{"id":11295,"date":"2020-08-04T10:40:49","date_gmt":"2020-08-04T10:40:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11295"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:58:55","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:58:55","slug":"8-formas-de-os-maniacos-do-controlo-disfarcarem-a-manipulacao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/8-formas-de-os-maniacos-do-controlo-disfarcarem-a-manipulacao\/","title":{"rendered":"8 maneiras de os man\u00edacos por controlo disfar\u00e7arem a sua manipula\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Controlling relationships are as toxic and abusive as the physical ones, but instead of clear signs of abuse, controlling often goes unnoticed until it\u2019s too late.<\/p>\n

Man\u00edacos por controlo<\/a> dominam de tal forma as suas ferramentas de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o que parecem mesmo amor. Estas s\u00e3o algumas das formas mais comuns de disfar\u00e7ar a sua manipula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Fazer as coisas apenas para o seu bem<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

He bought you that skin tight dress because he knows how good you\u2019d look in it\u2014once you lose weight.<\/p>\n

Deitou fora todos os petiscos da casa porque queria que fosse mais f\u00e1cil controlares-te. Cancelou todos os teus planos, para que possas descansar.<\/p>\n

But not once did he check with you if you\u2019re okay with that. Not once did he ask if you want him to do those things. Instead, he\u2019s doing as he pleases, manipulating you into fitting into his mold of the perfect woman he has in his head.<\/p>\n

Making decisions so you wouldn\u2019t have to worry \u2013 isolation<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember when was the last time you decided where you\u2019re going on a date?<\/p>\n

Or if you did, all you decided was the clothes you\u2019d wear, but still with his help?<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t remember when was the last time you get to spend the all-girls night? When was the last time you spent some time with your family?<\/p>\n

He\u2019s the only one you see\u2014the only one you get to spend your time with. Somehow, you ended up isolated not knowing how.<\/p>\n

Acabou por se apoiar apenas nele, sem se aperceber que perdeu o apoio dos seus amigos e da sua fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n

Ele pede desculpa, mas nunca muda<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Sempre que ele comenta sobre ti, sempre que as suas palavras te deitam abaixo, ele pede desculpa.<\/p>\n

Every time his temper blows up, his emotions flicker and you end up being the one who\u2019s hurt, he apologies. But he does nothing to change.<\/p>\n

Estamos sempre a ouvir desculpas e promessas, mas ouvir \u00e9 uma coisa e ver \u00e9 outra completamente diferente.<\/p>\n

He gives you enough hope that he\u2019ll change, but takes away your self-esteem at the same time.<\/p>\n

Ele d\u00e1-te amor suficiente para lutares, mas n\u00e3o o suficiente para te sentires realmente amada.<\/p>\n

Somehow, you\u2019re always to blame<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Mesmo que acredites que fizeste tudo bem, ele encontra algo que fizeste mal. E mesmo quando n\u00e3o fazes ideia do que fizeste, ele encontra uma forma de te culpar.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou sighed and it killed the mood. You took too long to come home. I had to eat pizza again.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

E o pior \u00e9 que nos sentimos culpados porque havia tr\u00e2nsito. Sente-se culpado porque suspirou.<\/p>\n

You feel guilty even though you did nothing wrong, even though you did your best. Once he breaks you, he owns you, and that\u2019s all he\u2019s after with guilt tripping.<\/p>\n

A dar-te aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re at the early stages of the relationship, his constant calling is cute. His constant attention is amazing.<\/p>\n

Sentir-se amado e necess\u00e1rio, depois de tanto tempo, \u00e9 t\u00e3o bom. Ter algu\u00e9m para cuidar de cada segundo do seu dia, depois de ter sido privado do amor dos seus amigos e da sua fam\u00edlia, \u00e9 a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o certa.<\/p>\n

But control freaks tend to learn every bit of you\u2014every trauma, every dream, every hope and every passion\u2014using it against you later on.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s showering you with attention to control your free time, to control what you do and how you do it.<\/p>\n

Ele d\u00e1-te muita aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>s\u00f3 para te sentires culpado quando quiseres ir embora.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re great, but not great enough\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cI love you, but you could try better. This is an amazing evening, but if you did this like that, it would\u2019ve been better. You look amazing, but you\u2019d look even better if you would lose a few pounds.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

No matter how hard you try, no matter how much of an effort you put into things, it\u2019s simply not enough. He slowly undermines everything you do, until you lose all of your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

This way he can completely control you because soon you\u2019ll look only for his advice and \u2018words of wisdom\u2019.<\/p>\n

Afogando-te em paix\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t keep his hands off of you; he wants to touch you all the time. When you\u2019re out, he\u2019s rushing you home, when you\u2019re home, he won\u2019t let you leave the house.<\/p>\n

Kissing, hugging and cuddling all the time. He\u2019s drowning you in passion, but slowly taking away your freedom. Instead of going to the movies, you\u2019re home.<\/p>\n

Instead of talking to random people in the bar, you\u2019re only talking to him.<\/p>\n

Instead of learning new things, exploring and traveling, you\u2019re locked up in this little universe he created for you two and somehow, you don\u2019t even feel like leaving it, believing it\u2019s a universe of love.<\/p>\n

Taking care of you \u2013 all the time<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He buys you food, he cooks you dinners, he does anything he can think off for you, just so he can be sure you\u2019ll never leave him. After all, how could you leave someone who takes care of you?<\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se pode deixar algu\u00e9m que nos d\u00e1 aten\u00e7\u00e3o e nos afoga em paix\u00e3o? Como \u00e9 que se pode deixar algu\u00e9m como ele? <\/em><\/p>\n

Just because you feel trapped, just because you don\u2019t feel like yourself anymore, because you lack contact with other people, those are not good enough reasons to leave him, right?<\/em><\/p>\n

They are. If there\u2019s any doubt in you about your relationship, about your feelings or your sanity, take your time, distance yourself from your relationship and try to see if it\u2019s worth staying in it.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re still not sure, then it\u2019s simply not worth it.<\/p>\n

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Controlling relationships are as toxic and abusive as the physical ones, but instead of clear signs of abuse, controlling often goes unnoticed until it\u2019s too late. Control freaks have mastered their manipulation tools so much that they actually appear as love. These are some of the most common ways they disguise their manipulation. Doing things…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":107546,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29677],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11295","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-personality-types"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29677,"label":"personality types"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/8-Ways-Control-Freaks-Disguise-Their-Manipulation.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29677,"name":"personality types","slug":"personality-types","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29677,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Hippies, alphas, betas, sapiophiles...Every personality type is unique and contains a particular set of skills. Find out which one describes you best.","parent":22911,"count":336,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29677,"category_count":336,"category_description":"Hippies, alphas, betas, sapiophiles...Every personality type is unique and contains a particular set of skills. Find out which one describes you best.","cat_name":"personality types","category_nicename":"personality-types","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11295","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11295"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11295\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/107546"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11295"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11295"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11295"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}