{"id":101054,"date":"2020-09-24T12:13:09","date_gmt":"2020-09-24T12:13:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=101054"},"modified":"2021-11-03T14:07:23","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T14:07:23","slug":"a-arte-malefica-da-transferencia-de-culpas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-arte-malefica-da-transferencia-de-culpas\/","title":{"rendered":"Tudo o que precisa de saber sobre a arte mal\u00e9fica de transferir a culpa"},"content":{"rendered":"

Gaslighting, threats, self-deception, and blame shifting. These are the most popular tactics used by abusive people and today we’ll focus on the art of playing the blame game.<\/p>\r\n

O que \u00e9 a transfer\u00eancia de culpa?<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Trata-se de uma t\u00e1tica ou comportamento emocionalmente abusivo utilizado pelos agressores, em que estes atribuem os seus pr\u00f3prios sentimentos, pensamentos indesejados e motivos \u00e0 v\u00edtima (outra pessoa).<\/p>\r\n

Por outras palavras, \u00e9 uma t\u00e1tica abusiva em que o agressor culpa os outros pelas suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, problemas e pelo seu pr\u00f3prio estado de esp\u00edrito.<\/p>\r\n

\u00c9 um tipo de mecanismo de auto-defesa popular entre narcisistas e indiv\u00edduos controladores.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Em vez de aceitarem as consequ\u00eancias das suas pr\u00f3prias ac\u00e7\u00f5es e de lidarem com os seus sentimentos, optam por culpar os outros.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

O desejo de escapar \u00e0 responsabilidade pelos problemas transforma-os em culpados. Utilizam linguagem espec\u00edfica e t\u00e1cticas sujas para convencer a v\u00edtima de que a culpa \u00e9 sua.<\/p>\r\n

Such abusive behavior is a direct attack on the victim’s well-being. Learning about red flags and types of blame shifting will help you recognize abusive behavior on time.<\/p>\r\n

Porque \u00e9 que os narcisistas e as pessoas controladoras t\u00eam tend\u00eancia para transferir a culpa?<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Esta \u00e9, provavelmente, a primeira pergunta que nos vem \u00e0 cabe\u00e7a quando pensamos em pessoas que transferem a culpa e nas suas t\u00e1cticas sujas. Porque \u00e9 que o fazem? Ser\u00e1 que pensam que n\u00e3o se vai dar por isso?<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Fazem-no por muitas raz\u00f5es e as mais comuns s\u00e3o as seguintes:<\/p>\r\n

Para evitar assumir a responsabilidade pelas suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/p>\r\n

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Est\u00e3o conscientes de todas as coisas ofensivas que disseram\/fizeram \u00e0 v\u00edtima e, ao culp\u00e1-la, est\u00e3o a evitar assumir toda a responsabilidade por isso.<\/p>\r\n

Utilizam frases como: You make me really mad. I would never have done it if you hadn’t…<\/strong> <\/em>Com palavras como estas, obrigam a v\u00edtima a acreditar que o que aconteceu \u00e9 culpa sua.<\/p>\r\n

E, na maioria dos casos, a v\u00edtima come\u00e7a a acreditar que isso \u00e9 verdade. A culpabiliza\u00e7\u00e3o da v\u00edtima tem este efeito nas pessoas.<\/p>\r\n

They start thinking that everything is their fault and that they need to change themselves but in reality, the only problem is the abuser’s behavior. <\/p>\r\n

That is why the victims often become more self-aware and worried about their next move. They start walking on eggshells, being anxious about repeating the same “mistake” and pissing off the abuser. <\/p>\r\n

Para manter\/estabelecer o dom\u00ednio<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Todos os abusadores sabem que a forma mais f\u00e1cil de manter ou estabelecer o dom\u00ednio sobre algu\u00e9m \u00e9 fazendo-o sentir-se menos digno e privando-o da sua auto-confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\r\n

Ao culparem os outros, est\u00e3o a enviar-lhes uma mensagem: Nunca ser\u00e1s suficientemente bom, por mais que te esforces.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Por isso, as v\u00edtimas convencem-se de que nunca ser\u00e3o suficientemente boas e come\u00e7am a pensar que merecem ser tratadas assim ou, melhor dizendo, maltratadas.<\/p>\r\n

