You’ve probably spent most of December thinking about the things you should change in your life and thinking about all the differences the start of the new year will make. You know—all that new year, new me philosophy.
Maybe you’ve decided that this is the year in which you’ll finally have the courage to step out of your comfort zone—the year in which you’ll cut off all those fake friends, the year in which you’ll break all ties with your douchebag ex or with that guy you’ve been seeing on and off for ages but whom you know you have no future with. Or the year in which you’ll finally put yourself first, the year in which you’ll graduate or start pursuing your dream career. Either way, 2019 is the year in which you’ll finally get your shit together and make something out of your life.
And that is great. Making some crucial changes for the better is one of the best decisions you can make for yourself.
But have you ever asked yourself this: Why do you need a special date to do it? Why do you need January 1st to make these differences?
Let’s be honest—how many times have you made a list of New Year’s resolutions? How many times have you decided that this was the year in which you’d start working out, or the year in which you’d go on that vacation you’ve been dreaming about for so long?
And how many times have you stuck to your resolutions? How many times have you fulfilled all those promises you made to yourself?
If you’ve mostly followed your resolutions, then keep up the good work. It is obvious that a new calendar year means a fresh start for you and that it gives you the necessary motivation to do things right.
But if you belong to this other group, together with all of us who rarely commit to our New Year’s resolutions, then maybe it’s time to give up making them in the first place. Because what is the point of putting so much pressure on yourself just so you end up disappointed later on, once you realize that you haven’t achieved almost any of the things you set your mind to?
Don’t get me wrong—this is in no way me telling you that you should leave your life the way it is, if you aren’t satisfied with it, or that you shouldn’t chase your dreams. This is not me advising you not to do everything in your power to become the best possible version of yourself or me telling you that you don’t have what it takes to make some changes.
No, this is just me telling you that you don’t need to wait for the New Year to do any of this. Me telling you that every minute of every day of your life can be an opportunity to turn a new page.
You don’t have to wait for Monday or a new month to do whatever you want and need to do. Because today, tomorrow or any day of your choice can and will be a fresh start, if you decide so.
That is why I am challenging you to start with these changes today, this moment. Set yourself up with a step by step plan which will help you become the person you want to be and which will help you achieve whatever you want to achieve.
I am challenging you to not compare this year with any of your last ones. To stop living in the past and to start enjoying the moment and everything that it brings you.
To start seeing every day as a chance to improve yourself and to push yourself forward. To stop beating yourself up for not accomplishing one thing from your resolutions’ list and not to allow that one thing to make you give up on all of your goals.
And most importantly—I am challenging you to stay the same you in this new year. Because let’s face it—you are awesome and you don’t need to change the essence of who you are in order to succeed.
I am challenging you to become a stronger, more powerful and more fierce version of you. To be braver than ever to take matters into your own hands and to go for whatever you want.
This year, I am challenging you not to make any New Year’s resolutions. Just follow your heart and your gut and do what is best for you. Trust me—you are up for an amazing journey.
A teacher. A dreamer. A writer. A woman who’s been through all of the things you are going through. A woman who’s learned on her mistakes and whose advice you can trust. A woman who is trying to find her place under the stars. A woman just like you.