{"id":102069,"date":"2020-10-05T13:31:01","date_gmt":"2020-10-05T13:31:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=102069"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:09:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:09:31","slug":"basear-a-sua-vida-na-sua-propria-identidade","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/basear-a-sua-vida-na-sua-propria-identidade\/","title":{"rendered":"Baseie a sua vida na sua pr\u00f3pria identidade, pois uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode explodir a qualquer momento"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most of us make one fatal mistake when we’re in a relationship. Damos demasiado de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e, algures pelo caminho, perdemos totalmente a nossa identidade.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

We let our partner control our whole life because we think that’s the way it should be. We think that’s love. We do it in the name of love.<\/p>\n

Trust me, that has nothing to do with love. It’s actually unhealthy and toxic behavior.<\/strong><\/em> Once that relationship ends, you’ll be crushed and you won’t know how to move on.<\/p>\n

Perder a identidade significa perder-se a si pr\u00f3prio, o que \u00e9 algo que nunca se deve fazer, nem por ningu\u00e9m, por muito que se pense que se ama essa pessoa.<\/p>\n

Yes, I said \u2018think\u2019 because that’s definitely not true love; it\u2019s infatuation or maybe it’s even lust but it’s never true love.<\/p>\n

A person who asks you to change, one who’s trying to change who you are, is never the right person, is never your soulmate.<\/p>\n

True love from the right person will never ask you to change. It’ll accept you just the way you are. Essa pessoa apaixonar-se-\u00e1 por todas as suas partes.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

They’ll fall in love with your good sides as much as with your flaws and imperfections. They’ll honestly love you for who you are.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nunca se sabe ao certo quando \u00e9 que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o vai acabar ou se est\u00e1 mesmo destinada a durar para sempre.<\/strong><\/em> Podemos amar algu\u00e9m com todo o nosso ser e mesmo assim perder essa pessoa.<\/p>\n

I do believe that we all have that one person who is meant for us, our soulmate, but still, I really don’t believe that you’ll immediately know they’re the one when you meet them.<\/p>\n

Don’t think that I’m writing all of this just like that, as I’m writing this from my own experience. I lost my identity once in a relationship and I was very damaged once it ended.<\/p>\n

I gave my all to a man who decided to leave me as if we never even existed, as if our love was never real. I really thought that I\u2019d spend my life with that person and it took me a long time to realize that it was all over.<\/p>\n

Demorei muito, muito tempo a aceitar o facto de que tinha de seguir em frente e continuar a viver a vida sem ele, sozinha.<\/p>\n

E eu estava mesmo sozinha, porque os meus amigos tamb\u00e9m me deixaram muito antes disso, quando perceberam o quanto eu tinha mudado naquela rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Eu era uma pessoa completamente diferente e eles tinham todo o direito de deixar de andar comigo.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Yes, accepting all of that was very difficult but the worst part was recovering. I didn’t want to go back to the person I was before and I didn’t like the person who I became because of my ex.<\/p>\n

Apercebi-me de que tinha de mudar mais uma vez. Tinha de trabalhar para perceber o meu valor e melhorar a minha autoestima.<\/p>\n

That’s when I promised myself that I\u2019d never again allow anyone to change me and that I\u2019d never change for another person ever again, no matter how much I loved or cared for them.<\/p>\n

As prioridades devem ser sempre conhecidas e a nossa principal prioridade tem de ser sempre n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, caso contr\u00e1rio permitimos que outra pessoa nos magoe e nos parta o cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que tem de fazer compromissos com o seu parceiro, mas deve haver alguns limites. H\u00e1 algumas coisas que nunca devem ser comprometidas e os seus valores e ideais, por exemplo, s\u00e3o duas delas.<\/p>\n

Devemos manter-nos fi\u00e9is a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/strong><\/em> Don’t allow anyone to affect your thinking or your perspectives on life.<\/p>\n

Don’t think that you should change yourself to get someone to like you and never think that you’re unworthy of love or that you aren’t good enough for someone. Because you are and you must always be aware of that.<\/p>\n

Never be a meek mouse and always let your voice be heard loud. Never lose yourself for anyone else because your identity is what makes you different from all the others. It’s a gift that makes you unique, so don’t discard it.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Most of us make one fatal mistake when we’re in a relationship. We give too much of ourself in our relationship and somewhere along the way, we totally lose our identity. We let our partner control our whole life because we think that’s the way it should be. We think that’s love. We do it…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":102071,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-102069","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Base-Your-Life-On-Your-Own-Identity-As-A-Relationship-Can-Blow-Up-Any-Minute.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102069","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=102069"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/102069\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/102071"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=102069"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=102069"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=102069"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}