A melhor lista de verifica\u00e7\u00e3o de 11 pontos para o div\u00f3rcio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n The first point on your checklist should definitely be abuse. You see, bad things happen between married couples and nobody\u2019s life is all sunshine and roses.<\/p>\n As much as you try to avoid it, sometimes you and your spouse will get into a fight. Sometimes you\u2019ll even exaggerate by insulting each other, which is not okay but is also not reason enough to get a divorce.<\/p>\n However, there is a huge difference between your spouse calling you names once then apologizing for it and them verbally abusing you. Yes, that\u2019s also a thing.<\/p>\n Quando se pensa em abuso, parte-se do princ\u00edpio de que a outra pessoa tem de nos bater para que as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es sejam classificadas como violentas.<\/p>\n Well, this is exactly why a lot of people remain in abusive marriages: they don\u2019t know that someone can abuse you physically, emocionalmente<\/a>verbalmente, e de muitas outras formas.<\/p>\n If any kind of abuse is on your checklist, it\u2019s an adequate indicator that your marriage is not what it should be.<\/strong><\/p>\n Another thing I\u2019ll ask you is to remember that no matter what is going on, this is not your fault, and you\u2019re not to blame. Nobody has the right to abuse you, let alone the person who should love you the most.<\/p>\n A infidelidade \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma das principais raz\u00f5es que levam as pessoas a um div\u00f3rcio<\/a>. Mais uma vez, h\u00e1 diferentes tipos de infidelidade.<\/p>\n O seu c\u00f4njuge teve um problema f\u00edsico ou caso emocional<\/a>? How long did it last? Maybe they didn\u2019t actually commit adultery, but you noticed they apaixonou-se por outra pessoa<\/a>.<\/p>\n Well, sometimes, this realization can be more painful than one night of weakness that didn\u2019t mean anything. Either way, it depends on what hurt you the most.<\/p>\n However, you\u2019re not the only one making this decision. Does your spouse want a second chance for your marriage, or are they ready to start fresh with their new partner?<\/p>\n Neste \u00faltimo caso, n\u00e3o tem outra hip\u00f3tese sen\u00e3o aceitar o div\u00f3rcio. Afinal, o que \u00e9 que se pode fazer? Implora-lhes que te amem<\/a>Mesmo que tenham sido eles a ter um caso?<\/p>\n On the other hand, if they\u2019re the ones asking for your forgiveness, it\u2019s up to both of you to decide about your marriage\u2019s future.<\/p>\n Acredita na sua cara-metade que se tratou de um caso isolado? Consegue olhar para o seu c\u00f4njuge da mesma forma depois desta trai\u00e7\u00e3o? Est\u00e1 pronto para passar por uma recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de casos<\/a>?<\/p>\n Or maybe you were the unfaithful one? In that case, the situation is pretty much the same \u2013 you two just have reversed roles.<\/p>\n Seja qual for a sua decis\u00e3o, lembre-se de que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 vergonha em perdoar um caso<\/a> or ending a marriage because of it \u2013 if that\u2019s what you think is right.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso ter consci\u00eancia de que esta infidelidade teve de ser causada por algo que n\u00e3o estava bem no vosso casamento.<\/p>\n Se decidirem dar uma nova oportunidade um ao outro, t\u00eam de encontrar a fonte e cur\u00e1-la antes que ela destrua realmente o vosso casamento.<\/p>\n Por vezes, os casais t\u00eam dificuldade em ultrapassar os obst\u00e1culos do seu casamento. Os seus problemas conjugais parecem demasiado grandes para serem resolvidos e sentem-se incapazes de chegar a um compromisso.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter if we\u2019re talking about infidelity, their differences, or a lack of passion \u2013 at the end of the day, the point is the same: something is off.<\/p>\n However, they still have feelings for each other. Maybe they\u2019ve spent too much time together to let it all go to waste just like that. Or they want to give it another try for the kid\u2019s sake?<\/p>\n Nesse caso, aconselhamento matrimonial<\/a> \u00e9 o caminho certo a seguir.<\/p>\n Todos os casais devem consultar um profissional antes de dar o passo final e iniciar o processo de div\u00f3rcio.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know what you must be thinking right now: \u201cWhat could a stranger possibly know about my marriage that the two of us don\u2019t?\u201d Well, surprisingly, a lot.<\/p>\n Antes de mais, trata-se de um profissional especializado no vosso tipo de problemas. Trata-se de uma pessoa cujo trabalho consiste em ajudar os casais a encontrar um meio-termo.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, uma vez que o conselheiro matrimonial n\u00e3o est\u00e1 envolvido emocionalmente, pode analisar os seus problemas de forma mais objetiva.<\/p>\n They will give you a broader perspective on things, and you\u2019ll probably start seeing your marriage in a different light once you talk to them.<\/p>\n This is the person who can show you the right direction \u2013 someone who knows what you should do to save your relationship and become a better husband and wife.