E \u00e9 assim que um agressor consegue estabelecer e manter o dom\u00ednio sobre a outra pessoa. Estas rela\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas podem durar anos sem que a v\u00edtima saiba exatamente o que se passa.<\/p>\r\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Comportamento de controlo: Sinais, causas e como lidar com ele<\/p>\r\n

Para preservar o seu sentimento de superioridade<\/p>\r\n

\"homem<\/p>\r\n

Narcissists and controlling people NEED to be always right. If you’re in a relationship with such a person, no matter what you say to them, it will be turned against you.<\/p>\r\n

Fazem-no como m\u00e9todo de auto-preserva\u00e7\u00e3o e para proteger o seu sentido de superioridade<\/strong>. Fa\u00e7am o que fizerem ou disserem, os seus m\u00e9todos e pensamentos ser\u00e3o sempre melhores do que os vossos.<\/p>\r\n

Ser superior a algu\u00e9m torna mais f\u00e1cil manipul\u00e1-lo e \u00e9 exatamente assim que funciona a arte da transfer\u00eancia de culpas.<\/p>\r\n

Aquele que se sente culpado \u00e9 aquele que acaba por ser subordinado numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e em geral. <\/p>\r\n

Continuar a fazer coisas m\u00e1s sem sentir pena<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Outra raz\u00e3o pela qual os narcisistas e as pessoas controladoras t\u00eam tend\u00eancia para culpar a mudan\u00e7a \u00e9 porque precisam de um \u00e1libi para continuarem a fazer coisas m\u00e1s sem terem de se explicar ou de se arrepender.<\/p>\r\n

They even convince themselves that the victim is to blame so that they don’t feel guilty for accusing them. This helps them continue with the same mistreatment of the victim.<\/p>\r\n

\u00c9 claro que a v\u00edtima n\u00e3o tem conhecimento de nada disto e \u00e9 assim que, indiretamente, d\u00e1 luz verde ao agressor para continuar a maltrat\u00e1-la.<\/p>\r\n

Como funciona a transfer\u00eancia de culpas<\/h2>\r\n

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A transfer\u00eancia de culpas \u00e9 uma t\u00e1tica emocionalmente abusiva que funciona com base no princ\u00edpio de que o agressor conhece todas as suas fraquezas e utiliza-as contra si.<\/p>\r\n

Visam as suas inseguran\u00e7as, a sua tend\u00eancia para agradar aos outros e a sua mentalidade geral.<\/p>\r\n

They learn exactly where to hit you with words so that they can shift blame onto you and make you apologize even though you haven’t done anything wrong.<\/p>\r\n

Their goal is to CONVINCE you that you’re the one to blame.<\/p>\r\n

They know how to influence you into thinking that you need to start working on your behavior because if you don’t, they will continue doing bad things because of you.<\/p>\r\n

Their goal is to make you believe that you’re the main cause of their bad behavior toward you.<\/p>\r\n

Os agressores concentram-se apenas nas suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es para poderem desenvolver uma estrat\u00e9gia em que utilizam as suas inseguran\u00e7as para o culpar.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Most victims were emotionally neglected during childhood thus experiencing a lack of love, support, and protection. That is why they don’t see all those warning signs as such but as something that is normal.<\/p>\r\n

Quando se cresce num ambiente inst\u00e1vel, o sentido da realidade torna-se distorcido. Os seus n\u00edveis de confian\u00e7a e autoestima diminuem significativamente, o que o torna um alvo f\u00e1cil para os abusadores.<\/p>\r\n

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Por esse motivo, muitas v\u00edtimas passam anos numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva porque pensam que o problema est\u00e1 nelas e n\u00e3o no agressor.<\/p>\r\n

Muitas vezes, as v\u00edtimas convencem-se de que s\u00e3o elas que est\u00e3o a abusar e esfor\u00e7am-se por agradar ao verdadeiro abusador.
J\u00e1 tive uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um homem assim.<\/p>\r\n

When I first met him, I had no idea that he belonged to the crew of emotional abusers. I mean, I couldn’t know until something happened.<\/p>\r\n

Para ser exacta, aconteceram alguns pequenos incidentes e percebi que ele estava a tentar culpar-me apenas para defender a sua autoimagem. Apercebi-me de que eu era o bode expiat\u00f3rio da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\r\n

