{"id":113241,"date":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","date_gmt":"2020-11-13T20:08:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=113241"},"modified":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","modified_gmt":"2021-11-03T15:10:35","slug":"aversao-a-si-proprio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aversao-a-si-proprio\/","title":{"rendered":"Um guia de sobreviv\u00eancia de 16 passos para a auto-avers\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

A defini\u00e7\u00e3o de auto-avers\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

According to the self-loathing definition, it is the hatred of yourself. But, it’s not that simple: it’s also a deeply rooted belief that you’re not enough and that you’re not worthy of amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As a self-loathing person, you’re always in search of your new flaws. You’re overwhelmed with self-doubts and negative thoughts that you simply don’t have the strength to get rid of.<\/p>\n

Considera-se in\u00fatil, inadequado e insuficiente. You don’t know what to do with your life<\/a>. You’re convinced that all of your self-hatred is justified and your self-concept is pretty much ruined.<\/p>\n

5 fontes inesperadas de auto-avers\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-hate always has its reasons, even though you don’t have to necessarily identify them right away. To defeat it, you have to get to the bottom of your condition.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso encontrar as suas causas profundas e o ponto de partida da sua natureza autocr\u00edtica.<\/p>\n

Traumas passados<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

In most cases, negative thoughts connected with self-loathing don’t appear out of the blue.<\/p>\n

De acordo com a psiquiatria e a psicologia, este estado \u00e9 geralmente causado por traumas passados<\/a> de que talvez nem se aperceba.<\/p>\n

Este tipo de sentimento est\u00e1 normalmente ligado a experi\u00eancias negativas na inf\u00e2ncia. Quase todas as pessoas que se odeiam a si pr\u00f3prias passaram a vida inteira a ouvir cr\u00edticas.<\/p>\n

Desde que te lembras, nunca foste suficientemente bom para os teus pais. Talvez eles o tenham comparado com um irm\u00e3o mais bem sucedido ou nunca tenham acreditado em si.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, a sua hist\u00f3ria rom\u00e2ntica tamb\u00e9m pode ter provocado auto-avers\u00e3o. Se, no passado, foi emocionalmente negligenciado por algu\u00e9m de quem gostava muito, pode ter come\u00e7ado a culpar-se por isso.<\/p>\n

Either way, what\u2019s important for you to realize is that each one of our experiences shapes us into the people we are today.<\/p>\n

You might be convinced that you forgot about a certain trauma but trust me\u2013they\u2019re all deeply inscribed on your mental health.<\/p>\n

Agradar \u00e0s pessoas<\/h2>\n

\"l\u00edder<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7amos o que fizermos, nunca conseguiremos agradar a toda a gente. Ent\u00e3o, porqu\u00ea dar-se ao trabalho de tentar?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about time you realize that your people-pleasing traits brought you to this condition in the first place.<\/p>\n

The process is actually pretty simple: you do your best for someone to like you; you go out of your way to please them, and, finally, you don\u2019t get the reaction you were expecting.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t appreciate you the way they should, nor do they love you, despite all of your efforts. As a result, you start to blame yourself for it.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t see the people around you as too demanding. You don\u2019t consider them ungrateful and inconsiderate.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, odeia-se a si pr\u00f3prio por n\u00e3o conseguir corresponder \u00e0s suas expectativas irrealistas. Parece loucura, eu sei.<\/p>\n

However, if you do some introspection, you\u2019ll begin to admit that this has been going on inside your head for years.<\/p>\n

Ambiente hipercr\u00edtico<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Whether we like to admit it or not, others have a significant impact on us. After all, we\u2019re all social beings who live in a symbiotic relationship with other people.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, a sua influ\u00eancia \u00e9 inevit\u00e1vel. Isto aplica-se especialmente aos nossos entes queridos.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 que os seus pensamentos e sentimentos autocr\u00edticos t\u00eam uma origem.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve spent most of your life around people who made it clear that they don\u2019t think much of you, your self-esteem never had a chance to grow.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re surrounded by those who keep on diminishing your self-worth and who keep on telling you that nothing you ever do is good enough, the consequences will be devastating.<\/p>\n

Knowing all of this, you can\u2019t help but wonder: \u201cDo Odeio-me<\/a> because of my hypercritical surroundings?\u201d<\/p>\n

