Unfortunately, in most cases, people aren’t even aware they have an attachment disorder.<\/strong><\/p>\n They can’t cultivate a more secure estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> because they aren’t even aware of the disorder or they simply don’t want to admit and accept it.<\/p>\n We’re social beings and we all crave love and connection with another human being. That’s exactly why attachment theory should be important to all of us.<\/p>\n Attachment styles dictate our relationships and how we’ll connect with other people. In most cases, they develop in early childhood, though they can develop later in life, also.<\/strong><\/p>\n If a child is raised in a healthy, safe surrounding, they’ll probably develop a secure attachment, which will lead them to a good life.<\/em><\/p>\n Os traumas, os abusos e as depend\u00eancias podem afetar negativamente o desenvolvimento da crian\u00e7a. Crian\u00e7as criadas num ambiente t\u00e3o t\u00f3xico<\/a> desenvolver\u00e1 provavelmente uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o insegura, o que ter\u00e1 um impacto negativo no seu futuro.<\/em><\/p>\n For infants, their primary caregivers are their sources of safety, their “secure base”, and when that changes, when their parents become more nervous or aggressive, children simply feel frightened.<\/p>\n Sentem-se tra\u00eddos pelos seus prestadores de cuidados porque, para eles, s\u00e3o os \u00fanicos em quem se podem apoiar e em quem podem confiar.<\/p>\n That’s exactly when the patterns of disorganized attachment (also known as a fearful evitante<\/a> anexo) come\u00e7am a desenvolver-se.<\/p>\n A psic\u00f3loga do desenvolvimento, Dra. Mary Ainsworth, conduziu uma investiga\u00e7\u00e3o intitulada “Strange Situation”<\/em>e analisou o comportamento de crian\u00e7as pequenas quando os pais saem do quarto.<\/p>\n A maioria das crian\u00e7as chorava e ficava perturbada, mas assim que os pais regressavam \u00e0 sala, acalmava-se. Essas crian\u00e7as tinham um sistema de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o seguro.<\/p>\n On the other hand, there were those kids who got upset and couldn’t calm down even when their parents came back.<\/p>\n Continuavam a chorar e alguns deles at\u00e9 batiam nos pais. Isto \u00e9 um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o inseguro.<\/a><\/p>\n Those kids were ‘angry’ with their parents in a way because they were afraid they would leave them alone again.<\/p>\n Van IJzendoorn, Schuengel e Bakermans-Kranenburg efectuaram uma meta-an\u00e1lise deste tipo de liga\u00e7\u00e3o, que publicaram em 1999.<\/p>\n O seu estudo mostrou que 14% de beb\u00e9s de grupos com estatuto de classe m\u00e9dia, juntamente com 24% de beb\u00e9s de grupos com estatuto socioecon\u00f3mico baixo, t\u00eam padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizados.<\/p>\n Main and Hesse (1990) also agree that the parents’ behavior and past traumas affect children greatly, and it can be associated with psychopathology and other disorders in their adulthood.<\/p>\n If parents have too many unresolved past issues or are dealing with too much stress or have any kind of addiction, they won’t have affective communication with their children, which will lead to attachment disorganization.<\/p>\n No Entrevista de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o do adulto<\/em>Mary Main, Ph.D., demonstrou que o principal fator de previs\u00e3o no desenvolvimento de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada entre um pai e uma crian\u00e7a \u00e9 um trauma passado doloroso e n\u00e3o resolvido do prestador de cuidados que levou a padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizados.<\/strong><\/p>\n No Manual de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/em>, de J. Cassidy & P. R. Shaver (Eds.), as notas das crian\u00e7as com vincula\u00e7\u00e3o segura e das crian\u00e7as com vincula\u00e7\u00e3o insegura tamb\u00e9m foram investigadas.<\/p>\n \u00c9 claro que as crian\u00e7as com vincula\u00e7\u00e3o segura tinham notas muito melhores.<\/p>\n Descobriram tamb\u00e9m que os filhos de m\u00e3es deprimidas t\u00eam maior probabilidade de desenvolver este tipo de padr\u00e3o de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n \u00c0 semelhan\u00e7a da sua investiga\u00e7\u00e3o, um professor de psicologia, Dr. Lyons-Ruth K., descobriu que 62% dos filhos de m\u00e3es cronicamente deprimidas (especialmente m\u00e3es solteiras com baixos rendimentos) t\u00eam desorganiza\u00e7\u00e3o da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Num artigo publicado na Guilford Press, em 2011, J. Solomon e C. George afirmam que, se um progenitor tiver alguns problemas de sa\u00fade mental, isso pode torn\u00e1-lo psicologicamente indispon\u00edvel para os seus filhos.<\/p>\n Early attachment patterns significantly affect the attachment pattern that we’ll shape later in life.<\/p>\n Embora os estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o mudem durante as diferentes fases da vida, a vincula\u00e7\u00e3o infantil desempenha um papel importante na forma\u00e7\u00e3o da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o adulta.<\/p>\n Este \u00e9 um aspeto a que todos os pais devem prestar muita aten\u00e7\u00e3o. Se you develop an organized attachment relationship with your children, they’ll probably keep that attachment style throughout their life.<\/strong><\/p>\n Os factores de previs\u00e3o e as causas da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada s\u00e3o numerosos, mas alguns dos factores mais significativos que desencadeiam este tipo de comportamento s\u00e3o:<\/p>\n As pessoas com este tipo de liga\u00e7\u00e3o foram magoadas, tra\u00eddas ou mesmo abusadas pelos seus entes queridos no passado. Essas experi\u00eancias dolorosas e desconfort\u00e1veis afectaram negativamente as suas autoestima<\/a>.<\/p>\n They have a very poor opinion about themselves. They think they’re unworthy of love because they never got the love they deserve.<\/p>\n O seu comportamento err\u00e1tico dificulta o in\u00edcio e a manuten\u00e7\u00e3o de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pr\u00f3xima com outra pessoa.<\/p>\n They’re known for sudden mood swings and angry\/psychotic outbursts.<\/strong> Sadly, they aren’t even aware that their unpredictable behavior is a symptom of their insecure disorganized attachment.<\/p>\n Even if they do indulge in a romantic relationship with someone, it’s very difficult for them to build trust with their partners, which is a crucial foundation of every healthy relationship.