{"id":112129,"date":"2020-11-13T16:49:58","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T16:49:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112129"},"modified":"2022-06-16T13:33:35","modified_gmt":"2022-06-16T13:33:35","slug":"que-idade-e-demasiado-velha-para-namorar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/que-idade-e-demasiado-velha-para-namorar\/","title":{"rendered":"Relacionamentos com diferen\u00e7a de idade: Quantos anos \u00e9 demasiado velho para namorar?"},"content":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you\u2019ve heard that \u2018age is just a number\u2019 many times. Even if you agree with the saying, you must admit that there are some rules that need to be obeyed.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we just can’t help but ask: how old is too old to date someone?<\/p>\n

This isn’t the most comfortable topic to talk about, since some people have very strong stances when it comes to it.<\/p>\n

There’s a lot of stigma surrounding couples with a bigger age gap for various reasons. They are often judged, frowned upon or ridiculed.<\/p>\n

Not only that but there’s a very obvious double standard relating to the phenomenon of young woman\/homem mais velho<\/a> casais versus jovens\/mulher mais velha<\/a> casais.<\/p>\n

In this article, we’re going to discuss different perspectives on age differences in couples and hopefully find a middle ground.<\/p>\n

Limites de idade: Que idade \u00e9 demasiado velha para namorar?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

In modern society, there’s an unwritten rule about the minimum age\/maximum age a person should date.<\/p>\n

It’s pretty simple: You should date someone who’s half your age plus seven years (the minimum age limit) or in other cases, someone twice your age minus seven years (the maximum age limit).<\/p>\n

So, if you’re a 50-year-old, the minimum age to date is 32, if you’re a 24-year-old, the maximum age to date is 41 and so on.<\/p>\n

Se tiver dificuldade em decidir se a pessoa com quem quer sair \u00e9 demasiado velha ou demasiado nova para si, siga esta regra e decida se se sente confort\u00e1vel com o resultado obtido.<\/p>\n

With this being said, it’s important to mention that when people are in love, this rule isn’t always obeyed and that’s just reality.<\/p>\n

Uma grande diferen\u00e7a de idades: Quais s\u00e3o os desafios?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you’ll be concerned about your partner’s age or not depends largely on what you want and need in life.<\/p>\n

Queres uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso? Quer uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de uma noite? Queres ter filhos?<\/p>\n

Todas estas quest\u00f5es exigem pontos de vista diferentes. Eis algumas preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es comuns com que se deparam frequentemente os casais com maiores diferen\u00e7as de idade.<\/p>\n

Aprova\u00e7\u00e3o familiar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s no secret that society judges couples with a bigger age gap, especially younger women who decide to have a relationship with older men.<\/p>\n

Isto leva frequentemente a problemas de desaprova\u00e7\u00e3o familiar e a apresenta\u00e7\u00f5es estranhas pela primeira vez.<\/p>\n

There are worries about how people perceive the couple. It’s not likely that the parents of a 20-year-old woman will be excited if their daughter starts dating someone their age.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a widespread stereotype about young women who enter relationships with older men as garimpeiros<\/a><\/em>. Algumas pessoas acham-no simplesmente estranho ou tabu e associam-no a um comportamento desviante.<\/p>\n

This can affect the family negatively and sometimes they won’t support the relationship. Of course, this takes a toll on the couple and their emotional life and possibly their everyday life.<\/p>\n

A falta de apoio da fam\u00edlia \u00e9 sempre um grande problema na vida de qualquer pessoa.<\/p>\n

Diferentes c\u00edrculos sociais<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Another thing that doesn’t come as a surprise is a problem with different social circles of age gap couples. It’s not very likely that they’re going to have mutual friends.<\/p>\n

Even when they do have mutual friends, it’s not always ideal because different age groups mean different lifestyles, interests, hobbies, etc.<\/p>\n

Um jovem m\u00e9dio de 20 anos ter\u00e1 muito provavelmente h\u00e1bitos de vida muito diferentes de um jovem m\u00e9dio de 40 anos.<\/p>\n

Having mutual friends is not crucial for a relationship but it’s oftentimes important and has an effect on a couple and how they spend and organize their time.<\/p>\n

Planear uma fam\u00edlia em conjunto<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Planear uma fam\u00edlia como um casal com uma grande diferen\u00e7a de idades tamb\u00e9m pode ser um desafio.<\/p>\n

For example, if you’re a younger woman who wants children and you’re in love with a much older man<\/a>, tem de pensar em todas as consequ\u00eancias que esta escolha de rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode ter no seu futuro e no futuro dos seus filhos.<\/p>\n

