The term emotional neglect is not something people talk about often, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pay attention to it.
Maybe you feel that things like that happen to everyone including you, but if you see some signs, you should react immediately because in most cases, emotional neglect can do a lot of harm.
Emotional neglect happens when your loved one doesn’t react to your emotional needs. It means zero action to understand you and help you to feel better.
And the worst part is that you really can’t see it clearly while it happens, and only become aware of it when it is too late.
Then, you need to do all in your power to get your old self back and to get back on track again.
If you have problems with emotional neglect, I suggest you check the following ways that can make you more relaxed and help you recover from it.
1. Be open to yourself about your emotions
How many times have you said to yourself that you are just fine and moved to do your daily tasks?
How many times have you neglected your emotions and your feelings? You simply didn’t want to admit to yourself that you are not feeling okay, but you didn’t know what the real reason for that was.
You were an emotionally neglected woman the whole time, but you didn’t pay attention to the signs. And now when you came here with all that emotional baggage of yours, you know that you need some help.
That’s why you need to be open about your feelings and your emotions, and to admit to yourself that sometimes you won’t feel okay.
It is about time to get to know your emotions better and to accept them just the way they are. Only in that way, you will be able to move forward.
2. Find your way
You are feeling emotionally neglected because of the past and things that happened in past.
That’s why you need to sit down and have a talk with yourself. You should ask yourselves what your aspirations are and where you want to go in your life.
You need to find out what it is that makes you happy, and stick to that. Try to think more about yourself than about others. It is time to put yourself first, and do things that you always wanted to do.
Don’t think that by choosing yourself you are being selfish. That is not right. You are just doing something that you should have done a long time ago. But is better late than never.
3. Get to know yourself better
Sometimes, emotional neglect comes out of not knowing ourselves well enough. We think that we don’t need something, but in fact, we crave it.
So, there are many women who try to convince themselves that they don’t need their partner’s attention, his hugs and kisses. They try not to think about that. Meanwhile, their consciousness works hard at trying to reach out to them, to let them know that they are lying to themselves the whole time.
And those women become emotionally unavailable because they shut down all their emotions. They made huge walls to protect themselves and to keep a distance from everyone else.
They do that because they don’t know themselves well enough and because they don’t actually know what they want from their lives.
4. Ask for help
If you are emotionally neglected and you don’t feel comfortable with seeking professional help, you can just talk to a good friend.
If you say to them all that has been lying on your heart for so long, you will instantly feel better. You will feel like the heaviest burden came off of your chest, and you will know that no matter how hard the situation might be, you are not alone.
It is very important to ask for some help because there are things that we can’t handle alone. It is much easier when you hear an opinion of a person who is very important to you. When you just listen to someone who loves you trying to find answers to your questions, you will feel better.
You will feel like you did something good for yourself and like you can be happy again.
5. Tell your partner about your feelings
If you were emotionally neglected by your partner, you need to tell him about that. You need to tell him that love shouldn’t feel that way and that he should pay attention more to you.
If he loves you, he will put some effort to never hurting you again, and if he says that he doesn’t want to do anything about that, you will at least know what to do next.
You see, sometimes emotional neglect happens not because we want to but because of life and all the circumstances.
Sometimes our loved ones can do harm to us even if they are not aware of doing it, but if they feel bad about it and if they are willing to fix the problem, you should give them another chance.
That is one more reason to be open about how you feel in front of your partner. Maybe he had some problems and maybe that’s why he was unavailable to you. The most important thing is to listen before you judge.
Sometimes things are not as they look, and we all deserve a second chance.