No Matter What Everyone Keeps Telling You, You Are Allowed To Be Heartbroken
You went through a heartbreak. Actually, you are still going through it.
You literally feel like your heart and soul have been shattered into pieces and you don’t know how to glue them back together.
You feel like everything inside of you is breaking apart and you don’t know how to stop it.
There are times when you are struggling for air and when you feel like you will die of all the pain you are feeling.
And yes—you are also in physical pain. You’ve lost one of the most important people in your life and it is natural for you to feel like you are missing a part of yourself.
You feel betrayed and disappointed. You’ve become slightly bitter and you promised yourself never to love again.
And whenever you complain to people around you or whenever they notice that you are suffering, everyone keeps telling you the same thing.
They are telling you this guy isn’t worthy of your tears or time and that he isn’t worthy of you.
They are telling you that you are much better off without him and that he doesn’t deserve you even thinking of him, let along suffering for him.
They keep telling you that you are a fool for allowing this man to still have any impact on you and for allowing him to have a place in your head and heart.
Besides, they keep setting you up on dates and they wonder when you plan on putting yourself back out there. They think that they will help you overcome your heartbreak by helping you find someone new, even though that is the last thing on your mind right now.
Yes, you know that these are the people who are only trying to cheer you up and who want to help you get over this asshole who has done you harm.
These are the people who love you and all they want to do is help you heal your broken heart.
But sometimes you wonder if they are doing it the right way.
Because let’s face it—you know all of this.
You know this guy better than any of these people and you are very much aware of his flaws.
You know he doesn’t deserve you and you know you shouldn’t spend another second on this guy.
But that doesn’t help you with your heart. It doesn’t reduce your suffering and it doesn’t make this experience any easier.
That is why I am here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with being heartbroken.
In fact, that is a natural reaction to the person you love betraying you or hurting you.
Of course, I am in no way telling you that you should hold on to this guy and to the pain he has caused you. No, there is no doubt about the fact that you should do your best to let him go and to move on with your life.
But you can’t do it until you are ready.
And until then, there is nothing wrong with crying. There is nothing wrong with talking about this guy all the time. There is nothing wrong with hating him for everything he did to you. There is nothing wrong in not being ready to see other guys until you get rid of your emotional baggage.
This is all part of the healing process and you shouldn’t allow anyone else to tell you different.
And do, none of this makes you weak.
Instead, it actually shows how strong you are. It shows that you are not a coward and that you have enough courage to confront your pain and to admit your feelings to yourself and others. Besides, it shows that you are powerful enough not to run from your emotions and that you choose to process them instead.
So don’t let anyone tell you that you are taking too long to heal your broken heart or that you should have already moved on with your life because nobody knows how you feel and nobody is walking in your shoes.
Just remember that we all have a different pace and rhythm and take your time.
Because when you finally heal, and you will, it will be the real deal. You will really handle all the pain you’ve felt and you will be able to move on without burying any feelings in yourself and without carrying any emotional baggage.
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.