If you’re an older woman dating a younger man or a younger man dating an older woman, different child-related questions can arise.<\/p>\n

If you’re not concerned about having children at all, there are still some inevitable questions.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, uma preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o um pouco sombria, mas v\u00e1lida, de um dos parceiros morrer mais cedo do que o outro, de perder a liga\u00e7\u00e3o numa fase mais avan\u00e7ada da rela\u00e7\u00e3o devido \u00e0 diferen\u00e7a de idades, a quest\u00e3o da libido e da sua vida \u00edntima, etc.<\/p>\n

That’s why people usually choose a partner closer to their age. However, if you just want to have a fling and experience some casual fun, there’s nothing to worry about.<\/p>\n

Outra coisa que deve ser dita \u00e9 que o n\u00edvel de maturidade n\u00e3o est\u00e1 estritamente correlacionado com a idade. H\u00e1 jovens muito maduros e pessoas mais velhas imaturas.<\/p>\n

Cada pessoa \u00e9 diferente e traz din\u00e2micas diferentes para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Alguns casais com maiores diferen\u00e7as de idade adaptam-se perfeitamente, enquanto outros s\u00e3o um grande n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Crescer \u00e0 parte<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 outro assunto delicado que precisa de ser discutido. Embora tudo possa ser \u00f3timo no in\u00edcio da rela\u00e7\u00e3o, mais tarde, \u00e0 medida que ambas as partes envelhecem, come\u00e7am a surgir desafios mais espec\u00edficos.<\/p>\n

The truth is that a person is not the same when they’re in their middle age period, i.e. their forties, fifties and sixties and when they’re in their early twenties or thirties.<\/p>\n

Consoante a idade e a fase da vida em que se encontram, as pessoas desenvolvem necessidades e objectivos diferentes.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 assim que podem afastar-se<\/a> tamb\u00e9m, n\u00e3o s\u00f3 nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es entre pessoas de idades diferentes, mas nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es em geral.<\/p>\n

Quest\u00f5es financeiras<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

As rela\u00e7\u00f5es entre pessoas de idades diferentes distinguem-se muitas vezes de outros tipos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es no que diz respeito a quest\u00f5es financeiras.<\/p>\n

This isn’t a rule but it’s not hard to understand and assume that if one partner is much older, he or she will have an established career and a stable income.<\/p>\n

Younger people, especially if they\u2019re in their twenties, are probably exploring their career opportunities and aren’t set on what they want to do with their life.<\/p>\n

This can (but doesn’t have to) create unique challenges in a relationship of this kind.<\/p>\n

Filhos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Obviamente, este n\u00e3o \u00e9 o caso de todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es deste g\u00e9nero, mas \u00e9 algo que constitui frequentemente um desafio.<\/p>\n

If one partner is older, it’s likely that they already have children from previous relationships and that means that the other person will have to accept the fact that they’re going to be a stepmom or a stepdad to someone else’s children.<\/p>\n

Being, for instance, twenty-something and a stepmom or stepdad to someone who’s, for example, a 19-year-old or goes to high school is probably a pretty unusual experience for both people included.<\/p>\n

Other than that, there’s the whole emotional aspect considering children who are very important to older partners and also children’s reactions to a new person in their parent’s life.<\/p>\n

Dois pesos e duas medidas: A diferen\u00e7a de idade numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o afecta os homens e as mulheres de forma diferente?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Apesar de todas as coisas boas que aconteceram na hist\u00f3ria recente e que permitiram uma vis\u00e3o mais liberal dos diferentes tipos de amor, ainda existem muitos estere\u00f3tipos e dois pesos e duas medidas no que diz respeito a estes tipos espec\u00edficos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, um homem velho que acaba por ficar com uma rapariga jovem \u00e9 visto como algu\u00e9m que deve ser admirado, enquanto essa mesma mulher \u00e9 envergonhada por estar com um homem mais velho.<\/p>\n

It’s generally accepted that older men date women in their 20s while it’s not the same for older women who date younger men.<\/p>\n

There are also examples of famous men with older women or even women of their own age who are considered objectively less attractive and often bullied and called names, just because they don’t fit into someone else’s idea of what a \u2018perfect couple\u2019<\/a> deve ter o seguinte aspeto.<\/p>\n

