{"id":119472,"date":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T13:57:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=119472"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:25:35","slug":"como-lidar-com-um-conjuge-negativo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-lidar-com-um-conjuge-negativo\/","title":{"rendered":"Como lidar com um c\u00f4njuge negativo de 12 maneiras inteligentes"},"content":{"rendered":"

Welcome to a step-by-step guide on how to deal with a negative spouse, as written by someone who’s lived to tell the tale.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dizer que viver com uma pessoa negativa e ter de andar sobre cascas de ovos \u00e9 cansativo \u00e9 uma enorme<\/em> subavalia\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 alguns anos, quando ainda estava com o meu ex, passei por uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante. A pessoa que eu tinha conhecido desapareceu completamente poucos meses depois de estarmos juntos.<\/p>\n

A sua positividade inicial e tudo o que o apaixonava transformou-se num mau humor intermin\u00e1vel, cheio de energia negativa, e foi uma altura muito dif\u00edcil para mim.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tudo o que eu conseguia pensar era: “What do I do? What’s going on with the person I was hoping to one day have a happy marriage with?”<\/em><\/p>\n

I couldn’t handle my own thoughts, as being with your negative spouse (or life partner) regularly and having no escape messes with a sua sa\u00fade mental<\/a> Em grande estilo.<\/p>\n

I wasn’t just going to give up, though.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

I’ve always been a perfectionist, which means I gave it my all to find a way out of that black hole. Quero dizer, o que \u00e9 que se faz quando o ente querido<\/a> \u00e9 constantemente dominado por emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas?<\/em><\/p>\n

Se querem fazer com que resulte, t\u00eam de ultrapassar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o. Vai ao aconselhamento matrimonial. Esfor\u00e7a-se imenso para n\u00e3o deixar que a atitude negativa dele se repercuta em si.<\/p>\n

Below, I\u2019ll discuss how I made the best out of a bad situation. We ultimately didn’t work out (por diferentes raz\u00f5es<\/em>), mas estas dicas foram uma enorme mudan\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Sente-se inseguro em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao casamento? 7 pr\u00f3s e contras para descobrir<\/a><\/p>\n

Um guia pr\u00e1tico sobre como lidar com um c\u00f4njuge negativo<\/h2>\n

Don’t let their negativity ruin your well-being. Regain your positive energy and put yourself in the BEST situation to help your spouse with these life-changing tips.<\/em><\/p>\n

Nunca levar o seu negativismo a peito<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It’s rarely about you. It’s almost always about their inner struggles. They direct it at you, as you live with them, but it’s never something to take personally.<\/p>\n

That’s what helped me stay sane. I focused on myself and all the ways that I could help myself feel better.<\/p>\n

If my partner chooses negativity, fine. That doesn’t have to be my reality. Embora possa ser dif\u00edcil viver com algu\u00e9m assim, podemos sempre escolher at\u00e9 que ponto deixamos que essa pessoa nos afecte.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c9 certo que se trata de uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o tempor\u00e1ria, mas os passos que se seguem d\u00e3o muito mais pormenores sobre como lidar com um c\u00f4njuge negativo.<\/p>\n

Deixe a sua energia positiva prevalecer<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you’re a naturally positive person, let that prevail every day. The moment your spouse comes home and brings that negative energy, shift your focus onto something positive.<\/p>\n

Let’s say they had a bad day at work (surprise, surprise!) and complained from the moment they walked through the door. Say that it sucks for them, but you just made their favorite meal, which you’re sure will make them feel better!<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 apenas um exemplo que pode ou n\u00e3o funcionar. O objetivo \u00e9 substituir os padr\u00f5es negativos deles pelos seus padr\u00f5es positivos. Ser feliz<\/a> e tentar dar-lhes uma raz\u00e3o para sorrir.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Esperemos que isso seja suficiente, pelo menos at\u00e9 decidir o que fazer a seguir.<\/p>\n

Figure out what’s going on before judging them<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Aconteceu alguma coisa recentemente que possa ter causado uma mudan\u00e7a s\u00fabita e negativa?<\/p>\n

Poder\u00e3o ser problemas no trabalho, problemas com familiares ou algo de natureza financeira?<\/p>\n

There has to be a reason for their behavior. Nobody just wakes up and decides that they’ll be grumpy from today onward.<\/p>\n

