{"id":105472,"date":"2020-10-23T13:53:57","date_gmt":"2020-10-23T13:53:57","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=105472"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:08:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:08:14","slug":"nao-quero-quimica-forcada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nao-quero-quimica-forcada\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o quero uma qu\u00edmica for\u00e7ada, quero uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o direta"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced?<\/em> I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked\u2026 or I thought I liked.<\/p>\n

It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn\u2019t feel genuine.<\/p>\n

You know, he didn\u2019t make me uncontrollably think about him.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t make me daydream of our potential dates or forget about that banana bread in the oven.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o havia nada que me fizesse querer imaginar a nossa futuro em conjunto<\/a> ou pensar nos nomes dos nossos filhos que n\u00e3o existem. E, sinceramente, isso incomodava-me.<\/p>\n

I know I\u2019m not 18 anymore and I know life isn\u2019t a fairytale \u2013 I\u2019m not being hysterical here \u2013 but knowing how unglamorous life is, IS the reason I want something extraordinary.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not talking about a perfect life, but genuine connection.<\/p>\n

Uma verdadeira compreens\u00e3o, uma obsess\u00e3o por ir ao fundo de algu\u00e9m que amamos porque nos fascina muito.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quero estud\u00e1-los como um livro religioso. Quero aprender a minha pessoa de cor.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m talking about the decis\u00e3o<\/em> not to get bored with someone because boredom only means you\u2019ve tomar algo como garantido<\/a>seja uma pessoa ou um dia pouco inspirador.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re bored, it means you\u2019re not paying attention.<\/p>\n

I witnessed some very magical things in my life and I know love is real, and that\u2019s why I will never give up, which brings me back to that something that bothered me in my last quase rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What bugged me most was probably the fact that I just didn\u2019t feel comfortable enough around him. It still bugs me.<\/p>\n

That doesn\u2019t mean one of us had done something wrong, just that there probably was no deeper connection.<\/p>\n

I believe my intuition wouldn\u2019t lie to me when it comes to this kind of stuff.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 o meu c\u00e9rebro estava a fazer perguntas como: Queres mesmo passar um n\u00famero desconhecido de anos da tua vida a sentir-te assim?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

My immediate answer was no. No, I don’t want to feel like a half-finished painting. I don\u2019t want to feel like I’m missing out.<\/p>\n

E sim, eu sei que o medo de ficar de fora \u00e9 uma doen\u00e7a dos dias de hoje, mas oi\u00e7am-me.<\/p>\n

If I’m about to share my life and my body with someone for the rest of my life, I want that connection to be raw.<\/p>\n

Sem filtros. Sem edi\u00e7\u00e3o, sem tabus, sem censura, sem vidro fosco.<\/p>\n

Quero que ele me veja como eu sou. Quero sentir-me suficientemente segura para agir de forma selvagem ou para ser completamente vulner\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Of course, there\u2019s that one part of me that tells me I need to lower my expectations, but then there\u2019s another that yells at me saying: Don\u2019t settle for less than YOU think you deserve.<\/em><\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, s\u00f3 temos uma vida, e embora esta afirma\u00e7\u00e3o por vezes pare\u00e7a uma press\u00e3o, outras vezes \u00e9 uma revela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

No, I don\u2019t want forced chemistry. I don\u2019t want something that\u2019s going to disappear after the fase de lua de mel<\/em>.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to constantly remind myself that \u201cthings could\u2019ve been worse.\u201d<\/p>\n

I want things to be \u201cworse\u201d and still feel completely content with my decision. I want to go through \u201cworse\u201d with the pessoa certa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

The raw connection is felt on the soul level. It\u2019s not calculated by how comfortable your life will be with someone.<\/p>\n

De facto, o conforto \u00e9 provavelmente o caminho mais r\u00e1pido para os sentimentos de insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Without challenges and growth, there\u2019s no real freedom \u2013 and freedom is love.<\/p>\n

Para sermos felizes, precisamos de experimentar o amor que desejamos<\/a>. Para experimentar o amor que desejamos, temos de ser aut\u00eanticos.<\/p>\n

Por outras palavras, \u00e9 preciso agir por si pr\u00f3prio para atrair quem o amar\u00e1 por isso.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s a raw connection.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s something you deserve and why you shouldn\u2019t stop saying to yourself: Don\u2019t settle for less<\/a><\/em>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Is it really chemistry if it’s forced? I thought to myself while I was revisiting the last conversation with the guy I liked\u2026 or I thought I liked. It’s not that there was something wrong with him, it’s just that it didn\u2019t feel genuine. You know, he didn\u2019t make me uncontrollably think about him. He…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":105508,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-105472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/I-Dont-Want-Forced-Chemistry-I-Want-Raw-Connection.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=105472"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105472\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105508"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=105472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=105472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=105472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}