{"id":10576,"date":"2020-08-19T13:23:57","date_gmt":"2020-08-19T13:23:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=10576"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:35:42","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:35:42","slug":"namorar-uma-rapariga-que-sobreviveu-a-maus-tratos-fisicos-saber","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/namorar-uma-rapariga-que-sobreviveu-a-maus-tratos-fisicos-saber\/","title":{"rendered":"Antes de sair com uma rapariga que sobreviveu a abusos f\u00edsicos, saiba isto"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Sair com uma rapariga assim n\u00e3o ser\u00e1 nada f\u00e1cil. Ter\u00e1 de ir mais longe e provar-lhe que a ama e que nunca a ir\u00e1 magoar.<\/p>\n<p>Ela passou por tantas coisas m\u00e1s nas suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas e o que ela deseja agora \u00e9 <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/meet-catch-and-keep\/201405\/6-sure-signs-healthy-relationship\" rel=\"noopener\">uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1vel e saud\u00e1vel<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, se tiveres a sorte de conhecer uma rapariga como ela, com um cora\u00e7\u00e3o puro e bom, aqui est\u00e3o algumas coisas a que deves prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">She can\u2019t change her past<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102360\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste junto ao muro\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-standing-by-the-wall-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Her past is a part of her and no matter how much she has tried to forget it, she won\u2019t be able to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Demons from her past will always be there to remind her that she didn\u2019t have luck with love and that it is better not to try to love again.<\/p>\n<p>But one thing is for sure\u2014she wasn\u2019t guilty of any of the things that she has been through.<\/p>\n<p>Ela foi apenas uma v\u00edtima de um homem que usou os seus punhos para lhe mostrar que era ele quem mandava.<\/p>\n<p>E mesmo que encontre um homem carinhoso e atencioso, ter\u00e1 sempre medo que ele mude e se transforme no seu ex.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, fa\u00e7as o que fizeres, d\u00e1-lhe tempo, porque o tempo cura tudo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"reset\"><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">She won\u2019t trust you at first<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102361\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher s\u00e9ria a olhar para um homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-looking-at-man-1-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A girl like this will have trust issues at the beginning. She won\u2019t be able to open up to you totally until she realizes that she can trust you.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, se queres mesmo fazer parte da vida dela, ter\u00e1s de lhe mostrar que ela pode ver em ti um amigo.<\/p>\n<p>Show her that not all men are the same and that someone\u2019s, \u201cBitch, I will kill you,\u201d is another man\u2019s, \u201cI have been waiting for you all my life.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Saiba que a confian\u00e7a tem de ser conquistada, por isso seja paciente e lembre-a de como ela \u00e9 fant\u00e1stica todos os dias.<\/p>\n<p>A verdade \u00e9 que ela precisa de um homem que a ame para que possa finalmente deixar de pensar que n\u00e3o \u00e9 am\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">O contacto f\u00edsico \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para ela<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102362\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man.jpg\" alt=\"mulher s\u00e9ria a falar com homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/serious-woman-talking-to-man-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A girl like this finds it hard to develop any physical contact. She is still living in her past and she doesn\u2019t know if you will hit her or hug her when you reach your hands toward her.<\/p>\n<p>Ela continua a viver com um medo tremendo de que todos os homens s\u00e3o abusadores e que \u00e9 apenas uma quest\u00e3o de tempo at\u00e9 que <a href=\"http:\/\/www.telegraph.co.uk\/women\/life\/i-abused-my-girlfriend-but-ive-seen-the-error-of-my-ways-how-do\/\" rel=\"noopener\">come\u00e7ar a abusar dela<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The best thing you can do is to give her time and don\u2019t push anything.<\/p>\n<p>No in\u00edcio, basta apertar-lhe a m\u00e3o. Deixe-a decidir quando vai dar o pr\u00f3ximo passo e agir como se tudo estivesse normal.<\/p>\n<p>No final, tudo est\u00e1 normal, mas ela \u00e9 t\u00e3o fr\u00e1gil que pode desmoronar-se perante o mais simples problema.<\/p>\n<p>Se a ama, mostre-lhe que est\u00e1 disposto a dar-lhe todo o tempo do mundo para decidir se o aceita.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">Ela vai ter medo<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102363\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/scared-woman-looking-at-distance.jpg\" alt=\"mulher assustada a olhar para longe\" width=\"800\" height=\"532\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/scared-woman-looking-at-distance.