Dizia sempre coisas como: Admit that you did something wrong and If you didn’t do it, I wouldn’t have to say\/do this\/that.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Pensava por um momento nas suas palavras e come\u00e7ava imediatamente a culpar-me por todas as coisas que tinham acontecido. Dizia a mim pr\u00f3prio: I\u2019m not good enough. I need to work on myself. I need to become better.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

The reason why he succeeded in convincing me that I was the one to blame is because I’m an empath and I really care about other people’s feelings. And he knew that very well.<\/p>\r\n

A empatia era o meu elo mais fraco e as suas tend\u00eancias narcisistas ter-me-iam provavelmente destru\u00eddo se eu n\u00e3o tivesse aberto os olhos e percebido que, durante todo aquele tempo, ele era o culpado. Era ele que precisava de se trabalhar a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\r\n

5 t\u00e9cnicas mais comuns de transfer\u00eancia de culpa usadas pelos narcisistas<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\r\n

Minimizar os seus sentimentos<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

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This is probably one of the most popular narcissistic techniques. From my friends’ recent experiences, I can see that it is still trending. This abusive technique works like this:<\/p>\r\n

Let’s say that they hurt you one way or another and you tell them how you are feeling about it. Instead of accepting it and sympathizing, an abuser would laugh at you and belittle your feelings.<\/p>\r\n

Eles diriam algo como: You’re overly sensitive. You’re overreacting. You’re imagining things. You’re insane. You lack a sense of humor.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Ao dizerem tudo isto, est\u00e3o a culp\u00e1-lo pela sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o e n\u00e3o por algo que eles tenham feito.<\/p>\r\n

Deixam de ser o problema e o centro das aten\u00e7\u00f5es, em vez disso, fazem-nos sentir como se f\u00f4ssemos n\u00f3s o problema por reagirmos de forma exagerada ou por sermos demasiado sens\u00edveis.<\/p>\r\n

Agora, o foco est\u00e1 em si e n\u00e3o no seu mau comportamento, que \u00e9 exatamente o seu principal objetivo.<\/p>\r\n

Fazer-se de v\u00edtima<\/h2>\r\n

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Se lhes pedirmos para pararem de gozar connosco ou de nos tratar mal, come\u00e7am logo a fazer-se de v\u00edtimas. Fazem refer\u00eancia a acontecimentos passados, afirmando que o magoou na altura, fazendo-se a si pr\u00f3prios de v\u00edtimas.<\/p>\r\n

Esta t\u00e9cnica tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 utilizada para desviar o foco da v\u00edtima para a v\u00edtima. Ao acus\u00e1-lo de o ter magoado no passado, est\u00e1 a mudar de assunto e, indiretamente obrigando-o a pedir desculpa.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

They are so skillful at this blaming game that you don’t even realize what’s really happening. From being an abuser, they turn themselves into the biggest victim and they make you apologize and feel sorry for them.<\/p>\r\n

So, you end up apologizing, not knowing why or how, but you do because it feels like the right thing to do (especially if you’re an empath like myself).<\/p>\r\n

Veja tamb\u00e9m: 13 coisas estranhas que os narcisistas fazem para manipular suas v\u00edtimas<\/p>\r\n

Hist\u00f3rias de pena<\/h2>\r\n

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The truth is that many abusers grew up in an unstable environment where their emotional needs weren’t met and they were neglected. That’s their favorite tool for making you feel sorry for them.<\/p>\r\n

Se a pessoa a magoar e voc\u00ea perguntar como se sente em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a isso, ela diz algo sobre a sua inf\u00e2ncia traum\u00e1tica, um ex abusivo ou algo semelhante. Fazem-no apenas para justificar as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es e fazer com que simpatize com elas.<\/p>\r\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que faz? Como v\u00edtima, come\u00e7a a simpatizar com eles, a abra\u00e7\u00e1-los e a consol\u00e1-los, apesar de serem eles que deviam fazer isso em primeiro lugar, porque eles magoaram-NOS, lembra-se?<\/p>\r\n

Utilizam hist\u00f3rias de piedade para criar uma imagem de si pr\u00f3prios como seres fr\u00e1geis e magoados que n\u00e3o t\u00eam controlo sobre as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

They make you believe that they aren’t doing anything intentionally but that their past events are to blame for their abusive behavior.\u200b<\/p>\r\n