<\/p>\n Whatever you do, don\u2019t let anyone else interfere in your relationship. Look, I know that you\u2019ll both ask for your friend or family\u2019s opinion, but don\u2019t let their attitudes guide you.<\/p>\n It\u2019s one thing to talk to a trained professional who knows what they\u2019re doing, but blindly following a third person\u2019s lead can make things even worse.<\/strong><\/p>\n I don\u2019t care if you have a friend who\u2019s been through a divorce or if your spouse\u2019s parents are telling them what to do. Each case is unique, and the two of you are the only ones who have the right to make a decision.<\/p>\n The next point on your \u201cShould I get a divorce” checklist is the communication between you and your spouse.<\/p>\n You\u2019re an adult, and this is not your first relationship, so I don\u2019t have to emphasize the importance of healthy communication in a marriage.<\/p>\n What I am interested in now is whether you and your partner ever talked things through. But I mean really talked \u2013 honestly and open-heartedly.<\/p>\n No, a healthy conversation isn\u2019t yelling, holding grudges, resenting, and engaging in a blame game. Because I\u2019m sure that\u2019s what you two have been doing.<\/strong><\/p>\n I am talking about sitting down alone, without the kids or anyone else interfering. I\u2019m talking about being completely sincere and putting all the cards on the table.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso esquecer a agress\u00e3o passiva, o tratamento do sil\u00eancio e outras t\u00e9cnicas t\u00f3xicas semelhantes. Os dois precisam de dizer o que vos vai na alma antes de pedirem o div\u00f3rcio.<\/strong><\/p>\n This might sound strange, but it\u2019s possible that your spouse is not certain about what\u2019s been bothering you all along. Maybe they didn\u2019t listen or didn\u2019t want to hear your complaints at that moment.<\/p>\n So, now you\u2019re on the verge of getting a divorce lawyer without ever really having a decent conversation.<\/p>\n Well, even if you don\u2019t think that your marriage is worth fighting for, wouldn\u2019t it be a pity if you ended things without speaking your mind one last time?<\/p>\n If nothing else, this is the least you owe to each other and to the years you\u2019ve spent together \u2013 the least you owe to all those beautiful memories you once shared.<\/p>\n It\u2019s crucial to forget about your egos during this conversation. There is no need to be pathetic either, but don\u2019t hide your emotions from each other because this might be the last chance to express them.<\/p>\n Ask your spouse everything you\u2019ve been wondering about. Clear away all of your doubts and let them answer all the questions that have been bugging you.<\/p>\n Yes, there is a chance that you two will decide to give it another shot after this talk. But, there is also a chance that you\u2019ll stick to the divorce.<\/p>\n Even in that case, I promise you that sometime in the future, when all of this is behind you, you\u2019ll be glad you had one last conversation. You\u2019ll ser feliz<\/a> que n\u00e3o ficou nada por dizer e que conseguiu encerrar o assunto.<\/p>\n It\u2019s unbelievably difficult to go through a divorce when it\u2019s just the two of you. Well, you can only imagine how painful it is to do it when you have children together.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s get one thing straight: your kids shouldn\u2019t be the only reason why you choose to remain in an unhappy marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n Nevertheless, they\u2019re quite a significant factor in this decision and the entire process.<\/strong><\/p>\n Whether you like it or not, your kids depend on you and your husband or wife. I\u2019m not referring to finances here only \u2013 I\u2019m also talking about emotional, psychological, and every other form of dependency.<\/p>\n No matter what\u2019s going on between you two, you\u2019re both their parents. Therefore, they love and want you both in their lives.<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso ter consci\u00eancia de que a vida deles vai mudar drasticamente ap\u00f3s o div\u00f3rcio.<\/strong> Al\u00e9m disso, existe a possibilidade de isto deixar consequ\u00eancias na sua sa\u00fade mental se n\u00e3o for feito corretamente.<\/p>\n First of all, they won\u2019t be living with one of their parents anymore, which is a shock enough.<\/p>\n They\u2019re used to having you both present in their lives 24\/7, and now, all of a sudden, they\u2019ll only get to see their mom or dad a few times a week.<\/p>\n Also, there is a possibility that they\u2019ll have to move, depending on which spouse keeps your marital home. That means they\u2019ll have to change their entire surroundings, including their school and friends.<\/p>\n How old are your children? Do you think that they\u2019re mature enough to process what\u2019s going on? O que tenciona fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 cust\u00f3dia dos filhos? Acha que voc\u00ea e o seu c\u00f4njuge ser\u00e3o capazes de encontrar um meio-termo e chegar a um acordo que sirva melhor os vossos filhos?<\/p>\n Or will you have to go through a child custody battle? Will you two have what it takes to go through this painful process the adult way, or will your children\u2019s lives become your battlefield?