For someone who hasn’t experienced this hell, the narcissist’s silent treatment sounds pretty harmless. In fact, some people will probably tell you that it\u2019s not such a big deal.<\/p>\n
Well, it is. It does not only destroy your self-confidence but, what is even worse, it drags you even deeper into a narcissistic net \u2013 which is exactly what your abuser wants to accomplish.<\/p>\n
So, the question arises: How should you respond when a narcissist goes quiet? Before we get there, let\u2019s scratch beneath the surface and understand what this stonewalling is and why it happens in the first place.<\/p>\n
O que \u00e9 o sil\u00eancio t\u00f3xico ou o \"stonewalling\"?<\/h2>\n
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Em termos simples, a obstru\u00e7\u00e3o ou o sil\u00eancio t\u00f3xico consiste em evitar todas as formas poss\u00edveis de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n
It doesn\u2019t necessarily have to include someone physically disappearing from your life \u2013 pode receber o tratamento de sil\u00eancio da pessoa com quem acorda todas as manh\u00e3s.<\/strong><\/p>\n We\u2019ve all been in a situation where our o parceiro recusa-se a falar connosco depois de uma discuss\u00e3o<\/a>. When you ask them what\u2019s wrong or what\u2019s bothering them, you get short or blunt answers.<\/strong><\/p>\n In most cases, they\u2019re a enganar-vos<\/a>. They’ll try hard to convince you that everything is perfectly alright and that you\u2019re imagining things. In the meantime, their body language and actions will tell you something completely different.<\/p>\n At the end of the day, you can\u2019t help but wonder if you\u2019re going crazy. Have you done something wrong that caused this reaction?<\/p>\n \u00c9 o culpado desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o? Como podes melhorar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n While you\u2019re asking yourself all of these questions, you\u2019re simultaneously doing your best to get to your significant other. You just want to find out what you can do to make things better.<\/p>\n But every time you make an attempt towards reconciliation, you face a stone wall. Or they\u2019re out of your life completely, and you can\u2019t reach them at all.<\/p>\n Maybe they\u2019re still physically present but act completely emotionally detached from you. Either way, you feel utterly lost.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like this person is trying to make you read their mind. They refuse to cooperate and communicate but at the same time are punishing you for the mistakes you\u2019re not even aware of making.<\/p>\n If they were the one who did something wrong, before you know it, you\u2019ve forgotten all about it.<\/p>\n Even if we\u2019re talking about infidelity or abuse \u2013 you just want your loved one back, and you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes for your relationship to go back to its old ways.<\/p>\n Perhaps the worst part is that you don\u2019t know where you stand. Your entire life is practically on hold.<\/p>\n If this is happening for the first time, you can\u2019t possibly know what to expect. Is this a break-up? Will you get any closure? Or will they ever start communicating with you again?<\/p>\n At this point, some victims do their best to move on with their lives \u2013 especially in cases when the narcissist is not physically present next to them.<\/p>\n Por muito doloroso que seja, aceitam que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o acabou e concentram-se em apanhar os peda\u00e7os do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n No entanto, \u00e9 normalmente nesta altura que o o narcisista tenta voltar<\/a>quando est\u00e1vamos quase a esquec\u00ea-los. Sem mais nem menos, voltam a aparecer na sua vida.<\/p>\n E o que \u00e9 que faz? Exigem uma conversa madura sobre tudo o que se passou?<\/p>\n Sadly, no. You\u2019re overjoyed that you have your loved one back to the point where you\u2019re too scared to start any arguments.<\/p>\n You just go with the flow and start acting like nothing ever happened. Before you know it, you\u2019re trapped in an endless cycle of toxic silence.<\/p>\n They\u2019ve gotten away with this behavior this time, haven\u2019t they? So, what\u2019s stopping them from repeating the same thing over and over again \u2013 practically everytime they feel like it?<\/strong><\/p>\n Nothing, that\u2019s right.