{"id":122337,"date":"2021-01-13T15:43:23","date_gmt":"2021-01-13T15:43:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=122337"},"modified":"2022-07-31T22:44:01","modified_gmt":"2022-07-31T22:44:01","slug":"material-da-esposa-porque-e-uma-bandeira-vermelha","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/material-da-esposa-porque-e-uma-bandeira-vermelha\/","title":{"rendered":"\"Material para a esposa\" parece perfeito, mas \u00e9 por isso que \u00e9 uma bandeira vermelha"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hearing a guy call me \u201cwifey material\u201d was the ultimate compliment for the young girl I was back in the day. Hey, he was obviously putting me aside from all those other girls.<\/p>\n

Consegues imaginar? The man I\u2019m so crazy about thinks of me as being enough to be his legally wedded spouse. He thinks I\u2019m worthy to become the mother of his children.<\/strong><\/p>\n

This is so much more than just labeling things and calling me his girlfriend. Hey, I\u2019m the only one who can change him, the only one who can make him forget about his old ways, and the only one he\u2019d proudly call his wife.<\/p>\n

Qu\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntico \u00e9 isso? Bem, \u00e0 medida que fui crescendo, apercebi-me que o romance n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com este ep\u00edteto.<\/p>\n

Instead, as perfect as \u201cwifey material\u201d might sound, it\u2019s actually a major red flag, and here is why.<\/p>\n

Ele p\u00f5e-nos numa caixa.<\/h2>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Quem lhe disser estas palavras est\u00e1 a coloc\u00e1-lo numa caixa. Guys who display signs of toxic masculinity divide all women in this world into two categories: the ones they\u2019ll have fun with and the ones who will give birth to their children.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Namoram o primeiro grupo durante anos. Dormem com eles e apaixonam-se por eles.<\/p>\n

Mas, quando chega a altura de assentar, procuram coisas diferentes. Ent\u00e3o, qual \u00e9 o melhor grupo?<\/p>\n

Bem, nenhum deles. O melhor \u00e9 ficar longe de homens que pensam assim. Corra pela sua vida no momento em que conhecer um homem que tenta coloc\u00e1-la numa caixa.<\/p>\n

Este tipo reduz todas as suas outras qualidades. Ele avalia todo o seu valor atrav\u00e9s do seu potencial para se tornar uma boa esposa para ele.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t that sexist and humiliating?<\/strong><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to marry you \u2013 he just wants to get married.<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Quando um homem se refere a ti como material de esposa, v\u00eas isso como um sinal ineg\u00e1vel de que ele quer passar o resto da sua vida contigo<\/a>. After all those wrong choices, you\u2019ve finally found someone who thinks of you as the one.<\/p>\n

He dreams of growing old with you, and he couldn\u2019t picture anyone else besides you to be the mother of his children. If you feel the same way about him, what more could a woman want?<\/p>\n

Mas ser\u00e1 que as coisas s\u00e3o assim t\u00e3o brilhantes e reluzentes? Alguma vez te perguntaste: \u201cDoes this guy want to marry me or does he just want to get married?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pode n\u00e3o se aperceber, mas a diferen\u00e7a entre os dois \u00e9 enorme.<\/strong> You see, it\u2019s one thing if you\u2019re the one who made him think about settling down.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o cen\u00e1rio perfeito. Ele conheceu-a e soube que era a mulher da vida dele.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, what if it went the other way around? What if this man just decided it\u2019s time to get married regardless of who his spouse will be?<\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s tired of looking for the one or he thinks it\u2019s time to give up on his bachelor life. Maybe he is scared that he\u2019ll be forever alone unless he finds someone to tie the knot with.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019re the first one who came along. You\u2019re suitable and conveniente<\/a>. You meet his standards and that\u2019s why he immediately started telling you that you\u2019re \u201cwifey material\u201d.<\/p>\n

Ele quer acelerar as coisas por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

I bet you know the drill: you meet a guy who has everything you\u2019ve been looking for in men.<\/p>\n