<\/p>\n Todas estas s\u00e3o perguntas que deve fazer a si pr\u00f3prio antes de apresentar o pedido de div\u00f3rcio. After all, you\u2019ve got to have a plan \u2013 you\u2019re responsible for other human beings who are affected by your decision.<\/strong><\/p>\n Either way, this will be a traumatic experience for them, and it\u2019s your job to minimize the damage.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not here to judge you for getting a divorce despite having kids \u2013 I just want you to take this situation seriously.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re younger, you\u2019re convinced that love is enough for two people to succeed together.<\/p>\n You feel butterflies in your belly, the other person makes you laugh, and before you know it, you can\u2019t picture your life without them.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, acabam por se casar. Mais cedo ou mais tarde, apercebemo-nos de que a vida n\u00e3o \u00e9 s\u00f3 arco-\u00edris e unic\u00f3rnios.<\/p>\n Most importantly: you realize that love is not enough for a sustainable relationship that doesn\u2019t have compromise, respect, fidelity, healthy communication, etc.<\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t agree with you more: you\u2019re an adult who needs other things besides love to be happy and fulfilled. <\/strong><\/p>\n But let\u2019s not forget one thing: even though it\u2019s not the only thing that matters, love between partners is still crucial and irreplaceable.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, let your feelings be the next point on your \u201cShould I get a divorce\u201d checklist. No, this doesn\u2019t make you an immature hopeless romantic \u2013 it means that you want to take everything into account.<\/p>\n A quest\u00e3o \u00e9: ainda existe algum amor entre si e o seu c\u00f4njuge? Ainda se amam?<\/a>, despite everything bad that\u2019s happened between you two?<\/p>\n If the answer is yes, will these feelings magically go away the moment you sign those divorce papers? Basically, what I want to know is whether you\u2019re capable of killing those feelings off?<\/p>\n Existe a possibilidade de continuar a am\u00e1-lo, daqui a alguns anos, apesar de n\u00e3o estarem juntos? E vale a pena correr esse risco?<\/strong> A quem dar\u00e1s ouvidos, ao teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ou \u00e0 tua mente?<\/p>\n On the other hand, there are couples whose passion vanished ages ago and couples who are convinced that they don\u2019t love each other anymore.<\/p>\n Well, I\u2019m not here to advise you to stay in a loveless marriage. Remember: love is not enough, but it is crucial.<\/strong><\/p>\n However, if this is the only reason why you want a divorce, ask yourself whether you\u2019ve done everything to rekindle your love.<\/p>\n Look, just because you are not in love with your partner the way you were at the beginning of your romance doesn\u2019t make you totally indifferent.<\/p>\n No final do dia, the most important thing you have to ask yourself is, \u201cAm I happy?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n Poderia estar a viver numa mans\u00e3o, com todas as suas finan\u00e7as em ordem e um c\u00f4njuge que lhe traz o pequeno-almo\u00e7o na cama todas as manh\u00e3s.<\/p>\n Pode ter um casamento aparentemente perfeito e n\u00e3o ter absolutamente nada de que se queixar.<\/p>\n But at the same time, you could be unhappy. Maybe you\u2019ve concluded that getting married was a mistake in the first place.<\/p>\n Maybe you feel trapped in your relationship. Perhaps you can\u2019t stand looking at your spouse anymore, for no specific reason.<\/p>\n All of this might make you feel unhappy. You can\u2019t really explain why, but you know that you don\u2019t want to remain married to your significant other.<\/p>\n E isso \u00e9 perfeitamente normal. N\u00e3o \u00e9 preciso sentirmo-nos culpados por isto. It\u2019s better to be honest than to keep on sleeping next to someone who makes you miserable.<\/strong><\/p>\n If this is not a phase, and you\u2019ve been feeling like this for a while now, be selfish enough to put your satisfaction first. Go in your pursuit of happiness!<\/p>\n The next thing on your \u201cShould I get a divorce\u201d checklist is your love life afterward. Will you stay single? Or do you plan on remarrying?<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que nunca se pode prever o futuro, mas o que se pode fazer \u00e9 examinar as duas op\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n When you\u2019ve been in a relationship and married for most of your adult life, it\u2019s natural that you’re scared of being single.<\/strong><\/p>\n Mesmo que o seu casamento fosse um desastre, pelo menos sabia que tinha sempre algu\u00e9m em quem confiar.<\/p>\n Sabia a quem ligar primeiro em caso de emerg\u00eancia, tinha algu\u00e9m com quem partilhar as suas responsabilidades e tarefas e tinha o seu acompanhante em eventos importantes.<\/p>\n Each of these things might seem irrelevant at this moment in time but trust me \u2013 once you lose them for good, you\u2019ll sense their absence.<\/p>\n But this is not me telling you that you can\u2019t make it on your own. On the contrary, this is just me preparing you for what\u2019s coming next, so you can be strong enough to endure all those hardships.