These past events soon become an excuse for them to do whatever they want to you while you’re showering them with understanding, solace, and nice words.<\/p>\r\n

Coloc\u00e1-lo na defensiva<\/h2>\r\n

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H\u00e1 muitas maneiras de um agressor colocar a v\u00edtima na defensiva e discutir sobre o argumento \u00e9 uma das mais comuns.<\/p>\r\n

They don’t focus on what’s being discussed but rather on the way you’re discussing it with them.<\/p>\r\n

Criticam o seu tom de voz, acusam-no de proje\u00e7\u00e3o, de gaslighting, de transfer\u00eancia de culpa, de minimiza\u00e7\u00e3o, etc.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

O foco j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9 o comportamento deles, que \u00e9 o tema da vossa discuss\u00e3o. Em vez disso, o foco est\u00e1 em si e no seu estilo de argumenta\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\r\n

That is when you start apologizing for the tone of your voice, for “blaming them” and such. They accuse you of things that are not true and have nothing to do with the overall argument.<\/p>\r\n

Ao coloc\u00e1-lo na defensiva, conseguem, com sucesso e facilidade, transferir a culpa para si.<\/p>\r\n

A bomba de mau cheiro<\/h2>\r\n

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When they are running short of excuses and blaming techniques, abusers decide to throw the stench bomb; to accuse you of terrible things you know you didn’t do.<\/p>\r\n

While you’re focused on what they did to you and struggling to find words to explain how you’re feeling, they are busy thinking of accusing you of things.<\/p>\r\n

When you know exactly what you’re going to tell them, they intercept you by saying something like the following: You are the one who abused me. I know you lied to me. You’re a psychopath and a stalker. You never cared about me. You played me.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

A pessoa vira a discuss\u00e3o para o acusar de abuso narc\u00edsico. \u00c9 apanhado desprevenido e j\u00e1 n\u00e3o sabe o que lhe queria dizer.<\/p>\r\n

A \u00fanica coisa em que se pode concentrar \u00e9 em tentar defender-se e convenc\u00ea-los de que n\u00e3o est\u00e3o a dizer a verdade. Mais uma vez, eles conseguem o que queriam: Now the blame is yours and not theirs.\u200b\u200b\u200b\u200b<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

If You’re A Victim Of Blame Shifting, Here’s What You Need To Do!<\/h2>\r\n

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If you or someone you know are dealing with blame shifters, you will probably become tempted to start justifying your actions and explaining yourself to the abuser. Well, that’s exactly what you SHOULDN’T do. Why?<\/p>\r\n

Because that’s their main goal. It’s what THEY want you to do. If you start defending yourself, it means they won and they will know it, too.<\/p>\r\n

Explaining yourself to the abuser for things you didn’t do means that you are acknowledging them.<\/p>\r\n

Por outras palavras, significa que conseguiram transferir a culpa para si e que agora a aten\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 centrada em si e n\u00e3o neles.<\/p>\r\n

Ao atrair-vos para esta armadilha, est\u00e3o a drenar a sua energia, a arruinar a sua sa\u00fade mental e a priv\u00e1-lo da sua autoestima e confian\u00e7a.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Quanto mais se explicar, mais se destr\u00f3i, o que facilita a sua manipula\u00e7\u00e3o no futuro.<\/p>\r\n

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Seja o que for que lhes fa\u00e7a ou diga, o agressor us\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 contra si.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

There isn’t a single way to prove to them that you are right and they are wrong. Your every word, reaction, and facial expression will be used against you and you will be blamed for it.<\/p>\r\n

We’re talking about an endless chain of self-destruction, a limbo, labyrinth, or whatever you want to call it. So, what should you do?<\/p>\r\n

NOTHING. You shouldn’t fight back, explain yourself, or contradict them. A \u00fanica coisa que deves fazer \u00e9 afastar-te.<\/strong> No matter how hard it is for you to do that, you shouldn’t think twice about it.<\/p>\r\n

N\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que n\u00e3o pode ajud\u00e1-los e n\u00e3o pode provar-lhes que est\u00e3o errados. O seu principal objetivo \u00e9 culp\u00e1-lo sempre pelas coisas que fazem.<\/p>\r\n

That means they will not stop doing those things and they will not stop blaming you if you don’t put an end to it and stop being on the receiving end of the abuse.<\/p>\r\n