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como tornar um narcisista obcecado por si em 9 passos simples<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n Antes de aprender a lidar com esta t\u00e9cnica narc\u00edsica da forma correcta, \u00e9 preciso perceber porque \u00e9 que ela acontece.<\/p>\n First and foremost, let\u2019s be clear about one thing: As pessoas que sofrem de uma perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade narc\u00edsica (NPD) t\u00eam uma forma completamente diferente de pensar e de se comportar.<\/strong><\/p>\n Therefore, don\u2019t try reasoning with their methods. Don\u2019t put any effort into walking in their shoes, and don\u2019t look at things from the perspective of normal people.<\/strong><\/p>\n The name says it all: this is a personality disorder. That means that you can\u2019t change them or help them. In fact, nothing besides professional treatment can cure them.<\/p>\n A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que os narcisistas t\u00eam uma vis\u00e3o bastante distorcida da realidade. Se quisermos ir ao fundo das suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es, temos de esquecer todos os princ\u00edpios l\u00f3gicos e valores morais que adopt\u00e1mos ao longo da nossa vida.<\/strong><\/p>\n Em vez disso, temos de p\u00f4r os \u00f3culos deles e, s\u00f3 por um momento, observar o mundo da forma como eles o fazem. Bem, apertem os cintos e deixem a viagem come\u00e7ar.<\/p>\n J\u00e1 alguma vez esteve numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que um narcisista lhe fez algo de errado? Descobrimos a sua infidelidade, ele grita connosco ou \u00e9 abusivo de alguma forma.<\/p>\n A sua rea\u00e7\u00e3o natural \u00e9 querer um pedido de desculpas, quanto mais n\u00e3o seja. Quer deixar as coisas claras e quer comunicar o que acabou de acontecer.<\/p>\n Mas o que \u00e9 que eles fazem? Dizem-lhe que lamentam muito? Assumem a responsabilidade pelo seu comportamento t\u00f3xico?<\/p>\n N\u00e3o, em vez disto, come\u00e7am agir como a v\u00edtima<\/a>. All of a sudden, you\u2019re the one guilty of exposing them.<\/strong><\/p>\n You\u2019re guilty of having the nerve to accuse them of something they\u2019ve actually done. They turn the tables on you and do everything they can to make you look like the bad guy.<\/p>\n Worst of all, they succeed in their sneaky intentions. Before you realize what\u2019s hit you, they give you the silent treatment.<\/p>\n Nesse momento, num piscar de olhos, esquece-se do que inicialmente causou o problema. Al\u00e9m disso, esquece-se de QUEM o causou e, inconscientemente, come\u00e7a a alinhar e assume o papel de culpado.<\/p>\n Parece-me familiar, certo? Pois bem, that\u2019s the trick of this entire scheme \u2013 the narcissist is not only doing this to take the blame off themselves \u2013 they\u2019re also doing it to punish you.<\/strong><\/p>\n De repente, o come\u00e7ar a duvidar de si pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. They\u2019re obviously offended by your reaction or accusation, so you begin to wonder if you really overreacted.<\/p>\n Now, you become the one who apologizes. You ask for their forgiveness, and you\u2019re ready to do anything just to have them talk to you again.<\/p>\n But let\u2019s look at things from this perspective. What should you do when this happens once more? Because this phase will go away sooner or later.<\/p>\n Eles voltar\u00e3o<\/a> to you, acting like they\u2019re giving you some kind of mercy by returning to you.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, let\u2019s face it: they will do something to hurt you again in the future.<\/p>\n Quando isso acontecer, ficar\u00e3o completamente impunes. You won\u2019t have the courage to confront them about anything they did to you. Instead, you’ll walk on eggshells around them, afraid of getting the cold shoulder again.<\/strong><\/p>\n No matter how much they hurt you, you won\u2019t call them out on your actions. Why? Because you know what\u2019s coming next.<\/p>\n You know that you\u2019ll have to go through being ignored and endure the silent treatment time and again. So, you think it\u2019s better to let them be than to experience this hell again.<\/p>\n When a narcissist goes quiet, you feel like a little child who\u2019s being punished for misbehaving. Well, that\u2019s exactly how a narcissist perceives you.<\/p>\n No, they don\u2019t see you as their child in terms of their unconditional love for you. They think that they\u2019re above you.<\/p>\n T\u00eam este sentimento de direito e de superioridade, que lhes d\u00e1 o direito de o educar, o que inclui diferentes castigos.