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<\/p>\nHe always texts me back within a minute. He\u2019s caring, thoughtful, and affectionate. He literally treats me like his queen. Damn, I think I\u2019m truly in love with him. <\/i><\/p>\n
These were my thoughts a few years ago when I was in a romantic relationship. I couldn\u2019t figure out for some time if I truly loved him or if I imagined that I was in love with him, so I made a list of things that I like about him.<\/p>\n
Tive de ler a lista algumas vezes para me aperceber que, na altura, \u00e9 \u00f3bvio que eu n\u00e3o fazia ideia do que era o amor verdadeiro. Pensava que era amor verdadeiro s\u00f3 por causa de tudo o que ele fazia por mim e pela forma como me tratava. Pensava que estava apaixonada por ele s\u00f3 porque ele me fazia sentir assim.<\/p>\n
Agora, vejo que nunca estive apaixonada por ele, mas estava apaixonada pela forma como ele me fazia sentir quando estava com ele.<\/b><\/p>\n
Does this even make sense to you? I hope it does because it makes perfect sense to me. I also think I\u2019m not the only one who has experienced this fake love filled with euphoria.<\/p>\n
Do you think you\u2019re going through the same thing? How can you know if you\u2019re truly in love with him?<\/p>\n
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Penso que temos um problema coletivo em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 representa\u00e7\u00e3o do amor falso e, por isso, culpo os meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o social. Costumava acreditar que o amor verdadeiro \u00e9 exatamente como o que \u00e9 retratado nos filmes.<\/p>\n
\u00c9 mais ou menos assim:<\/p>\n
A man is courting a woman. She\u2019s playing hard to get here and there, he\u2019s trying harder to win her, and after that, there are a couple of plot twists, but nothing serious because their love is stronger than anything in the world. <\/i><\/p>\n
Depois v\u00eam as cenas em que ele lhe serve o pequeno-almo\u00e7o na cama e lhe compra vestidos elegantes (se ele tiver dinheiro para isso, claro), em que raramente discutem e em que o auge do seu amor s\u00e3o jantares rom\u00e2nticos com velas perfumadas e m\u00fasica suave de fundo. <\/i><\/p>\n
The funniest of all is the fact that we ALL fall for that every single time. We start imagining how it would feel to be in their place; to experience such a grandiose love, a.k.a., \u201ctrue love\u201d.<\/p>\n
Mas, ser\u00e1 que este amor tem alguma coisa a ver com o amor verdadeiro? <\/b><\/p>\n
I don\u2019t think so. Instead of searching for true love in romantic movies, I should have read what William Shakespeare wrote. He wrote that the course of true love never runs smooth, and I think he, himself, had no idea how true this is.<\/p>\n
No, you\u2019re not truly in love with him just because he buys you everything you want, texts you always on time, or fulfils your every wish. Those romantic dinners are only an illusion and not a representation of what love truly is.<\/p>\n
The wise guy I\u2019m texting once said this: Eu nunca o levaria a um primeiro encontro num restaurante ou num caf\u00e9. Estes lugares vendem-nos uma ilus\u00e3o de como nos sentiremos bem com essa pessoa. Claro que toda a gente se sente fant\u00e1stica quando bebe ou come num ambiente chique. <\/i><\/p>\n
Ent\u00e3o, perguntei-lhe onde \u00e9 que ele me levaria a um encontro.<\/p>\n
Ele disse: To nature. Nature is the most realistic setting for couples and those who are dating. It can tell you a lot about the other person, whether they are constantly complaining about the heat and other random things or if they know how to enjoy and just be themselves. It doesn\u2019t create an illusion, and it gives you an opportunity to connect in the most intimate way. <\/i><\/p>\n
I was really impressed with his answer and I thought about it a lot. Here\u2019s what I concluded:<\/p>\n
O verdadeiro amor \u00e9 como a natureza. \u00c9 imprevis\u00edvel, selvagem e poderoso. N\u00e3o se pode defini-lo ou control\u00e1-lo. Apenas o podemos sentir, tornarmo-nos unos com ele e desfrut\u00e1-lo.<\/b><\/p>\n
So, how do you know that you\u2019re truly in love with him?<\/p>\n
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Lembra-se do que eu disse no in\u00edcio sobre a lista de coisas que eu gostava no meu agora ex-namorado? O facto de eu ter feito uma lista de coisas que gostava nele \u00e9 uma prova v\u00e1lida de que nunca estive realmente apaixonada por ele.<\/p>\n
If you \u201clove\u201d your partner just because of the things he does for you and how he makes you feel, then this is one of the <\/b>tell-tale signs it\u2019s not true love<\/b><\/a>.<\/b> No matter how weird it sounds, you know you\u2019re truly in love with someone if you have no idea why you love them in the first place.<\/p>\n You know everything about them from their imperfections and weirdest habits to their amazing romantic skills, yet still, you have no idea why you\u2019re in love with them. This is because love cannot be defined by something the other person does for you.<\/p>\n O amor \u00e9 dar e receber constantemente. <\/b><\/p>\n O amor \u00e9 discutir e comprometer-se.<\/b><\/p>\n O amor \u00e9 cometer erros e n\u00e3o voltar a repeti-los.<\/b><\/p>\n Love is never perfect and it will never be (except in movies). You don\u2019t love someone just because of the things they do for you, but because of who you are and who they are when you\u2019re together.<\/p>\n O verdadeiro amor est\u00e1 para al\u00e9m do materialismo, do prazer, das velas perfumadas e de outras coisas. Um dos undeniable signs that you\u2019re truly in love with him <\/a> \u00e9 a capacidade de confiar nele e de sermos n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios com ele.<\/p>\n True love is not only sharing happiness with each other, but it\u2019s also wiping each other\u2019s tears. True love is the feeling of empowerment when you fight together against the world\u2019s injustices and help each other cross obstacles.<\/p>\n You know you\u2019re truly in love with him when being in his arms feels like home. When you look him in the eyes and realize his happiness is a reflection of your own.<\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s nice to be with someone who will do anything for you and who can make you happy in every aspect of your life. But, this is not a measure of true love.<\/p>\n Sabemos que amamos algu\u00e9m quando deixamos de nos preocupar apenas com o facto de estarmos satisfeitos e de nos sentirmos contentes. <\/b> Sabe ama-o<\/a> when you realize that you\u2019re a part of something bigger than yourself.<\/p>\n Yes, it\u2019s nice to be with someone who agrees with you on everything and nods at every single thing you say. But, this is not true love.<\/p>\n O verdadeiro amor n\u00e3o consiste em encontrar o parceiro perfeito na altura mais conveniente. Trata-se de motivar constantemente o outro a ser mais forte, mais corajoso e melhor. Trata-se de passar por muitos altos e baixos e, ainda assim, n\u00e3o perder a esperan\u00e7a ou deixar de acreditar no poder do vosso amor.<\/p>\n You know you\u2019re truly in love with him if selflessness has become your favorite word in your dictionary.<\/b><\/p>\n O verdadeiro amor baseia-se no princ\u00edpio de duas pessoas que se esfor\u00e7am por dar o seu melhor todos os dias e procuram formas de se melhorarem mutuamente e de criarem uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o mais forte.<\/p>\n It might sound stupid, but yes, you know you truly love him if you let him eat the last piece of the cake because you know it\u2019s his favorite one. Or, when you can\u2019t fall asleep before telling him good night or sending him a good night text.<\/p>\nSabemos que amamos verdadeiramente algu\u00e9m quando a felicidade dessa pessoa \u00e9 mais importante para n\u00f3s do que a nossa pr\u00f3pria felicidade<\/h2>\n
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