Is cheating a decision made in a split second or a process that consists of many underlying issues in a relationship? What exactly happens in a cheater\u2019s mind?<\/em><\/p>\n I\u2019m not one of those people who take sides and blame one party for being bad or glorify the other for being victims.<\/p>\n I believe that there\u2019s a reason for every action, and yes, cheating sucks and cannot be justified no matter how sorry the person is (if they\u2019re sorry at all).<\/p>\n H\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es para algu\u00e9m decidir trair o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n They might be bored with their current relationship, want attention, or not know what they want (that\u2019s the most confusing reason of all).<\/p>\n Seja qual for a raz\u00e3o, uma coisa \u00e9 certa: People usually decide to cheat on their partner because they crave something that\u2019s missing in their current relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n Pode ser qualquer coisa (falta de esfor\u00e7o, de aten\u00e7\u00e3o, de afeto, de espontaneidade, etc.).<\/p>\n The biggest mistake of cheating individuals is refusing to talk to their partner about how they could improve their relationship (there\u2019s a reason for that too).<\/p>\n The main reason they \u201crefuse\u201d to talk to their partner about what\u2019s missing in their relationship is that they\u2019re not even aware of it (that something\u2019s missing) until they find it in another person.<\/p>\n This may sound like a vicious cycle, but it is nothing that can\u2019t be solved with regular open and honest communication, which is the basis of every healthy and happy relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n To help you better understand what\u2019s really going on inside a cheating person\u2019s head and the whole process of it, here are some interesting FACTOS sobre a batota e<\/strong> coisas que todos os parceiros de trai\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00eam em comum<\/b><\/a>:<\/p>\n \u2022 Every cheater is overly protective of their cell phone<\/p>\n \u2022 Men cheat more than women (sorry guys)<\/p>\n \u2022 (Most) cheaters feel insecure in their current relationship<\/p>\n \u2022 Cheating partners tend to flirt with everyone around them<\/p>\n \u2022 A lack of intimacy is the first sinal de que o seu parceiro pode estar a trair<\/a> em si<\/p>\n \u2022 Cheating partners don\u2019t think the affair partner is \u2018better\u2019 but instead \u2018different\u2019 than their current partner<\/p>\n \u2022 Narcissistic individuals are more likely to cheat<\/p>\n \u2022 Criticizing you is their way of trying to draw attention away from their bad behavior<\/p>\n \u2022 Cheating happens mostly when drunk<\/p>\n \u2022 Unhappy marriages and relationships lead to cheating<\/p>\n De todos os factos acima referidos sobre parceiros de trai\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>Tenho vontade de chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o para este caso: Cheating partners don\u2019t think the affair partner is \u2018better\u2019 than their current partner.<\/strong><\/p>\n Esta \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que a maioria dos parceiros que foram tra\u00eddos pensam.<\/p>\n Perdem a confian\u00e7a e convencem-se de que o parceiro pensa que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o suficientemente bons e que o parceiro do caso \u00e9 melhor do que eles em todos os aspectos.<\/p>\n This is not true at all. Cheating partners don\u2019t think that their affair partner is better than you, but they see them as different from you.<\/p>\n There\u2019s a huge difference between the two.<\/p>\n Sei que isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 muito reconfortante, mas saber isto \u00e9 certamente ben\u00e9fico para a sua autoestima.<\/p>\n Podem engan\u00e1-lo, mas nunca deixe que destruam a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n The basis of understanding a cheater\u2019s nature is knowing their coping mechanisms after their sinful act.<\/p>\n A transfer\u00eancia de culpas \u00e9 definitivamente o seu jogo favorito.<\/p>\n Rarely will you see a cheater admitting that they\u2019ve made a mistake (if it can even be called so) and that they\u2019re sorry for it.