{"id":121310,"date":"2020-12-23T17:30:17","date_gmt":"2020-12-23T17:30:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=121310"},"modified":"2021-12-21T09:57:53","modified_gmt":"2021-12-21T09:57:53","slug":"fases-do-dumper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fases-do-dumper\/","title":{"rendered":"Est\u00e1gios da separa\u00e7\u00e3o - Por dentro da mente de quem inicia uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em>Quer saber o que est\u00e1 a passar aquele que termina uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Estas fases do dumper mostrar-lhe-\u00e3o o que se passa exatamente na sua cabe\u00e7a!<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Antes de escrever qualquer outra coisa, tenho vontade de explicar este termo invulgar conhecido como <strong>fases do dumper<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Como o nome indica, \u00e9 sobre o \"dumper\" (a pessoa que acabou com algu\u00e9m) e as fases t\u00edpicas por que passa depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><strong>These stages will help you understand the entire mental and emotional process related to their (dumper&#8217;s) decision to end the relationship (or maybe your decision to end things with someone).<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I know the term sounds a little bit harsh, especially if you&#8217;re the one who\u2019s &#8220;dumped&#8221; someone lately, but there&#8217;s nothing to be worried or ashamed about because you\u2019ve entered a neutral, non-judgmental area. (I just made that up, and I&#8217;m really proud of it.)<\/p>\n<p>Muito bem, agora tenho uma pergunta para ti, meu amigo: <em><strong>You know that feeling when someone breaks up with you, and you&#8217;re dying to know if they are feeling (at least partially) the same as you?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121457 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher pensativa de top preto sentada ao ar livre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-outdoor-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t know about you, but I certainly do. You can&#8217;t help but think that they don&#8217;t care one bit about you and that they are completely indifferent and heartless.<\/p>\n<p>Desejamos que eles se sintam como n\u00f3s, de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido e devastados.<\/p>\n<p>Bem, preparem-se para ouvir (leia-se: ler) algo chocante: <strong>Na verdade, os dumpers tamb\u00e9m passam por <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fases-da-rutura\/\">fases da separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> de preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o, ansiedade, raiva, confus\u00e3o e muitos outros!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>They don&#8217;t just decide overnight that they will break things off and then just do it.<\/p>\n<p>The whole breakup thing is a process that both the dumper and dumpee experience in a different but still equally confusing and painful way.<\/p>\n<p>As fases do dumper que se seguem explicam como \u00e9 que todo o processo de separa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 visto da perspetiva de algu\u00e9m que iniciou uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o! (E tamb\u00e9m o ajudar\u00e3o a evitar cometer erros p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o).<\/p>\n<p>After we&#8217;re done with the dumper stages, we&#8217;ll go through ways on <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/voltar-a-namorar-depois-de-uma-separacao\/\">como voltar a namorar depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> ou <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/como-esquecer-alguem-2\/\">como esquecer algu\u00e9m<\/a>. Por isso, fiquem atentos!<\/p>\n<h2>Fases da separa\u00e7\u00e3o: 10 fases de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o para quem se separa<\/h2>\n<h2>Fase 1: Raiva<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121461 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling.jpg\" alt=\"mulher zangada a gritar junto a uma parede\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-yelling-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nem todas as pessoas que abandonam o lar passar\u00e3o por esta fase primeiro, porque tudo depende das circunst\u00e2ncias.<\/p>\n<p>Por exemplo, se o apanharem a trair (ou se o admitir por si pr\u00f3prio) ou qualquer outro tipo de trai\u00e7\u00e3o, sentir\u00e3o raiva.<\/p>\n<p>Este ser\u00e1 o chamado <strong>CAT\u00c1LOGO<\/strong> (o que os motivou a terminar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o).<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Basicamente, h\u00e1 duas coisas que se podem esperar nesta fase: uma explos\u00e3o s\u00fabita de raiva (como a fase implica) ou o tratamento silencioso.<\/p>\n<p>O comportamento da pessoa que deixa a casa depende da sua personalidade geral e dos seus mecanismos de sobreviv\u00eancia.<\/p>\n<p>Quando se sentem magoadas ou tra\u00eddas, algumas pessoas recusam-se a falar sobre o assunto e ignoram a outra pessoa, enquanto outras (indiv\u00edduos temperamentais) tendem a mostrar raiva.