{"id":107224,"date":"2020-10-28T16:03:46","date_gmt":"2020-10-28T16:03:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=107224"},"modified":"2022-10-23T08:57:32","modified_gmt":"2022-10-23T08:57:32","slug":"como-separar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-separar\/","title":{"rendered":"Como se separar do seu c\u00f4njuge sem dor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Por vezes, por muito que ambos os c\u00f4njuges tentem salvar o casamento, o div\u00f3rcio acaba por parecer a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Agora, a verdadeira quest\u00e3o \u00e9 como se separar do seu parceiro da forma mais indolor poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Para ser sincero, n\u00e3o existe uma forma indolor de o fazer. A separa\u00e7\u00e3o conjugal \u00e9 um acontecimento emocional muito dif\u00edcil para ambos os c\u00f4njuges.<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00e3o muitas as raz\u00f5es que levam os casais a divorciarem-se. Um dos c\u00f4njuges pode deixar de amar o outro ou a paix\u00e3o pode ter abandonado o casamento; a raz\u00e3o \u00e9 irrelevante.<\/p>\n

One partner will always be hurt in the end and that’s why you have to be very careful and gentle when you decide to tell them that you want a divorce.<\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe you don’t love your spouse anymore but you did once for sure because otherwise you wouldn’t have married them in the first place.<\/p>\n

Provavelmente ainda te preocupas com os seus sentimentos e deves faz\u00ea-lo.<\/strong> Se eles ainda sentem algo por si, se ainda o amam da mesma forma, deve ser paciente e ajud\u00e1-los a lidar com o div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

9 dicas sobre como se separar do seu c\u00f4njuge<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Se quer saber como se separar de forma saud\u00e1vel ou como fazer com que a sua separa\u00e7\u00e3o decorra da melhor forma poss\u00edvel, continue a ler abaixo para obter alguns conselhos eficazes.<\/p>\n

Aceitar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Antes de mais, \u00e9 preciso aceitar as coisas como elas s\u00e3o. Infelizmente, algumas coisas est\u00e3o fora do nosso controlo na vida e s\u00f3 temos de fazer as pazes com isso, aceit\u00e1-lo e seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

One of those things is your divorce. If you’ve really tried hard to save your marriage and it didn’t work, you must just accept that a separation is inevitable and try to deal with it the best way you can.<\/p>\n

I don’t want to lie to you, it’s not going to be easy. It’ll hurt, it’ll emotionally drain you and it’ll hurt other people you care about too.<\/p>\n

Still, you have to come to terms with the fact that your marriage is over because the sooner you accept it, the sooner you’ll heal and move on with your life.<\/p>\n

Por isso, sente-se e tenha uma conversa honesta consigo pr\u00f3prio. Limpe os seus pensamentos. Pense no seu casamento como um ve\u00edculo que o conduziu numa bela viagem que, infelizmente, chegou ao fim.<\/p>\n

Agora tem de sair desse ve\u00edculo e continuar a sua viagem sem o passageiro, o seu c\u00f4njuge.<\/p>\n

Ser confiante \u00e9 importante<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Okay, you made the decision and now you have to stick to it. There is no going back. You must show that you’re confident and that you really think that divorce is the best option for everyone involved.<\/p>\n

Your spouse will probably be hurt by your decision but not even that should make you change it. I know it’s difficult to see the person you once loved suffering but you must stand behind your decisions.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 preciso olhar para si pr\u00f3prio e para os seus pr\u00f3prios sentimentos.<\/p>\n

If you haven’t been happy for a long time in that marriage, then moving on in different directions is probably the best decision because you also deserve to find your own happiness.<\/p>\n

Don’t allow other people to affect your decision<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This is how you’ll also show that you’re confident and that you really mean that you’ll stick to your decision until the end.<\/p>\n

A sua fam\u00edlia, os seus amigos, o seu c\u00f4njuge e a fam\u00edlia dele tentar\u00e3o provavelmente faz\u00ea-lo mudar de decis\u00e3o, mas permitir que o fa\u00e7am seria um grande erro.<\/p>\n

Yes, that’s how you would probably make a lot of people happy but in the end, you would still stay miserable.<\/p>\n

