Silly me didn\u2019t only settle for breadcrumbs of his love. Instead, I was even happy that I\u2019d managed to make such an unattainable man mine \u2013 although he never truly was.<\/p>\n
Estava t\u00e3o grata por cada peda\u00e7o de amor que ele me dava. Cada sorriso, cada beijo, cada mensagem era t\u00e3o especial para mim porque vinha de algu\u00e9m que era obviamente incapaz de amar.<\/p>\n
I won\u2019t lie to you. I felt miserable most of the time. I wanted out but I just couldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n
Al\u00e9m disso, ele estava a dar-me apenas o suficiente para me manter ao seu lado. Apenas o suficiente para despertar a esperan\u00e7a dentro de mim e impedir-me de partir.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ll be honest here. This entire scenario turned me into a naggy kind of a woman. Instead of changing my situation, all I did was complain about not being able to change him.<\/p>\n
Ent\u00e3o, no outro dia, come\u00e7ou a nossa discuss\u00e3o habitual. Eu disse-lhe que estava incomodada com a pouca aten\u00e7\u00e3o que ele me dava.<\/p>\n
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I told him frankly that I felt unloved and unwanted. I said that I felt like he couldn\u2019t care less whether I stayed or left.<\/p>\n
Queixava-me de que ele nunca fazia nada de concreto para me manter ao seu lado. Como nunca mexeu um dedo em prol da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, enquanto eu movia montanhas por n\u00f3s os dois.<\/p>\n
E sabem como \u00e9 que ele reagiu? Disse-me, \u201cWhat more do you want from me? I\u2019m doing everything I can.\u201d<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n At that moment, it hit me: This was really this guy\u2019s maximum. He\u2019ll never try harder and this is all I\u2019ll ever get from him.<\/p>\n Ele estava mesmo convencido de que era assim que uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o devia funcionar. Ele pensava genuinamente que era o namorado perfeito.<\/strong><\/p>\n After all, he wasn\u2019t cheating on me (as far as I knew) and he wasn\u2019t physically abusing me. According to him, that should do it.<\/p>\n Perguntei-me se isto era suficiente para mim. Estaria pronto para me contentar com estas migalhas de p\u00e3o para o resto da minha vida?<\/strong><\/p>\n It didn\u2019t take me long before I came up with an answer: NO, and it never will be.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, what exactly was I doing next to this man? He won\u2019t change, my criteria won\u2019t change. Consequently, the only logical solution is that we\u2019d have to part ways before it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n Sem mais nem menos, esta frase limpou a minha vis\u00e3o. Obrigou-me a tirar os meus \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa e, pela primeira vez, a ver as coisas como elas realmente eram.<\/p>\n Somewhere, I read that there are 20 steps between two people. Well, for all of these years I was making 19 and he wasn\u2019t ready to make just one towards me.<\/p>\n You\u2019re probably thinking to yourself that he didn\u2019t say anything awful. This wasn\u2019t a big deal and I was just making unnecessary drama.<\/p>\n But trust me, this sentence really was huge. And I\u2019m thankful to my ex for saying it out loud.<\/strong><\/p>\n Sabem porqu\u00ea? 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