Perhaps nobody decided to label you two. Nobody knew what you were and neither of you two said out loud what you meant to each other, but you know it was something and you know it was real. What you felt was real. All those feelings were real, but you\u2019re still seeking validation.<\/p>\n
Porque est\u00e1s a fazer isso a ti pr\u00f3prio?<\/span><\/p>\n Perhaps you\u2019re expecting others to give their opinions so you\u2019d be able to continue feeling what you\u2019re feeling? Maybe you think their approval or disapproval of your feelings will tell you if it was real or not? <\/span><\/p>\n Perhaps you feel like you\u2019re needing someone else\u2019s validation so you\u2019d be able move on and heal?<\/span><\/p>\n But you\u2019re asking for it in the wrong places, you know? Because nobody can validate what you had and nobody can validate your feelings except yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n The pain you feel now is real. Nothing anyone tells you will change it or make it hurt a little less. Nobody has the power to do so and if you end up pursuing other peoples validation in order to be able to move on, you\u2019ll just end up being disappointed. Because nothing they say will change how you feel. <\/b><\/p>\n What you two had was confusing and that\u2019s okay. It was like a<\/span>n almost relationship. It was love, but not completely. It was almost love. It was something, but it wasn\u2019t enough to live up to its full potential. <\/span><\/p>\n And you know you could’ve been something more\u2014actually you could\u2019ve been much more, but you\u2019ve stopped half way. <\/span><\/p>\n Maybe neither of you was brave enough to take the lead. Maybe you were to scared to say out loud how you felt. Maybe neither of you wanted to be the first one to say the words but just because your story ended up unfinished, it doesn\u2019t mean nothing ever happened. <\/span><\/p>\n You\u2019re aware of this, but somehow nobody else is. It\u2019s like you\u2019re alone and you feel like you\u2019re going mad constantly asking yourself if anything happened at all\u2014if it was real or if it was all in your head. <\/span><\/p>\n You couldn\u2019t have made up the whole story. You couldn\u2019t just wake up one morning and feel what you felt. You spent time together; you talked; you fell for each other and then it just didn\u2019t move to the next stage. <\/span><\/p>\n And because of the hope you had, because of all the possibilities you could\u2019ve been, you feel disappointed. You\u2019re hurting. And just because you were never really official, it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re not allowed to be hurting. <\/span><\/p>\n They ask you why you don\u2019t just snap out of it. They ask you how it is possible that you\u2019re still clinging to it when you were not even a real thing. But you were <\/span>uma coisa<\/span><\/i>\u2014it\u2019s just that you were an undefined thing. <\/span><\/p>\n