60 Cita\u00e7\u00f5es de transfer\u00eancia de culpa<\/h2>\r\n

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1. \u201cIt\u2019s time to care; it\u2019s time to take responsibility; it\u2019s time to lead; it\u2019s time for a change; it\u2019s time to be true to our greatest self; it\u2019s time to stop blaming others.\u201d \u2013 Steve Maraboli<\/p>\r\n

2. \u201cFocus on fixing the problem, never focus on the blame. Problems are only resolved when solutions are sought.\u201d \u2013 Catherine Pulsifer<\/p>\r\n

3. \u201cStop the blame game. Stop! Stop looking out the window and look in the mirror!\u201d \u2013 Eric Thomas<\/p>\r\n

4. \u201cBlame-shifting is a natural human reaction. It happens on the smallest to the largest scale.\u201d \u2013 HG Tudor<\/p>\r\n

5. \u201cAn important decision I made was to resist playing the Blame Game. The day I realized that I am in charge of how I will approach problems in my life, that things will turn out better or worse because of me and nobody else, that was the day I knew I would be a happier and healthier person. And that was the day I knew I could truly build a life that matters.\u201d \u2013 Steve Goodier<\/p>\r\n

6. \u201cWhen we assign blame we are pointing the finger to who or what is responsible for a fault or for a wrongdoing. We are trying to make others accountable. Blaming does not solve a problem it usually only makes people defensive.\u201d \u2013 Catherine Pulsifer<\/p>\r\n

7. \u201cBlame is fascinating \u2013 it shapes our lives. It can be a benign way of positioning ourselves, a gentle joust or banter, or it can be poisonous, hurtful or devastating for its victims. It can tear apart marriages and fracture work relationships; it can disable major social programmes; it can inflict damage on powerful corporations; it can bring down governments; it can start wars and justify genocides.\u201d \u2013 Stephen Fineman<\/p>\r\n

8. \u201cBlame is the demonstrated lack of self-respect choosing to deposit one’s negative actions onto others to reinforce one’s view of being good, fair, and approved.\u201d \u2013 Byron R. Pulsifer<\/p>\r\n

9. \u201cIf you are looking to inspire people then blaming is the last thing you want to do. To inspire others, focus your attention on the solution, not the blame. No good comes from blame, good comes from finding a way to correct the situation.\u201d \u2013 Kate Summers<\/p>\r\n

10. \u201cBlame doesn’t empower you. It keeps you stuck in a place you don’t want to be because you don’t want to make the temporary, but painful decision, to be responsible for the outcome of your own life’s happiness.\u201d \u2013 Shannon L. Alder<\/p>\r\n

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11. \u201cFruit of passive-aggressive people. These people resist demands by indirect tactics. They will not take responsibility for their own choices; instead, they turn around and blame someone else for making them do it. Or they will agree to do things that they don\u2019t really want to do, and then gripe about the person behind her back.\u201d \u2013 Henry Cloud<\/p>\r\n

12. \u201cWhen you gain real insight into the human universe, you lose the capacity to blame.\u201d \u2013 Abhijit Naskar<\/p>\r\n

13. \u201cWherever you find a problem, you will usually find the finger-pointing of blame. Society is addicted to playing the victim.\u201d \u2013 Stephen R. Covey<\/p>\r\n

14. \u201cWhen you keep blaming others for every mistake you make in life one day you\u2019ll look back and realize you\u2019re the mistake all along.\u201d \u2013 Abdulazeez Henry Musa<\/p>\r\n

15. \u201cHowever, anger usually involves the externalizing of blame. When we become angry, we usually consider the source of our anger to be outside ourselves.\u201d \u2013 Raymond A. DiGiuseppe<\/p>\r\n

16. \u201cWhen discouraged some people will give up, give in or give out far too early. They blame their problems on difficult situations, unreasonable people or their own inabilities. When discouraged other people will push back that first impulse to quit, push down their initial fear, push through feelings of helplessness and push ahead. They\u2019re less likely to find something to blame and more likely to find a way through.\u201d \u2013 Steve Goodier<\/p>\r\n

17. \u201cThe blame game is a waste of time. Any time you’re busy fixing blame, you’re wasting energy and not fixing the problem.\u201d \u2013 Rick Warren<\/p>\r\n