<\/strong><\/p>\n This person sees you as submissive. You two are not equal partners in this relationship, nor can you ever be. Instead, they\u2019re the dominant one: the one who owns you and the one who has the right to \u201cteach\u201d you what\u2019s right and wrong.<\/p>\n You have to be aware of one significant thing here: an entire narcissist\u2019s life and personality are based on a lie.<\/p>\n It doesn\u2019t matter if they\u2019re consciously lying to you to present themselves as better than they are or if they\u2019re subconsciously lying to themselves: this is all their deception.<\/p>\n But this charade can\u2019t go on forever, can it? Por vezes, uma pessoa narcisista fica presa na rede das suas pr\u00f3prias mentiras.<\/strong><\/p>\n When that happens, they get paranoid that you\u2019ll discover them. Maybe you\u2019ll see their true colors, or you\u2019ll realize that half of their alleged past is a big fat lie. Some narcissists even live double lives, so they\u2019re scared of being busted.<\/p>\n Nesse caso, t\u00eam de se retirar durante algum tempo. They\u2019re actually doing some serious damage control: they\u2019re putting effort into repairing what can be repaired in an attempt not to blow their cover and lose their mask.<\/strong><\/p>\n Simultaneously with this \u201cphysical\u201d ghosting, a narcissist will usually desaparecer ou ficar em sil\u00eancio nas redes sociais<\/a>. Of course, you will assume that this is all your fault \u2013 something you did or said hurt them so bad that they\u2019ve literally given up on life.<\/p>\n Bem, a verdade \u00e9 bem diferente. Don\u2019t forget that covert narcissists need attention and validation the same way you need air to breathe.<\/strong><\/p>\n Therefore, if they\u2019re about to be discovered (or already have been), they won\u2019t be posting that on their current profiles.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that they will go completely offline. They can\u2019t stand not having a bunch of followers or social media friends admiring them. They can\u2019t stand not being able to show the world that they\u2019re above everyone else.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why they\u2019re probably activating backup profiles you have no clue about.<\/strong><\/p>\n I hate to disappoint you, but this is also a red flag that your narcissist has a new girlfriend or boyfriend. They\u2019re literally presenting their latest victim with their new identity and want to avoid any chance of their two lives becoming intertwined.<\/p>\n Sometimes, a narcissist engages in damage control when they know that they did you something extremely wrong. They know very well that you\u2019re furious, and rightly so, and that the only way to escape your anger is to stay away from you.<\/p>\n When he or she ghosts you, you have no opportunity to call them out on their actions. You can\u2019t ask them for an explanation, nor can you get even.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, em vez de agir como um verdadeiro adulto que enfrenta as consequ\u00eancias dos seus actos, foge. Fazem um movimento cobarde e escondem-se, \u00e0 espera que se acalmem e se acalmem.<\/strong><\/p>\n Whether you like it or not, with time, you will process the things that have been done to you. No matter how much harm they caused, after a while, you\u2019ll put your pain second and start to think about their whereabouts.<\/p>\n Without even being aware of it, you partially forgive them. You come to terms with what they\u2019ve done, and when that happens, they reappear in your life.<\/p>\n Once again, you welcome them with open arms the very next day. And that is exactly how they\u2019ve repaired the damage they made.<\/p>\n As pessoas que sofrem de narcisismo s\u00e3o alimentadas pela aten\u00e7\u00e3o. E esperam-na sobretudo de si, a sua principal v\u00edtima.<\/p>\n Bem, no in\u00edcio da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, eram loucos por essa pessoa. S\u00f3 tinha olhos para ela, e ela era o centro do seu universo.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, as time passes, you\u2019ve started noticing that they weren\u2019t as perfect as they seemed. Even though you still love them and are still by their side, you\u2019re no longer fascinated with every word they say and move they make.<\/p>\n You no longer see your narcissistic boyfriend or girlfriend as pure perfection. As much as you love them, you\u2019ve realized that they\u2019re just human beings, with all of their flaws.