Ever since you can remember, you’ve been hearing stories that men are generally afraid of strong and independent women. You’ve been taught that you should be less of a woman and less of the person you are so that you wouldn’t chase men away from you. You’ve been told that men like to be in charge and that you should let them take all the initiative for both of you to be happy. You’ve been told that you shouldn’t allow yourself to be the one wearing the pants in any relationship, especially in your romantic relationship because that wouldn’t bring you anything good.
People around you have been implying that a woman’s worth is defined by her love or marital status. You’ve been told that the only way to reach your full potential is to become some man’s love partner and wife. You’ve been told that you need to support your man, no matter what, and that you always have to have his back in all of life’s circumstances.
And there is nothing wrong with the notion that you should give your partner your unconditional love and support. But nobody has told you that he has to do the same for your relationship to be successful. And nobody has told you that you don’t need a man to complete you.
Although theoretically, everyone will tell you that you and your boyfriend or husband need to be equal, things are very different in practice. The only truth is that the two of you need to be real partners in every sense of that word and that you should go through life hand in hand and shoulder to shoulder. The only truth is that the two of you are completely equal and that no man is and should never be above you.
And that is the only type of man you need in your life. You don’t need someone who will be scared of your strength and power. You don’t need someone who will feel less of a man just because you are successful and just because you want more in life than just to be his girlfriend or wife. You don’t need someone who will compete with you and who will feel emasculated by all the things you’ve accomplished and done yourself. You don’t need someone who will be intimidated by your greatness.
Instead, you need a man who will be proud to have a woman like you. You need someone who will look forward to everything you accomplish, someone who will be happy for the things you’ve achieved and someone who will look at your successes as if they are his own. Someone who will always believe in you and who will push you forward while trying to help you reach your goals, even if they have nothing to do with him. Someone who will look at you as his partner and not as a woman who is beneath him in any way. Someone who will respect you completely—as his love partner, as a woman, as an individual and as a person.
So, don’t ever think that you are too strong for some man to handle. Don’t ever think that you should be less amazing or less great to boost some man’s ego and confidence. Don’t ever think that you are intimidating to him and that it is your fault because he feels less of a man around you.
Because none of it is or will ever be true. You are not intimidating—he is the one who is intimidated. And if he feels like you are reducing his worth and his value, it is exclusively his problem. If this is the case, it is obvious that this man is insecure and his insecurities have nothing to do with you. If this is the case, it is obvious that this man finds you challenging and it is the only reason he can’t stand having you by his side. If this is the case, it is obvious that this man feels like he can’t handle you or your strength.
And the point is that all of your traits don’t make you too strong, because there is no such thing as being too strong. The way he feels only makes him too weak.