{"id":12804,"date":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","date_gmt":"2020-06-19T14:50:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12804"},"modified":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","modified_gmt":"2022-01-24T14:10:44","slug":"rapariga-da-carta-sobreviveu-a-abuso-narcisico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/rapariga-da-carta-sobreviveu-a-abuso-narcisico\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para a rapariga que sobreviveu a um abuso narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Passaste por momentos dif\u00edceis. Na verdade, tempos dif\u00edceis nem sequer \u00e9 suficiente para o descrever. Passaste por um inferno.<\/p>\n

O que viveste pode ser literalmente comparado ao inferno.<\/p>\n

Talvez haja outras raparigas ou outras mulheres que tenham passado por algo semelhante, e talvez s\u00f3 elas a possam compreender.<\/p>\n

But someone who hasn\u2019t experienced the things you did can\u2019t even begin to understand what happened to you.<\/p>\n

You know, what happened to you doesn\u2019t actually resemble anything anyone else ever went through.<\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 algumas semelhan\u00e7as entre algumas hist\u00f3rias, mas n\u00e3o h\u00e1 duas hist\u00f3rias iguais.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why it hurts even more to try to tell your own story.<\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why your heart breaks even more when they say they understand and then end up blaming you for staying so long.<\/strong><\/p>\n

They don\u2019t understand, how could they possibly?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If they haven\u2019t experienced it in their own skin, if they haven\u2019t been in your head, if they haven\u2019t cut your heart open to see what is in it and if they haven\u2019t peeked into your soul to see the amount of fear you were feeling, they can\u2019t possibly understand how or why you stayed so long.<\/p>\n

Estava convencida de que era amada, que envolver-se com o seu algoz seria a melhor viagem da sua vida. Que com ele iria experimentar um amor de outro mundo.<\/p>\n

You were told how you were one of a kind and how you were all he\u2019d been looking for. You were promised eternal love, but all you got was eternal hell.<\/p>\n

Nunca se sabia no que se estava a meter. Esperava o melhor, mas acabou por receber o pior.<\/p>\n

And don\u2019t fool yourself that you could’ve been smarter or more careful. You couldn’t.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Because your heart and your mind were never programmed to notice someone who\u2019s really good at disguising. And your tormentor was excellent at disguising.<\/p>\n

Ele parecia ser um tipo bom e carinhoso. Fazia tudo corretamente. Parecia ser demasiado bom para ser verdade.<\/p>\n

He convinced you that he was the best you\u2019d ever get and that he truly cared. It was one hell of a play he performed to get you hooked. And once you were all his, he changed.<\/p>\n

He didn\u2019t change all at once. He started changing little by little.<\/p>\n

He shifted one thing at a time because he wanted to get you used to the pain bit by bit, so that once you saw his true face, you wouldn\u2019t be surprised.<\/p>\n

Ele tinha tudo planeado. Tinha o seu plano h\u00e1 muito preparado.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

He did everything he could to trap you in his net and feed off of your pain. He knew you\u2019d never leave since you were not that type of person.<\/p>\n

Nunca deixamos aqueles que amamos, por muito que nos magoem.<\/p>\n

You never give up. You\u2019re the type of person who fights till her last breath and that\u2019s exactly what he was counting on.<\/p>\n

For so long, you\u2019ve been asking yourself what it was that you did wrong. For so long, you\u2019ve replayed mem\u00f3rias na tua cabe\u00e7a<\/a> para ver o que mais poderia ter sido feito para corrigir as coisas.<\/p>\n

But there wasn\u2019t anything else you could\u2019ve done to make things right, since he wanted everything to go wrong for you.<\/p>\n

The worst part isn\u2019t the fact that you couldn\u2019t let go. The worst part is that you struggled even after everything ended.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que, depois de ele ter acabado consigo, ainda lhe restavam vest\u00edgios de amor por ele.<\/p>\n

It took you a while to escape him, but it took you even longer to accept the truth and what you\u2019d been through in order to let go of the feelings that were running wild in you.<\/p>\n

Mas mesmo quando escapou \u00e0 sua rede t\u00f3xica, os sentimentos t\u00f3xicos que ele lhe tinha imprimido permaneceram mais tempo do que esperava. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You continued to apologize for everything, even when you knew there wasn\u2019t anything you did wrong.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Continuou a pensar que tudo o que aconteceu de mau foi culpa sua<\/a>mesmo quando metade das coisas n\u00e3o t\u00eam nada a ver consigo.<\/p>\n

Tinha medo de falar, de mostrar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es ou de se envolver com algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Os sentimentos que ele continuou a projetar em si enquanto estavam juntos permaneceram muito tempo depois de ele ter acabado consigo.<\/p>\n

Now that it\u2019s all over you still blame yourself, but I promise you that none of what happened to you was your fault.<\/p>\n

O seu algoz era demasiado sorrateiro para que se apercebesse de que algo ia correr mal.<\/p>\n

So there wasn\u2019t a thing you could\u2019ve done differently. Stop beating yourself up about it. It is not your fault.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso deixar de se ver como uma v\u00edtima quando se olha ao espelho. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Porque n\u00e3o \u00e9s uma v\u00edtima. \u00c9s um sobrevivente. Sobreviveste ao inferno. Reconhece isso. Deixa doer e depois deixa curar.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Okay, you\u2019re a bit quebrado agora<\/a>, but aren\u2019t we all? Okay, you\u2019re still scared, but aren\u2019t we all a little bit scared?<\/p>\n

None of this means your story ends here. It\u2019s where it begins. Because the only way to go from the bottom is up.<\/p>\n

Por isso, p\u00e1ra de fugir do teu passado. P\u00e1ra de fugir do que aconteceu com ele.<\/p>\n

P\u00e1ra de guardar os teus sentimentos e de te atormentares por aquilo por que passaste.<\/p>\n

Be proud that you\u2019re still standing after the hell you\u2019ve been through and don\u2019t be ashamed of your wounds and scars because they are the proof of your battles and proof that you\u2019re a true warrior.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 luz ao fundo do t\u00fanel, basta ter paci\u00eancia e ela aparecer\u00e1.<\/strong><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 um futuro brilhante \u00e0 sua espera, mas tem de deixar de estar no mesmo s\u00edtio e come\u00e7ar a caminhar em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a ele.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you know what one famous poet said? He said: \u201cThe wound is the place where the light enters you.\u201d<\/p>\n

You are not broken, you’re full of places where the light can enter. Remember this.<\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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