You can’t share your life with someone just because you don’t want to hurt them or some other people that mean something to you.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica raz\u00e3o para casar e permanecer casado com algu\u00e9m TEM de ser o amor. Um casamento saud\u00e1vel \u00e9 aquele que se baseia apenas no amor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Seja honesto com o seu c\u00f4njuge<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Antes de procurar aconselhamento junto de um especialista em direito da fam\u00edlia ou de um advogado especializado em div\u00f3rcios, deve primeiro falar com o seu c\u00f4njuge.<\/strong> Provavelmente j\u00e1 sabem o que decidiu, mas mesmo assim merecem ouvi-lo da sua boca.<\/p>\n

It’s going to be difficult to tell them that you want to divorce but it’s really inevitable. If you made that decision, you probably had some good reasons and now you just have to stick to it.<\/p>\n

Pe\u00e7a-lhes que se sentem e que o ou\u00e7am. Diga-lhes o quanto eles ainda significam para si e o quanto os estima e tudo o que conseguiram juntos no vosso casamento.<\/p>\n

Diga-lhe que pensou muito sobre o assunto e que acha mesmo que o div\u00f3rcio \u00e9 a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o para ambos.<\/p>\n

Remind them of all the effort you both put into saving your marriage but it just didn’t work because some things can’t be repaired after all.<\/p>\n

Ouvir atentamente o que eles t\u00eam para dizer<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Depois de terminar a conversa, d\u00ea-lhes a oportunidade de partilharem as suas opini\u00f5es sobre a sua decis\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you have had problems for some time in your marriage and couldn’t solve them, they will probably agree with a divorce.<\/p>\n

However, they also might not handle it too well so be prepared for that too. Maybe they still love you the same and they thought it was just a crisis and how you\u2019d handle it together and save your marriage.<\/p>\n

If you have kids, your partner might be worried about how they’ll take your divorce and they may ask you to try once more to fix your marriage for the sake of your children.<\/p>\n

Then you’ll have to explain how the divorce would also be best for your kids because listening to your fights every day is way worse for them than knowing that you\u2019re getting a divorce.<\/p>\n

In the end, make sure your partner knows that you’ll always be there for them as a friend and that you’ll stay a devoted parent to your kids too.<\/p>\n

Aguardar o fim do per\u00edodo de separa\u00e7\u00e3o obrigat\u00f3ria<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

If you live in a state that requires all couples to go through a separation or waiting period before they file for divorce, you’ll have to respect that because it’s the law.<\/p>\n

Este per\u00edodo de espera \u00e9 por vezes ben\u00e9fico para os casais, mas por vezes \u00e9 mais prejudicial do que ben\u00e9fico.<\/p>\n

For some, it’s a chance to reconcile and save their marriage because after they live alone for that particular time, without their spouse, they realize that thinking about divorce was a mistake and they get back together and actually save their marriage.<\/p>\n

No entanto, para outros, apenas atrasa o div\u00f3rcio e as coisas complicam-se ainda mais. Cria novos problemas entre eles e torna tudo ainda pior.<\/p>\n

Of course, you won’t have to wait and go through this mandatory separation period if the motive for your divorce is domestic violence or something even more serious.<\/p>\n

In those cases, you’ll be able to file for divorce immediately.<\/p>\n

Procurar aconselhamento jur\u00eddico<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Even if you do agree about everything, you’ll still need some advice from a family law professional. They’ll have to draft the final agreement.<\/p>\n

If you can’t agree over the property or custody, or even who’ll pay the divorce fee or some other costs, you’ll definitely need to hire an attorney and ask them to give you legal advice to help you.<\/p>\n

Sometimes one spouse wants a divorce while the other one disagrees with it and that’s when you’ll definitely need to hire an attorney because you’ll probably have to go to the family court and finalize your divorce there.<\/p>\n

Um bom advogado de div\u00f3rcio dar-lhe-\u00e1 conselhos sobre a divis\u00e3o do patrim\u00f3nio conjugal e das suas finan\u00e7as; por exemplo, se deve ou n\u00e3o ter novas contas banc\u00e1rias e cart\u00f5es de cr\u00e9dito e como finalizar o acordo de cust\u00f3dia.<\/p>\n

Tentar chegar a um acordo de separa\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu c\u00f4njuge<\/h2>\n

\"m\u00e3os<\/p>\n

Try to make an agreement with your spouse because trust me, it’s in everyone’s best interest. There is no time for anger now.<\/p>\n

Tem de pensar nos seus filhos e nas outras pessoas que lhe s\u00e3o pr\u00f3ximas. Saia dessa situa\u00e7\u00e3o, sente-se com o seu parceiro e fale com ele sobre o que fazer a seguir.<\/p>\n

