{"id":10495,"date":"2017-12-18T09:28:08","date_gmt":"2017-12-18T09:28:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10495"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:37:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:37:24","slug":"consequencias-do-abuso-emocional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/consequencias-do-abuso-emocional\/","title":{"rendered":"As consequ\u00eancias do abuso emocional"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mesmo que ele usasse palavras em vez de punhos, continuava a ser um abuso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Talvez nunca lhe tenha batido, mas as suas palavras magoaram-na mais do que qualquer bofetada na sua cara ou qualquer pontap\u00e9 com a perna. E o pior \u00e9 que pensavas que ele ia mudar. <\/span><\/p>\n

You thought that you were just having a crisis in your relationship and that after some time he would figure out how much he loved you. But you know what? He never did. You were never important to him and that\u2019s why he abused you so much. For every problem that he had in his life, you were the guilty one.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por cada bofetada que a vida lhe dava, tu eras a culpada. Em todos os seus momentos de tristeza, estavas l\u00e1 para ele te culpar.<\/span><\/p>\n

E tu, cega de amor, aguentaste as tretas dele durante anos.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The day when you left him was the worst one of your life because he always told you that you wouldn\u2019t make it unless he was there. He brainwashed you and all you could see in the mirror was just a shell of the girl you had been before. <\/span><\/p>\n

I just want you to know that I can understand how you feel. Just like you, I\u2019ve been there. Just like you, I gave second chances. And just like you, I ended up broken and in tears. It took me some time to recover from that abuse and to settle down. But I was no longer the same me. I could still love, but Desta vez, amei de forma diferente.<\/a> E isso \u00e9 algo por que tamb\u00e9m passar\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

Viver\u00e1 constantemente num estado de alerta.<\/b><\/p>\n

For a long time, you won\u2019t be able to relax because you will think that every man who comes into your life will do you the same thing as your abuser. It will be hard to win you over and most of all it will be hard for you to trust people again. You will feel that something is wrong every time someone approaches you, so you will pull back.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perguntar-se-\u00e1 como se est\u00e1 a sair. <\/b><\/p>\n

While you were being emotionally abused, you had the constant feeling that your partner didn\u2019t understand your actions or your words. That made you so confused but the truth was that he was telling you to do what he thought was right.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca se preocupou com os teus sentimentos e necessidades. Para ele, eras apenas uma boneca e ele era o mestre das marionetas, controlando-te como queria. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, after everything has finished, you will realize that people around you understand you perfectly well and that only one man couldn\u2019t do that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sentir\u00e1 que algo est\u00e1 errado consigo.<\/b><\/p>\n

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<\/b>Depois de<\/span> Quando se libertar do seu agressor, sentir\u00e1 que est\u00e1 demasiado danificada para voltar a amar algu\u00e9m. Mas quando passar algum tempo com as pessoas que ama, acabar\u00e1 por ver que n\u00e3o est\u00e1 assim t\u00e3o estragada. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que ter\u00e1 n\u00f3doas negras emocionais, mas todas as pessoas que lutaram t\u00eam-nas. O mais importante, no fim de contas, \u00e9 o facto de se ter mantido de p\u00e9 e de nunca ter desistido.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perguntar-se-\u00e1 o que ter\u00e1 corrido mal.<\/b><\/p>\n

<\/b>Todos v\u00edtima de um abuso emocional<\/a> will think about the things that she was doing in the last relationship and how they affected it. You will sometimes ask yourself if things could have been better if you\u2019d had a different defense mechanism.<\/span><\/p>\n

You will think about things that you did or didn\u2019t do and you will have a constant feeling that you could have done things better. Please, stop doing this because it wasn\u2019t your fault. Not a second of your relationship with him was your problem because your abuser was guilty of everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ficar\u00e1 ansioso e deprimido. <\/b>E, falando francamente, isto \u00e9 algo por que todas as v\u00edtimas de abuso emocional passam.<\/span><\/p>\n

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A dada altura, vai pensar que est\u00e1 louca, mas esse sentimento depressa se desvanecer\u00e1. A \u00fanica pessoa que estava louca nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o era ele. Por isso, mantenha-se forte quando atravessar este per\u00edodo da sua vida e lembre-se de que finalmente se salvou de quem a podia ter arruinado.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ter\u00e1 desconfian\u00e7a nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es futuras. <\/b><\/p>\n

It is not that simple to give your heart to someone new, not knowing if he will hurt you like the man before him. That\u2019s why you will look like someone who plays hard to get but inside, your world will be falling apart and you will crave the love that you need so much.<\/span><\/p>\n

Este sentimento \u00e9 uma batalha constante mas, algures ao longo do caminho, ver\u00e1 que nem todos os homens s\u00e3o iguais.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nada no seu processo de cura ser\u00e1 f\u00e1cil. <\/b><\/p>\n

The aftermath of emotional abuse is characterized by different behavior moods. One day you will be happy and cheerful and the next you will feel depressed and you won\u2019t get out of bed. You will think that nobody will ever love you again because you are broken. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ter\u00e1 uma onda de pensamentos negativos aqui e ali e eles ditar\u00e3o a sua vida. S\u00f3 depois de algum tempo ver\u00e1 que as coisas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o assim t\u00e3o m\u00e1s e que h\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a para si.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desejar\u00e1s n\u00e3o ser t\u00e3o sens\u00edvel.<\/b><\/p>\n

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<\/b>After any trauma, a person will feel bad. Every single comment can hurt them because they are so sensitive. This will happen to you too. Sometimes, you won\u2019t be able to react to the simplest situation and you will just run away from all those things that make you feel like that. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will want to be alone because in that way people won\u2019t be able to hurt you. I just want you to know that you should take all the time in the world to heal. If you don\u2019t like going out, don\u2019t do it. Do things that you feel comfortable with.<\/span><\/p>\n

You were putting up with someone\u2019s wishes for a hell of a long time and it is time to finally put yourself first.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you are an amazing person who just met a guy who ruined your life. If you could have been amazing before, I am sure that you can bring your old spark back. I won\u2019t lie to you and tell you that the healing process will be fast; it won\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will need a lot of time for yourself to fight those nasty demons of yours. You will cry yourself to sleep every night until you see that after that you will feel much better. And when you least expect it, you will meet someone who will bring you faith in love again. You just need to be patient because good things don\u2019t happen overnight.<\/span><\/p>\n

E o teu agressor?<\/span><\/p>\n

You will probably never forget him. After all, he was a part of your life for a long time but all that he did to you made you the person you are today\u2014strong, independent and definitely not ready to settle for less than she deserves.<\/span><\/p>\n

In the end, I ask you for one thing only\u2014forgive him for all that he did to you. Not because he deserves that forgiveness but because you deserve peace.<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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