{"id":11601,"date":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","date_gmt":"2019-11-09T11:33:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=11601"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:00:16","slug":"perder-fez-encontrar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/perder-fez-encontrar\/","title":{"rendered":"Como perder-te me fez encontrar-me a mim pr\u00f3prio"},"content":{"rendered":"

For most of my life, I have given attention and affection to all who asked. I\u2019ve put everyone else\u2019s needs before my own<\/a>o que me levou a ignorar as minhas.<\/p>\r\n

A \u00fanica coisa que ganhei ao tentar fazer toda a gente feliz \u00e0 minha volta foi um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\r\n

That made me realize that no one is worth my tears and my pain. It made me realize that I don\u2019t love myself. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Outros obrigaram-me a odiar-me a mim pr\u00f3prio e a quem me tornei.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

I was never supposed to be the person I have become. I know I\u2019m not that person deep inside.<\/p>\r\n

I know that a long time ago I was satisfied with myself, I loved and respected myself but life forced me to change\u2014you forced me to change.<\/p>\r\n

Eu estava cheio de energia negativa e a tristeza estava a enfurecer-se dentro de mim. Saiu de mim, destruindo tudo o que eu amava e fazendo-me sentir ainda pior do que j\u00e1 me sentia.<\/p>\r\n

But I didn\u2019t want to show what was going on inside my mind. I concealed that depression and anger that was raging inside me, which led me to the point of almost utter self-destruction.<\/p>\r\n

Outros perguntavam-se como \u00e9 que eu conseguia ser t\u00e3o positiva mesmo quando a minha vida estava a desmoronar-se<\/a>. I\u2019ll tell you how.<\/p>\r\n

Although I\u2019d almost lost my self-respect and self-love, in my darkest times I rediscovered it. I found shelter in myself from all the anger that was growing inside me.<\/p>\r\n

O meu lado bom, o meu amor por mim pr\u00f3pria, venceu a tristeza e o medo que sentia por ter medo de me tornar mais do que suficiente para mim. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Tinha medo de voltar a ser algu\u00e9m que j\u00e1 fui.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Sobrevivi a desgostos como qualquer outra pessoa. Engasguei-me com as minhas pr\u00f3prias l\u00e1grimas e passei muitas noites acordado, a gritar o teu nome.<\/p>\r\n

I spent days not wanting to get up out of the bed, trying to find the reason why we didn\u2019t work out.<\/p>\r\n

I blamed myself for not trying hard enough, but then I realized it was not my fault. It was never my fault. I just wasn\u2019t something you needed, nor were you something that I needed.<\/p>\r\n

Passei demasiado tempo a tentar fazer-te feliz e esqueci-me da minha pr\u00f3pria felicidade. Ignorei os meus sentimentos ao ponto de perder o meu verdadeiro eu.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

Tentei ser suficiente para ti, mas nunca era suposto eu ser tua, para come\u00e7ar. Entraste na minha vida com um \u00fanico objetivo, que era lembrar-me de me respeitar e amar a mim pr\u00f3prio e de never change for anyone’s sake<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n

Esta foi a li\u00e7\u00e3o que aprendi da maneira mais dif\u00edcil, mas valeu a pena, por isso, obrigado.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

When we broke up, I thought I was going to be lost. I thought I\u2019d lost my strength because I thought you were the one who gave it to me. I thought you were the reason<\/p>\r\n

Continuei a ir e a lutar. Agora, percebo que me estava a impedir.<\/p>\r\n

You were making me hate myself and what I\u2019d become. That isn\u2019t supposed to happen with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\r\n

Depois de ter sobrevivido a essa montanha-russa emocional, encontrei finalmente algu\u00e9m forte. Encontrei algu\u00e9m que me est\u00e1 a levar a querer mais.<\/p>\r\n

I found someone who told me it\u2019s alright to be something you want to be.<\/p>\r\n

I found someone who told me it\u2019s important to love yourself and only then can you love someone else.<\/p>\r\n

Esse algu\u00e9m era eu.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\r\n

I want to give all the love I used to give others to myself. That way I\u2019m going to grow stronger and when I mature completely I will be able to love someone who truly deserves it. But first of all, I have to find myself.<\/p>\r\n

I know that after all I have been through, after I realized what I needed, that I\u2019m the one who is in control of my life. I\u2019m the one who decides what\u2019s right and what\u2019s wrong with me.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m the one who can change the course of my own happiness. And I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it without your help.<\/p>\r\n

I wouldn\u2019t be able to do it if you hadn\u2019t left me and made me realize that Tenho de me encontrar<\/a>que, depois de tanta dor e tantas l\u00e1grimas, acabei por conseguir.<\/p>\r\n

Depois de Dei por mim<\/a> and chose to love myself, I realized that I\u2019m going to spend the rest of my life with myself and because of that I have to make peace with myself.<\/p>\r\n

Tenho de ser a minha melhor amiga e a \u00fanica pessoa que posso mudar sou eu.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

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