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you: it will take you some time to get used to this new situation. However, I promise you that you will make it and that you will agite a sua vida de solteiro<\/a>.<\/p>\n The Earth won\u2019t stop spinning once you sign those papers, as much as it seems that way now.<\/p>\n Apesar de, neste momento, isto parecer uma miss\u00e3o imposs\u00edvel, vai conseguir apaixonar-se de novo<\/a> mais cedo ou mais tarde.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not here to force you to jump into a new relationship the moment you part ways with your significant other.<\/p>\n No entanto, I\u2019m asking you: how do you picture your potential relationship after a divorce?<\/strong> Would you only agree to be with a divorcee who\u2019s been through the same experience as you?<\/p>\n Quando \u00e9 que se v\u00ea mentalmente preparado para este passo? Como \u00e9 que acha que o seu novo parceiro se iria encaixar na sua vida?<\/p>\n How will your love life impact your kids, if you have any? Are you open to the possibility of having more children, or do you think you\u2019re done?<\/p>\n Wouldn\u2019t it be great if you could just make a decision about the divorce? One of you packs your bags, leaves your house, and that\u2019s it?<\/p>\n Bem, ent\u00e3o, seria uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Com efeito, a separa\u00e7\u00e3o judicial exige procedimentos que custam dinheiro.<\/strong><\/p>\n In the best-case scenario, you\u2019ll just pay the legal fees. However, this is only possible if you have no real estate or share child custody.<\/p>\n Se conseguirem chegar a acordo sobre quest\u00f5es importantes, assinarem um acordo de div\u00f3rcio n\u00e3o contestado e contratarem um mediador de div\u00f3rcios, isso custar-vos-\u00e1 muito menos dinheiro do que pagar a dois advogados de div\u00f3rcios.<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que esta \u00faltima op\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 a mais dispendiosa, especialmente se entrar numa batalha judicial.<\/p>\n No entanto, o pagamento do processo de div\u00f3rcio deve ser a menor das suas preocupa\u00e7\u00f5es financeiras. Em primeiro lugar, pode dar-se ao luxo de dividir ao meio todos os seus bens im\u00f3veis e o dinheiro das contas banc\u00e1rias?<\/p>\n Se t\u00eam uma casa juntos, podem suportar todas as despesas se foi a vossa ex-mulher ou o vosso marido que a abandonou?<\/p>\n On the other hand, can you afford to rent a new apartment, if you don’t have personal property? What about your health insurance policy and tax returns? Is your life insurance policy in your spouse’s name? Do you have a savings account only in your name?<\/p>\n Staying married for the money is one of the stupidest choices you can make, but regardless, you have to ask yourself whether you\u2019re financially independent enough to walk away from your spouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n If the answer is \u201cno,\u201d start getting ready!<\/strong> Para come\u00e7ar, abra uma conta poupan\u00e7a e comece a construir um futuro para si.<\/p>\n This is especially important if you\u2019re a stay at home parent with no or poor work experience or education. Al\u00e9m disso, obtenha pelo menos um cart\u00e3o de cr\u00e9dito (e controle regularmente o seu relat\u00f3rio de cr\u00e9dito) em seu nome apenas para o ajudar no in\u00edcio!<\/p>\n Don’t forget about child support, alimony, and possibly social security benefits, which will also impact your financial situation.<\/p>\n Se tudo isto for demasiado complexo para o compreender, contrate um advogado especializado em direito da fam\u00edlia para o aconselhar.<\/p>\n No matter what, I know that you\u2019re a self-sufficient person, even though you might not think that of yourself right now.<\/p>\n Significa que pode ultrapassar o seu pr\u00f3prio processo de div\u00f3rcio sozinho, independentemente das circunst\u00e2ncias.<\/strong><\/p>\n No entanto, seria \u00f3timo ter algum apoio no in\u00edcio. Ter pelo menos uma pessoa em quem se possa confiar no per\u00edodo inicial p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio \u00e9 mais do que suficiente.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019ll be honest with you: it won\u2019t be easy. First and foremost, you\u2019ll go through a grieving process.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t care if you\u2019re the one who initiated the divorce or who fell out of love with your spouse \u2013 parting ways with someone you planned on spending the rest of your life with is difficult as hell.<\/p>\n There will be a lot of sleepless nights you\u2019ll spend wondering if you made the right choice. Even if you ended up despising your husband or wife, there will also be moments when you\u2019ll miss their presence.<\/p>\n Even if you were dying to get out of your toxic relationship, there will be times when you\u2019ll miss being married. Surprisingly but true, sometimes you\u2019ll even miss having someone to argue with.<\/p>\n Well, this is when you\u2019ll need your loved ones\u2019 emotional support.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019ll need your best friend or a sibling you can call in the middle of the night, just to hear you out and to tell you that everything will be alright.<\/strong><\/p>\n You may need some financial support as well. Don\u2019t worry \u2013 accepting some help from those closest to you, in the beginning, isn\u2019t the same as begging.