When you think of the reasons you’ve never reached your full potential, you might blame other people or life circumstances for making this happen.
But have you ever thought that you are the one who carries the most responsibility for not living your life the way you’ve always wanted? Have you ever thought you were the one sabotaging yourself and keeping yourself from being happy?
1. Not believing in yourself
The first way you are sabotaging yourself and ruining your life is not believing in yourself enough.
You’ve always been the person who asked for the approval of others, but you actually never had your own approval. You’ve never been optimistic about your achievements and you’ve never set clear goals for yourself.
Even when you decided to do something, you thought you couldn’t make it before even starting out.
I know this is easier said than done, but you need to understand that this is the first step in improving yourself. I know you have probably lacked confidence since you can remember, but this doesn’t have to be permanent. This is something that can and needs to be worked on.
2. Staying around toxic people
Another way you are making your life worse than it should be is hanging around toxic people.
I know you can never completely avoid this type of person because sadly, we are surrounded with bad people who want to do us harm. And that is something you are very well aware of.
But it is one thing if you move away from these people as soon as you see what they are capable of and it is something completely different if you keep giving them a space in your life—even after you discover their toxicity.
Sometimes the closest people to us are the ones who damage us the most. But that doesn’t mean you are entitled to stay around someone who is holding you back and who is doing you harm—no matter how close you are to this person.
3. Not taking care of your health
Taking care of your health is one of the top ways to improve the quality of your lifestyle. You may not be aware of this fact but your mental and physical health are connected in a great way.
This means you drink too much or eat whatever comes into your hands without thinking of the consequences.
You think none of this will have any permanent impact on your health but trust me, you can’t be more wrong.
It is more than obvious that you are treating your body like a garbage can and that’s how you are starting to feel as well. Trust me—when you start treating your body like a temple, you’ll automatically feel better about yourself.
4. Not accepting yourself
Not accepting your own true personality is one of the ways to make your life a living hell and can be a root to your many problems.
There is nothing unnatural about being jealous from time to time, but you have a problem if you’ve completely lost focus on yourself and if you’ve started dedicating all of your energy and time to thinking about other people. You focus on their successes, on what others will say and all the ways in which they are better than you.
One of the ways in which you sabotage your life is trying to fit into society standards and stereotypes. You keep comparing yourself to others and focusing on your own imperfections, while thinking that everyone else is flawless.
5. Being afraid to step out of your comfort zone
Sometimes, people accept some life circumstances and get used to them, even when they know these things are bad for them. They do it just because they are familiar with things being the way they are and because they are afraid.
If you are one of those people who are afraid to step out of their comfort zones, it is one of the ways to sabotage yourself, without even being aware of it.
You are obviously terrified of making any significant changes in your life because you think you’ll fail and you assume it’s better to go with the flow and leave everything the way it is.
Well, I am not here to lie to you. Yes, failure is a possibility. But there is also a very great possibility of succeeding and trust me—it’s always worth the shot.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.