<\/p>\n In a healthy relationship, this would be a good sign. It would mean that the initial attraction is gone and that you\u2019re finally accepting each other for who you really are.<\/p>\n But don\u2019t forget that nothing about a narcissistic relationship is ever healthy. Therefore, a narcissist sees this as a threat.<\/p>\n Ele ou ela j\u00e1 n\u00e3o est\u00e1 a receber a quantidade desejada do seu suprimento narc\u00edsico. Isso significa que tem de encontrar uma forma de recuperar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o que estava a receber no in\u00edcio.<\/strong><\/p>\n And what better way to do it than by making you wonder? What\u2019 better way to do it than by making you afraid of losing them?<\/p>\n What\u2019s better than giving you the cold shoulder and making you fight for their love again?<\/p>\n Another possibility is that your narcissist’s silent treatment is actually a cover for a smear campaign they’ve been organizing against you. Basically, they’re trying to ruin your reputation and invalid\u00e1-lo<\/a> ainda mais<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Of course, they’re doing it in the sneakiest way possible. They’re spreading lies about you, and they’re trying to get your loved ones on their side.<\/strong><\/p>\n If this is true, we’re talking about the consequence of narcissistic rage. They’re angry at you for not obeying them or for not giving them the attention they craved, so they\u2019ve decided to get back at you.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re a victim of narcissistic abuse who\u2019s become aware of the situation you\u2019re in, when a narcissist goes quiet, you think of this as your final break up.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest \u2013 even though you\u2019re perfectly aware of who this person really is, you still love them.<\/p>\n Therefore, you don\u2019t take them walking away from you easily. Your heart is broken, and you miss them, despite knowing you shouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n Mas ao mesmo tempo, o seu c\u00e9rebro<\/a> diz-vos que este \u00e9 o vosso bilhete para a salva\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>. This person has been stalking you one way or another for a long time, and now it seems that they\u2019ve finally disappeared.<\/p>\n As much as it hurts that you two hadn\u2019t made it, your rational side tells you that this is actually the best thing that could ever happen to you.<\/p>\n Now you\u2019re finally free to move on from this toxic relationship and work on your self-healing and well-being.<\/p>\n Bem, detesto ser eu a rebentar a tua bolha, mas infelizmente, Na maioria dos casos, isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 mais do que a calma que antecede a tempestade. Na verdade, o seu agressor narcisista est\u00e1 provavelmente a preparar-se para o seu grande regresso.<\/strong><\/p>\n When you start to forget about them, they\u2019ll reappear on your doorstep. And the worst part of this is that all of their love-bombing will begin again.<\/p>\n They\u2019ve used this time to think about new strategies. If they\u2019re out of their narcissistic supply, they\u2019re desperate to get it from you, and they\u2019ll choose any means to achieve their goals.<\/strong><\/p>\n All of a sudden, you\u2019ll get the person from the beginning of your relationship back. Wow, it looks like all of your dreams are coming true.<\/p>\n Este per\u00edodo mau foi apenas um pesadelo que, felizmente, j\u00e1 passou. Agora est\u00e3o de novo juntos e podem ter o vosso \"felizes para sempre\".<\/p>\n You wish! Sadly, this is nothing but another one of your narcissist\u2019s charades. Before you know it, they\u2019ll go back to their old ways, and you\u2019ll regret ever taking them back.<\/p>\n When a narcissist goes quiet, they\u2019re doing the worst thing that can be done to any person in this world: they\u2019re making you feel invisible.<\/p>\n Anteriormente, distanciaram-no de toda a gente \u00e0 sua volta. Provavelmente, j\u00e1 n\u00e3o tem os seus melhores amigos, a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com os seus familiares nunca foi t\u00e3o m\u00e1 e n\u00e3o tem ningu\u00e9m com quem falar no trabalho.<\/p>\n Basically, you\u2019ve lost everyone who ever cared about you, everyone except your abuser.<\/p>\n Consequently, they\u2019ve become the only source of love for you. They\u2019re the one who determines your value and the one who holds your life in their hands.