{"id":12869,"date":"2018-01-22T08:06:22","date_gmt":"2018-01-22T08:06:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=12869"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:04:37","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:04:37","slug":"por-vezes-as-pessoas-pensam-que-nao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/por-vezes-as-pessoas-pensam-que-nao\/","title":{"rendered":"Por vezes, as pessoas que pensamos que deviam estar l\u00e1 para n\u00f3s n\u00e3o est\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sometimes the people who you think should be there for you aren\u2019t.<\/b> Your mom, your sister, your best friend. The people who \u2018should\u2019 take care of your various needs will sometimes fail. They will be busy, or tired, or too consumed with their own lives to entertain yours.<\/span> \u00c9 muito f\u00e1cil perdermo-nos na tristeza que isso acarreta. A solid\u00e3o de chegar \u00e0s pessoas e essas pessoas rejeitarem-nos. <\/b>Muitas vezes, em alturas em que j\u00e1 se est\u00e1 vulner\u00e1vel, que foi o que o levou a tentar chegar \u00e0 pessoa em primeiro lugar. O que \u00e9 que se pode fazer com isso? <\/span><\/p>\n

Nada. You can\u2019t control other people.<\/a> You can\u2019t control how they will respond to you or what they would be willing to do for you if asked. What can you do then? Fuck them. Not in a mean way. Just leave them over there to do whatever they are doing. And what are you going to do? <\/span><\/p>\n

Olhar \u00e0 volta. <\/span>Veja as pessoas que aparecem sem pedir, que oferecem apoio sem tentar, que est\u00e3o dispostas a fazer coisas est\u00fapidas por si sem qualquer motivo<\/b>\u2014<\/b>and appreciate them. Don\u2019t get so caught up in what you don\u2019t have that you miss out on what you do. <\/b>Maybe that girl you work with who shows up to everything you invite her to, and always asks you about your day, would make a really good go-to person if you find your go-to person doesn\u2019t want you to come to them anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

Come\u00e7ar a reparar<\/span>\u2014<\/span>who texts you, who calls you, who answers or immediately returns your calls? Who is always saying super-supportive things on your Facebook Wall? It\u2019s okay to have different friends for different things. It\u2019s okay to lean on new people if they offer for you to and for you to see where it goes. Look at who and what are bringing you happiness and satisfaction, then focus on those. Cultivar isso<\/a>. <\/span>It\u2019s not always whom you think it \u2018should\u2019 be who shows up when you need it the most. Don\u2019t close the door because you\u2019re waiting for the person who you think \u2018should\u2019.<\/b><\/p>\n

This was highlighted to me once when an acquaintance canceled her birthday outing because \u2018nobody\u2019 was coming. \u201cBitch\u2026 I was coming! That\u2019s not good enough for you?\u201d I would have gone out with her and had a great time, but I wasn\u2019t who she wanted to celebrate her birthday with and the disappointment she felt by that inhibited her ability to enjoy her own day. I will not be that girl.<\/span> If you\u2019re there? Thank you. I love and I appreciate you. If you\u2019re not? I\u2019ll survive<\/b>\u2014<\/b>olha para todas as pessoas que o s\u00e3o!<\/b> They deserve the best from me and I can\u2019t give them that if I\u2019m watching the door waiting for someone who isn\u2019t coming.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that it doesn\u2019t hurt or that I don\u2019t care about the people who don\u2019t show up. I\u2019m not even bad enough on my worst day to try and pretend that I don\u2019t cry over it. But…<\/span> N\u00e3o permitirei que a minha tristeza interfira com a aprecia\u00e7\u00e3o sincera que sinto quando me apercebo que sou abundantemente aben\u00e7oado com uma vida cheia de pessoas que me amam. \u00a0\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

by\u00a0Tia Grace<\/strong><\/p>\n

Read more of Tia\u2019s work on\u00a0http:\/\/yoursassyblackfriend.com\/<\/a><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sometimes the people who you think should be there for you aren\u2019t. Your mom, your sister, your best friend. The people who \u2018should\u2019 take care of your various needs will sometimes fail. They will be busy, or tired, or too consumed with their own lives to entertain yours. It is really easy to get lost…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":12874,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29624],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12869","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-friends-and-family"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29624,"label":"friends&family"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/01\/ben-blennerhassett-336486.jpg",800,529,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29624,"name":"friends&family","slug":"friends-and-family","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29624,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","parent":29620,"count":317,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29624,"category_count":317,"category_description":"Do you want to improve your relationship with friends and family? Following these tips will help you boost your connection with your favorite people.","cat_name":"friends&family","category_nicename":"friends-and-family","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12869","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12869"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12869\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12874"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12869"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12869"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12869"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}