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 2: Preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121463 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree.jpg\" alt=\"mulher preocupada, de t-shirt branca, sentada junto a uma \u00e1rvore\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-tree-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nesta fase, a pessoa que deixa a rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode ficar preocupada com o fim da rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou em encontrar a melhor forma de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Podem come\u00e7ar a pensar demasiado e sentir-se preocupados com a possibilidade de perder a outra pessoa<\/strong> (especialmente se estiver numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura).<\/p>\n<p>Podem tamb\u00e9m preocupar-se com a forma como vai lidar com a separa\u00e7\u00e3o e como tudo isto vai afetar a vossa amizade (no caso de decidirem continuar amigos).<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-bloqueou-me-o-que-e-que-isso-significa\/\">Ele bloqueou-me: O que \u00e9 que isso significa e o que fazer em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a isso<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Esta fase consiste mais em pensar do que em agir.<\/p>\n<p>O dumper deve fazer a si pr\u00f3prio as seguintes perguntas e outras semelhantes: <em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/devo-acabar-com-o-meu-namorado-21-bandeiras-vermelhas-que-dizem-que-deve-acabar\/\">Devo acabar com o meu namorado?<\/a> ou namorada? Como \u00e9 que o devo fazer? Devo enviar-lhe apenas uma mensagem de texto ou faz\u00ea-lo pessoalmente?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>A maior parte do tempo, estar\u00e3o ocupados a encontrar a forma perfeita de acabar com as coisas, ao mesmo tempo que se preocupam em saber se \u00e9 a coisa certa a fazer em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 3: Ansiedade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121465 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste de top preto a segurar os joelhos\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-her-knees-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta fase \u00e9 semelhante \u00e0 anterior, com a \u00fanica diferen\u00e7a de que a preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o se intensifica subitamente e se transforma em pensamentos ansiosos. \u00c9 exatamente nesta altura que a separa\u00e7\u00e3o atinge o \"dumper\".<\/p>\n<p>Come\u00e7am a conceber um plano de separa\u00e7\u00e3o e a pensar nas melhores formas de o fazer.<\/p>\n<p>Pensar\u00e3o em pormenor em coisas como a melhor altura para acabar consigo, o que lhe devem dizer exatamente, etc.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>\u00c9 de esperar que a pessoa que deixou a casa fique nervosa, preocupada, ansiosa e que aja de forma estranha \u00e0 sua volta. <strong>At some point, you might think that everything is alright, but this won&#8217;t last for long.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>After some time, you&#8217;ll realize that things are not as they seem.<\/p>\n<p>All this &#8220;drama&#8221; will make you feel nervous as well. I remember asking myself tons of questions like: <em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/ele-esta-a-afastar-se-ou-a-acabar-consigo\/\">Ele est\u00e1 a afastar-se ou a separar-se<\/a> comigo?<\/em> <em>O que \u00e9 que se passa EXACTAMENTE aqui?<\/em> Estava a passar-me completamente.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 4: Al\u00edvio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121475 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de camisa de ganga de p\u00e9 na praia a olhar para o oceano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-standing-on-shore-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I like to call this stage &#8216;the post-climax stage.\u2019 The breakup is finally over, and the dumper feels some kind of relief even if they are still not 100% sure that they did the right thing.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Even though there is a huge relief and they feel a weight off their shoulders, dumpers still don&#8217;t feel happy about it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The only thing they are &#8220;happy&#8221; about is that they no longer need to overthink things like <em>Devo acabar com eles ou n\u00e3o?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>They realize that there&#8217;s no use crying over spilled milk. Or, better said, that&#8217;s how they feel at this stage, but later on, things might change drastically.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Poder\u00e1 receber um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/textos-de-despedida\/\">texto de separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/uma-carta-de-despedida-para-o-homem-que-nao-quero-deixar-ir\/\">carta de despedida<\/a>, or get dumped in person. Once that happens, you&#8217;re officially no longer together, but there&#8217;s no need to feel bad about it just yet.