<\/p>\n They have experienced many bad things in the past, and it all led them to having trust issues. It’s very challenging and difficult for them to get closure from their past and to trust someone again.<\/p>\n Estas pessoas anseiam por uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o pr\u00f3xima com outra pessoa; tamb\u00e9m querem ser amadas, mas, ao mesmo tempo, t\u00eam muito medo de deixar entrar algu\u00e9m novo.<\/p>\n Their fear of rejection and intimacy doesn’t allow them to make and maintain a deeper connection with another person.<\/p>\n People with this kind of attachment won’t be able to have a good relationship with their own children.<\/p>\n A sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o ter\u00e1 padr\u00f5es de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizados, tal como a rela\u00e7\u00e3o entre eles e os seus cuidadores prim\u00e1rios tinha.<\/p>\n They do want to be loved and they also crave a close relationship, but they think people won\u2019t accept and like them the way they are, and that fear of rejection and intimidade<\/a> torna mais dif\u00edcil para eles manterem uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Todos os profissionais concordam que este tipo de liga\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 causado por experi\u00eancias dolorosas da primeira inf\u00e2ncia. Essas m\u00e1s experi\u00eancias podem conduzir a algumas perturba\u00e7\u00f5es graves da sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n Depress\u00e3o<\/a>A ansiedade, a perturba\u00e7\u00e3o de personalidade lim\u00edtrofe e outras perturba\u00e7\u00f5es de sa\u00fade mental semelhantes t\u00eam impacto na forma como pensamos e sentimos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o aos outros e tamb\u00e9m em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n Afectam tamb\u00e9m a forma como nos relacionamos com as outras pessoas.<\/p>\n Uma pessoa com este tipo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o pode tamb\u00e9m sofrer de algumas perturba\u00e7\u00f5es dissociativas, como a fuga \u00e0 realidade em situa\u00e7\u00f5es espec\u00edficas.<\/p>\n Come\u00e7am a comportar-se de forma invulgar e usam um tom de voz diferente. Estas situa\u00e7\u00f5es podem parecer estranhas ou mesmo assustadoras para as outras pessoas.<\/p>\n Developing a more secure attachment style may be challenging, but it’s not impossible.<\/strong><\/p>\n If you have noticed that yourself or your loved one has any of these signs above, you should find a coping mechanism before it’s too late… before the disorganized attachment ruins your life.<\/p>\n Em primeiro lugar, \u00e9 preciso aprender a acalmar-se e a manter a calma em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es. Pratique a aten\u00e7\u00e3o plena.<\/p>\n Breathe in and breathe out, or let’s say it this way, breathe all your worries and things that are bothering you in, and then breathe them out.<\/p>\n Don’t try to fix your emotions; instead, you should only be trying to understand them. You aren’t broken, so you don’t need to be fixed.<\/p>\n You only need to improve some things in your life… start with improving the relationship you have with yourself.<\/p>\n I know you have some very negative, dark thoughts about yourself and your life. However, you should know that you aren’t your thoughts. You’re way, way better than that.<\/p>\n Don’t criticize yourself that much. Silence the inner critic that is making you think less about yourself. Start perceber o seu valor<\/a> and it’ll help you develop a more organized attachment relationship with yourself.<\/p>\n If you’re aware that you have a disorganized attachment, you should definitely study a little bit more on the attachment theory in general, what it is, how it affects our lives and how many types of attachments there are.<\/p>\n A vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada \u00e9 um dos factores de inseguran\u00e7a estilos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> and it’ll definitely have a negative impact on all spheres of your life.<\/p>\n It’ll damage all your close relationships and make you feel like you’re all alone, like there is no person in the entire world that loves you.<\/p>\n If you learn more about attachment theory, then you’ll understand disorganized attachment better and it’ll help you get the right treatment.<\/p>\n Para lidar com isso e iniciar o seu processo de cura, deve primeiro compreender os factores que desencadeiam os seus problemas de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada.<\/p>\n In order to do that, you’ll have to go back to your past, even all the way to your early childhood. Can you recognize what kinds of attachment patterns you had then?<\/p>\n Pense na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com os seus pais. Teve uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel com eles? Cresceu num ambiente saud\u00e1vel? Pense tamb\u00e9m nas suas outras rela\u00e7\u00f5es \u00edntimas.<\/p>\n The only place you’ll find an answer to what triggered your disorganized attachment style is your past.<\/strong><\/p>\n Todos n\u00f3s cometemos alguns erros no passado. Todos n\u00f3s j\u00e1 fomos tra\u00eddos por algu\u00e9m que am\u00e1vamos e de quem gost\u00e1vamos muito.<\/p>\nO que \u00e9 um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizado?<\/h2>\n
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Sete sinais de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada em adultos<\/h2>\n
Baixa autoestima e uma autoimagem negativa<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nComportamento imprevis\u00edvel<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nProblemas de confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nIncapacidade de manter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nProblemas de sa\u00fade mental<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nSair da realidade<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8 Formas de lidar com uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada<\/h2>\n
Melhorar a sua auto-consci\u00eancia<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nSaiba mais sobre a teoria e os estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nIdentificar fontes de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizada<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEnfrentar os traumas do passado e as mem\u00f3rias dolorosas<\/h2>\n
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