever someone new tries to enter her life.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll take any act of good towards her with a dose of suspicion, thinking she\u2019ll pay for it later\u2014and she\u2019ll pay for it big time.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She\u2019ll need some time before she welcomes someone new in her life or decides to love.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>L'amore \u00e8 ora un sentimento molto strano e sconosciuto per lei. Quello che una volta pensava fosse amore si \u00e8 trasformato nel sentimento pi\u00f9 tossico e l'ha resa prigioniera del suo tormentatore.<\/p>\n<p>She won\u2019t allow herself to develop feelings towards anyone\u2014let alone <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/sex\/21-ways-you-know-that-the-true-love-feeling-is-actually-real\" rel=\"noopener\">il sentimento dell'amore<\/a>. That\u2019s how bruised she is.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79607\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-in-red-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta in un divano rosso\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-in-red-sofa.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-in-red-sofa-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-in-red-sofa-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She\u2019ll apologize constantly.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Because she went through hell, she\u2019ll have this need to apologize\u2014even for the things she doesn\u2019t need to.<\/p>\n<p>She learned that the best way to avoid emotional beatings is taking all the blame and that\u2019s what she did when she dated a narcissist.<\/p>\n<p>This is something she\u2019ll have a hard time shaking off, so don\u2019t be surprised when you hear her saying \u201cI\u2019m so sorry\u201d for the smallest thing because that\u2019s her defensive mechanism and it will take a while before she gets rid of it.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>She\u2019ll hide her feelings.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>In her previous relationship with a narcissist, \u2018to feel\u2019 always came with a price.<\/p>\n<p>The more she showed her feelings, the worse he treated her. That\u2019s why you\u2019ll never be able to see what she truly feels.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll be scared to come off as clingy, too emotional, overly sensitive or even boring with all those emotions of hers.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll be scared you won\u2019t understand so she\u2019ll take the \u2018easy\u2019 road by always choosing to bottle her feelings up.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Nulla di questo processo di recupero sar\u00e0 facile.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79609\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"donna triste seduta sul letto\" width=\"800\" height=\"540\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-300x203.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-bed-768x518.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll have frequent mood swings. Often, she\u2019ll want to be isolated and she\u2019ll guard her heart more than you\u2019ve ever seen.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/perche-ho-bisogno-di-continue-rassicurazioni\/\">hanno bisogno di essere costantemente rassicurati<\/a>\u2014you\u2019ll need to prove her day after day that you\u2019re there, that you\u2019re not leaving and that you understand what happened to her.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019ll need to show her that she isn\u2019t alone, that you care and that together, you two can overcome whatever happened.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019ll need a lot of time and she might never become the person you\u2019d want her to be. All of this will be overwhelming at moments.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Ma ne varr\u00e0 la pena.<\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not her fault that she\u2019s the way she is now. She just doesn\u2019t know how to live otherwise.<\/p>\n<p>She\u2019s an amazing person\u2014or at least she was before she fell into the claws of a narcissist\u2014but she can get better.<\/p>\n<p>Ci vuole molto lavoro, ma alla fine potrebbe diventare un'umana normale.<\/p>\n<p>She needs someone who\u2019ll show her that there are good people in this world. She deserves someone who won\u2019t just talk, but who\u2019ll be there for her, who\u2019ll make promises and actually keep them.<\/p>\n<p>She needs someone who\u2019ll put her first after she\u2019s been on the bottom for such a long time.<\/p>\n<p>She needs someone to prove to her that she matters and someone who\u2019ll be her shoulder to cry on.<\/p>\n<p>Ha bisogno di qualcuno <a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/terry-gaspard\/2017\/09\/8-steps-you-can-take-to-heal-your-relationship-with-your-father\/\" rel=\"noopener\">per aiutarla a guarire<\/a> e per dimostrarle che nella sua vita c'\u00e8 di pi\u00f9 di quello che ha passato con il suo narcisista.<\/p>\n<p>Ha bisogno di un bravo ragazzo per potersi finalmente liberare dalle conseguenze di un'esperienza di vita. <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/come-la-frequentazione-di-un-narcisista-vi-cambia\/\">uscire con un narcisista<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Quindi, se ci tieni, tieni abbastanza da essere il prossimo bravo ragazzo per lei. Lei merita di ricevere l'amore che ha dato alla persona sbagliata. Merita di essere importante.<\/p>\n<p>There is still an amazing girl in her. There is still a girl who\u2019s ready to conquer the world and that\u2019s destined to live life to the fullest\u2014only this girl is hiding at the moment because she was broken and now she\u2019s scared.<\/p>\n<p>Dimostratele che non ha nulla da temere e che tutti i vostri sforzi avranno un senso dopo la sua guarigione.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79599\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/The-Aftermath-Of-Dating-A-Narcissist-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Le conseguenze della frequentazione con un narcisista\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/The-Aftermath-Of-Dating-A-Narcissist-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/The-Aftermath-Of-Dating-A-Narcissist-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/The-Aftermath-Of-Dating-A-Narcissist-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What nobody tells you about narcissists is that they are really good at the art of disguise and a girl who dates a narcissist will never be aware that she\u2019s dating one until it\u2019s too late. Until she\u2019s left alone, broken and drained to pick up her own pieces. And it will take her a&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":101244,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-9788","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/Narcissistic-people-can-be-more-prone-to-success-study-shows-1024x693.jpg",1024,693,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/it\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":14,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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