<\/p>\n<p>Nas fases seguintes, as coisas v\u00e3o complicar-se para a pessoa que deixou a casa e, se tencionam voltar a namorar, ainda \u00e9 poss\u00edvel convenc\u00ea-la de que <strong>acabar contigo foi um erro.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But, if you intend on moving on, then forget about what I&#8217;ve just written.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 5: Experimenta\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121476 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a pintar uma tigela de cer\u00e2mica enquanto est\u00e1 sentada \u00e0 mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-painting-ceramic-bowl-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta \u00e9 uma das fases mais interessantes de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o para quem a deixa.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when the dumper starts <strong>experimentar e implementar coisas novas nas suas vidas<\/strong>Como, por exemplo, um novo penteado, novos amigos, novas roupas, novos passatempos, etc.<\/p>\n<p>If the woman is the dumper, I know for a fact that the first thing she&#8217;ll do is change her hairstyle. You&#8217;ve probably seen this multiple times in movies and series.<\/p>\n<p>Um novo penteado simboliza frequentemente um novo come\u00e7o para as mulheres.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>You probably didn&#8217;t know that the dumper will try not to think about you at this stage, but it will be tough for them not to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Preocupar-se-\u00e3o com coisas diferentes s\u00f3 para n\u00e3o pensarem em si.<\/p>\n<p>Algumas pessoas podem tamb\u00e9m entrar em rela\u00e7\u00f5es de ricochete, pensando que isso as ajudar\u00e1 a esquec\u00ea-lo mais rapidamente e a acelerar o processo de cura.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/os-evitadores-arrependem-se-de-ter-terminado-a-relacao\/\">Os evitadores arrependem-se de ter terminado a rela\u00e7\u00e3o e porque \u00e9 que a deixam?<\/a>?<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 6: Compaix\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121477 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a segurar um isqueiro enquanto est\u00e1 sentada num banco ao ar livre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-lighter-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta fase envolve simpatia. Acredite ou n\u00e3o, eles v\u00e3o sentir-se tristes por si.<\/p>\n<p>Mesmo que eles pensem que fizeram a escolha certa e que acabar com a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o era algo que tinha de ser feito, <strong>continuar\u00e3o a sentir-se mal por o terem feito.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Talvez desejassem ter terminado as coisas de forma diferente.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>Given that they&#8217;ll feel guilty and bad about ending things, they might decide to reach out to you just to make sure that you&#8217;re okay.<\/p>\n<p>They might want to talk about your relationship and how everything could have been different. If you&#8217;re determined to move on, then it&#8217;s best to apply the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/8-razoes-pelas-quais-e-importante-seguir-a-regra-do-nao-contacto\/\">regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a> nesta fase.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 7: Nostalgia<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121478 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher pensativa com camisa de xadrez a olhar pela janela\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-through-window-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Ah, essa doce nostalgia que, a dada altura, consegue sempre atingir at\u00e9 a mais forte das pessoas.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re wondering about at which stage the dumper starts missing the dumpee, it often happens at this stage. <strong>Tudo lhes far\u00e1 lembrar de si.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Podem ver um determinado animal e come\u00e7ar imediatamente a pensar em si por causa de algo que disse sobre esse animal.<\/p>\n<p>Ou podem ver o seu doce preferido e lembrar-se de si. Percebem a ideia, certo?<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>You may be feeling the same way as them at this stage, and it&#8217;s up to you if you&#8217;re going to show them that you still care or wait for them to do that.<\/p>\n<p>Quando a nostalgia se instala, a pessoa que deixou a casa pode decidir enviar-lhe uma mensagem ou telefonar-lhe para lhe dizer que tem saudades suas. Mas lembre-se de que isso raramente acontece nesta fase.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 8: Confus\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121479 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de t-shirt branca a pensar no interior\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-thinking-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve practiced the no contact rule, the dumper will find themself in a state of confusion, wondering what exactly is going on in your head.