{"id":126792,"date":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","date_gmt":"2021-03-02T12:18:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=126792"},"modified":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","modified_gmt":"2022-05-11T11:12:41","slug":"como-os-casos-acontecem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-os-casos-acontecem\/","title":{"rendered":"A atra\u00e7\u00e3o do fruto proibido nos casamentos - Como acontecem os casos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sabe o que \u00e9 que pode fazer com que qualquer homem ou mulher se sinta tentado a tomar decis\u00f5es impulsivas?<\/em><\/p>\n

What\u2019s one thing that can make you forget to be grateful for what you have and become thirsty for something new?<\/em> It\u2019s a atra\u00e7\u00e3o do fruto proibido.<\/strong><\/p>\n

When two people decide to marry, they don\u2019t think about anything else but making each other happy. They can\u2019t wait to spend more time together, (eventually) have kids (or not), and connect on a deeper level.<\/p>\n

O casamento \u00e9 uma das coisas mais bonitas do mundo, porque nos d\u00e1 a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de pertencer, de sermos cuidados e de sermos um s\u00f3 com a nossa cara-metade.<\/p>\n

No entanto, cada casamento tem os seus pr\u00f3prios altos e baixos. The lure of forbidden fruit doesn\u2019t strike you overnight.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that triggers partners to start thinking about alternatives and finding happiness someplace else.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s something that makes partners choose to have a secret affair instead of salvar o seu casamento.<\/a><\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que os casos acontecem nos casamentos?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que os parceiros casados decidem trair o seu c\u00f4njuge a dada altura? Qual \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que os leva a faz\u00ea-lo? Ou h\u00e1 mais coisas que os motivam a procurar um romance alternativo?<\/em><\/p>\n

Uma das principais raz\u00f5es pelas quais os casos acontecem nos casamentos \u00e9 quando um c\u00f4njuge (ou ambos os c\u00f4njuges) come\u00e7a a sentir falta de algo no seu casamento sem dizer ao outro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m podemos relacionar este facto com a falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitos factores que podem influenciar um casamento e transform\u00e1-lo num pesadelo, e alguns deles s\u00e3o: hor\u00e1rios agitados, falta de tempo passado juntos e falta de esfor\u00e7o no casamento.<\/p>\n

Once a marriage no longer provides certain elements that are crucial for every spouse\u2019s happiness, they decide to find these elements someplace else.<\/p>\n

Agora, a verdadeira quest\u00e3o \u00e9: Why don’t spouses choose to fight for their marriage instead and talk to their partner about it?<\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o posso dar uma resposta correcta a esta pergunta porque varia de pessoa para pessoa.<\/p>\n

What I can tell you is that a possible reason why spouses avoid talking to their partner about what\u2019s missing in their relationship is because they want to avoid conflicts.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing with marriages. For as long as you refuse to acknowledge that you have a problem in the marriage, everything is perfect.<\/p>\n

Yup, everything is perfect, but only on the surface. If you scratch the surface, then you\u2019ll notice how everything starts melting and showing its true colors.<\/p>\n

Still, there are also spouses who talk, but their significant other doesn\u2019t listen or doesn\u2019t want to understand the seriousness of the situation they\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

Chocante, mas verdadeiro: Os casos tamb\u00e9m acontecem em casamentos felizes.<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s imagine a couple that has everything needed for a decent life and a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

S\u00e3o financeiramente est\u00e1veis, t\u00eam o apoio das suas fam\u00edlias, respeitam-se mutuamente, complementam-se, etc.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que motivaria um deles a escolher come\u00e7ar a procurar um caso secreto?<\/strong> I\u2019ll give you some time to guess for yourself. The answer is: Algo DIFERENTE.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Podem ser o casal mais rico do mundo, com os melhores empregos e a maior casa, e ser aben\u00e7oados com um amor incondicional, mas tudo isso n\u00e3o significa nada quando um dos parceiros decide que quer algo diferente disso.<\/p>\n

That \u2018different\u2019 doesn\u2019t have to be better or worse. What matters is that it\u2019s different from what they have now in their marriage and in their life in general.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen couples from happy marriages live together for years while both having secret lovers.<\/p>\n

As a matter of fact, recently, one of the married guys texted me subtly asking whether I\u2019m interested in \u201cgetting to know him better\u201d (if you catch my drift).<\/p>\n

Foi isto que eu lhe disse:<\/strong> Por respeito \u00e0 tua mulher e a uma crian\u00e7a, nunca teria nada contigo.<\/em><\/p>\n