<\/strong><\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t make you incompetent \u2013 it just means that you\u2019ve found yourself in a new situation and that you could use a hand.<\/strong> Nevertheless, please don\u2019t rely on this money you get \u2013 you\u2019ll still need a steady income.<\/p>\n Your children are your and your spouse\u2019s responsibility. However, if they live with you, you\u2019ll need someone on hand for them.<\/p>\n After all, you\u2019re used to sharing errands and chores around the house. Now, all of a sudden, most of the responsibilities have fallen to you.<\/p>\n So, if your parents offer to take care of the kids while you take some time off or to get them from school, thank them and accept their help. This doesn\u2019t make you a bad parent.<\/strong><\/p>\n The final point on your \u201cShould I get a divorce\u201d checklist should be the question: \u201cCan my o casamento seja salvo<\/a>?\u201d Look, you shouldn\u2019t try gluing back together a casamento desfeito<\/a> beyond repair. If you do that, you\u2019ll just make things better temporarily.<\/p>\n Sooner or later, your marital problems will arise, and you and your spouse will end up divorcing one way or another. Or you\u2019ll grow old in a toxic marriage \u2013 and you don\u2019t know which one is worse.<\/p>\n However, I\u2019m begging you not to take this decision impulsively. Don\u2019t choose to get a divorce just because you\u2019re angry or because you two are dealing with an issue that can be resolved.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t give up on your marriage without a proper fight. Instead, put all of your efforts into trying to bring it back to life.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019ll succeed in fixing your marriage. But at least you\u2019ll always know you did your best.<\/p>\n Confia em mim: you don\u2019t want to catch yourself years from now, thinking that you could have and should have done more.<\/strong><\/p>\n On top of everything else you\u2019ll be dealing with, you don\u2019t want to struggle with all the what ifs.<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s okay for you to leave only when you are positive that your marriage is doomed to fail. Only then the guilt won\u2019t eat you alive, and you\u2019ll be able to move on and heal in a healthy way.<\/p>\n Quando devo divorciar-me?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Have you gone through all the points on the “Should I get a divorce” checklist, but you’re still not sure what to do?<\/p>\n Don’t worry because I’ve got you covered with these surefire sinais de que o fim do seu casamento<\/a> \u00e9 a coisa a fazer.<\/p>\n Get a divorce if…<\/strong><\/p>\n No one is perfect, so it\u2019s no surprise that your spouse did something to hurt your feelings.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you: even if you two work things out, there will always be times where they\u2019ll do you harm, sometimes without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n However, there are some situations where you simply can\u2019t forgive them, as hard as you try.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter whether you were involved with a narcissist, if they were unfaithful, quebrou a sua confian\u00e7a<\/a>, abandoned you when you needed them the most, or didn\u2019t meet your expectations.<\/p>\n The point is that YOU feel like you can\u2019t forget what they\u2019ve done. Deep down, you know that this event will forever remain a barrier between you two.<\/strong><\/p>\n In that case, you have no other option but to file for a divorce. After all, you shouldn\u2019t spend the rest of your life with someone you feel so much resentment for.<\/p>\n Please, don\u2019t feel guilty for doing so. You listened to your gut and did the right thing!<\/p>\n Pode ser independente<\/a> and married, but you can\u2019t be codependent and divorced.<\/strong><\/p>\n I\u2019m sure you see my point: nobody is telling you to get a divorce just because you can make it on your own. But on the other hand, you MUST be self-sufficient to get a divorce.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know this sounds pretty harsh, but it is how things are, whether you like it or not. From now on, you\u2019ll have your own household that you need to support.<\/p>\n If the kids are staying with you, you\u2019ll be getting child support. If you don\u2019t have a job and your ex-spouse is financially stable, the court will probably order them to give you spousal support as well.<\/p>\n No entanto, n\u00e3o se deve contar com uma pens\u00e3o de alimentos ou qualquer tipo de apoio financeiro. Tem de ser financeiramente independente para dar este grande passo.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, analise os seus documentos financeiros e relat\u00f3rios de cr\u00e9dito e veja qual \u00e9 a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o!<\/strong><\/p>\n Another form of self-sufficiency you have to acquire is an emotional one. Forget about turning to the other side of the bed, waiting for a hug whenever you\u2019re feeling miserable at night.<\/p>\n Esque\u00e7a a ideia de telefonar ao seu ex-marido ou mulher sempre que precisar de algu\u00e9m para ouvir os seus problemas e ser o seu ombro para chorar.