{"id":104908,"date":"2020-10-19T11:12:07","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T11:12:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=104908"},"modified":"2022-01-11T00:10:32","modified_gmt":"2022-01-11T00:10:32","slug":"pedir-respeito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/pedir-respeito\/","title":{"rendered":"A pedir respeito ou a tentar controlar-te? Esta \u00e9 a diferen\u00e7a"},"content":{"rendered":"

O seu parceiro est\u00e1 constantemente a p\u00f4r palavras na sua boca? Desrespeita-o \u00e0 frente de outras pessoas? Quer conformar as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es \u00e0 vontade dele?<\/p>\n

Maybe they do something more subtle like make comments on your clothing choices or bring up things they don\u2019t like about your friends and family in a way that implies you should reconsider your relationships with them.<\/p>\n

Sound familiar? Some of these things can look like advice and care but often, they\u2019re not so well-intentioned.
\nThere\u2019s a difference between someone showing you respect and letting yourself be controlled.<\/p>\n

Respect doesn\u2019t compromise your personal freedom. Control, on the other hand, wants to restrict it.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O respeito est\u00e1 a dizer,<\/strong> Compreendo que as nossas posi\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o diferentes, n\u00e3o concordo com a sua decis\u00e3o e sinto-me diferente, mas a escolha \u00e9 sua.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

O controlo est\u00e1 a dizer,<\/strong> You can\u2019t do that because it\u2019s not good for you, you should do it my way.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

No entanto, existem muitas opini\u00f5es diferentes no que respeita a este tema. Por exemplo, os parceiros podem ter ideias diferentes sobre o que \u00e9 demonstrar respeito.<\/p>\n

Um parceiro pode considerar que deixar roupas espalhadas pela casa \u00e9 um sinal de desrespeito, enquanto o outro pode entender isso como uma tentativa de o controlar.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um parceiro pode entender a falta de palavras de afirma\u00e7\u00e3o ou de elogios como um sinal de desrespeito e outro pode achar estranho que algu\u00e9m precise de tais afirma\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que a compreens\u00e3o \u00e9 t\u00e3o importante. Primeiro, temos de compreender o que o respeito significa para a outra pessoa e, depois, temos de encontrar uma forma de implementar isso na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Without respect, there\u2019s no close relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Alguns dos padr\u00f5es de comportamento de controlo mais comuns que podem ser disfar\u00e7ados de preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o ou pedido de respeito s\u00e3o os seguintes<\/p>\n

Isolamento das outras pessoas da sua vida, ou seja, dos seus amigos e da sua fam\u00edlia.<\/strong> Como referi anteriormente, este \u00e9 um dos maiores sinais de um parceiro verdadeiramente controlador.<\/p>\n

They might do it subtly because it will be disguised as a concern but what they actually do is strip you of support that isn\u2019t them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easier to control a person when there\u2019s nobody they can go to or trust.<\/p>\n

Condi\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong> Crazy conditions are another way of controlling a person. \u201cI would love you so much more if you (preencher o espa\u00e7o em branco<\/em>).\u201d<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Using guilt can also be easily used in this manner, especially in a way that they do something very extra and grand for you and then accuse you of being ungrateful and selfish if you don\u2019t consent to doing something they ask of you.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00edticas constantes.<\/strong> Unfortunately, many people don\u2019t realize how toxic this behavior is, especially because it starts as \u2018help\u2019 to make you a better person or something similar.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re getting criticized for everything you do all the time, that\u2019s abuse. People with low confidence are especially prone to believing that something\u2019s wrong with them while they\u2019re just being themselves.<\/p>\n

Isto pode deixar enormes cicatrizes emocionais numa pessoa.<\/p>\n

Amea\u00e7as de qualquer tipo.<\/strong> There\u2019s no place for threats in a healthy relationship. From threats to deprive you of something basic to threats to leave you without a home or kids and suchlike.<\/p>\n

Bisbilhotice e ci\u00fames.<\/strong> This one is self-explanatory. It shows a lack of trust and it violates the other person\u2019s boundaries.<\/p>\n

Menosprezar e ridicularizar.<\/strong> If your partner shames you or ridicules you because of your opinions and views, for example on a religious, cultural or political matter, that\u2019s very wrong and shouldn\u2019t be thought of as normal.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s okay to have a discussion and to disagree but it\u2019s not okay to bully another person just because you have different views.<\/p>\n

Conclus\u00e3o<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

It\u2019s generally relatively easy to tell apart controlling behavior and asking for respect based on how you feel doing something. You shouldn\u2019t ignore your gut feelings.<\/p>\n

Deve haver sempre uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de paz e contentamento por detr\u00e1s de tudo, mesmo quando n\u00e3o se concorda com alguma coisa.<\/p>\n

Se se sente constantemente assustado, magoado ou embara\u00e7ado, ent\u00e3o algo tem de mudar. Tem de aprender a estabelecer limites e a comunic\u00e1-los ao seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Respect is vital for any relationship and that\u2019s why it needs to be clearly addressed without holding back, as does behavior that makes you uncomfortable.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Does your partner constantly put words in your mouth? Disrespects you in front of other people? Wants to conform your actions to their will? Maybe they do something more subtle like make comments on your clothing choices or bring up things they don\u2019t like about your friends and family in a way that implies you…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":104910,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-104908","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Asking-For-Respect-Or-Trying-To-Control-You-This-Is-The-Difference.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104908","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=104908"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/104908\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/104910"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=104908"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=104908"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=104908"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}