Have you ever met someone and felt instantly drawn to them, like sparks were traveling from your body to theirs, making both of you tremble? You felt like you were having some out-of-body experience, something just clicked and all of a sudden, you found yourself in a world made for two.
Somehow your intuition whispered to you that the other person felt the same way. Well, that’s what happens when there’s chemistry between two people.
The thing about relationship chemistry is that it cannot be forced. It’s a natural, undeniable connection, according to most chemistry (between two people) definitions.
This is the kind of connection everybody longs for but few really find. Mutual chemistry is one of the best ways in which you can start a relationship but it’s not bulletproof and it can be misleading.
So while chemistry is important, what’s even more important is creating something from it. People who share it must figure out if there is something more to that chemistry besides attraction.
Do they connect on every other level? Do they have what is needed to enter into a relationship?
Are they potential soulmates? Are there any signs of emotional attraction?
According to relationship experts, there exist more types of chemistry: intellectual chemistry, chemistry of love and sexual chemistry but all of them together form a true relationship chemistry, which is one of the most intense things you’ll ever feel.
All in all, the best way to look at the chemistry between two people is by considering it as an enormous potential for a great relationship.
It’s the first step toward something that could be amazing if the people who share it are compatible, if they have really connected with one another when it comes to all these types of chemistry and if they are willing to work toward a relationship from the chemistry by putting in mutual effort.
If you are experiencing this kind of magnetism with somebody and you believe that there is something more to it, there will be some obvious signs of chemistry between you two that you just cannot miss:
1. Captivation and infatuation
You feel drawn to each other without any apparent reason. You may have only exchanged a few words and you barely know each other but there is that familiar feeling present all the time.
It feels like you already know each other more intimately. You just feel like you are in their thoughts as much as they are in yours and you can’t explain why that is so.
It’s some kind of vibe in the air between you two and even though it cannot be seen, it is very much felt. That vibe is what makes you gravitate toward each other.
2. The eyes never lie
You just can’t keep your eyes off of each other. You check each other out from top to bottom and sometimes even share prolonged eye contact, though locking eyes is not always easy.
There is that sense of shyness that comes over you and when you realize that they have caught you staring, you look away and pretend like nothing happened. The best part is that it happens the other way around too.
Even though it might seem childish, it doesn’t make it any less true. That childishness and innocent eye contact give this strong chemistry you are experiencing some kind of special flavor.
3. Your smile is your telltale sign
There is no better proof of real chemistry that can say more than a simple smile. Every time the object of your affection crosses your path, you can’t help but smile.
The thing is you smile with your heart and your soul and not just your face, so the endearment you feel toward each other is undeniable. It’s funny how somebody who is practically a stranger can make your entire day brighter and that’s what true chemistry is all about.
4. You speak the same language
I am really tempted to say the language of love here but it sounds so corny, even though it’s true to a certain extent.
However, it’s not just about the possibility of love here. It’s like you found a part of you in somebody else.
Like you found your new best friend and something more at the same time. Someone you can confide in, someone you have common interests with, someone you can develop mutual trust with from the beginning and the person every matchmaker would tell you is the right one for you.
Whatever the topic you’re talking about, you get each other without any need for lengthy explanations. You can finish off each other’s thoughts and all of your communication is effortless, which makes it apparent that you share incredibly strong intellectual chemistry.
You two have similar viewpoints on everything in life, including romantic relationships.
You are the only two in a crowded room who laugh at the same joke because you have the same sense of humor. You are both fluent in sarcasm and whenever you are together, it is like time flies.
5. There are pleasant sounds of silence
Every relationship expert and matchmaker will tell you that the biggest sign that you’ve found your soulmate is the fact that you are comfortable spending time in silence next to them. This is exactly what is going on with you and this person.
Even when you are in situations where there is no need to speak, you feel relaxed and what bigger proof do you need that this is true love?
There is no need to force conversation if you don’t feel like talking. You might be tired or drained from a hectic day or you might be experiencing some difficulties.
Whatever it is, the silence between you is never awkward and your chemistry of love can be felt in the air. Even when you don’t say anything, you feel each other’s presence and that brings you both peace and joy.
6. The butterflies in your stomach have gone crazy
Every time you know you will meet, you feel nervous and that is an obvious sign of your infatuation with this person. Nevertheless, this is a good nervous feeling because you feel so excited that you know you will see the person you really, truly like.
Every time you’re about to encounter this person, you feel like you’re getting ready for your first date. No matter how long the two of you have been seeing each other, these butterflies have the same intensity as at the beginning.
It’s that anticipation that’s making those butterflies in your stomach seem more like elephants. Once you finally meet, both of your hearts start pounding like crazy that you can almost hear them.
However, what you can’t hide is that nervous feeling that’s making you a bit jumpy, a bit silly and not to mention clumsy every time you are close.
7. You are always focused on each other
When you are among a few friends or in a larger group of people, you always pay attention to what your other chemical half has to say, even in situations where all the other people choose to ignore them completely.
At times, you notice that they are listening even when they show no sign of it because they are the only one giving you some kind of feedback. Not to mention that your sole focus is on them so there is no doubt that this strong chemistry is mutual.
8. Body language speaks volumes
It’s not just locking eyes and exchanging looks; if you look close enough, you will see that their pupils get dilated. According to scientists, this happens when we are in close proximity to the person we like and we are extremely excited to see them.
