{"id":111708,"date":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","date_gmt":"2020-11-09T13:04:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=111708"},"modified":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","modified_gmt":"2022-02-27T03:28:07","slug":"como-comecar-a-gostar-de-si-proprio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-comecar-a-gostar-de-si-proprio\/","title":{"rendered":"Como come\u00e7ar a amar-se a si pr\u00f3prio de 10 formas revolucion\u00e1rias"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>O amor \u00e9 a emo\u00e7\u00e3o mais bela de todas. No entanto, por mais espantoso que seja ter um cora\u00e7\u00e3o aberto para com os outros, a quest\u00e3o mais importante do mundo \u00e9: como come\u00e7ar a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios?<\/p>\n<p>When you have a hard time caring about yourself, nothing else in your life can go right. You have zero self-confidence, you feel no security and at the end of the day, you don&#8217;t live a happy life.<\/p>\n<p>Toda a gente fala disso. Para onde quer que olhemos, lemos e ouvimos coisas que nos recordam a import\u00e2ncia do amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>So, you&#8217;re perfectly aware that you have to start giving yourself more love. However, nobody actually tells you how to start loving yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Bem, ningu\u00e9m exceto n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n<p>Aqui est\u00e1 um guia passo a passo da sua jornada de amor-pr\u00f3prio e a resposta \u00e0 pergunta <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aprender-a-amarmo-nos-a-nos-proprios\/\">como amar a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> mais.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Esque\u00e7a a ideia de ser perfeccionista<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111714 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair.jpg\" alt=\"mulher feliz com \u00f3culos sentada num chiar\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-chair-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The number one reason why most people don\u2019t love truly themselves is the fact that they&#8217;re perfectionists.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t misunderstand me; trying to improve yourself and putting effort into your own personal development and personal growth is admirable.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que nunca nos podemos tornar perfeitos, por mais que tentemos, por isso, por favor, paremos de esperar que sejamos os melhores em tudo o que fazemos.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, there is no such thing as being perfect. You\u2019re just a human being made of flesh and blood, just like any other person in this world.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Todos n\u00f3s temos o nosso conjunto de defeitos e n\u00e3o vale a pena stressar com cada um deles.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Afinal de contas, o que \u00e9 que significa ser perfeito? Ser\u00e1 que tu ou qualquer outra pessoa neste mundo tem a mesma vis\u00e3o da perfei\u00e7\u00e3o? Aposto que n\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The thing is that you have to stop wasting your precious energy on trying to achieve something that is unattainable. Go easy on yourself and don\u2019t try going on a wild goose chase.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of focusing on poor choices, concentrate on all the things you have done well. Stop looking for your own flaws and start observing yourself as someone worthy of everyone\u2019s admiration.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Auto-aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111719 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall.jpg\" alt=\"mulher loira com cabelo encaracolado junto a uma parede\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself or how to love yourself more, firstly, you have to accept your true self. Before anything else, begin with knowing who you really are.<\/p>\n<p>What are the parts of you that you truly consider to be yours? What are the traits others imposed on you but you\u2019ve actually never accepted? Who are you and who do you want to be? How do you see yourself?<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9s a pessoa que quiseste ser durante toda a tua vida? Mais importante ainda, que tipo de pessoa gostaria de ser se tudo dependesse de si?<\/p>\n<p>Well, guess, what? It all really does depend on you. In fact, you\u2019re the only person who needs to accept all of your qualities and flaws.<\/p>\n<p><strong>To practice self-love is about self-acceptance. It&#8217;s not denying any parts of your personality.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You know how you don\u2019t laugh as loud as you would just because your partner doesn\u2019t like it? How you stopped wearing that colorful shirt just because your family thought it wasn\u2019t appropriate?<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s about time to stop pretending to be someone you\u2019re not. Dig deep inside of you and <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/recordar-rapariga-coracao-partido\/\">recordar a rapariga ou o rapaz que costumava ser<\/a>. Ame as suas imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es da mesma forma que ama os seus lados bons. Sabe porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n<p>Because they all form one amazing person\u2014YOU.<\/p>\n<p>Remember: you\u2019re one of a kind. In a million years, there won\u2019t be someone the same as you so what\u2019s there not to love about this uniqueness?