{"id":112722,"date":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T19:57:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=112722"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:35:49","slug":"a-arte-de-encontrar-o-fecho","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-arte-de-encontrar-o-fecho\/","title":{"rendered":"A arte de encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para velhas feridas"},"content":{"rendered":"

H\u00e1 uns dias, o meu ex telefonou. Sim, o ex. Aquele que partiu o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o de uma forma irrepar\u00e1vel, aquele que deixou cicatrizes irrepar\u00e1veis na minha alma, e aquele que fugiu<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in her past?<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que ele queria?<\/em> Devem estar a perguntar-se Bem, o que \u00e9 que um homem t\u00f3xico como ele pode querer da mulher que em tempos o amou como se n\u00e3o houvesse amanh\u00e3?<\/p>\n

If someone who doesn\u2019t know him had heard our conversation (Yes, I picked up the phone.), they would assume that he was a changed man trying to make things right.<\/p>\n

Ou talvez ele queira voltar a juntar-se a n\u00f3s porque finalmente percebeu que eu sou a mulher dos seus sonhos?<\/p>\n

But, I know him better than that. I know that this was nothing but a desperate attempt to reassure himself that I\u2019m still there.<\/p>\n

An attempt to check whether he\u2019ll rock my world any time he shows up in my life unexpectedly.<\/p>\n

Era a sua maneira de ver se ainda podia contar comigo. Um esfor\u00e7o para aumentar o seu fr\u00e1gil ego mais uma vez e provar a ambos que eu esperaria por ele de bra\u00e7os abertos todas as vezes.<\/p>\n

However, that\u2019s not important now. I figured out this man a long ago, and nothing he does or says can surprise me.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, o que me surpreendeu foram as minhas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

For the first time ever, I didn\u2019t shiver when I saw his number on my phone display.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t feel the butterflies fluttering in my belly, and I didn\u2019t get the urge to run towards him as if nothing bad had ever happened between us.<\/p>\n

This must mean that I\u2019ve moved on from this guy, right? Did I finally deixar de o amar<\/a>?<\/strong> Ser\u00e1 que o milagre finalmente aconteceu?<\/p>\n

Could this be true? If it were, I would no longer feel this burning pain somewhere deep inside of me every time I think about everything he\u2019s done to me.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depois apercebi-me: I\u2019m over this man \u2013 I\u2019m just not over the pain he\u2019s caused me. My old injuries are still alive, not because I still have feelings for him, but because I never got the closure I needed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mas, como \u00e9 que se pode encontrar uma conclus\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m que tem um ponto de vista completamente diferente do nosso? How can I get an explanation from a man who\u2019s convinced he never caused me any harm?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The answer is: I can\u2019t, and I never will. Instead, I have to write the ending of this chapter by myself. After all, that\u2019s the art of finding closure for old wounds \u2013 you accept that there \u00e9<\/em> sem fecho.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never get a logical explanation for everything that went on between us. This man will never give me a valid response to my unanswered questions.<\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

I\u2019ll never find out why he feels the need to barge into my life every once in a while. I\u2019ll never know why he didn\u2019t let me go sooner when he knew very well that he could never give me what I wanted.<\/p>\n

The only thing that\u2019s left for me to do is deal with my crap by myself.<\/p>\n

O primeiro passo na minha jornada de cura \u00e9 o perd\u00e3o. Tenho de o perdoar por ser um idiota que me enganou e, depois, tenho de me perdoar a mim pr\u00f3pria por ter escolhido t\u00e3o mal e por ter sido t\u00e3o est\u00fapida.<\/p>\n

O mais importante: I have to accept that this guy was never the man I thought he was. He doesn\u2019t have a hidden good side to his personality, no repressed emotions. <\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 um cora\u00e7\u00e3o bem escondido por baixo de todas as camadas de indiferen\u00e7a e toxicidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Depois de conseguir fazer isto, tenho de o deixar ir. Tenho de esquecer a mem\u00f3ria de n\u00f3s e, mais importante, tenho de deixar de ficar obcecada com o que poderia e deveria ter sido.<\/p>\n

E depois, I have to stop picking up the phone when the past calls me. It\u2019s a well-known fact that you must keep your wounds clean if you want them to heal properly.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tenho de aceitar que as coisas aconteceram exatamente como estavam destinadas a acontecer. Apesar de tudo isto, h\u00e1 uma raz\u00e3o para eu ter feito parte deste romance venenoso: para aprender uma li\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aparentemente, n\u00e3o havia outra maneira de eu perceber que todas as feridas podem ser curadas. S\u00f3 \u00e9 preciso saber o truque de como o fazer.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A few days ago, my ex called. Yes, THE ex. The one who broke my heart beyond repair, the one who left unerasable scars on my soul, and the one that got away. I bet you know exactly who I\u2019m talking about. Let\u2019s be real: what woman doesn\u2019t have at least one of these in…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":112728,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29636],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-112722","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-help"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29636,"label":"self help"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/The-Art-Of-Finding-Closure-For-Old-Wounds-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29636,"name":"self help","slug":"self-help","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29636,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","parent":22911,"count":314,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29636,"category_count":314,"category_description":"Whenever you feel lost or hurt in love and life, these self-help tips will help you overcome challenges and make you feel better instantly.","cat_name":"self help","category_nicename":"self-help","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=112722"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/112722\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/112728"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=112722"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=112722"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=112722"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}