<\/p>\n The harsh truth is that you\u2019re not only losing a husband or a wife, you\u2019re also losing a friend and a family member.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you\u2019re ready to be self-sufficient in all of these ways \u2013 you\u2019re good to go. If not, maybe you should work on your independence first before you leave your marriage.<\/strong><\/p>\n Being married means being a part of a union. One of the reasons you say \u201cI do\u201d is not to go through life alone anymore and to be a part of a two-person team.<\/p>\n Well, one of the signs that it\u2019s time to file for a divorce is that there is no more \u201cwe\u201d in your marriage. If you\u2019ve experienced something similar, you\u2019ll know exactly what I\u2019m talking about.<\/p>\n When this happens, you feel like you\u2019re sozinho numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/strong> You can\u2019t rely on your partner, they don\u2019t give you any emotional support, and you don\u2019t see them as your plus one.<\/p>\n Eles tomam todas as decis\u00f5es da vida deles sem o envolver, e voc\u00ea acaba por se sentir como o companheiro de quarto deles em vez do c\u00f4njuge.<\/p>\n Se tem filhos, sente-se como um pai solteiro. O seu c\u00f4njuge n\u00e3o participa na educa\u00e7\u00e3o dos filhos, nem lhes d\u00e1 aten\u00e7\u00e3o suficiente.<\/p>\n Of course, this can change in some cases \u2013 it\u2019s just necessary for both of you to put in some extra effort. The first step is to talk things through with your loved one and tell them that this is bothering you.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re both interested in bettering your marriage, you\u2019ll both change, and you\u2019ll become an item once again. However, if the other party doesn\u2019t mind living like this, you have no other choice but to pack your bags.<\/strong><\/p>\n It turns out that you\u2019re pretty much alone either way, so why shouldn\u2019t you be officially single?<\/strong><\/p>\n It has already been established that your happiness has to come first. Of course, this doesn\u2019t apply to the situation where you have kids because you\u2019re responsible for their well being.<\/p>\n However, even then, they\u2019re more likely to have a better quality of life next to two satisfied parents who live apart than to grow up in a toxic environment next to two unhappy caregivers.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, if you think that you\u2019ll be mais feliz sozinho<\/a> do que com o seu parceiro, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 muito a dizer sobre isto. Tudo \u00e9 claro: a vida de solteiro \u00e9 a sua busca de felicidade.<\/strong><\/p>\n Once again, I\u2019m not talking about a phase here. We all have times when we feel miserable and see our life as an utter disaster.<\/p>\n I\u2019m talking about when you know for sure that you\u2019re better off without this person<\/a>. Neste caso, deixar o seu casamento \u00e9 sair da sua zona de conforto.<\/p>\n No entanto, dar um salto para o desconhecido oferece-lhe, pelo menos, a possibilidade de ser feliz. Por outro lado, se continuar casado, est\u00e1 a privar-se desta oportunidade para sempre.<\/strong><\/p>\n It\u2019s one thing if a fa\u00edsca<\/a> desapareceu entre si e a sua cara-metade. A maioria das pessoas nunca o admitir\u00e1, mas quase todos os casais caem numa rotina e entram numa fase em que a paix\u00e3o n\u00e3o est\u00e1 presente.<\/p>\n Esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o deixa a possibilidade de recupera\u00e7\u00e3o. \u00c9 preciso trabalhar a vossa liga\u00e7\u00e3o e dar o vosso melhor para melhorar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n No entanto, if you have no doubt that you\u2019ve stopped loving your partner and that your love cannot be revived, you shouldn\u2019t force yourself into spending the rest of your life next to that person.<\/strong><\/p>\n This goes both ways \u2013 if you see that they\u2019ve become indifferent, you shouldn\u2019t implorar pelo seu amor<\/a>.<\/strong> You\u2019ve tried the last item on your \u201cShould I get a divorce\u201d checklist \u2013 you did your best to revive your marriage.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve gone to marriage counseling, you and your spouse had multiple mature conversations, and you put effort into changing some things about your relationship.<\/p>\n Mas despite all of your attempts, now you see that your marriage cannot be saved. You gave your best and more, but your efforts weren\u2019t fruitful.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, what do you do? Well, you ask for a divorce because you’re left with no other option.<\/p>\n Finally, you should only get a divorce when you\u2019re mentally prepared for it. N\u00e3o se trata de uma decis\u00e3o impulsiva e requer muito pensar demais<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n That\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ve done: you thought things through more than once, you\u2019ve put all the ups and downs on a scale, and you accepted the fact that parting ways is the only reasonable solution.<\/p>\n Estar preparado para o div\u00f3rcio significa muito mais do que arranjar um emprego est\u00e1vel, encontrar um lugar para viver e organizar a sua vida de forma a poder lidar com tudo sozinho.