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Forget about society&#8217;s validation<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111720 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de top branco de p\u00e9 na relva\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Now that you\u2019ve done the hard part, it\u2019s time to stop comparing yourself to others as well. Guess what? You\u2019ll never please everyone around you so you might just as well stop trying. This is one of the best recipes for an <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/vida-mais-facil\/\">vida mais f\u00e1cil<\/a>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>If your parents don\u2019t see you as good enough, they\u2019ll never appreciate you or see your worth, regardless of how much effort you put into trying to change their opinion.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, you might be the best possible person to them but maybe your partner has some expectations you can\u2019t seem to fulfill.<\/p>\n<p>A conclus\u00e3o \u00e9 que, independentemente do que fizermos, haver\u00e1 sempre algu\u00e9m que nos dir\u00e1 que devemos fazer as coisas de forma diferente.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The truth is that you can spend your entire life worrying about other people\u2019s opinions but even then, you won\u2019t change them and you won\u2019t succeed in making everyone love you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The first thing you have to do if you plan on forgetting about unrealistic society\u2019s expectations is to get rid of all of your social media accounts.<\/p>\n<p>Se isso for imposs\u00edvel, por favor, pelo menos, compreenda que quase tudo no Facebook e no Instagram \u00e9 falso.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111728 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a olhar para o telem\u00f3vel enquanto est\u00e1 sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-phone-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, I know exactly how you feel. You go on your news feed and you automatically get the impression that all your friends are better in this game called life.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re of a certain age, you\u2019re expected to have it all figured out. It seems that everyone has graduated, started a family, has a happy love life and so on. Everyone except you.<\/p>\n<p>Toda a gente est\u00e1 a viajar, a ir ao gin\u00e1sio, a perder peso e a viver a sua melhor vida. Todos menos voc\u00ea.<\/p>\n<p>Naturalmente, quando nos comparamos com os outros, vemo-nos como o maior fracasso de sempre. Sabe porque \u00e9 que isso acontece?<\/p>\n<p>Because you keep limiting yourself by what is expected of you. You don\u2019t go after your desires; you\u2019re trying to fulfill society\u2019s standards.<\/p>\n<p>Who told you that there is a certain age by which you have to have a steady job? Who says that you have to get married? That\u2019s right, nobody. So please, forget about this nonsense and live your life the way you want.<\/p>\n<p>Afinal, o objetivo \u00e9 fazer-se feliz a si pr\u00f3prio, n\u00e3o \u00e0 sociedade.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Abra\u00e7ar a gratid\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111722 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench.jpg\" alt=\"mulher feliz sentada num banco perto de um campo de tulipas\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-bench-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Knowing this, you\u2019re probably wondering what the key to happiness is. Well, nobody can give you a concrete answer to this question but I can guarantee that gratitude is one of the most important ways to get there.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 primeira vista, pode pensar-se que as pessoas mais felizes t\u00eam tudo, mas posso dizer-lhe que a verdade \u00e9 bem diferente. Pelo contr\u00e1rio, as pessoas mais felizes s\u00e3o apenas gratas por tudo o que t\u00eam.<\/p>\n<p>After all, nobody has it all, therefore what you should do is embrace gratitude. I promise you that once you do, you\u2019ll grow to love your own life more and eventually, you&#8217;ll start this self-love journey.<\/p>\n<p>Most of the time, you\u2019re focused on the bad things around you. Well, for a change, try and look at things from a different perspective.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe you can\u2019t save enough money to decorate your house but hey, at least you have a home, don\u2019t you? Maybe you are not happy with your current career choice but you do have a job, don\u2019t you?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don\u2019t misunderstand me, this is not me advising you to remain stuck in your comfort zone for the rest of your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019m not telling you to ditch personal development, not to follow your dreams or to stop aspiring for greater things.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Instead, I\u2019m just begging you to stop paying so much attention to the things you want to change and instead, be thankful for all of your blessings.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Be grateful that you\u2019re alive and be grateful if you\u2019re healthy. You\u2019re surrounded by those who care for you and no matter what happens, tomorrow is always a new day.<\/p>\n<p>Acredite, s\u00f3 isto \u00e9 muito mais do que muitas pessoas podem sequer sonhar em ter.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mudar a sua auto-perce\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111729 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field.jpg\" alt=\"mulher feliz com vestido \u00e0s riscas, de p\u00e9 num campo relvado\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-grass-field-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Before getting the answers to your questions of how to start loving yourself and how to love yourself more, you have to get to the bottom of this question: Why don\u2019t you love yourself in the first place? Lucky for you, I have the answer to this one too.