To be clear: I\u2019m not trying to free you from responsibility and put the entire blame for your state on someone else.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que a autocr\u00edtica surge por vezes como resultado de uma desaprova\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Perfeccionismo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The next possible cause of self-loathing is the desire to be perfect. It doesn\u2019t matter if others have imposed this aspiration on you, or you\u2019re the one who is chasing perfectionism on your own.<\/p>\n

The bottom line is the same: every time you notice that your life is not spotless and that you\u2019re not flawless\u2013you begin with self-hatred.<\/p>\n

With time, you\u2019ve adopted the idea that only being the best is good enough. This mindset has inspired you to become better, which is awesome.<\/p>\n

However, on the other hand, it has also taken a negative toll on your emotional and mental health. Basically, you beat yourself up every time you don\u2019t meet your high standards.<\/p>\n

Every time you notice an imperfection in your character or whenever your life doesn\u2019t look exactly the way you want it to\u2013you think of yourself as a failure.<\/p>\n

Normas sociais<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Comparar-se com os outros \u00e9 um grande erro, a n\u00e3o ser que se queira acabar com muito \u00f3dio de si pr\u00f3prio e auto-d\u00favida<\/a>. No entanto, \u00e9 exatamente isso que faz.<\/p>\n

Quando olhamos \u00e0 nossa volta, parece que toda a gente tem mais sucesso do que n\u00f3s. Os seus amigos do liceu s\u00e3o empres\u00e1rios de sucesso; alguns deles est\u00e3o a viajar pelo mundo, os outros dois constru\u00edram uma fam\u00edlia, e assim por diante.<\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, todos eles t\u00eam um aspeto fant\u00e1stico e est\u00e3o aparentemente a viver a sua melhor vida.<\/p>\n

Pelo menos, \u00e9 isso que temos a oportunidade de ver em todos os seus perfis nas redes sociais ou quando nos cruzamos com eles. Vemos os nossos amigos e desconhecidos que t\u00eam sempre um sorriso no rosto.<\/p>\n

Depois, olhamos mais de perto para a nossa vida, com todas as suas imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es. Olha-se ao espelho, escreve os seus feitos numa folha de papel e o que conclui?<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re miserable compared to them. Consequently, your feelings of worthlessness trigger a depressive episode.<\/p>\n

All of a sudden, your inner critic wakes up as you realize that you’ll never be able to meet these social standards. You’ll never be as attractive, as smart, or as successful as what is expected of you.<\/p>\n

7 sintomas de uma mentalidade de auto-avers\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Well, to do something about your self-hate, first of all, you have to be sure that you’re a self-loathing person. Now that you\u2019re confident about the meaning of self-loathing and its causes, it\u2019s time to look at the symptoms.<\/p>\n

Autocr\u00edtica<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you define self-loathing, you’ll connect it with self-criticism and negative self-talk that influences your sa\u00fade mental<\/a> negativamente.<\/p>\n

You’ve spent most of your life thinking negatively about yourself, your actions, and your choices.<\/p>\n

Whatever you do\u2013someone else could have done it better. Whatever you accomplish\u2013you could have done better.<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, right? No matter what happens in your life, you’re always to blame for all the negative consequences, which eventually awakened your desire for self-harm.<\/p>\n

When you come to think about it, you don’t treat others this way. When someone else makes a mistake, you are ready to stop them from feeling responsible.<\/p>\n

No entanto, quando se trata da sua vida, de repente transforma-se no seu maior cr\u00edtico.<\/p>\n

Amor-pr\u00f3prio duro<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you use tough love on someone, you don\u2019t let them get away with mistakes. You know what they are capable of, and you don\u2019t allow them to do anything below their real abilities.<\/p>\n

Basically, you act harshly and treat them as if you don\u2019t love them to inspire them to do better. You\u2019re a jerk to them so they can take responsibility for their lives and so you could help them in the long run.<\/p>\n

Well, in your case, you\u2019re not applying the concept of tough love to your relationship partner, a friend, or a sibling\u2013you\u2019re doing it to yourself.<\/p>\n

Embora este tipo de abordagem possa ajudar em certos cen\u00e1rios, atirou-o para o abismo do desespero e do \u00f3dio a si pr\u00f3prio na sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