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;ve deleted them from social media, deleted their number, and haven&#8217;t contacted them since, they will start worrying that you\u2019ve already moved on with your life. They will want to know if that&#8217;s true.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>The dumper may be thinking about why you haven&#8217;t contacted them. They might start thinking that you\u2019ve already met someone new.<\/p>\n<p>Nesta fase, a pessoa ter\u00e1 uma grande vontade de entrar em contacto consigo. Esta \u00e9 uma das fases do dumper em que \u00e9 de esperar que sintam MUITAS saudades suas e tenham curiosidade sobre a sua vida em geral.<\/p>\n<h2>Etapa 9: D\u00favida ou arrependimento<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121482 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a tocar na cara enquanto est\u00e1 sentada num espa\u00e7o interior\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-touching-her-face-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta fase tamb\u00e9m pertence \u00e0s categorias: fases dos remorsos do dumper ou fases do luto. Aposto que esta \u00e9 a fase preferida de todos os dumpees. Porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n<p>Porque durante esta fase, <strong>As pessoas que abandonam o lar come\u00e7am a arrepender-se de ter terminado tudo e come\u00e7am a preocupar-se se a separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi a decis\u00e3o correcta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The fact that they have no idea how you&#8217;re feeling and what you&#8217;ve been doing so far only makes things worse for them (and better for you, if you&#8217;re the dumpee, of course).<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>If they haven&#8217;t reached out to you in the previous stage but were thinking about doing it, the chances are high that they&#8217;ll do so at this stage.<\/p>\n<p>Assim que eles (ou se eles) ganharem coragem, dar\u00e3o o primeiro passo e admitir\u00e3o que acabar consigo foi um grande erro.<\/p>\n<h2>Fase 10: Aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121484 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada num banco a olhar para o oceano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-bench-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Esta fase consiste em aceitar dois resultados poss\u00edveis: <strong>reconcilia\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> ou <strong>seguir em frente<\/strong>. Obviously, if the two of you don&#8217;t succeed in reconciling your relationship, moving on becomes inevitable.<\/p>\n<p>Contrary to the above dumper stages, the last stage is often the most painful if things don&#8217;t go as planned or expected.<\/p>\n<h3>O que esperar nesta fase<\/h3>\n<p>If the dumper (your ex) has successfully moved on, then it&#8217;s time for you to do the same. If you managed to get back together after the breakup, then some serious work will need to be done.<\/p>\n<p>Ambos os parceiros ter\u00e3o de estar dispostos a trabalhar sobre si pr\u00f3prios e a concentrar-se em aspectos que eram cr\u00edticos na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the only way to establish a happy and healthy relationship and prevent future <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/6-problemas-de-relacionamento-mais-comuns-que-nao-tem-solucao\/\">problemas de relacionamento<\/a>.<\/p>\n<h2>Como voltar a estar junto depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Refletir sobre a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121485 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada no vidro de uma janela a olhar para o exterior\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-window-pane-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re thinking about getting back together, this is the most important step in your reconciliation journey. You need to think about the reasons why you two broke up in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio refletir sobre os aspectos que devem ser melhorados na rela\u00e7\u00e3o (incluindo os seus pr\u00f3prios defeitos). Basicamente, ambos os parceiros precisam de refletir sobre a rela\u00e7\u00e3o e sobre si pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ter um per\u00edodo sem contacto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121489 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com um smartphone na m\u00e3o, sentada num sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-holding-smartphone-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To better reflect on your relationship, you&#8217;ll need to have a no contact period, also known as the <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/regra-de-nao-contacto-o-poder-do-silencio\/\">o poder do sil\u00eancio depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Tamb\u00e9m se pode pensar no futuro.<\/p>\n<p>A primeira vez que tive de acabar com um homem, fui contra a regra de n\u00e3o contacto, o que tornou as coisas ainda piores.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t make the same mistake. Give yourself some time to think about how you can improve things and if they are worth improving in the first place.