D\u00ea ao seu parceiro algum tempo para aceitar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e, quando as coisas acalmarem, pe\u00e7a-lhe para falar.<\/p>\n

Um acordo de separa\u00e7\u00e3o conjugal abrange tudo, desde os bens materiais e financeiros at\u00e9 \u00e0 guarda dos filhos e \u00e0 pens\u00e3o de alimentos.<\/strong> That’s why it’s important to finalize it as soon as possible.<\/p>\n

Don’t run away from your responsibilities<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You lived with your partner for a period of your life and you’ve probably created so many beautiful memories and made a good life together.<\/p>\n

You owe them a fair divorce. Respect the final court order. If your partner doesn’t work or you’re financially more stable, you have to agree on spousal support.<\/p>\n

If you have kids, you’ll have to agree with your partner about a parenting plan.<\/p>\n

If you agree on joint custody, which is often the best option for your kids, you’ll have to pay alimony or child support if you’re the parent with a higher income.<\/p>\n

Quando se trata de partilhar os bens e rendimentos acumulados durante o casamento, deve dividi-los equitativamente com o seu c\u00f4njuge. Ele merece metade de tudo o que ganharam e adquiriram enquanto estiveram juntos.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 15 ideias para festas de div\u00f3rcio para o capacitar e preparar para a sua nova vida<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

6 coisas a considerar antes de decidir separar-se<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Seria muito errado da minha parte dizer que deve refletir sobre a sua decis\u00e3o, porque sei que j\u00e1 o fez, demasiadas vezes.<\/p>\n

And it’s still the same; your marriage has come to an end and you just have to go your separate ways and live separate lives.<\/p>\n

No entanto, aconselho-o sinceramente a refletir mais uma vez sobre os v\u00e1rios aspectos que se seguem antes de pedir o div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

Tem a certeza absoluta de que se quer divorciar do seu c\u00f4njuge?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a de tentar resolver as coisas com o seu c\u00f4njuge? O div\u00f3rcio \u00e9 realmente a melhor op\u00e7\u00e3o para ambos?<\/p>\n

Maybe you have just a marital crisis and there is a way to fix it and save your marriage. Think about it seriously. Don’t make such a huge decision too fast.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se pode voltar atr\u00e1s depois do div\u00f3rcio. Trata-se de um assunto muito s\u00e9rio e \u00e9 preciso ter a certeza absoluta de que \u00e9 isso que se quer.<\/em><\/p>\n

Pensar numa separa\u00e7\u00e3o judicial em vez de div\u00f3rcio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Your family law professional will probably offer you this option too. It’s very similar to divorce but you actually remain in the marriage.<\/p>\n

So, even though you’re living separate lives, you’re still legally married and the child care remains the same as it was while you were actually living together.<\/p>\n

A separa\u00e7\u00e3o judicial tem os seus pr\u00f3s e contras, como \u00e9 \u00f3bvio. Antes de tomar qualquer decis\u00e3o, deve consultar o seu advogado e informar-se sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a de salvar o vosso casamento?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If there is really any hope that you may work things out, you shouldn’t give up on your marriage yet.<\/p>\n

Maybe you’re just going through some rough patches and you may later regret giving up without fighting because strong people don’t ever do that.<\/p>\n

Pense nos seus filhos e fa\u00e7a o que pensa ser melhor para eles<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Your kids are the most important factor in this situation. They’re the ones who are suffering the most, so try to keep things simple and don’t allow them to see that there are some problems between their parents.<\/p>\n

Pense neles e no que seria melhor para eles. Quer continuem casados ou n\u00e3o, os vossos filhos devem ser sempre a vossa principal prioridade e devem manter rela\u00e7\u00f5es amig\u00e1veis por causa deles.<\/p>\n

You won’t only lose your lover, you’ll also lose your best friend<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you’ve been married for some time, then you can’t look at your partner just as your spouse, they are also your best friend. You shared your life with them so they’re definitely the person who knows you best.<\/p>\n

A sua vida vai mudar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 um facto e tem de o aceitar. Muitas coisas na sua vida v\u00e3o mudar. O div\u00f3rcio pode afetar a sua vida pessoal, a sua autoestima e a sua vida social.<\/p>\n

But don’t fall into despair. It doesn’t mean that the divorce is a mistake. That whole range of emotions you\u2019ll be feeling will pass after some time and you’ll be able to move on.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Eu e o meu marido estamos separados e ele est\u00e1 a namorar: 6 Dicas<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Como aliviar a dor da separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

