I have been there myself. I was there and I watched myself make stupid decisions every single day because I thought that is what love should be like.
I always thought of myself as a very reasonable person. I would hear every side of a story and I would think about a solution that would help both parties.
But let me tell you that emotions are not something rational or something which we can talk about with reason and I found that out in a very painful way!
I was never in a relationship with someone I wasn’t truly into, but because of that, I have found myself in many situations where I felt like I was giving too much of myself away.
There was no one in my life who fell in love as hard as I did. Whenever I would talk about my love life, my friends would look at me confused because they could not believe how much love I could give to another person.
So one day, one of my friends told me that I was too forgiving and that my boyfriend was actually taking advantage of that.
I immediately shook it off, I didn’t want to hear anything about that. But it did make sense.
From that day on, I was really aware of every time he would apologize to me. For example, when I got ready for our date, full make-up, heels and an amazing dress—and he forgot.
It would not have been a big deal if it happened once. It can happen to anyone, right? If you have a lot of work to do and you are really stressed out, dates are the last thing you’re thinking about.
But after a series of times when I forgave him, I started to wonder what else I forgave him so easily.
Like all those times he promised he would spend the night with me and then he would spend it with his friends because they called ‘last minute’.
Or all those times when he would say something insulting, just to apologize moments afterward? Was I really that blind?
How much did a woman have to be in love for her to not realize that she was in love with a man who did nothing but break promises and make her feel bad?
So I stopped.
I stopped forgiving him and for a while I made him really deserve my forgiveness but he didn’t take the change very well.
He would tell me that I had a heart of stone and that I could never understand him. I was torn from the inside out but I held my head high, for I swore to myself that I wasn’t going to let him take advantage of my heart ever again.
That same love I felt for him wasn’t enough to make him stay.
And even though it feels weird, even though it feels like he is going to come back any moment, I am proud of the woman I am right now.
Ladies, do not forget who you are, like I did.
Do not forget that you shouldn’t be forgiving everything just because you are afraid to lose someone.
Forgive these people so that you can feel at peace but make them deserve your forgiveness.
If a man thinks that he can play around with you because you love him, because you are ready to do everything to make him happy, then he is not the right man for you.
If he truly loved you, he would have been a part of your story without taking advantage of you, without making you feel like you are making a mistake by being with him.
That is why you should always remember that no matter how much you love someone, you should love yourself more!
Love yourself with all your flaws, all your needs, wants and demands, because that is who you are and that is what makes you happy!
If a man wants to make your kind heart a wreck, walk away from him right away. Men like this are not deserving of your gentleness.
Don’t let this happen to you, because I for sure know that I won’t again!