O peso das redes sociais<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

Today, the most common symptom of self-loathing is seen through someone\u2019s behavior on social media. Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat don\u2019t serve you to stay in touch with your friends or for business purposes.<\/p>\n

Instead, they affect you in numerous negative ways. You feel this heavy burden every time you open your News Feed. You feel the need to impress all those strangers on your phone, and you\u2019ve stopped enjoying life.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve become obsessed with the impression your accounts leave. You spend hours and hours looking at other people\u2019s photos and comparing yourself to them.<\/p>\n

Apparently, your life is not as impressive as theirs. You don\u2019t have enough money, you don\u2019t travel as much as you would like, and you don\u2019t look as awesome as your followers.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o foi feito para ser amado<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Self-loathing people are convinced that they\u2019re n\u00e3o foi feito para ser amado<\/a>. After all, if you can\u2019t force yourself to love the person you are, what can you expect from others?<\/p>\n

Naturally, this couldn\u2019t be further from the truth. However, this is how your mind works: you think that you\u2019re destined to die alone, and nobody gives a damn about you.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not only talking about romantic love here. You don\u2019t think that a single person in your surroundings exists who genuinely cares about you.<\/p>\n

Even worse, deep down, you believe that you are not worthy of anyone\u2019s affection. You\u2019re convinced that there is absolutely nothing to love about you.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t deserve anyone\u2019s attention, time, or effort. Why? Because you\u2019re utterly worthless.<\/p>\n

If this is something you can relate to, you not only suffer from low self-esteem; you\u2019re also guilty of self-hatred.<\/p>\n

Inveja<\/h2>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you, but if you\u2019re a self-loather, the chances are that you\u2019re an envious person as well.<\/p>\n

Instead of working on yourself, you\u2019re focused on other people\u2019s accomplishments. Everyone seems to be more successful than you, and that eats you alive.<\/p>\n

Mas deixem-me fazer-vos uma pergunta: como \u00e9 que vos afectaria se eles estivessem em pior situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Teria magicamente dinheiro suficiente se eles perdessem todo o dinheiro deles? A sua carreira floresceria no momento em que a deles fracassasse? Teria uma vida amorosa feliz se a deles fosse miser\u00e1vel?<\/p>\n

You and I both know the answer. So how do their accomplishments impact you? That\u2019s right; they don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m asking you to say \u201cno\u201d to envy. Trust me\u2013it\u2019s not hurting anyone but you.<\/p>\n

Medo de falhar<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

\u201cAnd you ask, \u2018What if I fall?\u2019 Oh, but my darling, \u2018What if you fly?\u2019”<\/em> \u2013 Erin Hanson<\/p>\n

What prevents you from achieving greatness is your fear of failure. You avoid taking any risks since you don\u2019t believe in yourself.<\/p>\n

Your self-doubts don\u2019t allow you to think that you\u2019ll succeed. So, you think it\u2019s much better not to try at all. You end up setting low effort goals just to avoid the possibility of failing.<\/p>\n

Well, you\u2019re not alone in this because nobody enjoys losing. However, failure is a part of life, whether we like it or not.<\/p>\n

Pedir desculpas constantemente<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O \u00faltimo, mas certamente n\u00e3o o menos importante ou comum sintoma de \u00f3dio a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> \u00e9 a necessidade constante de pedir desculpa.<\/p>\n

Look, saying that you\u2019re sorry when you do someone wrong is a sign that you\u2019re a good person who has manners.<\/p>\n

No entanto, h\u00e1 uma grande diferen\u00e7a entre ser educado e pedir desculpa a toda a hora pelo mais pequeno inc\u00f3modo.<\/p>\n

By doing that, you\u2019re showing the rest of the world that you consider yourself to be guilty of everything that happens.<\/p>\n

Se algu\u00e9m lhe der um murro, provavelmente pedir\u00e1 desculpa porque a sua cara ficou no caminho do punho.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019m trying to tell you is that your self-hatred has made you walk on eggshells around others without demanding any respect in return.<\/p>\n

