{"id":118452,"date":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","date_gmt":"2020-12-11T12:07:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=118452"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:41:58","slug":"algumas-pessoas-estao-destinadas-a-dar-mais-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/algumas-pessoas-estao-destinadas-a-dar-mais-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c9 poss\u00edvel que algumas pessoas estejam destinadas a dar mais amor do que alguma vez receber\u00e3o?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being on the verge of my thirties has got me thinking. You know how it rolls: you sit down one night, you have a panic attack and you wonder if you\u2019ll have enough time to do all the things on your lista de desejos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Now, I sound like I\u2019m about to turn 80 at least. But, this is a big deal as well – your thirtieth birthday is not just a milestone – it is also an important turning point.<\/p>\n

Having this in mind, you recapitulate everything you\u2019ve done so far; you put each one of your accomplishments and failures on a scale and you wait to see which side will be heavier.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly what I tried doing. Depois de analisar as minhas amizades, rela\u00e7\u00f5es familiares e a minha carreira, chegou a parte assustadora: a minha vida amorosa.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been running from these thoughts for a while now, but there has come a time for me to admit the bitter truth: Em compara\u00e7\u00e3o com outros aspectos da minha vida, as minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas s\u00e3o (e cada uma delas tem sido) um grande desastre.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is not a phase that will go away. In fact, it\u2019s not that I\u2019m heartbroken as we speak.<\/p>\n

No entanto, o facto \u00e9 que a minha vida amorosa nunca foi como eu a imaginava. For as long as I can remember, I\u2019ve been unhappy in love.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t mean that I never had a serious, rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/a>. Tive a minha quota-parte de namorados que amei e que me amaram de volta.<\/p>\n

\u201cSo, how come you\u2019ve always been unhappy?\u201d, you must ask. Porque \u00e9 que todas as tuas rela\u00e7\u00f5es falharam?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estas perguntas incomodaram-me durante algum tempo, mas finalmente obtive as respostas.<\/p>\n

Os meus padr\u00f5es s\u00e3o demasiado elevados? N\u00e3o.<\/strong> Que se lixe; na maior parte das vezes, parecia que eu n\u00e3o tinha padr\u00f5es nenhuns.<\/p>\n

Estarei a procurar demasiado? Sim.<\/strong> Mas espera; como \u00e9 que \u00e9 poss\u00edvel esperar demasiado e, ao mesmo tempo, n\u00e3o ter padr\u00f5es?<\/p>\n

Well, you see – the only thing I asked for in all of my relationships was love.<\/p>\n

Hi, everyone, I\u2019m addicted to someone loving me and I do require too much love from the other person. And, there has come a point for my addiction to be healed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"reflexo<\/p>\n

Durante todos estes anos, culpei os meus parceiros por nunca se preocuparem suficientemente comigo. Desta forma ou de outra, I\u2019ve been aquele que mais amou<\/a> em todas as minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m imagining things – I was really the one making most of the sacrifices, the one putting in more effort, and the one carrying all the weight.<\/p>\n

Consequentemente, acabava sempre por ser eu a ser enganada e deixada para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Parece um padr\u00e3o, certo? Ent\u00e3o, quem \u00e9 o culpado aqui?<\/p>\n

Durante anos, Pensava que nenhum dos meus ex tinha a capacidade de me amar da forma que eu merecia<\/strong>. Sentia-me emocionalmente negligenciada e considerava-os culpados pela minha insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Mas depois apercebi-me: Estava a comparar a quantidade de amor que estava a receber com a quantidade que estava a dar. Durante todo este tempo, pensei que a minha forma de amar era a \u00fanica correcta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

If a guy loves me any less – it\u2019s apparent that he doesn\u2019t love me at all.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Cada uma das minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es era praticamente a mesma: assim que me apercebi disso, esforcei-me por mudar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Estava a fazer tudo o que estava ao meu alcance para que estes homens gostassem mais de mim.<\/strong> Eu estava subtilmente implorando por aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> and affection, and I kept falling into despair every time I didn\u2019t receive it.<\/p>\n

After some time, things would break apart. Sometimes, the men next to me couldn\u2019t handle the pressure of being constantly accused of indifference.<\/p>\n

On some other occasions, I ended things because I couldn\u2019t stand feeling so unloved.<\/p>\n

Depois, apercebi-me que I was born to give more love than I\u2019ll ever receive. That is my fatal flaw that will eventually be the cause of my emotional downfall.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know if I have a greater capacity for love than most people; if I consciously choose men who are unable to give their hearts out or if I secretly enjoy my role.<\/p>\n

Mas, a verdade \u00e9 que acontece sempre a mesma coisa: Deixo os homens entrarem em todo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o sem guardar nenhuma parte dele s\u00f3 para mim.<\/p>\n

O que eu sei \u00e9 que cometo um grande erro sempre que tento for\u00e7ar um rapaz a gostar mais de mim. Em vez disso, devia esfor\u00e7ar-me por me obrigar a gostar menos dele.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You see, you can\u2019t control the way others treat you. You can\u2019t force anyone into loving you more nor can you push them into reciprocating your feelings.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica pessoa sobre a qual tem controlo total \u00e9 voc\u00ea mesmo.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force a guy to text you more often, but you can start texting him less frequently.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t make a guy make sacrifices in your relationship, but you can stop taking all the weight on your shoulders. You know what they say: \u201cIf you can\u2019t beat them, join them\u201d.<\/p>\n

The examples are endless, but you get the point. No, you shouldn\u2019t do it as part of your hidden agenda to make him fall for you harder.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re doing it to take your dignity back and to heal your own broken ego.<\/p>\n

Or, you can just leave and wait for a man who will give you the same amount of love he\u2019s getting from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No entanto, antes de tomares esta decis\u00e3o, diz-me o seguinte: Amas demasiado? Eu sei que sim.<\/p>\n

Por \u00faltimo, ser\u00e1 que esta quantidade de amor e devo\u00e7\u00e3o que d\u00e1 ao seu parceiro \u00e9 boa para a sua sa\u00fade mental?<\/p>\n

\u00c9 saud\u00e1vel amar algu\u00e9m mais do que a si pr\u00f3prio?<\/strong> Penso que ambos sabemos as respostas.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Being on the verge of my thirties has got me thinking. You know how it rolls: you sit down one night, you have a panic attack and you wonder if you\u2019ll have enough time to do all the things on your bucket list. Now, I sound like I\u2019m about to turn 80 at least. But,…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":118479,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-118452","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Is-It-Possible-That-Some-People-Are-Destined-To-Give-More-Love-Than-Theyll-Ever-Receive_-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118452","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=118452"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/118452\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/118479"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=118452"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=118452"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=118452"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}