<\/strong><\/p>\n Significa tamb\u00e9m estar mentalmente preparado para isso.<\/strong><\/p>\n It means that you\u2019ve come to terms with the idea that you\u2019re losing someone you thought was the love of your life and that you understand that this is the end, not a cry for attention or a warning for them to change.<\/p>\n It means that you know that you\u2019ll be going through a rough patch and that you\u2019re strong enough to handle all the emotions that will appear, but that you won\u2019t allow them to shake your decision.<\/p>\n Moreover, being ready to get a divorce means that you have no second thoughts about your decision. You\u2019re convinced this is the only right thing to do, and you plan on sticking to it forever.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, significa ser suficientemente maduro para compreender que estas coisas acontecem, em vez de ver o div\u00f3rcio como uma derrota pessoal.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: 15 ideias para festas de div\u00f3rcio para o capacitar e preparar para a sua nova vida<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n 6 Dos and Don\u2019ts Of Post-Divorce Etiquette<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n Your journey isn\u2019t over once you decide to get a divorce. Instead, it only begins now for real, even though you\u2019ve made a huge step.<\/p>\n Eis algumas dicas e truques para o ajudar a sobreviver ao per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio da forma mais f\u00e1cil poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Divorciar-se significa perder provavelmente a pessoa mais importante da sua vida. Sim, they\u2019re alive<\/a>, but you\u2019re still processing a loss.<\/p>\n Therefore, there is nothing shameful in grieving it. Sadly, some people simply don\u2019t take the time to allow themselves to contemplate their sadness.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not advising you to drown in it, but you need to give yourself time to grieve.<\/strong><\/p>\n I know that you\u2019re up to your neck in paperwork, you\u2019re overly worried about the kids and the finances, and you\u2019re trying to get used to your new life rhythm \u2013 especially in the first year after the divorce.<\/p>\n Devido a tudo isto, n\u00e3o tem energia para pensar no que lhe aconteceu. Deixa para mais tarde a gest\u00e3o das suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, porque agora tem coisas melhores para fazer.<\/p>\n So, what happens when that \u201clater\u201d arrives? Well, your deeply rooted traumas appear on the surface and, in most cases, cause serious damage to your mental health.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why I\u2019m begging you not to bury things under the carpet. Face your demons as it\u2019s the only way to chase them away permanently.<\/p>\n Obviously, you had some rough times in your marriage \u2013 otherwise, your \u201cShould I get a divorce\u201d checklist wouldn\u2019t have been completed.<\/p>\n However, you\u2019re out of your relationship, and there is absolutely no point in going back to it in your head. It doesn\u2019t matter if you didn\u2019t get the apology you wanted so badly. It\u2019s okay if you can\u2019t forgive<\/a> o mal que o seu c\u00f4njuge lhe causou. Bastar\u00e1 deixar tudo isso no passado.<\/strong><\/p>\n Don\u2019t pretend that your wounds are non-existent, but don\u2019t pick on them constantly, either. Otherwise, they\u2019ll never turn into scars.<\/p>\n You\u2019re a grown-up who\u2019s been through a serious situation. Well, this is not the time to start acting immaturely.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that you necessarily have to remain friends with your ex. However, talking trash about them on social media or playing jogos mentais t\u00f3xicos<\/a> n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Whatever you two do, please don\u2019t be childish. After all, you spent so much time together and shared so many beautiful memories. So please, honor that if you have any respect left for each other.<\/strong><\/p>\n Being a divorcee doesn\u2019t make you any less valuable, nor does it decrease your worth on the mercado de encontros<\/a>.<\/p>\n I have to warn you: you\u2019ll run into many people who\u2019ll feel sorry for you once they hear that your marriage has failed.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have to get used to appearing at events and family gatherings on your own. You\u2019ll meet potential girls or guys who\u2019ll look down on your romantic history.<\/p>\n However, neither of these things should ruin your self-image. In fact, it\u2019s your job not to allow this to happen.<\/p>\n Just because your marriage didn\u2019t work out, it doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re not worthy.<\/strong><\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re inam\u00e1vel<\/a>, that you\u2019ll never find happiness, or that you\u2019re not good enough for someone to grow old with you.<\/p>\n This one is probably the most significant: whatever happened between you and your spouse, the kids shouldn\u2019t suffer the consequences of your actions or decisions.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest: they\u2019ll suffer enough that their family broke apart in a way, so there is no need for you and your ex-wife or husband to make things even more difficult.