{"id":120183,"date":"2020-12-21T14:32:09","date_gmt":"2020-12-21T14:32:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=120183"},"modified":"2021-12-06T10:09:18","modified_gmt":"2021-12-06T10:09:18","slug":"o-que-ele-te-trata-e-o-que-ele-sente-por-ti","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-ele-te-trata-e-o-que-ele-sente-por-ti\/","title":{"rendered":"N\u00e3o h\u00e1 c\u00f3digos ou desculpas, a forma como ele te trata \u00e9 o que ele sente por ti"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Vamos l\u00e1, sejamos honestos: quantas horas, dias ou mesmo semanas da sua vida desperdi\u00e7ou a dissecar o comportamento de um homem?<\/p>\n<p>How many times have you called your girlfriends to ask them one simple question: \u201cWhat does this mean?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>O que \u00e9 que este tipo quer de mim? <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-e-que-um-homem-se-sente-quando-magoa-uma-mulher\/\">Como \u00e9 que ele se sente<\/a>? Ele tem algum plano para o nosso futuro? Ou ser\u00e1 que eu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/nao-sou-uma-rapariga-para-coisas-temporarias\/\">apenas tempor\u00e1rio<\/a>?<\/p>\n<p>Porque \u00e9 que ele est\u00e1 sempre a aparecer e a desaparecer da minha vida? Isto \u00e9 apenas um caso? Sou namorada dele? Estamos a namorar exclusivamente? Ou ele anda com outras pessoas?<\/p>\n<p>O que \u00e9 que se esconde por detr\u00e1s do seu comportamento quente e frio? Qual \u00e9 a nossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n<p><strong>If he loves me, why does he behave like this? On the other hand, if he doesn\u2019t care, why doesn\u2019t he leave me alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sounds familiar, right? The list goes on and on. The bottom line is that you\u2019re racking your brain, trying to get to the bottom of a guy\u2019s behavior.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re dissecting his mixed signals, looking for a hidden message. The worst part is that too often, you ask for the help of a friend.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Re\u00fane-se um verdadeiro comit\u00e9 de gest\u00e3o de crises em busca de respostas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Inspecciona cada um dos seus textos, analisa os seus padr\u00f5es de comportamento at\u00e9 ao \u00e2mago e investiga as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, tentando encontrar um raio de sol nesta escurid\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>E <strong>what do you conclude from all of this? That\u2019s right, nothing.<\/strong> You\u2019re always left more confused than ever, with all of these question marks still floating around your head.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-120186 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass.jpg\" alt=\"mulher pensativa de vestido verde sentada na relva\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-grass-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Why? Because you don\u2019t have the courage to look the truth in the eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, I know you\u2019ve tried talking to him about all of this a million times. But let\u2019s face it \u2013 he tells you the same things over and over again; he tells you what you want to hear.<\/p>\n<p>Provavelmente, este homem garante-lhe que a ama. Convence-a de que ele \u00e9 assim mesmo, que precisa de tempo para se abrir, ou que \u00e9 o m\u00e1ximo que pode dar.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, <strong>he doesn\u2019t give you any logical explanation of why his actions don\u2019t back up his words.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Look, I don\u2019t mean to judge you. Yes, you\u2019re wasting your time and energy on all of this nonsense. But I get you. We\u2019ve all been there, and I\u2019m no exception.<\/p>\n<p>Well, precisely because I\u2019ve been you, I\u2019m here to tell you the harsh reality: all of this is pointless.<\/p>\n<p>You see, there is absolutely no need to decode anyone\u2019s behavior. Putting in the effort to get to the bottom of a guy\u2019s attention is pointless, and it won\u2019t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n<p>Detesto ser eu a rebentar a tua bolha, mas n\u00e3o existem sinais contradit\u00f3rios. <strong>Se ele te amasse, tu saberias.<\/strong> If you two were in a steady relationship, you wouldn\u2019t have these doubts.<\/p>\n<p><strong>He doesn\u2019t play hard to get just to make you fall for him harder \u2013 he\u2019s just playing mind games with you.<\/strong> Ele brinca com o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o para aumentar o seu fr\u00e1gil ego.<\/p>\n<p>He is not too busy to give you a place in his life. Instead, a man\u2019s lack of attention always equals a lack of love.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It\u2019s not that he is <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/4-coisas-que-ele-realmente-te-diz-quando-diz-que-nao-esta-pronto-para-um-relacionamento\/\">n\u00e3o est\u00e1 preparado para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> right now \u2013 he doesn\u2019t want a relationship with you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-120187 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log.jpg\" alt=\"mulher loira com camisola cor de vinho sentada num tronco de madeira\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-wood-log-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t come to you when all those other girls turn their backs on him because he realizes that you\u2019re the one.<\/p>\n<p>He does it because he knows very well that you\u2019re the only one who will always take him back, no matter what.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t come asking for a second chance every time he screws things up because he realizes that he can\u2019t live without you.<\/p>\n<p>He is not scared of losing you \u2013 he is scared of losing his safety net and backup option.<\/p>\n<p>He doesn\u2019t push you away to see whether you\u2019re worthy of him breaking down his walls. He is not treating you like shit because he is scared of getting hurt \u2013 he is just an asshole with zero empathy.<\/p>\n<p>He is an asshole who does all of this for one simple reason: because he can. You\u2019re the one giving him the green light to continue with his toxic behavior every time you justify his actions.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Por isso, por favor, chega de desculpas vazias. Chega de justificar as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es t\u00f3xicas.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Enough of waiting for a miracle that will never happen. Your efforts and love can\u2019t change him, so you better give up before wasting more of your time.<\/p>\n<p>Stop hoping that things will work in your favor because they won\u2019t. Stop giving him endless <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/dar-lhe-outra-oportunidade-significa-dar-se-outro-desgosto\/\">segundas oportunidades<\/a> porque sempre que o fizeres, vai acabar da mesma maneira.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The bottom line is that this man is not emotionally unavailable or broken \u2013 he is just not emotionally invested in you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>This guy doesn\u2019t love you enough, and he never will. When a man acts like he doesn\u2019t care for you \u2013 you better believe him.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Come on, let\u2019s be honest: How many hours, days, or even weeks of your life have you wasted dissecting some guy\u2019s behavior? How many times have you called your girlfriends to ask them one simple question: \u201cWhat does this mean?\u201d What does this guy want from me? How does he feel? Does he have any&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":120185,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-120183","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/There-Are-No-Codes-Or-Excuses-How-He-Treats-You-Is-How-He-Feels-About-You-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? 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