He respected my decision and didn\u2019t push things further. One more thing… I was really interested in why he would do such things behind his wife\u2019s back, so I openly asked him about it.<\/p>\n

Ele disse-me isto:<\/strong> Costumava pensar que se pode apaixonar pelo c\u00f4njuge e ser feliz para o resto da vida com ele. <\/em>Now, I see that it is impossible because human beings are not meant to be in love with one person for the rest of their lives. It’s in their nature to always seek something different from what they have.<\/em><\/p>\n

Fiquei verdadeiramente espantado com a sua resposta e comecei a pensar que, afinal, talvez haja alguma verdade nisso.<\/p>\n

Talvez a natureza do desejo humano de procurar variedade seja a culpada pela procura de casos fora do casamento.<\/p>\n

Perhaps those spouses are still in love with each other, but they have to appease their human desire for variety in order to be completely happy in marriage. Hmm\u2026<\/p>\n

\u00c9 errado namorar com um homem\/mulher casado(a)?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s another question that is really difficult to answer, and it depends on different perspectives.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re the one who is married, but apaixonado por outra pessoa<\/a>, chances are you don\u2019t see it as something wrong (until your spouse finds out about it).<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores signs that you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else<\/a> \u00e9 prestar mais aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 outra pessoa do que ao seu c\u00f4njuge.<\/p>\n

Now, do you think it\u2019s okay toward your current partner to pay more attention to others than them? I\u2019ll let you think about it.<\/p>\n

Quase todos os casos secretos come\u00e7am com amizades inadequadas no casamento<\/a>. Pode ser um colega seu, um rapaz\/rapariga que conheceu num gin\u00e1sio, ou algo semelhante.<\/p>\n

Em breve, as amizades transformam-se em algo mais significativo e, mais cedo do que imagina, d\u00e1 por si a ter um caso.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with having friends outside of marriage, but the problem arises when those friendships become more prioritized than the one you have with your spouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s see things from other perspectives. Let\u2019s say that um homem casado est\u00e1 apaixonado por si<\/a>. O que \u00e9 que faz?<\/p>\n

Do you continue hanging out with him even though you know that he\u2019s in love with you and he might want something more from you?<\/p>\n

Do you tell him something similar to what I told that married guy I was talking about above? Do you tell him that he\u2019s being disrespectful toward his wife and children?<\/em><\/p>\n

Podes dizer-lhe isso ou podes continuar a andar com ele, pensando que ele te d\u00e1 prioridade em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 mulher.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry to spoil this to you, but the chances of a married man leaving his wife because of a sua amante<\/a> s\u00e3o realmente BAIXAS, se n\u00e3o mesmo inexistentes.<\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea? Because the reason why he\u2019s cheating on his wife in the first place is because he wants both to keep her and to experience something different \u2013 you.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Um homem assim nunca se desfaria do que tem (a sua mulher) porque sabe que pode encontrar facilmente muitas mulheres diferentes, mas n\u00e3o pode encontrar outra mulher t\u00e3o facilmente (para n\u00e3o falar do sentimento de ser julgado pela sociedade por deixar a sua mulher).<\/p>\n

That might sound harsh, but it\u2019s the truth.<\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica quando se trata de namorar uma mulher casada<\/a>, but it\u2019s slightly even worse in some aspects.<\/p>\n

Dado que os homens s\u00e3o demasiado protectores das suas mulheres, pense no que aconteceria se o marido dela descobrisse o vosso caso.<\/p>\n

AVISO LEGAL:<\/strong> If you\u2019re having an affair with a married woman\/man, or you\u2019re married, but in love with someone else, I\u2019m not trying to judge you or prove to you that you\u2019re wrong. I\u2019m trying to understand you and put things in perspective.<\/p>\n

\u201cIf it’s true that men and women can be ‘just friends’, then how come all cheaters first start out as ‘just friends?\u201d \u2013 Oliver Markus Malloy<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

This is an interesting hypothesis. When it comes to marriages, there is a thin line between being \u2018just friends\u2019 with someone outside the marriage and gradually becoming something more than that.<\/p>\n

Be it unhappy or happy, any marriage can be threatened by the lure of a forbidden fruit because it\u2019s in our nature to keep seeking something different from what we have at the moment.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s in our nature to take things for granted and think that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.<\/em><\/p>\n

The only time we\u2019ll learn to control ourselves is when we learn to detach from the sinful and irrational aspects of our nature.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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