Portanto, a resposta \u00e0 pergunta \u00e9: Sim. Embora esteja provado que os homens e as mulheres t\u00eam prefer\u00eancias diferentes para as faixas et\u00e1rias de namoro, dois pesos e duas medidas<\/a> est\u00e3o, infelizmente, muito presentes.<\/p>\n

Dicas sobre como manter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel apesar da diferen\u00e7a de idades (e da press\u00e3o social)<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Estar preparado para julgamentos e mal-entendidos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As already mentioned, it’s no secret that people often judge couples with big age differences.<\/p>\n

Isto significa que ambas as pessoas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00eam de ter um forte sentido de si pr\u00f3prias e estar seguras do seu amor e dos seus objectivos m\u00fatuos.<\/p>\n

T\u00eam de se preparar para serem julgados e incompreendidos por pessoas que consideram a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o estranha ou desagrad\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tamb\u00e9m precisam de se lembrar que as outras pessoas n\u00e3o sabem nada sobre a sua vida amorosa, aspira\u00e7\u00f5es, sentimentos ou objectivos.<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, as mulheres jovens t\u00eam frequentemente de justificar as suas op\u00e7\u00f5es de vida e defender-se de acusa\u00e7\u00f5es de serem garimpeiras ou sugar babies, enquanto as mulheres mais velhas com parceiros jovens s\u00e3o vistas como pumas.<\/p>\n

Quando se trata de amor, ningu\u00e9m deve ter de se justificar perante ningu\u00e9m, mas sim manter-se concentrado na pessoa que ama e fazer o que quer, apesar do que os outros dizem.<\/p>\n

Make sure you’re on the same page<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When a person decides to start a relationship with an older or younger dating partner, they have to be sure that they’re on the same page as them.<\/p>\n

They have to set clear goals about the future and disclose what they want and don’t want.<\/p>\n

This is important because with a bigger age gap, there’s a bigger chance of differences in goals, life experiences and ideas about the future and life in general.<\/p>\n

One person is more experienced while the other is not and that usually makes a big difference. However, that doesn’t mean they can’t have similar or the same goals.<\/p>\n

Age gap relationships are tricky on their own and with all of the risks that a couple is already taking, they need to be sure it’s worth it.<\/p>\n

It’s important to talk openly about any potential challenges and be very open. There’s nothing that an open and honest heart-to-heart conversation can’t solve if two people truly love each other.<\/p>\n

Don’t let negative opinions discourage you<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Anyone who feels genuinely happy with their life choices shouldn’t be discouraged by the harsh words of others who know nothing about their life. This is also true for relationships with big age differences.<\/p>\n

People who comment negatively on someone else’s life, based on one small detail, don’t know the full story and never will. Whatever they say isn’t true or realistic.<\/p>\n

Instead of letting others crush your spirit, it’s important to stay on the path you chose and prove that love wins.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ficar desanimado, mostre pelo exemplo que a idade \u00e9 apenas um n\u00famero e que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode resultar como qualquer outra rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ser confiante em si pr\u00f3prio e no seu amor<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

If you’re someone who’s in this kind of relationship, be confident in your decision. Be confident in the love you have. At the end of the day, you’re duas pessoas apaixonadas<\/a>. Desfrutem-no!<\/p>\n

Don’t let one thing about your relationship change the course of your life. If your relationship is strong and you feel loved, there’s nothing that should make you question yourself.<\/p>\n

Todas as dificuldades pelas quais as pessoas passam s\u00f3 as tornam mais fortes no final, por isso deixe que isso aconte\u00e7a tamb\u00e9m com a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Deixem que o amor e a felicidade compensem todas as coisas inc\u00f3modas que t\u00eam de enfrentar.<\/p>\n

O amor n\u00e3o conhece idade: Uma verdade ou um mito?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Engaging in any kind of relationship that’s seen as weird by the rest of society will always be a challenge.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que se amas o teu parceiro e o teu parceiro te ama a ti e se n\u00e3o h\u00e1 bandeiras vermelhas<\/a>Uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 obviamente poss\u00edvel e o amor pode ser muito verdadeiro.<\/p>\n

A idade pode n\u00e3o significar mais do que um n\u00famero quando tudo o resto est\u00e1 correto.<\/p>\n

If you enjoy all the unique things that this kind of relationship brings you, then that’s all that matters.<\/p>\n

If you find no other reason to not be in a relationship like this, you already know that that’s what you truly want.<\/p>\n

When you’re sure of your love for your partner, no outside pressure stands a chance.<\/p>\n

Conclus\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Espero ter conseguido dar-vos uma resposta adequada \u00e0 quest\u00e3o de saber que idade \u00e9 demasiado velha para namorar.<\/p>\n