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, what happens when this person starts to ignore you? When the only person who\u2019s giving you attention stops? When the only person you think who loves you stops loving you?<\/p>\n Logicamente, perde-se todo o sentido de autoestima. Se eles desistiram de si, o que pode esperar de todos os outros?<\/strong><\/p>\n If they can\u2019t give you crumbs of their respect, why would you respect yourself?<\/p>\n It\u2019s pretty obvious that you don\u2019t deserve anyone\u2019s love or appreciation. You\u2019re not enough, and your value is so low that you don\u2019t even deserve a reaction from your abuser.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t worry: these are the thoughts every single victim fights with when a narcissist goes quiet. In fact, this is exactly what every narcissist wants you to think.<\/p>\n You must be asking yourself, \u201cWhat\u2019s the final goal here?\u201d. Well, it\u2019s much easier to manipulate someone once you get rid of their self-worth.<\/p>\n And that\u2019s what your abuser knows all too well. A narcissist wants to see you at your lowest, so they become your only light at the end of the tunnel.<\/p>\n They\u2019ve already made you codependent on their attention. So, now, they\u2019re giving you the toxic silent treatment to take that away from you.<\/strong><\/p>\n They\u2019re showing you that you need them. You need their response and reaction, and you need to communicate with them to stay sane.<\/strong><\/p>\n Once they prove to you that you\u2019re good for nothing, you\u2019ll forever see them as some kind of royalty. Once they humiliate you in the worst way possible, dominance and controlo sobre si<\/a> tornam-se peda\u00e7os de bolo.<\/p>\n Finally, when a narcissist goes quiet, it could mean that they’ve switched their attention to a new victim. You have to be aware that this man or woman has never seen you as an individual: from day one, they\u2019ve looked at you as a suitable victim.<\/p>\n Maybe they\u2019ve gotten tired of you. Perhaps they\u2019ve seen that you became too difficult to manipulate. Maybe they weren\u2019t getting as much attention from you as they used to.<\/p>\n Or maybe you became submissive to the point where you\u2019ve ceased to be interesting.<\/p>\n Either way, the bottom line is that you\u2019ve dodged a bullet. Their energy is somewhere else now, and even if you don\u2019t understand it now, you should thank God for it.<\/p>\n Do you know what\u2019s possibly the worst about sofrer da s\u00edndrome da v\u00edtima narcisista<\/a>? It\u2019s the PTSD you develop with time. It’s a fact that you don\u2019t want your abuser to leave you<\/strong>. Para ser mais exato, v\u00ea-o como o pior cen\u00e1rio poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n Actually, you\u2019re convinced this is true.<\/p>\n You\u2019ve been brainwashed to the point where you think that you love this awful person. You\u2019ve been manipulated into thinking that you would be utterly lost without them.<\/p>\n Bem, deixe-me dizer-lhe que o seu agressor que se concentra no seu novo suprimento narc\u00edsico \u00e9 a maior b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o que pode enfrentar. O seu o narcisista que o deixa<\/a> is the biggest favor he’s ever done for you.<\/strong><\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m heartbroken for this new person who has no idea what they\u2019re getting themselves into. But hey, this means that you\u2019re finally off the hook.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you: it will take you a long time before you realize this. Nevertheless, the moment you do, it means you\u2019ve taken a step on your jornada de cura<\/a>.<\/p>\n Ent\u00e3o, quais s\u00e3o os passos que deve dar quando um narcisista se cala? Qual \u00e9 o melhor mecanismo para lidar com esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest: we\u2019ve all been guilty of giving someone the silent treatment at some point.<\/p>\n So, if your partner has left in the middle of an argument or hasn\u2019t responded to your phone calls for a few hours after a big fight \u2013 it doesn\u2019t mean that they\u2019re necessarily a narcissist who est\u00e1 a bloquear-vos<\/a>.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, there is a huge difference between this happening once and between this being a habit of theirs. In the latter case, it\u2019s pretty clear what you\u2019re dealing with.