<\/p>\n<p>O problema central \u00e9 que se tem em pouca conta. Pode recusar-se a admiti-lo, mas a verdade \u00e9 muito evidente.<\/p>\n<p>Obviously, you consider yourself unlovable. You are convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of anyone\u2019s love. Your inner voice is telling you that you&#8217;re not attractive, smart, intelligent or interesting enough for anyone to love you.<\/p>\n<p>Podes neg\u00e1-lo tanto quanto quiseres, mas sabes que \u00e9 assim que te sentes em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bem, para mudar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas, tem de mudar a sua auto-perce\u00e7\u00e3o. Tem de aumentar a sua autoestima e lembrar-se de que \u00e9 realmente digno e valioso.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Easier said than done, I know. Wouldn\u2019t it be perfect if you could snap your fingers and start seeing yourself in a different light, just like that?<\/p>\n<p>However, this change requires time. It requires you to get out of the box you\u2019ve put yourself in and to eventually start seeing all of your qualities.<\/p>\n<p>Para come\u00e7ar, inicie um h\u00e1bito fant\u00e1stico: escrever um di\u00e1rio. Todas as noites, antes de ir dormir, escreva pelo menos cinco coisas que o tenham feito sentir-se orgulhoso de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111732 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a escrever num caderno vermelho, sentada num sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-writing-on-notebook-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Write down five good things you\u2019ve done that day or the right choices you\u2019ve made. This doesn\u2019t have to be anything spectacular, as any milestone will do the trick.<\/p>\n<p>Por exemplo, pode registar que se levantou para ir trabalhar a horas, sem ter de apressar a sua rotina matinal ou que, para variar, almo\u00e7ou de forma saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, fa\u00e7a alguns elogios a si pr\u00f3prio e escreva-os tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n<p>You can add some things such as the fact that you were calm enough not to respond to your co-worker\u2019s nasty look, that you smelled great or that you were extra funny today.<\/p>\n<p>The list is endless but I\u2019m sure you know where I\u2019m going with this.<\/p>\n<p>At first, remembering five good things will be difficult. However, with time, you\u2019ll even start to increase the number of compliments and the praise you give yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, da pr\u00f3xima vez que sentir que gosta menos de si do que devia, comece a falar consigo pr\u00f3prio. Basta consultar o seu di\u00e1rio de amor-pr\u00f3prio, ler todas as coisas boas que fez durante esses dias e fazer alguns elogios a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>Assim, a sua autoimagem come\u00e7ar\u00e1 a mudar, sem que se aperceba. A sua auto-confian\u00e7a vai subir em flecha e o amor-pr\u00f3prio vai aparecer.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Cortar o contacto com pessoas t\u00f3xicas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111734 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a tocar numa veda\u00e7\u00e3o preta enquanto olha para a \u00e1gua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-fence-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Para obter uma resposta \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de como come\u00e7ar a amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, temos de estar num ambiente de amor.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s impossible to care for yourself in a proper way if you\u2019re surrounded by hatred, pessimism and negative thoughts and people.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Therefore, please cut off anyone who doesn\u2019t mean you well.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Regardless of whether these toxic people are your family or friends you\u2019ve known your whole life, if they don\u2019t send you positivity, it\u2019s time for them to go.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Basically, what I\u2019m advising you is to get rid of everyone who doesn\u2019t truly love you. You see, you\u2019re going through a sensitive time right now. You\u2019re easily subjected to other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of you.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s actually pretty simple; if you surround yourself with people who think poorly of you, you\u2019ll adopt their opinions.<\/p>\n<p>If you surround yourself with those who keep you sending you the message that you\u2019re not meant to be loved, you\u2019ll start considering yourself not worthy of love.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re constantly in the company of people who see all of your value, you\u2019ll start believing it as well.<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re in the company of those who think highly of you, after a while, you\u2019ll begin looking at yourself through their eyes as well.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Abra\u00e7ar o autocuidado<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111737 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de olhos fechados junto a uma parede\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-wall-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019re a great friend, co-worker or sibling and an even better son or daughter.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re always full of understanding about everything your loved ones do, you put a lot of effort into making them happier and you do everything in your power to help them out when they need it.