{"id":10508,"date":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","date_gmt":"2017-12-18T10:25:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10508"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:47","slug":"6-sinais-obvios-de-uma-relacao-codependente","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/6-sinais-obvios-de-uma-relacao-codependente\/","title":{"rendered":"6 sinais \u00f3bvios de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 em um relacionamento codependente e como super\u00e1-lo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Uma causa muito comum de rela\u00e7\u00f5es pouco saud\u00e1veis \u00e9 a codepend\u00eancia. O problema da codepend\u00eancia \u00e9 que n\u00e3o \u00e9 f\u00e1cil de detetar. Muitas vezes, as pessoas parecem n\u00e3o querer admitir que a t\u00eam ou n\u00e3o conseguem reconhecer os sintomas. A melhor maneira de come\u00e7ar \u00e9 determinar o que \u00e9 de facto a codepend\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as \u2018relationship addiction\u2019<\/strong> because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and\/or abusive.\u201d <\/em>MHA<\/p>\n

Deparei-me acidentalmente com estas linhas e depois comecei a investigar mais a fundo. Apercebi-me que tamb\u00e9m eu j\u00e1 tinha sido co-dependente e que, se tivesse sabido, teria sido muito mais f\u00e1cil ultrapass\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Alguns dos principais sintomas estavam presentes: Eu estava numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica. Era demasiado indeciso. Era muito auto-consciente e insegura. Sentia que era minha responsabilidade ajud\u00e1-lo a lidar com os seus problemas. Descuidava-me completamente da minha vida por causa do amor que sentia por ele.<\/p>\n

It was all about him. I was non-existent in that relationship and I didn\u2019t mind. My only goal was to meet his needs. To make him happy. To see him. To obsess over where he was and what he was doing.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Eu aguentei muito. Ele era abusivo. Estava sempre a deitar-me abaixo, a chamar-me nomes. Ele era sempre o rei do castelo e eu a sua humilde serva. Essa teria sido a imagem adequada de mim na altura.<\/p>\n

I tolerated it all till the point that he became physically aggressive. I am ashamed to admit that I also put up with that for some time, until I realized that I was on a road that would destroy me. I had to admit to myself that I was better off without him, but it\u2019s hard for an addict to to give up on their addiction.<\/p>\n

It took me a while but I managed. It\u2019s a bit funny when I look back at it now but I actually felt like I put myself through the recovery process of overcoming codependency. The first step of admitting that you have a problem is the hardest part of that but then it all gets a bit easier.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I wanted to share with you the most usual signs that you are in a codependent relationship and to give you some advice on how to overcome it.<\/p>\n

1. As necessidades dele est\u00e3o em primeiro lugar e tu ignoras as tuas.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Preocupa-se constantemente com o que ele gosta ou n\u00e3o gosta. Se fizer isto ou aquilo, ser\u00e1 que ele vai aprovar? Adia os seus interesses, sonhos e desejos para se adaptar \u00e0s necessidades e prefer\u00eancias dele. Come\u00e7a a perder o sentido de si pr\u00f3pria ao am\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, tem de perceber que, numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel, os parceiros s\u00e3o iguais e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de fazer grandes sacrif\u00edcios e de se perder no processo de amar outra pessoa. Tem de tomar a sua vida nas suas pr\u00f3prias m\u00e3os e tem de ser a pessoa mais importante da sua vida.<\/a> S\u00f3 quando come\u00e7arem a fazer isso \u00e9 que ter\u00e3o uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o feliz e saud\u00e1vel.<\/em><\/p>\n

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\"Mulher<\/p>\n

2. Sente-se respons\u00e1vel pelo seu comportamento ou emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

He\u2019s had a bad day and he takes it out on you. It had nothing to do with you yet you still feel responsible. You start asking yourself if it was something that you\u2019d said or done and you automatically put the burden of guilt on your shoulders.<\/p>\n

You are not God and you can\u2019t control other people\u2019s behaviors or emotions or lack of them. If somebody snaps at you for no reason, don\u2019t jump to conclusions and blame yourself. It is something that is up to the other person to deal with on their own. By focusing on him, you lose track of your own feelings and that\u2019s something you have to change. Focus on yourself.<\/em><\/p>\n

3. Confunde-se amor com obsess\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

You constantly wonder what your partner is doing when he is not around, whom he follows on social media, what he thinks about when he is silent and gloomy and says everything\u2019s OK. You overthink every move he makes. You would like to have insights into his mind and emotions. That\u2019s obsession, not love.<\/a><\/p>\n

Love is trust and giving space to one another. Love doesn\u2019t control or obsess. You have to realize you are on the wrong path that will only leave you miserable. You have to make a change. You need to have a bit of faith in yourself to be able to trust your partner. If you are with the wrong partner, this advice will help you in your future relationships.<\/em><\/p>\n

4. Ele trata-a mal e voc\u00ea continua a tolerar isso.<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

He is abusing you. Sometimes physically but usually emotionally because it\u2019s harder to detect. He hurts you by using words. He manipulates you and makes you feel like you are not enough. He uses your insecurities against you. Your compassion and feelings for him are making you stay.<\/p>\n

Nunca tolerar ser maltratado. A melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 afastar-se sem olhar para tr\u00e1s. Pode n\u00e3o ser f\u00e1cil, mas valer\u00e1 a pena, garanto-lhe.<\/em><\/p>\n

5. Preocupa-se demasiado com coisas que est\u00e3o fora do seu controlo.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Por muito agrad\u00e1vel que seja, gostaria de poder controlar qualquer situa\u00e7\u00e3o e o seu resultado. Gostaria de o poupar de qualquer situa\u00e7\u00e3o m\u00e1. Passa as noites a pensar demais e a preocupar-se com tudo menos consigo pr\u00f3prio. O resultado \u00e9 que fica stressada.<\/p>\n

What is important here is to realize that not everything is in your hands. Life doesn\u2019t always go smoothly, it has its ups and downs. You won\u2019t be able to prevent him from worrying about them in advance. You have to take things as they come and deal with them then.<\/em><\/p>\n

6. Tu \u00e9s aquele que d\u00e1 tudo de si.<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Cuidar dele \u00e9 o que tu fazes. Continua a dar sem receber nada em troca. Depois, sente-se zangado, ressentido ou aproveitado. Por vezes, ajudar e cuidar dos outros faz-nos sentir necess\u00e1rios e gostamos disso, mas outras vezes faz-nos sentir zangados e exaustos. Mas, na maior parte das vezes, n\u00e3o diz nada sobre isso e guarda tudo dentro de si.<\/p>\n

This behavior is just going to make you insane sooner or later. You have to take care of yourself first. You shouldn\u2019t feel like giving your best is a burden. Of course, it will be if your efforts are not reciprocated. You need to discover self-love and then find a man who will be willing to invest in a relationship as much as you do.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A very common cause of unhealthy relationships is codependency. The trouble with codependency is that it is something that is not easy to detect. People often seem to be unwilling to admit that they have it or they fail to recognize the symptoms. The best way to start is with determining what codependency actually is….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":10517,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10508","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/neil-fedorowycz-469549.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=10508"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10508\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/10517"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=10508"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=10508"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=10508"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}