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/scared-woman-looking-at-distance-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/scared-woman-looking-at-distance-768x511.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/scared-woman-looking-at-distance-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ela j\u00e1 passou por tantas coisas m\u00e1s no passado. O seu ex era um homem que lhe chamava nomes e que lhe batia at\u00e9 ela desmaiar.<\/p>\n<p>Uma rapariga como esta esteve tantas vezes no limite da sua vida, mas continuava de p\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p>De toda esta confus\u00e3o, ela saiu vencedora porque foi suficientemente corajosa para p\u00f4r fim \u00e0 sua vida anterior e come\u00e7ou um novo cap\u00edtulo da sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>All those scars and cracks in her heart are still present so don\u2019t be surprised when you see her looking around herself in a public place because she thinks her ex is stalking her.<\/p>\n<p>Trata-se apenas de uma rea\u00e7\u00e3o normal e ela precisa de algum tempo para voltar a agir normalmente.<\/p>\n<p>What you can do is tell her that she doesn\u2019t need to worry because you are there now to protect her from anything bad that can happen.<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">Ela acha que ningu\u00e9m a vai amar de novo<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102364\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada em sil\u00eancio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/sad-woman-sitting-in-silence-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Uma rapariga assim acha que est\u00e1 quebrada ao ponto de ningu\u00e9m querer estar com ela para o resto da vida.<\/p>\n<p>Na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o abusiva <a href=\"https:\/\/goodmenproject.com\/featured-content\/seven-signs-you-are-a-victim-of-gaslighting-fiff\/\" rel=\"noopener\">ela foi iluminada a g\u00e1s<\/a>, chamou nomes e magoou-se fisicamente.<\/p>\n<p>She didn\u2019t feel loved at all and that was all that she has ever wanted. She is still in a state of shock because she can\u2019t believe that the man who swore that he loved her caused her so much pain.<\/p>\n<p>Por causa de todas estas coisas, ela pensa que est\u00e1 completamente estragada e que ningu\u00e9m quer consertar uma rapariga estragada.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s why she doesn\u2019t have a hope of love anymore. So, show her that no matter how broken she is, that you are willing to fix her and be with her during her healing process.<\/p>\n<p>Show her what she craved the most in her past relationship\u2014that she is worthy!<\/p>\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">Ela sabe que merece mais<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102365\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window.jpg\" alt=\"mulher bonita a olhar pela janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/beautiful-woman-looking-through-window-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A girl like this can\u2019t accept the fact that she deserved all those nasty things that she has been through.<\/p>\n<p>No fundo, tem esperan\u00e7a de encontrar um homem que a ame com todos os seus defeitos.<\/p>\n<p>No fundo, ela deseja algu\u00e9m que seja a sua cara-metade, a sua melhor amiga e a sua amante.<\/p>\n<p>Depois de tudo o que passou, ainda tem uma pequena esperan\u00e7a de que as coisas se possam inclinar a seu favor, para variar.<\/p>\n<p>Ela foi espancada at\u00e9 \u00e0 morte emocional tantas vezes, por isso s\u00f3 um bocadinho de respeito significa muito para ela.<\/p>\n<p>Ela sabe que a vida que tinha era uma vida doente e agora que finalmente se livrou dela, quer viver a sua vida ao m\u00e1ximo.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, mostre-lhe que ainda h\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a para ela e d\u00ea-lhe todo o amor que ela desejou durante tantos anos.<\/p>\n<p>Depois de a conheceres verdadeiramente, ver\u00e1s que valeu a pena esperar por uma rapariga como esta!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-102457\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Antes de sair com uma rapariga que sobreviveu a abusos f\u00edsicos, saiba isto\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Dating a girl like this won\u2019t be a simple thing at all. You will have to go the extra mile and prove to her that you love her and that you will never hurt her. She has gone through so many bad things in her past relationships and what she craves now is a stable&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":56,"featured_media":102366,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-10576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/12\/Before-Dating-A-Girl-Who-Survived-Physical-Abuse-Know-This.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Katie Burns","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/katie\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? 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