As I’ve already said, there is no painless way to end a marriage or a relationship. Sometimes a divorce can be so devastating for one spouse and it may take them years to fully recover and heal.<\/p>\n

No entanto, aqui est\u00e3o algumas formas de aliviar a dor ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Tire algum tempo para si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s normal that the divorce process emotionally drains you. You’ll even feel overwhelmed at moments. So, the first thing you have to do is take some time for yourself.<\/p>\n

You need to be alone so you can process everything that happened. You need to find a way to deal with your emotions in a healthy way. That’s why you need peace, you need to be alone with your thoughts and emotions.<\/p>\n

Don’t jump into a new relationship<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t shut off from the rest of the world. Go out and hang out with your friends, it’s really not the end of the world. You should even meet some new people.<\/p>\n

However, even if you meet someone new and if you feel some kind of chemistry between you, you shouldn’t start dating that person immediately.<\/p>\n

Tem de dar a si pr\u00f3prio algum tempo para processar tudo o que aconteceu e para lidar com todas as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es avassaladoras.<\/p>\n

If you jump into a new relationship too soon, it’s probably not going to work.<\/p>\n

That relationship won\u2019t be successful because you didn’t give yourself time to heal from the emotional baggage that was left after your divorce.<\/p>\n

Manter-se positivo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Divorce is painful, exhausting, emotionally overwhelming… but you must know that you aren’t the only person who is going through all of that.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas pessoas que j\u00e1 passaram por um per\u00edodo t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil da sua vida e que se curaram e seguiram em frente.<\/p>\n

You’ll do the same. Your divorce will stay in the past but you\u2019ll always have some beautiful memories with your ex-spouse to cherish forever.<\/p>\n

Think about all the good things you’ve done in your marriage. Think about all of the achievements you earned because you had support from your ex-partner.<\/p>\n

Remember only the good things and think positively. Now is not the time to regret the past, it’s time for the future.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a alguns planos para o seu futuro e aproveite para voltar a ser solteiro.<\/p>\n

Obter ajuda de um profissional<\/h2>\n

\"terapeuta<\/p>\n

The thing is that you shouldn’t go through all of it alone. If you don’t have a good friend or someone who’s a good listener and who knows to keep secrets, you can seek a professional\u2019s help.<\/p>\n

It’s not uncommon after a breakup, especially after a divorce, for someone to start visiting a psychiatrist or therapist.<\/p>\n

We need someone who’ll help us get through that tough period.<\/p>\n

You’ll feel a range of emotions and it’s very difficult to cope with all of it alone. A professional will help you cope with it in a healthy way so you can leave it all behind as soon as possible.<\/p>\n

Para terminar<\/h2>\n

If things haven\u2019t been going well between you and your spouse for a while, don’t immediately start thinking about divorce. If there is any chance for it, try to save your marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mesmo que se decida divorciar, \u00e9 preciso ter muito cuidado com a forma de separa\u00e7\u00e3o. You don’t want to hurt the feelings of the person who once meant so much to you and with whom you spent so much time, right?<\/em><\/p>\n

Antes de procurar aconselhamento jur\u00eddico sobre o div\u00f3rcio, deve falar com o seu c\u00f4njuge sobre o assunto, porque ele merece saber primeiro. Deve-lhe pelo menos isso.<\/p>\n

The marriage separation process can last a very long time if the partners can’t make an agreement by themselves about the kids, child support or spousal support.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pode esgotar-nos e pode afetar muito os filhos, porque eles sentir\u00e3o que o ambiente entre os pais \u00e9 muito intenso.<\/p>\n

You don’t need it, nor do your kids. You must show understanding for each other now more than ever and reach an agreement together.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o, n\u00e3o existe uma forma indolor de passar por um div\u00f3rcio, mas deve tentar torn\u00e1-lo o menos doloroso poss\u00edvel. Cheguem a um acordo para os vossos filhos e continuem amigos ap\u00f3s a separa\u00e7\u00e3o, para que possam continuar a cri\u00e1-los juntos.<\/p>\n

There is no point in overthinking and regretting any things that you can’t change.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recomponha-se, aprecie as recorda\u00e7\u00f5es que criou com o seu futuro ex-c\u00f4njuge, encontre uma li\u00e7\u00e3o nestes momentos dif\u00edceis da sua vida e siga em frente.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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