{"id":126726,"date":"2021-03-02T12:01:14","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T12:01:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126726"},"modified":"2022-08-02T16:25:08","modified_gmt":"2022-08-02T16:25:08","slug":"como-deixar-de-gostar-de-alguem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-deixar-de-gostar-de-alguem\/","title":{"rendered":"Como deixar de se preocupar com algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o se preocupa consigo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Eu sei o que est\u00e1 a fazer. Tem o telem\u00f3vel na m\u00e3o e prepara-se para ver o perfil da pessoa nas redes sociais.<\/p>\n

Either that, or you\u2019re re-reading all of your old conversations, which are making you even more nostalgic for their presence.<\/p>\n

Or, it could be that you\u2019re thinking about texting them, giving them another chance or finding a way to make things function between the two of you.<\/p>\n

Estou correto? Are you thinking about them every time you\u2019re about to fall asleep? Or are they actually the only thing you\u2019re thinking about the entire time?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I feel you. I understand how it feels to overthink and go through the painful sessions of re-reading your old conversations in hope that you\u2019ll find the answer as to why things went south (or why your romance never even started in the first place).<\/p>\n

Compreendo a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de esperar dias para receber uma resposta deles; o objeto do seu afeto; a pessoa que lhe roubou uma parte de si e que nunca mais lha devolver\u00e1.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se deixa de gostar de algu\u00e9m<\/a> que ainda significam tanto para si? Como \u00e9 que os elimina da sua vida e continua a viver como se nunca tivessem existido? Uma coisa \u00e9 certa:<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se pode apagar os sentimentos, mas pode-se aprender a compreend\u00ea-los!<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Agora, quero que parem por um momento e se perguntem: Porque \u00e9 que ainda me preocupo com eles?<\/strong> Why are they still the person you can\u2019t stop thinking about even though you know you should?<\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe, my experience will help you understand what\u2019s happening to you at the moment. When I was trying to forget that one person and stop caring about them,<\/p>\n

I realized the reason why I couldn\u2019t do it was because I was still dwelling in the past.<\/p>\n

Em vez de viver o momento e concentrar-me nas coisas que est\u00e3o a acontecer agora, estava a viver noutra dimens\u00e3o onde tudo poderia acontecer apenas se eu quisesse. Criei a minha pr\u00f3pria realidade<\/a> em vez de viver na que \u00e9 de facto real.<\/p>\n

I was telling myself that there is still hope and things might eventually change. I was living in an illusion, and that is why I couldn\u2019t stop thinking about that one person who didn\u2019t know I existed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Para sair deste labirinto conhecido como ilus\u00e3o, tive de ser honesto comigo pr\u00f3prio e aprender a compreender os meus sentimentos.<\/p>\n

Tive de me colocar as seguintes quest\u00f5es, pelo que tamb\u00e9m se pode colocar a si pr\u00f3prio:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Continuas a gostar deles porque achas que s\u00e3o a \u00fanica pessoa certa para ti?<\/h3>\n

Quero que leiam esta pergunta algumas vezes antes de se aperceberem de como ela \u00e9 incorrecta.<\/p>\n

Eis alguns factos: H\u00e1 7,8 mil milh\u00f5es de pessoas no mundo. Deixem-me repetir-vos isto: H\u00e1 7,8 mil milh\u00f5es de pessoas no mundo e ainda pensas que elas s\u00e3o a \u00fanica pessoa certa para ti?<\/p>\n

Bem, ainda pensas assim? Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa. Eu tamb\u00e9m costumava pensar isso.<\/p>\n

Sempre que encontro algu\u00e9m que se enquadra na defini\u00e7\u00e3o do meu parceiro ideal, glorifico-o ao ponto de esquecer todos os outros \u00e0 sua volta.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Recentemente, estava apaixonada por um rapaz que estava obviamente a fazer jogos comigo. Num dia, era t\u00e3o atencioso quando me enviava mensagens e, no outro, esquecia-se de que eu existia.<\/p>\n

Adivinha o que aconteceu? Passado algum tempo, conheci um novo rapaz de um continente diferente (sim) com quem tinha muito em comum e que me fazia sentir especial todos os dias.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m still in contact with that guy and it\u2019s only a matter of time when the two of us will finally meet in person.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not using this story to make confessions about my love life, but what I\u2019m trying to say is that you never know whom you\u2019re going to meet next.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, parar de ficar obcecado com eles<\/a>. Stop obsessing over the one who doesn\u2019t know that you exist, and stop thinking that they are the only right person for you.<\/p>\n

Chances are they\u2019re not and that\u2019s the reason why it didn\u2019t work out. Remember: Tudo acontece por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ainda te preocupas com eles porque acreditas que podem mudar?<\/h3>\n