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Seja honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121490 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher apoiada na mesa enquanto est\u00e1 sentada num caf\u00e9\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Voltar a namorar \u00e9 realmente o que quer neste momento? Acha que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o merece uma segunda oportunidade? Se a sua resposta for sim a ambas as perguntas, ent\u00e3o v\u00e1 em frente!<\/p>\n<p>But, if you&#8217;re having second thoughts about reconciling with your ex, you shouldn&#8217;t rush into it.<\/p>\n<p>Seja honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio. <strong>Do you want to get back together just because you&#8217;re feeling lonely, or do you truly still care about them?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes, it&#8217;s really hard to differentiate between these two. But, after the no contact period, things should be much clearer to you than they were before.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/como-lidar-com-o-desgosto\/\">Como lidar com o desgosto de amor: 15 maneiras comprovadas de curar a dor no cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Entrar em contacto com o seu ex (ou esperar que ele d\u00ea o primeiro passo)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121493 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com cabelo encaracolado a utilizar o smartphone enquanto est\u00e1 sentada ao ar livre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-using-smartphone-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you want to get your ex back, well, then you&#8217;ll need to get in touch with them. It&#8217;s up to you how you&#8217;ll choose to do that. You can either text them, call them, or visit them.<\/p>\n<p>Seja qual for o m\u00e9todo que preferir, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que nunca deve implorar-lhes que voltem para si se eles pr\u00f3prios n\u00e3o estiverem dispostos a faz\u00ea-lo.<\/p>\n<p>Quando um rapaz acabou comigo, lembro-me de um dos meus amigos me ter dito: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/porque-deve-deixa-lo-vir-ter-consigo-depois-de-uma-separacao\/\">Deixe-o vir ter consigo depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>! Por isso, dei-lhes ouvidos. Esperei que ele viesse ter comigo depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o, e isso nunca aconteceu.<\/p>\n<p>So, I&#8217;ve decided to be the one who makes the first move. To my surprise, everything went smoothly, and after some time we were officially back together again!<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Assumir a responsabilidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121497 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher a conversar sentados num sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-talking-7-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Avoid playing the \u201cwrong and right\u201d game. Remember that no one is wrong and no one is right here. Both of you need to take responsibility for your actions and words.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 preciso reconhecer o <strong>padr\u00f5es t\u00f3xicos na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong> e trabalhar no seu <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/e-assim-que-se-age-no-amor-com-base-no-seu-estilo-de-ligacao\/\">estilos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Em suma, assumir a responsabilidade e agir em conformidade!<\/p>\n<p>Dizem que s\u00e3o precisos dois para dan\u00e7ar o tango. Bem, tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o precisos dois para lutar por uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o, por isso arregace as mangas e acredite que \u00e9 capaz!<\/p>\n<h2>Como seguir em frente depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline reset\">Accept that the relationship is over and there&#8217;s no going back<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121502 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada numa rocha a olhar para a \u00e1gua\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-rock-3-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re determined to move on with your life, the first step is accepting that the relationship is over. Don&#8217;t get stuck on all of the \u2018what ifs?\u2019. Once you decide to let go, stay focused, and don&#8217;t lose hope.<\/p>\n<p>Aceite o facto de que o que tinha foi bonito enquanto durou e que agora j\u00e1 n\u00e3o existe. Afasta-te de <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/a-arte-malefica-da-transferencia-de-culpas\/\">transfer\u00eancia de culpa<\/a> e concentrar-se noutras coisas da sua vida.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Don&#8217;t suppress your emotions<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121504 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a chorar junto \u00e0 montra de uma loja\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-crying-1-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Allow yourself to experience the period of grieving the end of the relationship. Whatever you do, don&#8217;t suppress your emotions. Cry out loud if you need, scream, yell, and so on.