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s an amazing trait, I won\u2019t argue against that. However, having all of this in mind, I can\u2019t help but wonder: What exactly is stopping you from treating yourself the same way?<\/p>\n<p>Why do you engage in that much self-criticism, self-loathing and self-doubt but you&#8217;re not like that where everyone else is concerned?<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re being honest, you\u2019ll admit that you treat everyone else around you better than you treat yourself. Why is that so? Does that mean that you love all of them more than you love yourself?<\/p>\n<p><strong>Why not engage in a little experiment. Try imagining that you\u2019re your own best friend.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What would you tell that friend, if they came to you and told you that they don\u2019t love themselves? What would you tell them if they made a mistake?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111738 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada numa rocha perto de um chap\u00e9u vermelho\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Acus\u00e1-los-ia de serem um fracasso ou dar-lhes-ia a garantia de que precisam desesperadamente?<br \/>\nO que \u00e9 que lhes diria se fossem <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-verdades-absolutas-sobre-separacoes-que-nunca-ninguem-lhe-diz\/\">a passar por uma rutura<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Would you rub salt into the wound by telling them that they\u2019re good for nothing and that nobody else would ever love them?<\/p>\n<p>Or would you tell them that they\u2019re better off single and that they should be happy about getting rid of their toxic ex?<\/p>\n<p>You don\u2019t have to answer any of these questions because I already know which options you\u2019d choose. So, why don\u2019t you start telling yourself each one of these lines?<\/p>\n<p>These double standards don\u2019t end there. Let\u2019s imagine that it\u2019s your best friend\u2019s birthday. I bet that you would do anything to get them the perfect gift.<\/p>\n<p>Gastar\u00edamos todo o dinheiro e tempo do mundo s\u00f3 para os ver felizes.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, nunca se trata da mesma maneira. Raramente faz algo para agradar a si pr\u00f3prio.<br \/>\nWell, it\u2019s about time to change that. I\u2019m begging you, start pampering yourself, the way you pamper others.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ama o teu corpo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111740 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field.jpg\" alt=\"mulher feliz com vestido floral branco, de p\u00e9 no campo\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be real here; you can\u2019t love your mind and emotions unless you love the physical part of yourself as well. Regardless of how you feel about it, your body is a part of you.<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019m not here to tell you to lose weight and to become a supermodel because that\u2019s not a path to self-love. The truth is that you should try to get in shape but your health should be the number one reason to do so.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Instead, I\u2019m here to beg you to start loving your body, to ask you to embrace all of your physical imperfections, the same way you should do with all the personality traits you don\u2019t like.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You can undergo all the plastic surgery and aesthetic treatments in the world but if you don\u2019t teach yourself to be happy in your own skin, you\u2019ll keep finding new flaws nobody else even notices.<\/p>\n<p>Your nose will always be too big, your mouth too small and your teeth never white enough. What I\u2019m trying to say is that loving your body means accepting it instead of changing it.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, that doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t do anything about the things that can easily be changed and that you don\u2019t like about yourself.<\/p>\n<p>For example, if you are really bothered about that extra fat you\u2019ve got on your stomach, start exercising.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, before you do it, ask yourself: Am I the one who can\u2019t stand seeing those extra pounds on me or do I want to get rid of them to be more likable to others?<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ser ego\u00edsta<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111744 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher com cabelo encaracolado a relaxar na banheira\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-relaxing-in-bathtub-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Being egocentric is a negative trait. Everyone applauds those who are kind and emphatic. However, there is a thin line between being nice and being a fool and you\u2019re on the verge of crossing it.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t misunderstand me, I know that your loved ones are significant to you. Nevertheless, that doesn\u2019t mean that you should allow them to use you whenever or however they like.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, as suas necessidades e desejos nunca podem ser mais importantes do que os seus.<\/p>\n<p>THEY can\u2019t be more important than you to you. Instead, you have to ask how to love yourself first. No, this is not a toxic trait, it\u2019s the way in which we should all behave.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re your own number one priority and everyone else comes second. Your mental health, energy and emotions are the things that have to concern you the most.