{"id":105698,"date":"2020-10-22T17:57:36","date_gmt":"2020-10-22T17:57:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=105698"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:53","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:53","slug":"estou-pronto-para-me-comprometer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/estou-pronto-para-me-comprometer\/","title":{"rendered":"Estou pronto para me comprometer? Aparentemente n\u00e3o, e foi assim que eu soube"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se eu acreditava que estava pronta para me comprometer? Sim. Estava enganado? Tamb\u00e9m sim.<\/p>\n

This time, it really was me. I’m not trying to protect my ex but I need to be sincere and say that it really wasn’t him, it was me.<\/p>\n

All my life, I was this girl who couldn’t wait to fall in love and commit to a man who\u2019d love me back even more but then… poof.<\/em><\/p>\n

Todos esses sonhos se desfizeram como se nunca tivessem existido.<\/em><\/p>\n

Antes de mais, tenho de pedir desculpa por ter desiludido e magoado um homem que me amava sinceramente.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry, it wasn’t on purpose, it’s just… it took me a while to understand that I’m really not ready to commit yet.<\/p>\n

If you’re worried that you might have the same quest\u00f5es de empenhamento<\/a>bem-vindo ao clube<\/em> e ver estes sinais que me ajudaram muito a perceber como as coisas realmente s\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Sempre questionando a rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Apesar de ter sentimentos muito fortes pelo meu ex-namorado, nunca tive a certeza de que ele era o homem com quem queria estar para o resto da minha vida.<\/p>\n

A nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o era boa e saud\u00e1vel, mas eu estava sempre a question\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n

Nunca tive a certeza dos seus sentimentos, apesar de ele me ter provado tantas vezes que eram sinceros.<\/p>\n

Afterward, I concluded that there was absolutely nothing wrong with him, nor our relationship; the real problem was that I wasn’t ready for a relationship.<\/p>\n

Abrir-me com o meu parceiro era demasiado dif\u00edcil<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

I was always saying that any man I dated had to also be my best friend. That’s really important for the relationship.<\/p>\n

Deve ter a certeza de que acredita no seu parceiro e que pode falar com ele sobre tudo, mas mesmo tudo, desde os momentos mais bonitos da sua vida at\u00e9 aos mais negros.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, I realized that he wasn’t my best friend because I was never able to fully open up to him.<\/p>\n

Again, that wasn’t his fault because he was a really good man, the issue was my hidden medo de se comprometer<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As conversas sobre o nosso futuro estiveram sempre fora dos limites<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Believe me, he tried so many times to have ‘the talk’ about our relationship with me. But I successfully avoided it every time.<\/p>\n

Utilizei sempre algumas desculpas s\u00f3 porque tinha consci\u00eancia de que n\u00e3o estava preparada para ficar amarrada<\/strong> and I really didn’t want to hurt his feelings.<\/p>\n

I now know it was wrong because now he thinks that I was just stringing him along, which really isn’t the truth.<\/p>\n

Nunca o envolvi nos meus planos para o futuro<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Well, maybe I didn’t want to make any future plans with him but I had so many for myself. I had so many dreams and goals for the future.<\/p>\n

The thing is, I never involved him in any of those, like I always knew that it was not going to work and that we wouldn\u2019t stay together.<\/p>\n

It’s another way that my inner voice was telling me that I wasn’t ready for that kind of relationship, to commit, but I hadn\u2019t wanted to hear it for so long unfortunately.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Criticar constantemente o meu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7\u00e1mos a discutir at\u00e9 por causa de pequenas coisas e, para ser sincero, fui eu que comecei todas essas discuss\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o importava o que ele fazia ou como se comportava, eu estava constantemente a critic\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Now when I think about it, I only wanted to make him break up with me so I didn’t have to do it myself.<\/p>\n

You may think that it’s a little bit selfish but I really wanted to make it less painful for him.<\/p>\n

Pedi demasiado espa\u00e7o pessoal<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s precisamos algum espa\u00e7o pessoal<\/a> when we’re in a relationship<\/em> mas eu pedi demasiado.<\/p>\n

Eu era mais feliz quando estava sozinha do que quando est\u00e1vamos juntos.<\/p>\n

Compreendo que foi assim que comecei a afastar-me cada vez mais do meu ex.<\/p>\n

I’m so sorry for not understanding all these signs sooner because I made it all more painful for both of us.<\/p>\n

The word ‘compromise’ wasn’t in my vocabulary<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Estava consciente, e continuo a estar, de que o compromisso \u00e9 essencial se ambos os parceiros quiserem que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o seja bem sucedida.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, nunca estive disposta a comprometer-me em nada com o meu ex.<\/p>\n

I had my own opinions about things and my own way of how things should be done and I didn’t want to change them for him.<\/p>\n

That’s the main reason we had so many disagreements in our relationship.<\/p>\n

A nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o nunca foi a minha principal prioridade<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A minha fam\u00edlia e todos os meus amigos foram sempre mais importantes do que o meu ex-companheiro. Foi muito errado da minha parte, porque a pessoa que amamos deve ser sempre a nossa primeira prioridade prioridade na vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t because I wanted to hurt him or anything like that, I just didn’t want to commit so I knew that our relationship wouldn\u2019t last for the rest of our lives.<\/p>\n

We all have the right to live the life we want and do the things we like. If you don’t want to be tied down, don’t.<\/p>\n

The worst decision you could make is to accept to spend your life with someone just because you\u2019ve been dating for some time but the truth is that you don’t actually want to commit to anyone.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Did I believe I was ready to commit? Yes. Was I wrong? Also yes. This time, it really was me. I’m not trying to protect my ex but I need to be sincere and say that it really wasn’t him, it was me. All my life, I was this girl who couldn’t wait to fall…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":105724,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29645],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-105698","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-being-single"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29645,"label":"being single"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Am-I-Ready-To-Commit_-Apparently-Not-And-This-Is-How-I-Knew.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29645,"name":"being single","slug":"being-single","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29645,"taxonomy":"category","description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","parent":29643,"count":114,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29645,"category_count":114,"category_description":"How to rock being single? Or how to (and why you should) stop worrying about what others will think of your love status? Here's exactly how.","cat_name":"being single","category_nicename":"being-single","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105698","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=105698"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105698\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/105724"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=105698"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=105698"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=105698"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}