<\/p>\n<p>Encontre algumas inspira\u00e7\u00f5es <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/135-citacoes-inspiradoras-para-ajudar-a-curar-o-seu-coracao-partido\/\">cita\u00e7\u00f5es de separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> that perfectly express how you&#8217;re feeling at the moment. Express yourself.<\/p>\n<p>Dance, desenhe, cante (se conseguir), veja aqueles filmes rom\u00e2nticos de partir o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e chore com os seus actores\/actrizes preferidos.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mantenha dist\u00e2ncia do seu ex<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121510 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de t-shirt branca sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-on-sofa-4-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>E, sim, mantenha dist\u00e2ncia do seu ex-namorado ou ex-namorada.<\/p>\n<p>Quer dizer, isto \u00e9 escusado dizer: Nada de redes sociais, nada de telefonemas (especialmente se estiver b\u00eabado) e nada de mensagens (estar aborrecido n\u00e3o \u00e9 desculpa para enviar mensagens ao seu ex).<\/p>\n<p>A \u00faltima coisa de que precisa \u00e9 que o seu ex-parceiro o siga (o conduza), por isso a sua melhor aposta \u00e9 manter-se afastado dele ou observ\u00e1-lo a uma dist\u00e2ncia segura (se tiver mesmo de o fazer). Estou a brincar.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t do that either.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Encontrar a for\u00e7a para perdoar<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121511 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com camisola preta de gola alta sentada perto de um lago\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-sitting-near-lake-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This one will probably be the hardest for you, but to move on with your life, you need to find the strength to forgive them for all the bad things they&#8217;ve done to you.<\/p>\n<p><strong>No centro da <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/ultrapassar-o-desgosto\/\">ultrapassar o desgosto<\/a> \u00e9 encontrar a for\u00e7a para perdoar.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But, you shouldn&#8217;t only forgive your ex. You should also learn to forgive yourself. Don&#8217;t think that you&#8217;re the only one to blame for things not working out.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00e3o muitos os factores que influenciam uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, pelo que culpar-se a si pr\u00f3prio seria uma atitude tola.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Trabalhar no auto-aperfei\u00e7oamento<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121518 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de camisola cinzenta a olhar para o oceano\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-ocean-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Do you know what the best way to turn a breakup in your favor is? By reflecting on your relationship and focusing on improving yourself, so you don&#8217;t repeat the same mistakes (if there were any).<\/p>\n<p>Isto tamb\u00e9m o ajudar\u00e1 a aumentar a sua autoestima, que \u00e9 exatamente o que precisa neste momento.<\/p>\n<p>RELACIONADO: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-maneiras-fantasticas-de-fazer-com-que-ele-se-arrependa-de-a-ter-deixado\/\">7 Grandes maneiras de o fazer arrepender-se de a ter deixado<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Contactar os seus amigos e familiares<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121519 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a falar com mulher sentada \u00e0 mesa\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-talking-to-woman-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t shy away from reaching out to your best friends and family members during these tough times. I&#8217;m sure they&#8217;ll be more than happy to listen to you and to help you get through the breakup.<\/p>\n<p>Also, I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;d do the same for them.<\/p>\n<p>Por vezes, apenas uma conversa significativa com os seus entes queridos pode mudar drasticamente a sua perspetiva sobre as coisas e, consequentemente, ajud\u00e1-lo a seguir em frente com a sua vida mais rapidamente.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Faz as coisas que te fazem feliz<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121520 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a fazer festas ao c\u00e3o enquanto est\u00e1 deitada na cama\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-petting-dog-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Descubra novas paix\u00f5es, encontre novos passatempos, fa\u00e7a novos amigos, arranje um animal de estima\u00e7\u00e3o. Basicamente, fa\u00e7a as coisas que o fazem FELIZ. Pense em todas as actividades e coisas divertidas que costumava fazer antes da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Now is the right time to bring them back to life. It&#8217;s time to find yourself again, and you&#8217;ll do that by reconnecting with your old self.