I will be short with explaining this one. DON\u2019T ever try to change someone if they are not willing to change themselves. Why? Because it won\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

Pode dizer-lhes o que quiser e nada mudar\u00e1 se eles n\u00e3o estiverem dispostos a trabalhar sobre si pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

Se a mudan\u00e7a n\u00e3o for a ideia deles, o mais prov\u00e1vel \u00e9 que fiquem na mesma (ou sejam ainda piores do que antes). Sei isto porque j\u00e1 tive a minha quota-parte de tentativas desesperadas de mudar os outros e nunca resultou.<\/p>\n

Por isso, deixe de viver na ilus\u00e3o de que um dia eles v\u00e3o perceber o mal que o trataram e v\u00e3o mudar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They won\u2019t. If they haven\u2019t changed by now, you shouldn\u2019t wait any longer for that to happen because chances are that it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Preocupa-o que possam encontrar outra pessoa?<\/h3>\n

Se descobrir que ele est\u00e1 com outra pessoa, acha que isso seria o fim da sua vida?<\/p>\n

Do you think the reason why you can\u2019t stop thinking about them is because you\u2019re secretly afraid that they might find happiness with someone else?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how I see it: If someone doesn\u2019t care about me, I shouldn\u2019t care about their happiness either. If they find someone else, it means that we were never meant to be together in the first place. Period.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sei que \u00e9 mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer (leia-se: implementar), mas responde \u00e0 pergunta: how do you stop caring about someone you can\u2019t have<\/a>.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s no point in worrying about them finding someone else because you don\u2019t have any control over that.<\/p>\n

Focus on thinking that one day, you\u2019ll meet someone with whom you\u2019ll be happier than ever with, and then you\u2019ll be glad that it didn\u2019t work out with the one you\u2019re trying to forget at the moment.<\/p>\n

Do you care about them because they don\u2019t care about you?<\/h3>\n

I\u2019m one of those people who can be really stubborn. Oftentimes, I have a hard time accepting the fact that not everyone should like me and vice versa.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t repeat this to yourself often, you might end up in a loop still caring about someone just because they don\u2019t care about you, and not because you actually care about them.<\/strong><\/p>\n

The sentence might sound confusing to some of you, but I hope you at least partially understand what I\u2019m trying to say.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re beautiful, smart, and unique. You don\u2019t need that one person\u2019s approval to feel worthy. Stop loving someone who doesn\u2019t love you back<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Deixe de perder o seu tempo a ganhar a aprova\u00e7\u00e3o deles e concentre-se naqueles que fariam tudo para estar consigo.<\/p>\n

Pensa nelas porque n\u00e3o tem mais nada para fazer neste momento?<\/h3>\n

Boredom can be the cause of many troubles, including this one. Sometimes, the reason why you can\u2019t stop thinking about someone is because you have too much free time and you\u2019re using it wrongly.<\/p>\n

If you find yourself fantasizing about them 24\/7, constantly re-reading their text messages, and similar, then it\u2019s time to add some more activities into your schedule.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to become more active so that your brain stops living in the past (or the future) and starts focusing on the present instead.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ir ao gin\u00e1sio, correr, dan\u00e7ar, desenhar ou cantar s\u00e3o boas formas de se distrair. Tamb\u00e9m pode encontrar alguns filmes interessantes para ver, mas tente evitar com\u00e9dias rom\u00e2nticas.<\/p>\n

So, how do you stop caring about someone who doesn\u2019t care about you?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Simples. Concentra-se em viver a sua melhor vida. Obriga-se (se for preciso) a fazer outras coisas em vez de os seguir nas redes sociais (ou esperar que eles parem ignorar as suas mensagens<\/a>). <\/p>\n

You connect with new people, you cry if you have to, and you don\u2019t live in an illusion.<\/p>\n

Encontre a raz\u00e3o pela qual ainda gosta deles e trabalhe nela. Talvez essa raz\u00e3o seja uma das acima referidas ou outra qualquer.<\/p>\n

O que quer que seja, know that you won\u2019t stop caring about them overnight, but understanding your feelings will surely speed up the process.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Como sempre, mantenha-se paciente e acredite que tudo nos acontece por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s a reason why you just read all this, and there\u2019s a reason why you can\u2019t be with that one person at the moment. Instead of questioning it, embrace it.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I know what you\u2019re doing. You\u2019re holding your phone in your hands getting ready to check their profile on social networks. Either that, or you\u2019re re-reading all of your old conversations, which are making you even more nostalgic for their presence. Or, it could be that you\u2019re thinking about texting them, giving them another chance…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":126728,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-126726","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/02\/How-To-Stop-Caring-About-Someone-Who-Doesnt-Care-About-You-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/126726","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=126726"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/126726\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/126728"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=126726"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=126726"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=126726"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}