There are a lot of body language signs that can tell in-depth stories about chemistry, such as taking deep breaths, having rosy cheeks, mimicking each other’s moves, licking your lips, leaning toward you, slightly touching your arm and so on.
The bottom line is that body language can’t conceal true chemistry, it only amplifies it.
9. Anticipation of your next encounter
You can’t wait to meet again. You count the days, hours and minutes until you are able to share the same air because it’s not important what you do or where you go—it’s about being around them that makes you happy.
You both make moves to arrange some group get-together just so the other person would show up. You are always the last ones to leave those get-togethers because you get caught up talking about anything and everything.
Whenever you’re with this person, you lose track of time and you catch yourself never wanting to leave each other’s sight.
10. Sweetly annoying each other
You pick on each other for no reason. You are just doing so to provoke a reaction or to test the territory and see where the other one stands in certain situations.
You never have the intention to offend or to make the other one feel bad. This is more like a game of words you use to keep things interesting, directing the conversation in some funny, bickering way.
Even if you don’t see that something is going on between the two of you, others surely notice it. Your friends probably already picked up on that and they labeled you as an old married couple.
11. Subtly flirtatious
You don’t want anybody around you to notice that there is something more than meets the eye happening between the two of you, so, for most of the time, you flirt completely subtly.
Innocent kisses on the cheek feel so intense to both of you, hugs last way longer than they should and you always squeeze each other tight, possibly moving your hand up and down each other’s back.
Each physical contact is polite and friendly but at the same time so tense that it is beyond words. You have your own kind of language so you use it to flirt too, without making it too obvious.
You even might be exchanging some flirty texts, making sure never to cross the line. These texts serve as proof that the chemistry between you is so strong that you still feel close and connected even when they are not around.
12. Time is a relative thing
Every time you two are next to each other, you lose track of time. You have so many common interests and even more mutual trust that you can talk about literally everything, so spending time with this person always feels like five minutes.
Time passes by so quickly without you even noticing it. And you know what they say—time flies when you are having fun.
However, the truth is that time flies when you are with the right person. When you are with the right person, there are numerous topics to talk about and you couldn’t get bored of each other if you wanted to.
Even if you were sitting in complete silence, you would still enjoy each other’s company.
The thing is, you two connected in a way you never thought possible. You have never experienced this with anyone else, that’s why there is never enough time and everything ends too soon.
13. It’s all about the little things
You notice that new shirt they are wearing and you compliment them on it. You notice that they just had a new haircut that’s making them look hot.
They remember you said you loved coconut chocolate so they will surprise you with that same chocolate next time. You remember how they take their coffee.
They can remember a story you told them a month ago and can even retell it if necessary.
The signs of chemistry are most noticeable if you pay attention to those little (though nevertheless big) things. The details everybody else misses but you keep track of because the other person is important and you are both more than interested in each other.
14. Mystery and anticipation
Mystery and chemistry go hand in hand with real chemistry. You don’t necessarily have to know well the person you are feeling drawn to or even have any physical contact with them before you go crazy for each other.
The mystery and the way you flirt is what gets you hooked. You want to know more and more about the other person.
In a way, chemistry can be seen as a puzzle you are both eager to solve. You have some facts and knowledge about each other but most of it is assumed.
Getting to know each other better and solving the mystery will also show you if this chemistry between two people is really sustainable and if there are any grounds on which you can start forming a relationship.
It’s never a good idea to reveal too much too soon, so take your time solving the puzzle. Get to know each other one step at a time. A bit of mystery is good for both of you.
15. The inevitable sexual attraction between you
The sexual chemistry you share makes every situation you are in incredibly tense. You feel attracted to each other in every sense, so sexually isn’t excluded.
Through all the signs mentioned above, your lust for each other is intertwined somehow. Your jokes are filled with sexual implications.
Your bodies are filled with sexual attraction that is just waiting to be relieved. Physical attraction and sexual tension surely aren’t the most important signs of chemistry but are equally important as the rest.
The best type of chemistry is the one that includes all the components of body, soul, and mind and with these, you will find that you are one step closer to finding someone to spend your forever with.
In addition to these 15 signs of chemistry between two people, there is also a scientific explanation of why chemistry occurs. In short, certain parts of the brain get activated and we release hormones like oxytocin, adrenaline, dopamine, etc.
While that’s all true, I prefer to look at chemistry as something more spiritual, something that shifts inside of you and says ‘I like that person and I want to spend as much time as I can with them’. Something so simple but also beautiful and unique that doesn’t come by in life so often.
Some people experience chemistry a few times in their life. They have outgoing personalities and somehow it’s easier for them to communicate, open up and find something familiar with another person and bond with them.
Of course, when they finally find the person they are supposed to spend their forever with, they will just know, there will be no second-guessing, no doubts and the chemistry they share will be stronger than any they have ever felt before.
Then there are people who have never felt it. However, that’s no reason to think they never will.
They might be shy, too busy for dating or burned from a past relationship, so their trust issues prevent them from forming new connections. Nevertheless, when the right person comes along, there is no escaping it.
One more important thing to address here is something I would label as toxic chemistry. As opposed to romantic chemistry, toxic chemistry happens when you go against your better judgment.
It happens when you know from the start that no matter how much you are drawn to someone, that they will be bad news.
When we decide to ignore our intuition and all the red flag signs appearing in front of our face, that’s where chemistry backfires on us.
So when it comes to any kind of chemistry, the best thing we can do is rely on our intuition, follow our heart and in any case take our brain with us so we can avoid danger if it crosses our path.