4 maneiras infal\u00edveis de superar a auto-avers\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Felizmente para si, \u00e9 poss\u00edvel derrotar estes sentimentos de auto-avers\u00e3o e mudar o seu auto-conceito. Aqui est\u00e1 um guia passo-a-passo sobre como o fazer da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Auto-perd\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Antes de mais, \u00e9 preciso abra\u00e7ar a arte de auto-perd\u00e3o<\/a>. Lembre-se que todos cometemos erros, por que raz\u00e3o levaria os seus t\u00e3o a s\u00e9rio?<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that you shouldn\u2019t learn from your bad choices\u2013you just need to stop beating yourself up because of them.<\/p>\n

Forgive yourself for all the times you broke your own heart, for every toxic person you\u2019ve let near you, and for all the missed opportunities.<\/p>\n

Moreover, forgive yourself for all the times you didn\u2019t respect, appreciate, and love yourself enough.<\/p>\n

Deixar o passado para tr\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Outra coisa a que deve deixar de se agarrar \u00e9 \u00e0 sua hist\u00f3ria. Isto est\u00e1 muito ligado ao auto-perd\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Often enough, your self-loathing sources from the things you did or didn\u2019t do in your past.<\/p>\n

Maybe you can\u2019t stand looking at yourself every time you remember how you allowed yourself to be treated.<\/p>\n

Maybe you hate yourself for not taking a few chances years ago. Or maybe your self-hatred comes from the way you treated those who didn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

Well, all of this means that you\u2019re self-conscious, which is always a good thing. However, you won\u2019t achieve anything if you hold on to the past.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change anything about it, so what\u2019s the point of pensar demais<\/a>? Por favor, fa\u00e7am o vosso melhor para esquecer o passado.<\/p>\n

Be brave enough to jump into your future because it\u2019s the only thing you can actually influence.<\/p>\n

Desintoxicar o seu c\u00edrculo social<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t care if your parents, siblings, or childhood friends are the ones who make you feel like you\u2019re not worthy\u2013you MUST cut them off.<\/p>\n

If it\u2019s necessary, try finding another job or even move to another city to move away from everyone who feeds your insecurities.<\/p>\n

Confiem em mim: n\u00e3o se trata de mudan\u00e7as demasiado radicais. \u00c9 algo que tem de ser feito.<\/p>\n

A sua sa\u00fade mental tem de estar em primeiro lugar se quiser melhorar de alguma forma.<\/p>\n

Besides, you\u2019re already aware that other people\u2019s opinions impact your sense of value, so you have to get rid of everyone who spreads negativity.<\/p>\n

Desintoxique o seu c\u00edrculo social e rodeie-se de pessoas que s\u00f3 trar\u00e3o positividade \u00e0 sua vida, e esteja com pessoas que o ajudar\u00e3o a encontrar-se a si pr\u00f3prio e que o ajudar\u00e3o a sair do fundo do po\u00e7o, em vez de o mandarem para l\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Autocompaix\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The next step in the process of overcoming self-loathing is all about self-compassion. I bet you know what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019re an emp\u00e1tico<\/a> when it comes to others, aren\u2019t you? You understand their point of view, and you find justification for their lousy actions.<\/p>\n

Basically, you don\u2019t think of them as bad people for making one wrong choice.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re like that with everyone, not just your loved ones. You possess empathy, even for people you don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n

To be precise, you\u2019re like that with everyone besides yourself. On the contrary, you keep on judging yourself for every little mistake you make.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you\u2019re only hard on the person you should love the most. When it comes to you, there are no excuses. You\u2019re the only person in the world who is not allowed to do anything wrong.<\/p>\n

Bem, isso tem de mudar o mais depressa poss\u00edvel. Para come\u00e7ar, tente pensar em si como um amigo.<\/p>\n

Que conselho daria ao seu ente querido se ele estivesse numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante \u00e0 sua? Aposto que o encorajaria e salientaria todas as suas qualidades positivas e lados bons.<\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s stopping you from treating yourself the same way? Don\u2019t be your own inner critic.<\/p>\n

Para terminar:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I know it would be best if you could snap your fingers and ditch the self-loathing for good. Well, sadly, things don’t always go as smoothly as you expect them to.<\/p>\n

The truth is that you’ve spent years despising yourself. So, you can’t change your entire mindset overnight.<\/p>\n

No entanto, garanto-lhe que vai conseguir. Tudo o que tem de fazer \u00e9 ser persistente e nunca desistir!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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