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Please, stop feeling guilty for not being at everyone\u2019s disposal 24\/7. Don\u2019t beat yourself up just because you don\u2019t feel like going out with your BFF tonight or for choosing yourself over your siblings.<\/p>\n<p>Remember this: All the relationships in your life can come and go. The heck with it, it\u2019s even possible to break ties with your closest family members.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, a \u00fanica rela\u00e7\u00e3o a que nunca se pode escapar \u00e9 a que se tem consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>Apreciar essa rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9 nem de perto nem de longe ego\u00edsta. Cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio n\u00e3o \u00e9 ego\u00edsmo. Mais importante ainda, amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios mais do que a qualquer outra pessoa n\u00e3o \u00e9 certamente ego\u00edsta.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Deixar o controlo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-111745 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de vestido cor-de-rosa de p\u00e9 na praia\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-on-shore-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to start loving yourself, one of the things you simply must do is stop being a control freak. As much as you try, you simply can\u2019t be in charge of everything.<\/p>\n<p>Quer queiramos quer n\u00e3o, a verdade \u00e9 que nem tudo pode estar nas nossas m\u00e3os. N\u00e3o temos qualquer controlo sobre o comportamento das outras pessoas.<\/p>\n<p>De facto, na maioria dos casos, tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o temos controlo sobre as coisas que nos acontecem e n\u00e3o temos controlo sobre a nossa vida.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, \u00e9 \u00f3bvio que tem dificuldade em aperceber-se disso. <strong>Na maioria das vezes, acabamos por nos odiar pela forma como os outros nos tratam e pelas coisas que est\u00e3o fora do nosso controlo desde o primeiro dia.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>When your boyfriend or girlfriend dumps you, you love yourself less because you think that you weren\u2019t enough for them. When you get fired, you love yourself less because you think it was all your fault.<\/p>\n<p>Well, the only thing you can control is your reactions to other people and events. You can\u2019t choose whether you\u2019ll get betrayed or left behind. Nevertheless, you can choose the way you observe that situation.<\/p>\n<p>Will you put the blame on yourself and hate yourself for all that has happened? Or will you accept the situation the way it is and invest energy into healing yourself? It\u2019s all up to you!<\/p>\n<h2>Para terminar:<\/h2>\n<p>Maybe the most significant step in this process is to take things slowly. You\u2019ve figured out how to start loving yourself but that doesn\u2019t mean that you should rush yourself into it.<\/p>\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest; how many years have you spent hating yourself? How much time has passed since you paid yourself a compliment?<\/p>\n<p>Quantos anos passou a diminuir a sua autoestima e a ver-se como menos valioso do que realmente \u00e9?<\/p>\n<p>I bet even you don\u2019t know the number so do you really think it\u2019s possible to annul this entire effect overnight?<\/p>\n<p>I won\u2019t lie to you, making a difference to your feelings is not a piece of cake. Therefore, don\u2019t expect magical changes with the snap of a finger.<\/p>\n<p><strong>De facto, a pior coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 esfor\u00e7ar-se demasiado e esperar uma transforma\u00e7\u00e3o completa de imediato. Em vez de tentar fazer grandes diferen\u00e7as, d\u00ea passos de beb\u00e9.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>One change at a time is the way to go! Before you know it, you\u2019ll be proud of yourself and of everything you achieved.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, a quest\u00e3o que se coloca \u00e9 a seguinte: est\u00e1 verdadeiramente consciente do qu\u00e3o crucial \u00e9 amarmo-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Love is the most beautiful emotion of them all. However, as amazing as it is to be open-hearted toward others, the most significant question in the world is: How to start loving yourself? When you have a hard time caring about yourself, nothing else in your life can go right. You have zero self-confidence, you&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":111712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29637],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-111708","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-life-hacks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29637,"label":"life hacks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/How-To-Start-Loving-Yourself-In-10-Revolutionary-Ways-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29637,"name":"life hacks","slug":"life-hacks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29637,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","parent":22911,"count":281,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29637,"category_count":281,"category_description":"When life gives you lemons - make lemonade, and allow these life hacks to remind you of your strength, potential, and the right to be happy.","cat_name":"life hacks","category_nicename":"life-hacks","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111708","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=111708"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/111708\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/111712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=111708"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=111708"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=111708"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}