18. \u201cIf you feel the need to make someone feel less assured of themselves or have to call another person out, you may gain a false sense of superiority.\u201d \u2013 Kristin Michelle Elizabeth<\/p>\r\n

19. \u201cI reckon that blaming people fixes nothing. You’re the only person who is going to sort you out. No-one else really can \u2013 or really cares, enough. That’s what Nepalis know \u2013 better than anyone. That’s our Western disease. Don’t take responsibility. Take on a lawyer.\u201d \u2013 Jane Wilson-Howarth<\/p>\r\n

20. \u201cAll too often we have been pulled away from being honest with ourselves and drawn into a game of blaming others for bad situations. Just how crazy has our society become with playing ‘the blame game’.\u201d \u2013 Joseph E. McGuire<\/p>\r\n

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21. \u201cUntil you stop blaming others for your unhappy life and take responsibility for it, your will remain the same. The choice is yours.\u201d \u2013 Christine E. Szymanski<\/p>\r\n

22. \u201cCriticism is not a bad thing. It can help you strengthen your marriage, if it is done correctly. But, some wives criticize their partners to have a reason to blame them or to justify their actions. This type of criticism can affect the confidence and trust of your husband towards you.\u201d \u2013 Franchesca May<\/p>\r\n

23. \u201cBlaming others is an act of refusing to take responsibility. When a person can\u2019t accept the fact or the reality, they blame another person or the situation instead of taking accountability.\u201d \u2013 Dee Dee Artner<\/p>\r\n

24. \u201cAll blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.\u201d \u2013 Wayne Dyer<\/p>\r\n

25. \u201cStop blaming and start aiming.\u201d \u2013 Rob Liano<\/p>\r\n

26. \u201cBlaming is a dead-end street that doesn’t help anyone. But until we risk telling the truth to ourselves about how we really feel, nothing in our lives can change or improve.\u201d \u2013 Christiane Northrup<\/p>\r\n

27. \u201cBlaming others is excusing yourself.\u201d \u2013 Robin Sharma<\/p>\r\n

28. \u201cIt’s always easy to blame someone else or outside forces for our actions… Yet we don’t have the right to blame other people or circumstances for our behavior.\u201d \u2013 Joyce Meyer<\/p>\r\n

29. \u201cGuilt can be an unrelenting source of pain. It keeps us stuck in the past and prevents us from moving forward. We might hold a belief that we should feel guilty and condemn ourselves \u2013 not once, but over and over. Or, guilt may simmer in our unconscious. Either way, this kind of guilt is insidious and self-destructive and can sabotage our goals and relationships. It lowers our self-esteem and makes us easy targets for blame and manipulation.\u201d \u2013 Darlene Lancer<\/p>\r\n

30. \u201cThe misattribution of blame is one reason we make the same mistakes over and over again. We learn so little from experience because we often blame the wrong cause.\u201d \u2013 Joseph T. Hallinan<\/p>\r\n

Veja tamb\u00e9m: 9 raz\u00f5es pelas quais o seu namorado narcisista coloca sempre a culpa em si<\/p>\r\n

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31. \u201cAs a consequence of what we do wrong or what others do wrong to us, blame and criticism will be attributed. Sometimes this blame might seem just but other times it does not. However, no matter how just it might appear, blame never undoes what is done.\u201d \u2013 Geof Warren<\/p>\r\n

32. \u201cIt\u2019s easy to blame others for your situation. It\u2019s much more productive to search your own past and find what caused your faults.\u201d \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\r\n

33. \u201cYou\u2019ll never get ahead by blaming your problems on other people.\u201d \u2013 Willie Nelson<\/p>\r\n

34. \u201cWhen people are lame, they love to blame.\u201d \u2013 Robert Kiyosaki<\/p>\r\n

35. \u201cNever blame another person for your personal choices \u2013 you are still the one who must live out the consequences of your choices.\u201d \u2013 Caroline Myss<\/p>\r\n

36. \u201cYou made your choices to get where you are now in life, stop blaming others for your misfortune and choose wisely next time.\u201d \u2013 Leon Brown<\/p>\r\n

37. \u201cWhen you blame and criticize others, you are avoiding some truth about yourself.\u201d \u2013 Deepak Chopra<\/p>\r\n