<\/p>\n Normalmente, continuam a ser infi\u00e9is enquanto n\u00e3o se sabe nada sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n Once you confront them about their cheating nature, they enter blame-shifting mode, or they pretend that nothing is going on and you\u2019re just being paranoid.<\/strong><\/p>\n This can be really confusing and frustrating, but that\u2019s just how their mind operates when you start suspecting that they\u2019re doing something behind your back or when you have proof of them being unfaithful.<\/p>\n Instead of admitting that they\u2019re guilty of cheating, they will focus on finding ways to make you feel at fault instead.<\/p>\n Fazem-no para n\u00e3o serem o centro das aten\u00e7\u00f5es. Querem desesperadamente que as aten\u00e7\u00f5es se concentrem em si e n\u00e3o nelas.<\/p>\n Aqui est\u00e3o alguns coisas frustrantes que os traidores dizem quando s\u00e3o confrontados<\/b><\/a>acompanhado dos meus humildes coment\u00e1rios entre par\u00eantesis:<\/strong><\/p>\n \"You don\u2019t trust me!<\/em>\u201d (Hell, no.)<\/p>\n \"Foi apenas um caso isolado.<\/em>\u201d (Yeah, sure.)<\/p>\n \"It didn\u2019t mean anything to me.<\/em>\u201d (That still doesn\u2019t change the fact that you\u2019re a cheater.)<\/p>\n \"It\u2019s not what it looks like.<\/em>\u201d (I\u2019m pretty sure that all these calls and texts are not from your grandma and that constantly staying late at work is not a pure coincidence.)<\/p>\n \"I\u2019m not happy anymore.<\/em>\u201d (Well, you could have said that earlier.)<\/p>\n \"I did it because we weren\u2019t having enough sex.<\/em>\u201d (Well, you could have addressed the issue earlier.)<\/p>\n \"Ele(a) atirou-se a mim!<\/em>\u201d (A stranger on the street also came on to me, but that didn\u2019t mean I needed to follow them into their apartment.)<\/p>\n \"Isso aconteceu h\u00e1 muito tempo. Atualmente, as coisas s\u00e3o diferentes.<\/em>\u201d (Even if it happened five years ago, it still doesn\u2019t change the fact that you\u2019re a cheater.)<\/p>\n \"I didn\u2019t want to hurt you.<\/em>\u201d (Too late for that now, wouldn\u2019t you agree?)<\/p>\n Outro jogo favorito dos batoteiros \u00e9 fazer-se de v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n It\u2019s when they are so desperate to present themselves as poor creatures who didn\u2019t know what they were doing or who were bewitched by their affair partner.<\/p>\n Lidar com um batoteiro que se faz de v\u00edtima pode ser um desafio, mas como tudo o resto, \u00e9 algo que pode ser dominado.<\/p>\n Aqui est\u00e3o os melhores formas de lidar com um batoteiro que se faz de v\u00edtima<\/b><\/a>:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2022 Make sure they know that nothing justifies cheating.<\/strong><\/p>\n Just because they were feeling bored at the time doesn\u2019t mean that cheating was the right option.<\/p>\n Or just because they were lacking something in your relationship doesn\u2019t mean it was okay to cheat on you.<\/p>\n Nada justifica a batota, porque h\u00e1 muitas formas n\u00e3o batoteiras de resolver os problemas.<\/p>\n \u2022 Tell them how you feel about this whole thing.<\/strong><\/p>\n Often cheaters don\u2019t even know how you\u2019re feeling about the whole thing until you tell them.<\/p>\n Por isso, diga-lhes como se sentiu com a sua trai\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n \u2022 Ask them how they would feel if you were the one cheating on them.<\/strong><\/p>\n Para o ajudar a compreender as consequ\u00eancias das suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es, apresente ao seu parceiro traidor uma invers\u00e3o de pap\u00e9is.<\/p>\n Pergunte-lhes como se sentiriam se estivessem no seu lugar. A resposta pode surpreend\u00ea-lo.<\/p>\n \u2022 Let them see the evidence (if you have any).<\/strong><\/p>\n The moment they are faced with evidence, cheaters automatically stop playing the victim because there\u2019s nothing they can do or lie about to justify their behavior.<\/p>\n I call this \u2018the priceless moment of truth.\u2019<\/p>\nO interior da mente de um batoteiro<\/h2>\n
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