If you feel like they won\u2019t be straight with you, try to figure it out on your own. Who knows, you just might be onto something.<\/p>\n

Dealing with a negative spouse doesn\u2019t always have to be a problem. Sometimes, it takes figuring out their inner issue and helping them get on top of it.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: O meu marido \u00e9 mau para mim e isso est\u00e1 a arruinar lentamente o nosso casamento<\/a><\/p>\n

Ou\u00e7a-os com aten\u00e7\u00e3o e veja se pode ajudar de alguma forma<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Listen to the words that they’re saying. Your spouse might be unwilling to say exactly what is going on, but they might accidentally give you a hint.<\/p>\n

O meu conselho \u00e9 que oi\u00e7a com aten\u00e7\u00e3o. Poder\u00e1 descobrir muito mais do que pensa. E, com um pouco de sorte, pode at\u00e9 ser capaz de ajudar de alguma forma.<\/p>\n

Concentre-se em todas as suas caracter\u00edsticas POSITIVAS (e lembre-os tamb\u00e9m)<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Casaste com eles, por isso tem de haver algo de positivo neles! Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que eles a conquistaram?<\/p>\n

It can be difficult to reminisce about the happier times right now but try. That way, you’ll uncover so many happy memories that you’ve suppressed due to their sudden negative emotions.<\/p>\n

Costumava ter um casamento feliz e o seu c\u00f4njuge fazia-o muito feliz, certo?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Se voltarmos a esses tempos e nos lembrarmos (e a eles) de como as coisas eram \u00f3ptimas h\u00e1 pouco tempo, pode ser o pontap\u00e9 de sa\u00edda de que precisam para voltarem a ser quem eram.<\/p>\n

Criar limites saud\u00e1veis<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

How far are you willing to let their negativity go? There have to be healthy boundaries to what you’re willing to accept.<\/p>\n

A dada altura, temos de dizer n\u00e3o. N\u00e3o \u00e0 sua energia negativa, n\u00e3o aos seus coment\u00e1rios negativos, n\u00e3o \u00e0s suas tentativas de o transformar numa pessoa cansada.<\/strong> Os limites existem por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa negativa tentar\u00e1 sempre vitimizar-se e fazer com que sintamos pena dela. Mas como \u00e9 que isso pode resultar numa resolu\u00e7\u00e3o positiva?<\/p>\n

Pity doesn\u2019t get you anywhere. Taking action does.<\/strong><\/p>\n

O seu c\u00f4njuge sempre foi negativo ou \u00e9 uma coisa recente?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Casaste com um narcisista disfar\u00e7ado<\/a>? O seu c\u00f4njuge sempre foi um feixe de negatividade ou isso aconteceu recentemente?<\/em><\/p>\n

This plays a huge role in how your marriage unfolds. If this is who your spouse has always been, then you’re going to have a hard time changing their innate personality.<\/p>\n

BUT, if they used to be a happy-go-lucky person, something had to make them act this way, so there’s hope after all.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Now, I’m not saying figuring it out will be easy for anyone involved, but it means it could end on a happy note.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 20 sinais de um casamento sem amor e 6 maneiras poderosas de lidar com isso<\/a><\/p>\n

Rodeie-se de pessoas cuja energia coincida com a sua<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

Isto significa os seus familiares, colegas de trabalho, amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos e qualquer pessoa com quem seja f\u00e1cil estar.<\/p>\n

Ter energia positiva por perto afecta o seu humor de forma significativa. As pessoas negativas sugam-nos toda a alegria, o que faz com que nos transformemos num pessimista rabugento.<\/p>\n

Don’t socialize with anyone who’s an energy vampire.<\/strong> Fique perto de pessoas que o fazem feliz por estar vivo e de pessoas cuja presen\u00e7a o afecta das melhores maneiras.<\/p>\n

Those are the people who’ll help you survive this entire marriage ordeal with a bit more ease.<\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone project their unhappiness on you<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Isto vai parecer duro, mas s\u00f3 porque se trata do seu c\u00f4njuge, N\u00c3O lhe d\u00e1 o direito de o envenenar com os seus coment\u00e1rios negativos.<\/p>\n

Remember that no one has power over you. If they’re unhappy, they need to be able to work it out within themselves.<\/p>\n

You’re always going to be their support system, but they need to be the one to take action. You’re nobody’s puppet.<\/p>\n