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Start dating others (when you&#8217;re ready)<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121521 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher a beber caf\u00e9 sentados ao ar livre\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/couple-having-coffee-5-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Recordar<\/strong>: Don&#8217;t jump into a new relationship until you&#8217;ve healed from the last relationship. Take some time to grieve, focus on yourself, and when you&#8217;re ready, start dating others.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t force yourself to do anything that you&#8217;re not comfortable with. Every single one of us moves at our own pace when it comes to healing. Some of us need more time to start dating others, and that&#8217;s okay. Just<\/p>\n<p>listen to yourself, and I&#8217;m sure you&#8217;ll make the right decision.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Manter-se ocupado<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121522 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a ver televis\u00e3o sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-watching-tv-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>To be able to move on, you need to distract yourself from your old relationship. This is the one thing that you&#8217;ll hear from every relationship expert out there.<\/p>\n<p>Por exemplo, quando estava a seguir em frente, gostava de ver v\u00eddeos engra\u00e7ados de gatos no Reddit, de ver s\u00e9ries de televis\u00e3o populares na Netflix e de desenhar.<\/p>\n<p>Tudo isto ajudou-me a N\u00c3O pensar no meu ex, mas a concentrar-me em estar no momento.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s what you need to do as well. <strong>Em vez de ficar a pensar no passado, \u00e9 preciso concentrar-se no presente.<\/strong> \u00c9 preciso fazer coisas que nos fa\u00e7am felizes (ou, pelo menos, parcialmente felizes) no momento.<\/p>\n<p>Lembro-me da \u00faltima vez que vi o meu ex e apercebi-me de que os meus sentimentos por ele tinham desaparecido completamente. Ocupar-me com actividades diferentes ajudou-me a conseguir isso.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Remember that there&#8217;s someone out there who is right for you<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-121524 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a olhar para a montanha enquanto est\u00e1 num terra\u00e7o\" width=\"1600\" height=\"1068\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2.jpg 1600w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1024x684.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1536x1025.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-720x481.jpg 720w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/woman-looking-at-mountain-2-1280x854.jpg 1280w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1600px) 100vw, 1600px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Just because this relationship failed doesn&#8217;t mean that you&#8217;ll be doomed forever. Accept the fact that everything happens for a reason.<\/p>\n<p>Abrace esse facto e saiba que h\u00e1 algu\u00e9m l\u00e1 fora \u00e0 sua espera. <em><strong>You are one heartbreak closer to being with the person you are meant to be with. \u2013 Unknown<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>H\u00e1 algu\u00e9m l\u00e1 fora que ser\u00e1 a pessoa certa para si, mas primeiro precisa de conhecer algumas pessoas erradas para finalmente as conhecer.<\/p>\n<p>You might think that your ex was the only right person for you, and now that they&#8217;re gone, you&#8217;ll never meet anyone like them.<\/p>\n<p>I used to think that, too. But now, I finally see how mistaken I was. I&#8217;ve never been a fan of that clich\u00e9 saying: <em>You&#8217;ll find true love when you least expect it.<\/em> But I now have to admit that it&#8217;s true.<\/p>\n<p><strong>P.S.<\/strong> Da pr\u00f3xima vez que come\u00e7ar a perguntar-se como \u00e9 que a sua ex se sente realmente com a separa\u00e7\u00e3o, lembre-se destas fases da separa\u00e7\u00e3o. E se o quiser de volta, a regra de n\u00e3o estabelecer contacto ser\u00e1 a sua melhor amiga!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Wondering what the one who ends a relationship is going through? These dumper stages will show you what exactly is going on inside their head! Before I write anything else, I have the urge to explain this unusual term known as dumper stages. As the name implies, it is about the dumper (the person who&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":121450,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-121310","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/12\/Dumper-Stages-Inside-The-Mind-Of-The-One-Who-Initiates-A-Breakup-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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