There are times when you are more than happy with your single life and the way you are rocking it. Times when you enjoy the little things, like having an entire bed to yourself or not having to pick up your phone when you don’t feel like it.
There are times when you can’t imagine yourself compromising with anyone and when you wouldn’t change a thing about your life, just the way it is, even if you had the chance to.
There are times when you feel complete and when you are aware of the fact that you don’t need a man. Times when you couldn’t be happier because you don’t have to go through all of that relationship drama. Because you don’t have to read through someone’s mixed signals or compete for his efforts and undivided attention.
Times when you enjoy the fact that you don’t have to worry about getting your heart broken and the fact that you have the liberty of living your life the way you want, without having to adjust to a partner.
But then, even though you refuse to admit it, there are also times when loneliness takes over. Times when you would do anything to have a man by your side just to cuddle with or to have someone to wait for you to come home after a long and busy day.
There are moments in which you crave for someone to hear you out and to give you his hand on this journey called life. Yes, you have your friends and family but you want someone who will always put you first and who will be your teammate.
Even though your single life is, without a doubt, amazing, there are also times when you feel this emptiness inside of you. Times when you feel like you are not enough on your own and when you wish for a life companion.
And when these moments come, all of a sudden, nothing makes sense anymore. You keep seeing all of these couples and you even start to envy them.
How come they’ve managed to find their other half and you haven’t? What is wrong with you? Are you to blame?
All of a sudden, you become consumed with worry that you’ll never find your match made in heaven and that you are destined to die alone. You start questioning your own worth and wonder if your standards are too high and if you are too picky when it comes to men.
And most of all, you start asking yourself if you are so hard to love. Are you completely unlovable?
Even though these doubts are nothing unnatural, I need to stop you right there. Because you are more than enough and because you are anything but unlovable. And even though you might not see it now, you don’t need a man to give your existence meaning.
I need to ask you to stop with these thoughts this instant and to help you remember that you are a strong woman as soon as you have the courage to walk through life alone. And that is anything but easy.
You have high standards and strong deal-breakers and those are great things. It just means that you know what you want and that you are not ready to settle for less.
The worst thing you could do to yourself is to be with someone just out of fear of ending up alone. It would mean that you are breaking all of your principles just because you think a romantic relationship is a cure for this loneliness you sometimes feel.
So please, keep your head up at all times and never forget about your value. Don’t give your entire self to a man who doesn’t deserve you and don’t focus your energy on finding a romantic partner.
Instead, love yourself just the way you are. Fall in love with each one of your imperfections and accept all of your flaws.
Focus on making yourself happy, because no one else will do it for you. Focus on becoming the best possible version of yourself and don’t think about men.
And that is exactly when the right guy will come along.
And when he enters your life, he’ll show you that there is a lot to love about you. He’ll fall like crazy for every inch of your body and for every single part of your heart and soul.
When this man comes, he’ll show you why you had to wait for him for so long. And he’ll show you that all of this waiting was worth it.
I am an English Language and Literature teacher. I am a writer. I am a daughter, a sister, a friend… But most of all, I am a woman, just like you.
A woman who has experienced the same things you’ve been going through. A woman who’s been fighting battles similar to yours. A woman who wants you to learn from her mistakes and who wants to help you empower yourself.