1. If you don’t work on yourself
Working on yourself is not only important to find love but for your self-growth as well. Only when you grow as a person will you change your outlook on life, and maybe you will be attracted to things you weren’t attracted to before.
Once you start doing new things and stepping out of your comfort zone, incredible things can happen. You just need to believe that you deserve the best, and constantly work on yourself and for yourself.
2. If you don’t put yourself first
I know that you shouldn’t be a cheapskate in love, but putting yourself first is not selfish at all. In fact, it is necessary. It is necessary because in that way, you will learn to value and respect yourself. And in that way, you will show others that they need to respect you if they want to be a part of your life.
It is a sign that you won’t settle for less and that you won’t put up with any shit served in front of you. It means you are a high-value woman and that you have no problem giving yourself all in if you get the love you crave.
3. If you are not open about your emotions
I know that it is very hard to be open about your emotions if you have been hurt before. But after you go through all the stages of grief, you will learn how to cope with some things. And once you recover, you will be able to believe again.
You will be able to love again and to be totally open about your feelings. That is necessary if you want the other side to know what you feel. It is essential if you want to experience real love and to find out how it feels when someone loves you deeply.
4. If you are not willing to try new things
It can be so hard to step out of your comfort zone, but you won’t solve the problem and find love if you keep on doing the same things. That’s why you should try new things and learn how to act in different situations. In that way, you will realize that some things were in front of your nose the whole time, but you didn’t pay attention to them.
And they were all you needed to be happy. So, in 2019, try new things. Don’t be afraid to open new doors because you don’t know what is behind them. Maybe all that you have been looking for is waiting for you on the other side. It is only up to you if you are brave enough to try it.
5. If you are not willing to compromise
Compromise is an essential part of every relationship. Maybe you didn’t try it before, but there will come a time when you will have to use it to function normally. It is a good way to get what you want fairly. And on the other hand, your partner will get what he wants as well.
And both of you will be satisfied. So, making compromises is not a bad thing. In fact, it can be the best thing that happened to you if you look at it in that way. I dare you to try it. Come on, there is nothing to lose!
6. If you don’t listen to the other side
Relationships are all about listening to the other side. You can’t know your partner’s aspirations if you don’t listen to him. And just like you are listening to him, he should also listen to you. In that way, both of you will know what the other wants and how you can provide it for him.
So always listen. Listen even when you are not supposed to listen. And never take the one you love for granted, especially if you are in a long-term relationship and if you think he will always be there.
7. If you don’t give yourself another chance
I know that many of you have been broken in past relationships. I bet many of you feel like you are the unlovable ones, right? But that is not true. We are all made to love and to be loved. We are all made for the beautiful things life can give us. That’s why you should never stop believing in love.
Never stop trying and never settle for less than you deserve. And always, no matter what happens, give yourself another chance. Just because it didn’t work out the last time doesn’t mean that the next time won’t be outstanding. So, give yourself another shot and love the only way you know – with all your heart.
8. If you don’t accept yourself for who you are
Maybe you won’t like the person you became in one phase of your life, but that doesn’t mean that you should totally give up on yourself. You are a work in progress, and it is completely normal to make mistakes sometimes.
So, never, but never give up on who you are and accept yourself the way you are. That is the only way you will find the peace within and the love toward yourself. And baby, that is what you need to actually feel fulfilled and happy.
9. If you don’t believe in love
I understand that you got your heart broken many times. I know that love didn’t find you and that after every relationship, you were the one collecting the pieces of your heart. I know that you tried to fix yourself so many times, and I also know how it hurts.
But you shouldn’t think love was guilty of that. No. You just ran into the wrong guy who didn’t love you enough. The question is if he loved you at all. But that is not important anymore because you should leave the past where it belongs. Move on forward, and never stop hoping you will find real love. And when you least expect it, it will knock on your door.
10. If you don’t know what you want from a relationship
Knowing what you want from a love relationship is essential if you want to be happy in love. That is something you need to solve with yourself only. Only then you will know which path to take. After you realize what kind of a man you need, you will be able to seek him.
But if you are confused, you might accept things that are not so good for you. So, organize yourself, think about the past relationships and what they taught you, and move on to your dream man.
11. If you don’t love yourself
Loving yourself is needed if you want to love someone else. You need to fall in love with all that you are and then move to someone else. Because no man can love a woman who doesn’t love and respect herself. Just think about all the things you have gone through, and you will see that you possess enormous strength.
When you look at yourself in the mirror, you will fall in love with the eyes of a woman who has been through hell and back but is still standing firmly on her feet. There is still a sparkle in her eyes. There is still a smile on her lips. And she is more than ever ready to love!
I started writing just as a hobby, but in the end, I decided that it is something that fulfills me. I find inspiration in life’s everyday problems and every article that I write tells something about my past. In this way, I want to tell women all around the world that even though we are miles away, our pain makes us close. My articles were written to comfort those who need it the most and to tell them that they are not alone. I am a full-time mom, and I like spending time with my son, good people, sunny days and beer.