{"id":115273,"date":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","date_gmt":"2020-11-26T12:51:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=115273"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:07:06","slug":"evitar-a-intimidade-quando-ele-anseia-por-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/evitar-a-intimidade-quando-ele-anseia-por-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que ele evita a intimidade quando \u00e9 \u00f3bvio que anseia por amor?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ele j\u00e1 se tinha magoado antes? \u00c9 apenas algo que os homens fazem? \u00c9 poss\u00edvel que ele teme o amor<\/a>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Well, they don\u2019t say \u201co amor magoa<\/a>\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that needs to be addressed and understood when it\u2019s clear he wants love but refuses to receive it.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es poss\u00edveis para que ele evite ser \u00edntimo e mostrar os seus sentimentos<\/a>. For many of those reasons, we can blame society, which tells men to \u201csuck it up\u201d and \u201cbe a man.\u201d<\/p>\n

Para compreender os homens, as mulheres precisam de mudar de ponto de vista. O facto de ser homem acarreta um conjunto de problemas diferentes dos que as mulheres t\u00eam.<\/strong><\/p>\n

And yes, even though it\u2019s generally accepted that men \u201chave it easy,\u201d that doesn\u2019t mean they don\u2019t have problems.<\/p>\n

In fact, having problems and not being able to talk about them (because it\u2019s not manly) is an issue on its own.<\/p>\n

Intimacy and love are universal things. If everything\u2019s balanced, neither men nor women should have a problem with receiving or giving it.<\/p>\n

No entanto, muitas pessoas, se n\u00e3o todas, a dada altura das suas vidas, t\u00eam um problema de compreens\u00e3o de si pr\u00f3prias e dos seus desejos, necessidades e problemas.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when they usually slip into either ser carente<\/a> (exigir amor e aten\u00e7\u00e3o) ou ser demasiado desligado<\/a> (evitar a intimidade e n\u00e3o dar aten\u00e7\u00e3o).<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, quais s\u00e3o os factores que podem desencadear este tipo de comportamento?<\/p>\n

Novos sentimentos reavivam m\u00e1goas passadas<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Maybe he was badly hurt before, so he\u2019s extra careful when it comes to a new relationship.<\/p>\n

Even if he\u2019s in a steady relationship and even if he manages to be affectionate initially, thoughts about past experiences will start to creep up over time.<\/p>\n

Isto torna a pessoa vulner\u00e1vel, e a vulnerabilidade \u00e9 vista como uma fraqueza.<\/a><\/p>\n

It usually isn\u2019t about the person he\u2019s with, but the situations that trigger something from the past.<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t just refer to experiences with romantic partners but also circumstances in which he grew up, his upbringing, and family dynamics, which have a huge role in emotional life later on.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t help that we too often choose partners with whom we unconsciously recreate problematic dynamics.<\/p>\n

Isto mostra-nos qu\u00e3o importante e profundamente enraizado \u00e9 o nosso comportamento aprendido e qu\u00e3o complexa \u00e9 realmente a mente humana.<\/p>\n

O stress est\u00e1 a tomar conta da sua vida<\/h2>\n

\"Empres\u00e1rio<\/p>\n

O stress \u00e9 um conhecido assassino do humor<\/a>, and, in my opinion, it\u2019s not talked about enough regarding this context.<\/p>\n

O stress sequestra a sua vida, muda completamente as suas prioridades contra a sua vontade e impede-o de sentir as coisas plenamente.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not easy to get rid of or control. It gets into your mind and makes a person forget about things they really want or even live for, hence the lack of affection even if they love you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s no secret that love sometimes triggers existential fears because having someone to take care of means providing, especially when it comes to men\u2019s traditional role.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 isto que faz com que seja dif\u00edcil explorar os sentimentos, mesmo quando uma pessoa ama genuinamente o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Medo do amor desigual<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Everybody has that tiny voice in their head that sometimes tells them they\u2019re not enough.<\/p>\n

O medo do amor desigual \u00e9 real e afecta a forma como uma pessoa expressa os seus sentimentos.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we fear that we\u2019ll end up hurt, and sometimes we fear that the other person will end up hurt because of us. Either way, we\u2019re lacking in something, and it prevents us from expressing romantic feelings.<\/p>\n

Often this has to do with feeling unlovable deep inside ourselves. We refuse to love because we don\u2019t think we deserve it or think we\u2019re not capable of giving it back.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s what sometimes makes people act colder than they are when in reality, they crave love the same way everybody else does.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Was he hurt before? Is it just something men do? Is it possible that he fears love? Well, they don\u2019t say \u201clove hurts\u201d without good reason. However, it\u2019s the only thing we really crave in life. Everybody wants love even when they\u2019re set to \u201cstay single forever.\u201d It\u2019s pretty obvious there\u2019s some underlying issue that…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":115278,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-115273","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/11\/Why-Does-He-Avoid-Intimacy-When-Its-Obvious-He-Craves-Love_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=115273"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/115273\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/115278"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=115273"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=115273"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=115273"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}