{"id":100443,"date":"2020-09-24T11:46:22","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T11:46:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=100443"},"modified":"2021-08-12T06:34:25","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T06:34:25","slug":"coisas-em-que-nunca-mais-vou-acreditar-sobre-o-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/coisas-em-que-nunca-mais-vou-acreditar-sobre-o-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"4 coisas em que nunca mais vou acreditar sobre o amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Antes de experimentar a minha primeiro desgosto<\/a>No in\u00edcio do s\u00e9culo XX, eu tinha percep\u00e7\u00f5es completamente diferentes do amor e das rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas. Alguns diriam que eu idealizava ambos, enquanto outros poderiam at\u00e9 chamar-me est\u00fapido ou tolo.<\/p>\n

Bem, tudo isso mudou com o tempo. A realidade bateu-me com for\u00e7a na cara e ajudou-me a ver algumas verdades que me abriram os olhos.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t misunderstand me; I still have an enormously strong faith in love. However, there are some things I\u2019ll never believe about it again.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 sempre suficiente<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando era mais novo, via o amor de forma diferente. Via-o como uma for\u00e7a omnipotente que podia derrotar tudo e todos, mas que nunca podia ser derrotada.<\/p>\n

You know, like in fairy tales, where the prince loves the princess and the evil stepmother or witch can\u2019t do them any harm, despite all of their attempts.<\/p>\n

Nobody asks them if they\u2019re compatible or whether they have similar world views. Nobody wonders whether they can handle each other\u2019s emotional baggage or whether their past traumas are in sync.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o, os protagonistas apenas se viram e isso foi mais do que suficiente para se apaixonarem um pelo outro \u00e0 primeira vista. Mas n\u00e3o foi s\u00f3 isso; foi o suficiente para viverem felizes para sempre.<\/p>\n

Bem, eu, tolo, imaginava a vida real de uma forma muito semelhante. Pensava que a \u00fanica coisa que importava era o amor que partilhava com o meu parceiro.<\/b><\/p>\n

Desde que nos am\u00e1ssemos, poder\u00edamos ultrapassar todos os obst\u00e1culos. Dev\u00edamos ter tido uma compreens\u00e3o infinita e a capacidade de perdoar, fosse o que fosse.<\/b><\/p>\n

Until life showed me otherwise. Taught by experience, now, I see things differently. Now I know that real love isn\u2019t as powerful as I considered it to be.<\/p>\n

Agora sei que h\u00e1 coisas como o respeito, o esfor\u00e7o, o compromisso e a compatibilidade que t\u00eam de andar de m\u00e3os dadas com as emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Muda as pessoas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The next misconception I no longer believe in is that love changes people. Guess what? It doesn\u2019t, it never did and it never will.<\/p>\n

I thought to myself that if he loved me that much, it would be no trouble for him to get rid of some of his negative personality traits. He\u2019d work on his flaws once he saw that his behavior was harming me.<\/p>\n

I hate to be the one to burst your bubble but trust me, it\u2019s way better to learn from my mistakes.<\/p>\n

If you keep on waiting for a guy to miraculously turn into the man you need him to be, you\u2019ll just waste years of your life.<\/b><\/p>\n

The worst part is that you\u2019ll never get the desired final result. Remember one thing: your love and effort can\u2019t change a man<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, temos duas op\u00e7\u00f5es. Pode aceitar algu\u00e9m como ele realmente \u00e9 ou pode afastar-se a tempo.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong; I\u2019m not saying that you have to accept everyone\u2019s personality just because it\u2019s who they are. It\u2019s perfectly acceptable to have standards.<\/p>\n

However, if a man doesn\u2019t fulfill your deal-breakers, don\u2019t fall for his potential.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think about the person he can become. Instead, just leave before it\u2019s not too late to do so without any emotional consequences for either of you.<\/p>\n

Trust me, it\u2019s the only thing you should do.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s blind<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

O amor verdadeiro deve ser cego, certo? Quando nos apaixonamos por algu\u00e9m, colocamos imediatamente os \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa e vemos que ele n\u00e3o tem imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Well, this is false. Yes, this might be true at the beginning of your romance but at this stage, you can\u2019t call this sensation love; instead, it\u2019s more of an infatuation and affection.<\/p>\n

Later on, whether you like it or not, you\u2019ll start noticing your partner\u2019s imperfections. Of course, this doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019ve stopped loving him; it just means that you\u2019re not blind.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

If it\u2019s real, it will last forever<\/h2>\n
\"casal<\/figure>\n

Finalmente, costumava pensar que todos os amores verdadeiros t\u00eam um final feliz. Quem me dera!<\/p>\n

Pensava que o universo se certificava de que todos os casais que se amam verdadeiramente acabassem juntos.<\/p>\n

Years or even decades may pass but at the end of the day, they\u2019ll wake up next to each other, even if it\u2019s in a retirement home.<\/p>\n

Pelo menos, eu acreditava que nunca se deixa realmente de amar algu\u00e9m por quem se tinha sentimentos fortes. Se as nossas emo\u00e7\u00f5es por essa pessoa se desvanecerem, \u00e9 apenas um sinal de que nunca a am\u00e1mos de verdade.<\/p>\n

How romantic of me to think that way. It\u2019s even cheesy and pathetic. Yes, it would be nice if the first part of the story was true. However, life showed me that things don\u2019t actually work that way.<\/p>\n

First of all, many true loves don\u2019t have a happily ever after. <\/b>Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t make them any less real.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, \u00e9 poss\u00edvel <\/b>deixar de amar<\/b><\/a> algu\u00e9m que j\u00e1 amou.<\/b> Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that your love for them was something weak or insignificant.<\/p>\n

Call me a cynic but I prefer the word realist. Trust me; these are all harsh truths not many have the courage to accept. However, it\u2019s better to face them in time, before you run into any disappointments.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Before I experienced my first heartbreak, I had completely different perceptions of love and romantic relationships. Some would say I idealized both, while some might have even called me stupid or foolish. Well, all of that changed with time. Reality hit me hard in the face and it helped me see some eye-opening truths. Don\u2019t…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":100445,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-100443","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/09\/4-Things-Ill-Never-Believe-About-Love-Again.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100443","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=100443"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/100443\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/100445"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=100443"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=100443"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=100443"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}