{"id":10025,"date":"2017-12-11T12:09:13","date_gmt":"2017-12-11T12:09:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10025"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:46:50","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:46:50","slug":"o-estatuto-de-relacao-nao-define-a-felicidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-estatuto-de-relacao-nao-define-a-felicidade\/","title":{"rendered":"O seu estado de relacionamento n\u00e3o define a sua felicidade"},"content":{"rendered":"

Temos tend\u00eancia a procurar a felicidade nos s\u00edtios errados. Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 um dos s\u00edtios mais comuns. E quem nos pode culpar? O amor \u00e9 a melhor coisa que nos pode acontecer<\/a>. It\u2019s also one of the most powerful emotions we can experience. It can fly us over the moon and back. But it can break us and crush us so badly that we forget how to fly.<\/p>\n

Precisamos de ter felicidade interior, que nos far\u00e1 voar mesmo quando o amor nos quebra as asas.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00f3 temos de deixar de procurar a felicidade nos s\u00edtios errados. Temos de deixar de procurar a felicidade nas pessoas erradas. Temos que descobrir o que significa felicidade e de onde ela vem.<\/p>\n

Se algu\u00e9m nos perguntasse, a primeira coisa que dir\u00edamos \u00e9 que a felicidade vem de dentro de n\u00f3s. E embora essa seja a resposta correcta e a \u00fanica verdade, n\u00e3o conseguimos pratic\u00e1-la na realidade.<\/em><\/p>\n

Muitas vezes, colocamos a nossa felicidade nas m\u00e3os de outras pessoas, dos nossos parceiros, esperando que eles nos fa\u00e7am felizes. Continuamos a colocar o nosso trabalho nas m\u00e3os de outra pessoa.
\nAnd that\u2019s where it all goes wrong.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, colocamos muita press\u00e3o sobre a outra pessoa. Se ela sentir que o seu trabalho \u00e9 fazer-nos felizes, isso d\u00e1-lhe um sentido de responsabilidade que ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 preparado para assumir. Isso assusta-os e, normalmente, f\u00e1-los correr pela vida.<\/p>\n

Secondly, your happiness is your own responsibility. Your job is to make yourself happy. Everything comes from within. And how we feel and what we feel determines our relationships. We can\u2019t expect anybody to make us happy if we don\u2019t do it for ourselves.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Na maior parte das vezes, as pessoas entram numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o pensando que precisam da outra metade para ficarem completas. Ao faz\u00ea-lo, n\u00e3o compreendem que j\u00e1 est\u00e3o completas por si pr\u00f3prias ou que, pelo menos, deveriam estar.<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es n\u00e3o s\u00e3o s\u00f3 arco-\u00edris e borboletas; t\u00eam momentos dif\u00edceis, tornam-se confusas e complicadas. Tornam-se dif\u00edceis de gerir. E se n\u00e3o estiveres bem com quem \u00e9s, vais precisar de muito mais para ultrapassar tudo isso.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there are people who believe that the only way they feel happy is when they are with someone. So they stay in bad relationships. They suffer and they put up with all the toxicity and selfishness of their partners. They long for those brief moments of joy their significant other provides, thinking that is love, thinking that\u2019s the key to happiness, when it\u2019s far from it.<\/p>\n

\"O<\/p>\n

Felicidade significa fazer-se feliz. Concentre-se no amor-pr\u00f3prio e fique satisfeito com a sua vida. Ningu\u00e9m o pode fazer por si.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Felicidade significa escolher-se a si pr\u00f3prio e deixando para tr\u00e1s todas as pessoas erradas.<\/a> It means leaving all the toxicity, having a healthy relationship with yourself and putting yourself as a priority. It means respecting yourself enough to walk away from anything that doesn\u2019t help your growth.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean staying with the wrong people, catching glimpses of happiness. It doesn\u2019t mean having happiness as a distant memory and giving endless chances to somebody who puts you down, someone who only makes himself a priority, while you are always the one who comes last. Don\u2019t be scared of loneliness, be scared of spending your life on somebody worthless.<\/p>\n

Make yourself happy when you are all by yourself surrounded by silence and with nothing but your thoughts as company. Your thoughts create your world. Create that place inside of yourself where you feel worthy of everything, where you have nothing but love and respect for yourself. Where you are your own hero and you don\u2019t need anybody else to save you.<\/p>\n

Your relationship should add to your bliss, not take away from it. Don\u2019t you ever think otherwise. Don\u2019t confuse sacrifice and compromise. Relationships demand compromise, empathy and having someone\u2019s best interests in your hand. Sacrifice has no place in love. You should never sacrifice your hopes, dreams, and dignity for someone. That\u2019s no way to happiness, self-love or love toward another person.<\/p>\n

Quando estamos felizes com quem somos, enfrentamos a dor com mais facilidade. Aceita-a como uma parte inevit\u00e1vel da vida. Tem uma mentalidade positiva e sabe que \u00e9 apenas um per\u00edodo de tempo e que, por mais longo que seja, tem de passar. Sabe que \u00e9 mais forte do que isso, sabe que se vai curar, como fez tantas vezes antes. E sair\u00e1 de tudo isto como um vencedor, orgulhoso de si pr\u00f3prio por ter conseguido ultrapassar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

A felicidade vem sempre depois de uma tristeza imensa, tal como o sol \u00e9 mais brilhante depois da pior tempestade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Never think there is a person in this world who is constantly happy. That\u2019s impossible because life isn\u2019t like that. Don\u2019t believe all the fake happiness people post about on social media. Instagram photos don\u2019t show the reality, they just show a moment in time when somebody was happy (or pretended to be).<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all fictional and everybody shows what they want to be seen. All of those happy couples popping up in your Facebook news feed were maybe happy at that moment. They will never post pictures of when they fought or when things got bad. Nobody wants to look at somebody\u2019s messy reality and people sometimes don\u2019t even want to face their own.<\/p>\n

All this social media talk here is just to show that you never know the background of every post or picture, so don\u2019t believe everything you see. Not comparing yourself is also one of the right paths that lead to happiness.<\/p>\n

A vida s\u00f3 passa uma vez, por isso devemos tentar torn\u00e1-la o mais maravilhosa poss\u00edvel enquanto dura. Para o fazer, a felicidade \u00e9 uma escolha. Temos de acordar todos os dias e ter como objetivo principal sermos felizes a partir de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. S\u00f3 quando somos felizes por n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios \u00e9 que podemos ser felizes com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

So, don’t think that your relationship status defines your happiness. You are the one who decides it. Your happiness is not something that will come to you\u2014it\u2019s something you have to find and work on. It\u2019s something that starts with you and only you.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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