<\/strong><\/p>\n So, for starters, let\u2019s not see this as a minor inconvenience. Instead, this kind of behavior is a huge red flag, and it is an alarming signal of an abusive relationship.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t sugarcoat things and be aware of reality. It\u2019s the only way for you to process it and finally solve it.<\/p>\n That\u2019s why it\u2019s crucial to call things their real names. This is a form of abuse. As hard as this might sound, it\u2019s the truth.<\/p>\n You see, there are many ways someone can abuse you besides physically harming you. Emotional and verbal abuse is very real, and it is what you\u2019re dealing with here.<\/strong><\/p>\n Afinal de contas, que outro nome se poderia dar a estes tentativas de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>, desvalorizando-o e castigando-o?<\/p>\n After you\u2019ve gathered all the intel, your number one worry is how to respond when a narcissist goes quiet. Well, the answer is something you\u2019d probably never expected to hear: you don\u2019t.<\/p>\n You see, this toxic person counts on your reaction. They consider themselves so sneaky that they won\u2019t have any trouble getting you involved in their jogos mentais distorcidos<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n That\u2019s why you have to show them that the best way to win them is by not playing at all.<\/p>\n Yes, this will take a lot of effort and self-control on your part. It\u2019s normal that you want them to talk to you. You want to get to the bottom of this issue, one way or another.<\/p>\n Em vez de os perseguir e de lhes implorar para terem uma conversa honesta, basta ignor\u00e1-los<\/a>. Vive a tua vida como se nada estivesse a acontecer e d\u00e1-lhes o tratamento de sil\u00eancio em troca.<\/strong><\/p>\n Para variar, seja aquele que n\u00e3o tem contacto<\/a>. Don\u2019t post sad quotes or songs on your social media profiles, expecting them to see.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t stalk them, and don\u2019t go around complaining to people about them ghosting you. Don\u2019t try reaching out, and don\u2019t send them any signals or hints.<\/p>\n Confia em mim. Esta \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que um narcisista nunca previu: a descobrir<\/a>. Esperavam que chorasse ou ficasse furioso.<\/p>\n Esperavam que tentasses fazer-lhes ci\u00fames ou que te sentasses \u00e0 frente da casa deles, implorando-lhes que falassem contigo.<\/p>\n But this is something they could never predict. And that\u2019s exactly why it\u2019s the only thing that will leave them confused.<\/strong><\/p>\n Most importantly, it will show them that they haven\u2019t succeeded. All of their manipulation techniques failed.<\/strong><\/p>\n They don\u2019t have full control over you, contrary to what they believed. They haven\u2019t managed to brainwash you, and despite everything, you\u2019re much more than their puppet on a string. So, I guess you’ve quebrou o seu feiti\u00e7o<\/a>.<\/p>\n Em vez de passar todo este tempo a lamentar a sua grande perda, fa\u00e7a um favor a si pr\u00f3prio e aproveite o seu tempo livre de t\u00f3xicos.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it. This person will come back into your life. So, \u00e9 melhor recarregar as baterias<\/strong> when you have the chance to do so because you\u2019re up for many more challenges and fights in the future.<\/p>\n Recapitule toda a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e decida se \u00e9 isto que realmente quer. Vale a pena lutar por isto? Ou \u00e9 altura de desistir desta pessoa venenosa?<\/strong><\/p>\n I think both you and I know the answer. Nevertheless, your romance shouldn\u2019t be the only thing on your mind right now. Instead, you must work on yourself.<\/p>\n Comece por reconstruir outras rela\u00e7\u00f5es que o seu agressor arruinou para si<\/strong>. No, I\u2019m not talking about jumping into a new romance here.<\/p>\n I\u2019m talking about your close friends and family members. Do your best to reconnect with some of them \u2013 just to see that there is a beautiful life outside of this hell you\u2019re trapped in.<\/p>\n O mais importante: trabalhar na rela\u00e7\u00e3o que tem consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n Put maximum effort into finding your true self \u2013 the person you were before this monster marched into your life. Put all of your energy into regaining your self-esteem and your sense of self-worth and self-love.