38. \u201cWhen you check your own mind properly, you stop blaming others for your problems.\u201d \u2013 Thubten Yeshe<\/p>\r\n

39. \u201cWhen you blame others, you give up your power to change.\u201d \u2013 Robert Anthony<\/p>\r\n

40. \u201cSome people love being victims because they love being able to blame someone else. Accountability is too much for them. They don\u2019t like being responsible for who they have become or where they are in life.\u201d \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\r\n

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41. \u201cThe superior man blames himself. The inferior man blames others.\u201d \u2013 Don Shula<\/p>\r\n

42. \u201cStop blaming other people and circumstances for killing your dreams. The truth is; we tend to talk ourselves out of acting upon our dreams.\u201d \u2013 Steve Maraboli<\/p>\r\n

43. \u201cYou are responsible for your life. You can\u2019t keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.\u201d \u2013 Oprah Winfrey<\/p>\r\n

44. \u201cGreat leaders don\u2019t rush to blame. They instinctively look for solutions.\u201d \u2013 Nina Easton<\/p>\r\n

45. \u201cA bad mood is often the reason for blaming others; but very often blaming others causes bad feelings in us: the more we blame others, the worse we feel.\u201d \u2013 Leo Tolstoy<\/p>\r\n

46. \u201cTake charge of your own attitude. Don\u2019t blame anyone else. You control you.\u201d \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\r\n

47. \u201cThe dream doesn\u2019t lie in victimization or blame; it lies in hard work, determination and a good education.\u201d \u2013 Alphonso Jackson<\/p>\r\n

48. \u201cYour life is the fruit of your own doing. You have no one to blame but yourself.\u201d \u2013 Joseph Campbell<\/p>\r\n

49. \u201cIt\u2019s always easy to blame others. You can spend your entire life blaming the world, but your success and failures are entirely your own responsibility.\u201d \u2013 Paulo Coelho<\/p>\r\n

50. \u201cBlame is just a lazy person\u2019s way of making sense of chaos.\u201d \u2013 Douglas Coupland<\/p>\r\n

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51. \u201cPeople are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don\u2019t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can\u2019t find them, make them.\u201d \u2013 George Bernard Shaw<\/p>\r\n

52. \u201cYou can either blame everybody else or you can take a look at yourself and determine where you can improve.\u201d \u2013 Robert Kiyosaki<\/p>\r\n

53. \u201cYou will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now.\u201d \u2013 John Spence<\/p>\r\n

54. \u201cTake responsibility for your last bad decision, and then let it go. Don’t blame others or make excuses for yourself.\u201d \u2013 Deepak Chopra<\/p>\r\n

55. \u201cA man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.\u201d \u2013 John Burroughs<\/p>\r\n

56. \u201cFair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us.\u201d \u2013 Eric Hoffer<\/p>\r\n

57. \u201cPeople are afraid, and when people are afraid, when their pie is shrinking, they look for somebody to hate. They look for somebody to blame. And a real leader speaks to anxiety and to fear and allays those fears, assuages anxiety.\u201d \u2013 Henry Louis Gates<\/p>\r\n

58. \u201cLife changing repentance begins where blame shifting ends.\u201d \u2013 Timothy Keller<\/p>\r\n

59. \u201cIt is better for you to take responsibility for your life as it is, instead of blaming others, or circumstances, for your predicament. As your eyes open, you’ll see that your state of health, happiness, and every circumstance of your life has been, in large part, arranged by you \u2013 consciously or unconsciously.\u201d \u2013 Dan Millman<\/p>\r\n

60. \u201cDon’t try to blame the pain on anyone. Blaming others won’t erase the pain.\u201d \u2013 Hyde<\/p>\r\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\r\n

If you or someone you know are a victim of blame shifting, keep in mind that it is not how it should be and you deserve to be in a healthy relationship. Here’s one of the best conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>: <\/p>\r\n

Remember that you should never explain yourself or defend yourself when the abuser attacks you because that’s exactly what they want you to do.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Em vez disso, tem de se defender e afastar-se corajosamente em sil\u00eancio (e procurar ajuda profissional, se necess\u00e1rio), porque tudo o que lhes disser ser\u00e1 usado contra si. <\/p>\r\n

Veja tamb\u00e9m: 7 maneiras de se proteger do abuso emocional<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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