<\/strong><\/p>\n Whether you like it or not, if you have kids with someone, you two will be connected in a way for the rest of your lives. You\u2019re still co-pais<\/a>apesar de j\u00e1 n\u00e3o serem casados.<\/p>\n So, please, be civilized about it. Make sure your kids\u2019 benefits always come first.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t talk trash about each other and don\u2019t compete for their attention. Instead, be united in raising your children, even if you couldn\u2019t work as a team in other segments of your lives.<\/p>\nAbuso<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/man-yelling-at-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAssuntos<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/couple-kissing-8.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAconselhamento matrimonial<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-talking-to-therapist-2.jpg\")
<\/p>\nConsultar um profissional<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-talking-to-therapist-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAceitar conselhos dos outros<\/h3>\n
Comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-talking-to-man-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\n![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/couple-talking-8.jpg\")
<\/p>\nPlano de parentalidade<\/h2>\n
![\"m\u00e3e](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mother-and-daughter-walking.jpg\")
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\nSer\u00e1 que v\u00e3o ver isto como a rutura de toda a sua fam\u00edlia e do mundo que conhecem?<\/p>\nAmor<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-armchair-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nO amor liga-o<\/h3>\n
Deixar de gostar do seu c\u00f4njuge<\/h3>\n
Felicidade pessoal<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-mountain-4.jpg\")
<\/p>\nVida amorosa p\u00f3s-div\u00f3rcio<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-drinking-coffee-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\nVida de solteiro<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-door-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\nReentrar na piscina dos encontros<\/h3>\n
Situa\u00e7\u00e3o financeira<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/man-signing-on-paper.jpg\")
<\/p>\nCusto do div\u00f3rcio<\/h3>\n
A vida depois do div\u00f3rcio<\/h3>\n
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\nAssinaram um acordo pr\u00e9-nupcial e em que termos? T\u00eam contas de reforma conjuntas?<\/p>\n
\nYou need to acquire a certain skill and get a job as soon as possible if you don\u2019t want to end up on the streets.<\/p>\nApoio de terceiros<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-leaning-on-womans-shoulder.jpg\")
<\/p>\nApoio emocional<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-talking-on-the-phone-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\nApoio financeiro<\/h3>\n
Servi\u00e7os de babysitting<\/h3>\n
Salvar o seu casamento<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/couple-sitting-on-armchair.jpg\")
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\nHaver\u00e1 mais alguma coisa a fazer? H\u00e1 alguma esperan\u00e7a? Algum raio de luz a atravessar a escurid\u00e3o?<\/strong><\/p>\nO perd\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-leaning-on-fence-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nYou\u2019re ready to be self-sufficient<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-outdoor-9.jpg\")
<\/p>\nIndepend\u00eancia financeira<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-holding-mug.jpg\")
<\/p>\nIndepend\u00eancia emocional<\/h3>\n
There is no \u201cwe\u201d<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-leaning-on-sofa-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nYou\u2019ll be happier alone<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-near-tree-1.jpg\")
<\/p>\nN\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais amor<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n
\nCastigar-se com uma vida sem amor \u00e9 uma senten\u00e7a de morte, especialmente se um dos dois tem sentimentos por outra pessoa.<\/p>\nYour marriage can\u2019t be saved<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-touching-hair-4.jpg\")
<\/p>\nYou\u2019re psychologically prepared for the divorce<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-standing-in-the-field-4.jpg\")
<\/p>\nDar a si pr\u00f3prio tempo para fazer o luto<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-sitting-on-rock-10.jpg\")
<\/p>\nDeixar de lado o ressentimento<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n
\nEasier said than done, I know. But you do have to let go of the resentment that\u2019s been eating you alive.<\/p>\nSer maduro<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/woman-looking-at-water.jpg\")
<\/p>\nDon\u2019t allow the divorce to ruin your self-image<\/h2>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/couple-drinking-wine-3.jpg\")
<\/p>\nDon\u2019t let the kids suffer<\/h2>\n
![\"m\u00e3e](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/mother-and-children-using-laptop.jpg\")
<\/p>\nDon\u2019t repeat your mistakes<\/h2>\n
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