{"id":10396,"date":"2017-12-14T10:19:20","date_gmt":"2017-12-14T10:19:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10396"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:39:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:39:10","slug":"vou-dizer-aos-homens-de-merda-que-arranjem-camas-de-coracao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/vou-dizer-aos-homens-de-merda-que-arranjem-camas-de-coracao\/","title":{"rendered":"Vou contar-vos como \u00e9 que todos estes homens de merda entram nos nossos cora\u00e7\u00f5es e nas nossas camas - n\u00f3s deixamo-los entrar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Podemos ser realistas por um minuto? Toda esta conversa sobre homens. Os bons, os maus, os que definem a nossa pr\u00f3pria exist\u00eancia. Podemos deixar isso de lado por um segundo? <\/span>Podemos falar de quem somos sem os homens? Em quem nos tornamos quando nos vemos ao espelho?<\/b> Porque falamos de todos estes homens t\u00f3xicos<\/a>, and we don\u2019t know why we let them in. We don\u2019t know how we let them take so much from us. We don\u2019t know why we make the same mistakes over and over again. But I do. It\u2019s because we don\u2019t like what we see when we look in the mirror.<\/span> A forma como deixamos que as pessoas nos tratem \u00e9 um reflexo direto da forma como nos sentimos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/b> Regardless of how honestly we come by our shitty self-esteem, we have to overcome it. No matter how many times we\u2019ve been brow-beaten, bullied or somehow made to feel we aren\u2019t good enough, we have to believe that we are.<\/span><\/p>\n

There is so much evidence out there to derail us; TV, magazines, Photoshop, and the freaking Internet telling us that we don\u2019t live up to societal expectations. That what we look like isn\u2019t right and we need to fix this or enhance that. That we need to have a certain thing and be a certain size to be good enough. <\/span>Temos comprimidos, po\u00e7\u00f5es e salas de p\u00e2nico para nos salvar de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e dos dem\u00f3nios que criamos nas nossas mentes. <\/b>Todas as provas apontam para as nossas falhas. E nunca conseguiremos acompanhar os Jones, por mais que tentemos. <\/span><\/p>\n

We turn to alcohol, drugs, and reality TV to escape our own shitty realities\u2026 and that\u2019s how they get in.<\/span> The sociopaths and the narcissists and all of the toxic, life-draining, emotional vampires\u2026 they seep in through the cracks of our lowered self-esteem and numb us with their intoxicating presence.<\/b> They reinforce the negative opinions we\u2019ve been conditioned to have of ourselves and it is so hard to fight against your own negative self-talk.<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s the solution?<\/span> Como \u00e9 que evitamos todos os idiotas do dia a dia que nos v\u00e3o tirar a nossa autoestima por desporto? Amamo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, porra. Olhamo-nos ao espelho e desafiamo-nos a AMAR absoluta e incondicionalmente o que vemos. <\/b>Abra\u00e7amos as nossas imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es e recusamos que nos fa\u00e7am sentir pequenos por causa delas. Passamos tempo connosco, descobrimos quem somos e do que gostamos e fazemos essas coisas. N\u00f3s fazermo-nos felizes<\/a> porque merecemos ser felizes. <\/span>Dedicamo-nos a garantir que somos tratadas como rainhas, porque somos rainhas.<\/b> And when we do\u2026 anything less will be a joke. <\/span>\u00c9 preciso ser capaz de distinguir um homem,<\/span> \u201cIf you want to be with me, you will have to treat me as well as or better than I treat myself and I hold me to a pretty high standard,\u201d<\/b> and mean it. Because if you don\u2019t believe it, neither will they.<\/span><\/p>\n

by\u00a0Tia Grace<\/strong><\/p>\n

Read more of Tia’s articles on http:\/\/yoursassyblackfriend.com\/<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Can we get real for a minute? All this talk of men. The good ones, the bad ones, the ones who define our very being. Can we get off that for just a second? Can we talk about who we are without men? Who we become when we face ourselves in the mirror? Because we…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":10412,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10396","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/pexels-photo.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10396","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10396"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10396\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10412"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10396"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10396"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10396"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}