<\/p>\n If you still don\u2019t have what it takes to chase this person out of your life for good, at least become a stronger version of yourself for when they do return.<\/p>\n O que acontece quando um narcisista se cala e depois volta para si? Bem, o cen\u00e1rio ideal seria expuls\u00e1-lo da casa e simplesmente fechar-lhe a porta na cara no dia seguinte.<\/p>\n But I\u2019m sure that you\u2019re still not ready for these drastic measures. In that case, what you must do is set healthy boundaries.<\/p>\n Now is the time to calmly tell them that this is not acceptable behavior. Don\u2019t yell, don\u2019t play games, and don\u2019t accuse them of anything.<\/strong><\/p>\n Just directly tell them that this is not something you\u2019ll tolerate in the future.<\/strong> D\u00ea-lhes a sua vis\u00e3o de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e defina a dire\u00e7\u00e3o que pretende seguir.<\/p>\n Por fim, cumpra as suas promessas. O pior que se pode fazer \u00e9 fazer amea\u00e7as vazias sem as cumprir.<\/strong><\/p>\n Quando o narcisista voltar a ficar calado, fa\u00e7a-o arcar com as consequ\u00eancias dos seus actos.<\/strong> Otherwise, you\u2019re just giving them the green light to keep on treating you however they want.<\/p>\n When a narcissist goes quiet, they\u2019re not only giving you the silent treatment (as if that alone wouldn\u2019t be enough).<\/p>\n They\u2019re also gaslighting you and playing with your mental health. Ironically, by ignoring you, they\u2019re pulling you even closer to them.<\/p>\n Bem, you\u2019re the one who has to break that cycle because they won\u2019t do it for you<\/strong>. In fact, they\u2019ll probably never admit their true intentions.<\/p>\n Em vez disso, a dura verdade \u00e9 que um narcisista abusar\u00e1 de si durante o tempo que o deixar<\/strong>. That\u2019s why you have to find the last atoms of your strength and encerr\u00e1-los<\/a>.<\/p>\n Sei que tudo isto parece demasiado dif\u00edcil ou mesmo imposs\u00edvel de gerir. Mas garanto-vos que s\u00e3o capazes de o fazer.<\/p>\nO c\u00edrculo intermin\u00e1vel dos tratamentos silenciosos t\u00f3xicos<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-wondering-and-sitting.jpg\")
<\/p>\nQuando um narcisista fica em sil\u00eancio, porque \u00e9 que isso acontece?<\/h2>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/woman-in-winter-clothes.jpg\")
<\/p>\nUma poderosa arma de castigo<\/h3>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/angry-emotinal-man.jpg\")
<\/p>\nRela\u00e7\u00e3o dominante-submissa<\/h4>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/upset-woman-sitting.jpg\")
<\/p>\nControlo de danos<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/pensive-woman-behind.jpg\")
<\/p>\nQuando um narcisista se cala nas redes sociais<\/h4>\n
Uma atitude cobarde<\/h4>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/pensive-man-in-sideview.jpg\")
<\/p>\nProcura de aten\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
Campanha de difama\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
Um regresso em grande plano<\/h3>\n
![\"homem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/pensive-man-smoking.jpg\")
<\/p>\nBombardeamento de amor<\/h4>\n
Desvaloriza\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sad-woman-in-sofa.jpg\")
<\/p>\nT\u00e1tica de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
Nova oferta narc\u00edsica<\/h3>\n
![\"silhueta](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/silhouette-of-a-lonely-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\nA tua maior b\u00ean\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h4>\n
O que fazer quando um narcisista se cala?<\/h2>\n
Estar consciente da realidade<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/bored-woman-staring.jpg\")
<\/p>\nAbuso emocional<\/h4>\n
Don\u2019t play their mind games<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/sad-and-bored-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\nNot giving the narcissistic\u00a0partner control<\/h4>\n
Turn it into \u201cyou\u201d time<\/h3>\n
![\"tr\u00eas](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/three-women-friends.jpg\")
<\/p>\nEstabelecer limites saud\u00e1veis<\/h3>\n
![\"casal](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/serious-couple-chatting.jpg\")
<\/p>\nCumprir as suas promessas<\/h3>\n
![\"mulher](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/serious-woman-staring.jpg\")
<\/p>\nConsidera\u00e7\u00f5es finais:<\/h2>\n
![\"jovem](\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/dissatisfied-young-woman.jpg\")
<\/p>\n