Nunca deixar ningu\u00e9m comprometer-se a sua pr\u00f3pria felicidade<\/a> just because they don’t know any other way to be.<\/strong> Ajude-os, seja a sua caixa de resson\u00e2ncia, mas nunca permita que a negatividade deles o consuma.<\/p>\n

Help your spouse realize that they’re the root of their problem<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Don’t let your spouse’s a arte mal\u00e9fica da transfer\u00eancia de culpas<\/a> ajudam-nos a fugir \u00e0 responsabilidade pelos seus actos. S\u00e3o muito provavelmente a raiz dos seus problemas.<\/p>\n

Until they face their demons head-on, they’ll never be able to shake this negativity. So, to answer your question: Como \u00e9 que lido com um c\u00f4njuge negativo?<\/em> – Let them realize that they hold the key to their happiness.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Maybe they’ll finally be able to accept it, or maybe they’ll keep refusing to assumir a responsabilidade pelos seus actos<\/a>. Either way, it’s entirely on eles<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Tir\u00e1-los de casa e fazer coisas juntos<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Como passo final do meu guia sobre como lidar com um c\u00f4njuge negativo, recomendo que passem mais tempo de qualidade juntos.<\/p>\n

If you both live busy lives and are often apart due to work commitments (and whatnot), it’s time to get your spouse out of the house and do something as a couple.<\/p>\n

Existem TANTAS actividades divertidas para casais<\/a> que vos ajudar\u00e1 a apaixonarem-se de novo um pelo outro. Andem de bicicleta, revivam o vosso primeiro encontro<\/a>, listen to fun podcasts together, or anything else you’re both into!<\/strong><\/p>\n

You can’t wave a magic wand and expect things to change in an instant, but you can speed up the process by reminding yourselves of why you got married in the first place.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 18 sinais de que a sua mulher quer deix\u00e1-lo e como salvar o seu casamento<\/a><\/p>\n

Confie que aqueles que QUEREM ficar na sua vida ficar\u00e3o sempre<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cNever underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.\u201d<\/strong><\/em> \u2013 Wayne W. Dyer<\/p>\n

If your spouse is meant to stay in your life, they’re going to stay. If, after everything you’ve done for them, they still make zero effort to change their ways, let things flow at their natural pace.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to make someone stay if they keep proving that they don’t care enough to make it work.<\/p>\n

Podemos amar algu\u00e9m mais do que as palavras podem dizer, mas, a dada altura, temos de p\u00f4r o nosso bem-estar em primeiro lugar. As pessoas mudam e a vida acontece num piscar de olhos. Em vez de resistir a isso, aceite-o.<\/p>\n

Right now, it might not make a lot of sense. But one day, you’ll realize that letting things happen the way they’re supposed to is the best decision you could’ve made.<\/strong><\/p>\n

No one can say for certain what’s going to happen. All you can do is try your best to make life with a negative person bearable.<\/p>\n

If all your efforts go to waste, you always have yourself. It’s better to be alone than surrounded by constant negativity.<\/p>\n

Como mudar os seus padr\u00f5es de pensamento negativo<\/h2>\n

Se tamb\u00e9m se debate com crises de energia negativa, eis algumas medidas \u00fateis que pode tomar para melhorar a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/em><\/p>\n

\u2022 Immediately resist the urge to engage in negative self-talk.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The moment you catch yourself drifting away in negative self-talk, nip it in the bud. That’s the surest way to keep it under control.<\/p>\n

You have to learn how to keep yourself in check. If you don’t control your emotions, they’re going to take control of your life. All it takes is some willpower and perseverance.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Surround yourself with positive people.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

A forma mais f\u00e1cil de se manter positivo e no bom caminho \u00e9 estar ao lado de pessoas que fazem sobressair o que h\u00e1 de melhor em si.<\/p>\n

Who’s your go-to person in times of need? Call them up whenever you need a break.<\/p>\n

D\u00eaem longos passeios, falem de coisas positivas e sorriam juntos. As solu\u00e7\u00f5es mais simples s\u00e3o sempre as melhores.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Cultivate an attitude of gratitude.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Be grateful for everything you’ve got. It might not be a whole lot, but it’s more than some people have. Be grateful for waking up every day and having the ability to kick the day’s ass.<\/p>\n