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve been wasting your time on immature boys who never knew what they wanted, who made you feel unloved, and who were a enganar-vos<\/a> durante anos.<\/p>\n

E agora, depois de todos esses fracassos, ele aparece. Ele d\u00e1-lhe aten\u00e7\u00e3o mais do que suficiente, d\u00e1 prioridade \u00e0 vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e n\u00e3o tem d\u00favidas sobre o seu lugar na vida dele.<\/p>\n

But, let\u2019s be honest: in most cases, when a guy is too good to be true \u2013 he probably is. I hate to be the one to break your bubble, but is it possible that this man is actually hiding his true colors?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Is it possible that he wants to speed things up for a reason? He wants you to say \u201cI do\u201d before getting to the bottom of his personality or past.<\/p>\n

Otherwise, he wouldn\u2019t rush you into anything. I know what you must think now.<\/p>\n

He is so sure that you\u2019re his forever person that he doesn\u2019t want to wait a day before making you his forever person.<\/p>\n

But, come on, if that were true, then why wouldn\u2019t you wait a bit longer? Time won\u2019t destroy your connection if it is the real deal!<\/p>\n

You\u2019re likely to be submissive.<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

When a man tells you that you\u2019re \u201cwifey material\u201d, you shouldn\u2019t take it as a compliment. I know that you\u2019re flattered at first glance, but trust me, this simple sentence usually hides a lot more.<\/p>\n

The truth is that this man doesn\u2019t see you as his equal life partner. He doesn\u2019t see you two conquering the world together and achieving great things.<\/strong><\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t picture you two holding each other\u2019s hands and pushing one another towards success.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Instead, when he tells you that you\u2019re \u201cwifey material\u201d, this is the picture he has in mind. He comes home from work shouting \u201cHoney, I\u2019m home\u201d.<\/p>\n

You welcome him open-handedly, the entire house smells like cupcakes, and you\u2019re overjoyed that you get to spend the afternoon together.<\/p>\n

Of course, after lunch, he lays down on a couch and you give him the most sensual massage ever. You know what I\u2019m talking about \u2013 you saw the 1950s happy family posters.<\/p>\n

Sounds idyllic, right? Well, it probably does \u2013 for him.<\/p>\n

But, what about you? You\u2019re the esposa submissa<\/a> nesta hist\u00f3ria, mas n\u00e3o no bom sentido.<\/p>\n

Onde est\u00e1 o amor?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Finalmente, a quest\u00e3o mais importante de todas: onde est\u00e1 o amor em tudo isto? Quer gostemos de o ouvir ou n\u00e3o, a verdade \u00e9 que a homem que quer casar consigo<\/a> n\u00e3o \u00e9 o mesmo que um homem amar-te.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You see, when a guy truly loves you, he won\u2019t treat you like livestock he needs to evaluate. He won\u2019t put all of your positive and negative traits on a scale before popping the question.<\/p>\n

Instead, he will marry you for one reason only: because he would rather die alone than spend the rest of his life with another woman. He will marry you despite you being \u201cunwifeable\u201d.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hearing a guy call me \u201cwifey material\u201d was the ultimate compliment for the young girl I was back in the day. Hey, he was obviously putting me aside from all those other girls. Could you just imagine? The man I\u2019m so crazy about thinks of me as being enough to be his legally wedded spouse….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":122352,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29646],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-122337","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-understanding-men"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29646,"label":"understanding men"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/01\/Wife-Material-Sounds-Perfect-But-This-Is-Why-Its-A-Red-Flag.-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29646,"name":"understanding men","slug":"understanding-men","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29646,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","parent":29643,"count":570,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29646,"category_count":570,"category_description":"Wondering about what's going on inside his head? Or do you need explanations for his actions? Learn to understand men, and your life will become easier.","cat_name":"understanding men","category_nicename":"understanding-men","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122337","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=122337"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/122337\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/122352"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=122337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=122337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=122337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}