O melhor conselho para qualquer tipo de rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 ir atr\u00e1s do que se quer e n\u00e3o dar ouvidos a pessoas que n\u00e3o sabem nada sobre como se sente ou como quer viver a sua vida.<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que tudo o que faz \u00e9 feito pelas raz\u00f5es certas e de que se sente confort\u00e1vel com as suas decis\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

A sua vida e as suas escolhas devem ser apenas suas. Se isso inclui prefer\u00eancias de encontros invulgares, que assim seja.<\/p>\n

There are many examples of very successful relationships with big age differences and that’s proof they can work out.<\/p>\n

Isto aplica-se a todos os outros tipos de rela\u00e7\u00f5es que s\u00e3o desprezadas pela sociedade sem uma raz\u00e3o v\u00e1lida.<\/p>\n

If it’s true, love \u00e9 <\/em>amor.<\/p>\n

Cita\u00e7\u00f5es perspicazes sobre o (in)significado da idade e das rela\u00e7\u00f5es entre idades<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"diferen\u00e7a<\/p>\n

1. \u201cSome people are old at 18 and some are young at 90. Time is a concept that humans created.\u201d\u2014Yoko Ono<\/p>\n

2. \u201cIf you love somebody, you love them. My parents had a 25-year age gap between them and my mum was the breadwinner, my dad the house husband. I\u2019m a strong believer that a good relationship can work, whatever the situation.\u201d\u2014Katherine Jenkins<\/p>\n

3. \u201cIn a relationship, things like age, size, weight, distance, religion, gender, race, flaws and differences shouldn\u2019t matter. If you find a person you love, the love is requited and they make you happy, be with that person regardless of what anyone says.\u201d\u2014Unknown<\/p>\n

4. \u201c… it’s like when Kate Hudson was hooking up with that Jonas brother. It was kind of weird at first and then we all got used to it and nobody gave it a second thought. If anything, people applauded her because she’s not afraid to go after what she wants. And she really wanted that cute little Jonas brother.\u201d\u2014Winter Renshaw<\/p>\n

5. \u201cWhen we\u2019re young, everyone over the age of thirty looks middle-aged, everyone over fifty antique. And time, as it goes by, confirms that we weren\u2019t that wrong. Those little age differentials, so crucial and so gross when we are young, erode. We end up all belonging to the same category, that of the non-young. I\u2019ve never much minded this myself. But there are exceptions to the rule. For some people, the time differentials established in youth never really disappear: the elder remains the elder, even when both are dribbling greybeards. For some people, a gap of, say, five months means that one will perversely always think of himself \u2013 herself \u2013 as wiser and more knowledgeable than the other, whatever the evidence to the contrary. Or perhaps I should say because of the evidence to the contrary. Because it is perfectly clear to any objective observer that the balance has shifted to the marginally younger person, the other one maintains the assumption of superiority all the more rigorously. All the more neurotically.\u201d\u2015Julian Barnes<\/p>\n

6. \u201cThere is a certain part of all of us that lives outside of time. Perhaps we become aware of our age only at exceptional moments and most of the time we are ageless.\u201d\u2015Milan Kundera<\/p>\n

7. \u201cThere is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.\u201d\u2015Sophia Loren<\/p>\n

8. \u201cAge is just a number. It’s totally irrelevant unless, of course, you happen to be a bottle of wine.\u201d\u2015Joan Collins<\/p>\n

9. \u201cNobody grows old merely by living a number of years. We grow old by deserting our ideals. Years may wrinkle the skin, but to give up enthusiasm wrinkles the soul.\u201d\u2015Samuel Ullman<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’m sure you\u2019ve heard that \u2018age is just a number\u2019 many times. Even if you agree with the saying, you must admit that there are some rules that need to be obeyed. Sometimes we just can’t help but ask: how old is too old to date someone? This isn’t the most comfortable topic to talk…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":112955,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29621],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112129","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-healthy-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29621,"label":"healthy relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Age-Gap-Relationships_-How-Old-Is-Too-Old-To-Date_--1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29621,"name":"healthy relationship","slug":"healthy-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29621,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","parent":29620,"count":254,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29621,"category_count":254,"category_description":"Explore this part of our site to learn how to recognize and nourish healthy patterns in your relationships and let go of the negative ones with ease.","cat_name":"healthy relationship","category_nicename":"healthy-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112129","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112129"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112129\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112955"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112129"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112129"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112129"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}