Agrade\u00e7a \u00e0s pessoas da sua vida que fazem com que tudo valha a pena. Agrade\u00e7a a sua sa\u00fade e a sa\u00fade dos seus familiares.<\/p>\n

Doesn’t that put it ALL in perspective?<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 9 valores fundamentais da rela\u00e7\u00e3o que todos os casais devem ter<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Seek professional help if it comes to that.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t be embarrassed to ask for help. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. If your mind is messed up, it’ll reflect badly on the quality of your life.<\/p>\n

I took that step a few years ago, and it resulted in major changes in my life. You can’t even imagine how much a licensed professional can help you turn things around.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Change your sleeping habits.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sleep is so important. If you don’t get enough of it, it’ll make you cranky, low on energy, and with a short fuse.<\/p>\n

If you go to sleep way too late and get up very early, it’s time to change your sleeping patterns. You’d be surprised how much the quality of your sleep can affect your daily life.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Eat healthily and exercise.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I’m sure you’ve already heard this a million times. Only, something tells me that you rolled your eyes every time and grabbed a bite of your delicious cheeseburger. Estou quente?<\/em><\/p>\n

Yes, exercise and healthy eating habits take a LOT of willpower, but once you get used to it, you’ll never allow yourself to go back. I can testify to that first-hand.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Try new, adventurous things you’ve never dared to do before.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t let your life fall into a rut. Before you realize it, you’ll have wasted your youth on never doing anything outside of your daily schedule. It’s time to break out of it.<\/p>\n

Parta \u00e0 aventura de uma vida com o teu melhor amigo<\/a>. Go skydiving (especially if you’ve always wanted but never allowed yourself to do it). Get out of your comfort zone and start enjoying life!<\/p>\n

\u2022 Do one thing every single day that makes you smile.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This one’s simple. What makes you happy? For me, it’s hearing my best friend’s voice, spending time with my nieces, eating Maltesers, and cuddling with my dog.<\/p>\n

Figure out your own and do one thing from your list every single day. If you can, start your day like that and see how much more energized, productive, and positive you’ll be.<\/p>\n

\u2022 Love yourself through all your flaws and shortcomings.<\/em><\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O amor-pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 o amor mais importante de todos. Tu ensinas as pessoas a tratarem-te. Quanto mais se amar a si pr\u00f3prio, mais os outros o far\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Sim, tens defeitos. Sim, fazes asneiras de vez em quando. Mas eu tamb\u00e9m, e toda a gente tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

Nobody\u2019s trying to be the perfect human specimen. We’re all just doing the best with what life gave us. Love yourself through every up and down and see your world change.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Objectivos para o casamento: 15 coisas principais em que todos os casais se devem concentrar<\/a><\/p>\n

Alimente a sua mente com pensamentos positivos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

And don’t let anyone’s negativity overwhelm your positivity. You can’t change who your spouse is, but you can change your willingness to live with it.<\/p>\n

You are who you surround yourself with. You can’t choose your family members, but you can distance yourself from their negative energy. It’s never wrong to prioritize your well-being.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, creating some healthy distance is necessary to realize who’s meant to stay and who’s a mere passerby in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Embora eu espere sinceramente que o meu guia ajude o vosso casamento de forma significativa, tamb\u00e9m t\u00eam de compreender que you can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to keep a sane head throughout this ordeal, as your thoughts shape the reality that you live in. In the words of the inspiring Mahatma Gandhi:<\/p>\n

“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Quando \u00e9 que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio cortar o contacto com as pessoas? ( + 7 dicas para o fazer)<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Welcome to a step-by-step guide on how to deal with a negative spouse, as written by someone who’s lived to tell the tale. To say that living with a negative person and having to walk on eggshells is exhausting is a huge understatement. Some years back, when I was still with my ex, I was…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":119677,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29623],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-119472","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-marriage"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29623,"label":"marriage"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/How-To-Deal-With-A-Negative-Spouse-In-12-CLEVER-Ways-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29623,"name":"marriage","slug":"marriage","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29623,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","parent":29620,"count":474,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29623,"category_count":474,"category_description":"Establishing a happy marriage is not an easy task. Learning how to recognize red flags and deal with issues will help you make your marriage successful.","cat_name":"marriage","category_nicename":"marriage","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/119472","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=119472"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/119472\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/119677"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=119472"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=119472"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=119472"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}